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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Does anyone else find this annoying??

When I have a meet and here the words 'oh I never cum' my heart always sinks a little. Now I love a good prolonged fucking session but I quite like it when a man cums, it's quite satisfying for me to see so sometimes when you meet a man who says he hardly ever cums on a meet it always makes me wonder if I'm a shit shag and haven't been able to make him cum or it's just a man thing, where they think women want a man who can pound them for hours on end with no climax. I can find it exhausting and beyond enjoyment sometimes ha ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

on the other hand there's me I can (and do) cum multiple times in a meet, well providing we're going more than an hour any way...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely a man thing! Some of us have sex so infrequently that we're too used to our right/left hand!

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford


"Definitely a man thing! Some of us have sex so infrequently that we're too used to our right/left hand! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gonna sound stupid but you can also go cum shy despite how much your enjoying it. Or that could just be me. Iv never had an issue cuming until I started my loopy crazy pills a few years ago and they did say the initial side effect is unable to ejaculate. Needless to say I got used to it but can still now struggle. Bloody embarrassing annoying heartbreaking as I feel I’m letting the lady down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can be like that..straight forward sex doesn't usually get me off as it were.

I do cum on meets and such but it's very rarely through the action of sexual intercourse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Definitely a man thing! Some of us have sex so infrequently that we're too used to our right/left hand! "

Really? I find it harder the more sex I've had..it gets less and less exciting... If I've been without for a while I'm much more likely to cum

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

I don't find it annoying more like a little disappointed,but then I don't alway's cum so can't really say anything. It's rare a man doesn't cum though to be fair.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't see it as a reflection of me at all. I rarely cum during NSA meets too so it doesn't surprise or deter me when my partner doesn't either.

I enjoy the journey more than the destination anyway. If I just want to cum I can do that (rather brilliantly!) on my own. So for me sex is about all the other stuff that I can't do myself, kissing, touching, being intimate.

If I do cum, and he does too, it's really just a bonus

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By *oredShitlessxxxCouple
over a year ago

luton

Some may be taking too much viagra, that can interfere with the ability to cum.

Ive gone for days without cumming and had to say to the Mrs that im desperate to cum love, so we had to play more until it actually happens

Ps reduced dosage now lol

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By *ancastermanMan
over a year ago

carnforth


"Does anyone else find this annoying??

When I have a meet and here the words 'oh I never cum' my heart always sinks a little. Now I love a good prolonged fucking session but I quite like it when a man cums, it's quite satisfying for me to see so sometimes when you meet a man who says he hardly ever cums on a meet it always makes me wonder if I'm a shit shag and haven't been able to make him cum or it's just a man thing, where they think women want a man who can pound them for hours on end with no climax. I can find it exhausting and beyond enjoyment sometimes ha ha "

Sometimes I do, sometimes I don't. My first forays into kink were trying to see if something different helped. It doesn't.

Sometimes it's as frustrating for me as for you. Sometimes i just get on with pleasuring my partner.

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch


"Does anyone else find this annoying??

When I have a meet and here the words 'oh I never cum' my heart always sinks a little. Now I love a good prolonged fucking session but I quite like it when a man cums, it's quite satisfying for me to see so sometimes when you meet a man who says he hardly ever cums on a meet it always makes me wonder if I'm a shit shag and haven't been able to make him cum or it's just a man thing, where they think women want a man who can pound them for hours on end with no climax. I can find it exhausting and beyond enjoyment sometimes ha ha "

You are aware that ejaculation is only an involuntary muscle spasm, and that it just coincides with an orgasm in most cases ?

I rarely ejaculate for a multitude of reasons but am fully multi orgasmic and a lady would indeed know when I'm having an orgasm my cock will indeed pulsate and swell and my body tense and shiver

With a considerate and empathic woman these will coincide and intensify as she reaches her high tides also

If white goo is the only evidence that you feel indicates you have satisfied then sadly you will only have scratched the surface of what is possible

Also see Taoism xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone else find this annoying??

When I have a meet and here the words 'oh I never cum' my heart always sinks a little. Now I love a good prolonged fucking session but I quite like it when a man cums, it's quite satisfying for me to see so sometimes when you meet a man who says he hardly ever cums on a meet it always makes me wonder if I'm a shit shag and haven't been able to make him cum or it's just a man thing, where they think women want a man who can pound them for hours on end with no climax. I can find it exhausting and beyond enjoyment sometimes ha ha

You are aware that ejaculation is only an involuntary muscle spasm, and that it just coincides with an orgasm in most cases ?

I rarely ejaculate for a multitude of reasons but am fully multi orgasmic and a lady would indeed know when I'm having an orgasm my cock will indeed pulsate and swell and my body tense and shiver

With a considerate and empathic woman these will coincide and intensify as she reaches her high tides also

If white goo is the only evidence that you feel indicates you have satisfied then sadly you will only have scratched the surface of what is possible

Also see Taoism xxx"

White goo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had it happen once or twice, and whilst it doesn't annoy me, after too long I do start to feel a bit bored.

I know it's not down to me, so don't ever make a big deal of it, but I also know when to give up and call a halt to play

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"I've had it happen once or twice, and whilst it doesn't annoy me, after too long I do start to feel a bit bored.

I know it's not down to me, so don't ever make a big deal of it, but I also know when to give up and call a halt to play "

How do you know it's not you just out of interest?

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

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By *en Dover XMan
over a year ago

stroud

I sometimes don't cum and have struggled to stay hard if play lasts too long, I have met a sexy girl and the first time, no cum, second time, came 4 times, more relaxed, less pressure to perform, who knows ???

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By *riendly BiMan
over a year ago

h

There must be something wrong with them. By your pictures you’d have me shooting like a fountain

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone else find this annoying??

When I have a meet and here the words 'oh I never cum' my heart always sinks a little. Now I love a good prolonged fucking session but I quite like it when a man cums, it's quite satisfying for me to see so sometimes when you meet a man who says he hardly ever cums on a meet it always makes me wonder if I'm a shit shag and haven't been able to make him cum or it's just a man thing, where they think women want a man who can pound them for hours on end with no climax. I can find it exhausting and beyond enjoyment sometimes ha ha

You are aware that ejaculation is only an involuntary muscle spasm, and that it just coincides with an orgasm in most cases ?

I rarely ejaculate for a multitude of reasons but am fully multi orgasmic and a lady would indeed know when I'm having an orgasm my cock will indeed pulsate and swell and my body tense and shiver

With a considerate and empathic woman these will coincide and intensify as she reaches her high tides also

If white goo is the only evidence that you feel indicates you have satisfied then sadly you will only have scratched the surface of what is possible

Also see Taoism xxx"

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By *rinceCorwinMan
over a year ago

Manchester

A side effect of viagra is that it inhibits ejaculation. Just a thought.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Love the comments. The one about it being more disappointing than annoying is probably spot on.

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By *icndaveCouple
over a year ago

Mansfield

I mostly find it difficult to cum. It plays on my mind and the longer I go without cumming the less chance of it happening at all.

I think trying to perform, instead of relaxing and enjoying it plays a big part. However, it doesn't mean I'm not enjoying it - when you've been hard for an hour+ it's incredibly sensitive, but it does feel as if I'm letting the lady down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My medication prevents me from cumming most of the time, nothing I can do about it. I usually let them know before we meet that this is the case. Nothing to do with the lady in question and I make sure they know I'm enjoying it in other ways.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love to cum I remember once I had performance agxiety on my first group fun but since then I love to curl again and again hehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Gonna sound stupid but you can also go cum shy despite how much your enjoying it. Or that could just be me. Iv never had an issue cuming until I started my loopy crazy pills a few years ago and they did say the initial side effect is unable to ejaculate. Needless to say I got used to it but can still now struggle. Bloody embarrassing annoying heartbreaking as I feel I’m letting the lady down"

Funny you should mention the pills, I had the same problem some years ago with meds that I assume are similar to yours, I produced less cum and was really annoyed by it because I could produce a good amount before. The lack of meets nowadays means its not so much of a problem,

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London

Meets like that left me unfulfilled.

Makes me feel like a failure - not good enough or attractive enough.

It hurts my ego.

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By *uicy72Woman
over a year ago

North Colchester


"I don't see it as a reflection of me at all. I rarely cum during NSA meets too so it doesn't surprise or deter me when my partner doesn't either.

I enjoy the journey more than the destination anyway. If I just want to cum I can do that (rather brilliantly!) on my own. So for me sex is about all the other stuff that I can't do myself, kissing, touching, being intimate.

If I do cum, and he does too, it's really just a bonus "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not something that bothers me, if it doesn't bother them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There could be a medical reason. I get tightening of my foreskin sometimes. If that happens I loose sensitivity. I'm pretty sure I ain't the only one with that condition.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Love the comments. The one about it being more disappointing than annoying is probably spot on. "

I don't find it disappointing. I don't see his not coming as a reflection on my ability to satisfy Jim. I'm here for both of our pleasure. Not just mine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes I just don't want to cum. I prefer the journey, feel, sensations.

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By *hekaiserMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

I...ahem have cum too quick!

The last few times Ive had sex...Ive cum within a minute of starting penetration...very very annoying. (Put it down to lack of sex!)

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By *uicy72Woman
over a year ago

North Colchester


"I...ahem have cum too quick!

The last few times Ive had sex...Ive cum within a minute of starting penetration...very very annoying. (Put it down to lack of sex!)"

This is a regular problem I find !

And this is ok too !

More oral and play for lol

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Sound like the title of a James bond porn parody

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By *ishopstippleMan
over a year ago

Purley

Jeezz This could only be written by a woman that doesn't A) listen to the man she is with, or B) doesn't understand the male orgasm.

There are TWO mechanisms. One is the mental orgasm. The other is ejaculation. They ARE NOT the same!

For all the Fems reading this: A shit fuck doesn't result in either. A Good fuck results in one (often mental orgasm), or if the guy is very lucky both.

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By *ikstupp2Man
over a year ago

london

I never knew this was a thing until I heard a neighbor say her man had never cum with her in two years!!! I find it hard to cum through penatration alone but never heard of a guy that can’t before

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone else find this annoying??

When I have a meet and here the words 'oh I never cum' my heart always sinks a little. Now I love a good prolonged fucking session but I quite like it when a man cums, it's quite satisfying for me to see so sometimes when you meet a man who says he hardly ever cums on a meet it always makes me wonder if I'm a shit shag and haven't been able to make him cum or it's just a man thing, where they think women want a man who can pound them for hours on end with no climax. I can find it exhausting and beyond enjoyment sometimes ha ha "
If a man doesn't come then he wasn't excited/stimulated enough. Sorry but that's black & white

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Gonna sound stupid but you can also go cum shy despite how much your enjoying it. Or that could just be me. Iv never had an issue cuming until I started my loopy crazy pills a few years ago and they did say the initial side effect is unable to ejaculate. Needless to say I got used to it but can still now struggle. Bloody embarrassing annoying heartbreaking as I feel I’m letting the lady down"

My FWB stopped being able to cum in a woman about a year ago, prior to that he was fine. I was a bit worried at first it was me causing it but we had a little chat about it and it's other lady's too. I suspect it's either caused by stress or medication. XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone else find this annoying??

When I have a meet and here the words 'oh I never cum' my heart always sinks a little. Now I love a good prolonged fucking session but I quite like it when a man cums, it's quite satisfying for me to see so sometimes when you meet a man who says he hardly ever cums on a meet it always makes me wonder if I'm a shit shag and haven't been able to make him cum or it's just a man thing, where they think women want a man who can pound them for hours on end with no climax. I can find it exhausting and beyond enjoyment sometimes ha ha If a man doesn't come then he wasn't excited/stimulated enough. Sorry but that's black & white"

No that is NOT correct x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Jeezz This could only be written by a woman that doesn't A) listen to the man she is with, or B) doesn't understand the male orgasm.

There are TWO mechanisms. One is the mental orgasm. The other is ejaculation. They ARE NOT the same!

For all the Fems reading this: A shit fuck doesn't result in either. A Good fuck results in one (often mental orgasm), or if the guy is very lucky both. "

Sorry am I missing something here? Is this some sort of weird tantra shit that I've never experienced?!

Genuine question as an orgasm to me involves physical ejaculation and can be heightened by the amount of stimulation and situation. For me it's far more intense with someone I know and have feelings for but still enjoyable (tho less intense) if it's a d*unken shag or a one off type situation. No idea what a mental orgasm is but more than happy to be enlightened on this one!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone else find this annoying??

When I have a meet and here the words 'oh I never cum' my heart always sinks a little. Now I love a good prolonged fucking session but I quite like it when a man cums, it's quite satisfying for me to see so sometimes when you meet a man who says he hardly ever cums on a meet it always makes me wonder if I'm a shit shag and haven't been able to make him cum or it's just a man thing, where they think women want a man who can pound them for hours on end with no climax. I can find it exhausting and beyond enjoyment sometimes ha ha If a man doesn't come then he wasn't excited/stimulated enough. Sorry but that's black & white

No that is NOT correct x"
So you as a woman can understand the male orgasm better than a male, ok

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole

Viagra. I find the ones that have taken it don't cum. Bang away for hours but don't cum. I get boared and how do you polightly tell them to stop?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Out of interest then what’s the ‘right’ amount of fucking before you expect a guy to cum?

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London


"If a man doesn't come then he wasn't excited/stimulated enough. Sorry but that's black & white"

Especially when they can cum with someone else.

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire


"Does anyone else find this annoying??

When I have a meet and here the words 'oh I never cum' my heart always sinks a little. Now I love a good prolonged fucking session but I quite like it when a man cums, it's quite satisfying for me to see so sometimes when you meet a man who says he hardly ever cums on a meet it always makes me wonder if I'm a shit shag and haven't been able to make him cum or it's just a man thing, where they think women want a man who can pound them for hours on end with no climax. I can find it exhausting and beyond enjoyment sometimes ha ha If a man doesn't come then he wasn't excited/stimulated enough. Sorry but that's black & white"

Sorry but that's a totally neive comment to make

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had this issue for a while after a marriage split, totally in the mind, the more you think about it the worse it gets, had some great but couldnt cum, felt terrible about it and can also tell the ladies thought i hadnt enjoyed it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes i have experienced this. However this is why i like to have a regular partner as i tend to relax more when i get to know someone over time.

Then i can time it so i cum at the same time as my partner. That is just amazing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve heard it said that some women don’t come through penatrive sex..... so why should we discriminate against men?

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By *9-Pleasure_69Man
over a year ago

london

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone else find this annoying??

When I have a meet and here the words 'oh I never cum' my heart always sinks a little. (...) but I quite like it when a man cums, it's quite satisfying for me to see so sometimes when you meet a man who says he hardly ever cums on a meet ..."

Yes!

Makes my heart sink too.

It would even put me off considering someone as a FWB and it has in the past.

Men need to come too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I...ahem have cum too quick!

The last few times Ive had sex...Ive cum within a minute of starting penetration...very very annoying. (Put it down to lack of sex!)"

Still, I don't mind. I'd prefer it to a man who can't come.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

My partner only comes about once a month despite having lots of sex with me and different people and also wanking. I have just got used to it now, that most times he wont cum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone else find this annoying??

When I have a meet and here the words 'oh I never cum' my heart always sinks a little. Now I love a good prolonged fucking session but I quite like it when a man cums, it's quite satisfying for me to see so sometimes when you meet a man who says he hardly ever cums on a meet it always makes me wonder if I'm a shit shag and haven't been able to make him cum or it's just a man thing, where they think women want a man who can pound them for hours on end with no climax. I can find it exhausting and beyond enjoyment sometimes ha ha "

I think that is just double standard. I myself am a firehose but when girls don't cum few guys would give them shit for it. Just because guys don't cum doesn't mean they don't have fun either. Ejaculation and orgasms are two different things. They are linked but can be quite separated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *andemanMan
over a year ago

bedforshire

I dont cum quickly (well not if i can help it) love slow long sex with bouts of get us to the edge fire then slow down a while followed by more passion and sweet!

I dont cum often in a meet but in the end i explode.

I have found the approach mutually satisfying for all involved.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never knew this was a thing until I heard a neighbor say her man had never cum with her in two years!!! I find it hard to cum through penatration alone but never heard of a guy that can’t before "

Really...just putting your penis in and out really isn't all that exciting, results are that I hardly ever cum that way.

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By *estivalMan
over a year ago

borehamwood

Have had this problem before.was with sumone id fancied for ages finaly started seeing each other.wen it came to sex the first few times concentrated so much in her having a good time that i didnt cum.she brought the subject up had a bit of a chat about it and after that all was good.wasnt anything about fancying her was just to focused on sumthing else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why are folk referring to it as a problem if a dude doesn't cum? Like the measure of good sex is a man producing semen?

Who cares if you cum...just have a good time and stop obsessing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why are folk referring to it as a problem if a dude doesn't cum? Like the measure of good sex is a man producing semen?

Who cares if you cum...just have a good time and stop obsessing "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why are folk referring to it as a problem if a dude doesn't cum? Like the measure of good sex is a man producing semen?

Who cares if you cum...just have a good time and stop obsessing "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow, didnt realise this was so common. I dont have that problem, i usually last about a hour and a half then cum then 20 mins later im ready to go again. Never touched viagra and after reading this i never would. Have no need to really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Years ago while taking sertraline it took ages to cum. Luckily I was only on medication for 6 months.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wow, didnt realise this was so common. I dont have that problem, i usually last about a hour and a half then cum then 20 mins later im ready to go again. Never touched viagra and after reading this i never would. Have no need to really."

It's a common side effect with anxiety medication, it's the reason I find it hard to cum.

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By *gcw2014Couple
over a year ago

just outside of liverpool

I have this problem. I don't need to cum to enjoy sex. There are times when I so turned on my dick throbs and goes through the motions but nothing comes out. Doesn't mean I havent enjoyed it, just a dry ejaculation. Other times I can cum buckets. It's not whom I'm with that causes it. It's just got and miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What an interesting series of comments. Some well informed, some ignorant, some considerate, and some from a downright selfish point of view.

1) A man is judged by the size of his penis before he starts.

2)He then has to get a nice firm erection, many fall at this hurdle especially in group sex situation. It is hard to keep it hard when you dont know who is going to do what with what and to whom.

3) Cum too soon and you are "Quick draw McGraw"

4) Take too long and that is an issue.

5) Fail to splooge at all and "you dont find me attractive enough!"

As we all know, and have done for a long time, A man's place is in the wrong!

By the way I know you can draw up similar issues for women. This was intended to have a humorous element to it, albeit with an element of truth.

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch


"Does anyone else find this annoying??

When I have a meet and here the words 'oh I never cum' my heart always sinks a little. (...) but I quite like it when a man cums, it's quite satisfying for me to see so sometimes when you meet a man who says he hardly ever cums on a meet ...

Yes!

Makes my heart sink too.

It would even put me off considering someone as a FWB and it has in the past.

Men need to come too."

Honesty

Ejaculation is disappointing experience when one can orgasm without

The misunderstanding of this illustrates a lack of empathy , and in my opinion empathy is a powerful tool with regards to giving or indeed sharing satisfaction x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I may start a thread on how dissapointed I am if a woman doesn't squirt or gush and see how well that goes down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I may start a thread on how dissapointed I am if a woman doesn't squirt or gush and see how well that goes down "

Haha yeah I thought that too. Imagine if a bloke posted saying he found it disappointing if a woman didn't cum

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By *ANDA2Couple
over a year ago

Henley Arden


"Does anyone else find this annoying??

When I have a meet and here the words 'oh I never cum' my heart always sinks a little. Now I love a good prolonged fucking session but I quite like it when a man cums, it's quite satisfying for me to see so sometimes when you meet a man who says he hardly ever cums on a meet it always makes me wonder if I'm a shit shag and haven't been able to make him cum or it's just a man thing, where they think women want a man who can pound them for hours on end with no climax. I can find it exhausting and beyond enjoyment sometimes ha ha If a man doesn't come then he wasn't excited/stimulated enough. Sorry but that's black & white

No that is NOT correct xSo you as a woman can understand the male orgasm better than a male, ok"

From MR K

No she's not a man but she does understand biology unlike you.

Delayed Ejaculation is IIRC the 3rd most common sexual disfunction after Premature ejaculation and erection issues.

The only black and white is that it's a medical issue. Nothing to do with stimulation. Also is cum not come.

Quote...

Delayed ejaculation occurs when a man needs more than 30 minutes of sexual stimulation to reach orgasm and ejaculate. Ejaculation is when semen is discharged from the penis. Some men can only ejaculate with manual or oral stimulation. Some cannot ejaculate at all.

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By *aughtynice23Couple
over a year ago

South West


"I may start a thread on how dissapointed I am if a woman doesn't squirt or gush and see how well that goes down

Haha yeah I thought that too. Imagine if a bloke posted saying he found it disappointing if a woman didn't cum "

Absolutely, he'd quite rightly get corrected on the error of his ways!

Depends on the situation, certainly at clubs and parties guys can get tired, and can't always cum. It doesn't mean he's not having a great time, or doesn't fancy the woman. Quite the reverse in fact.

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By *andemanMan
over a year ago

bedforshire

If these threads teach us anything it is that desire and excitment is a very individual thing. The pleasures we seek and the things that satisfy us are varried and unique.

So lets just explore these and find the ones that make us smile,gasp,laugh, orgasm.

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By *ishopstippleMan
over a year ago

Purley


"Jeezz This could only be written by a woman that doesn't A) listen to the man she is with, or B) doesn't understand the male orgasm.

There are TWO mechanisms. One is the mental orgasm. The other is ejaculation. They ARE NOT the same!

For all the Fems reading this: A shit fuck doesn't result in either. A Good fuck results in one (often mental orgasm), or if the guy is very lucky both.

Sorry am I missing something here? Is this some sort of weird tantra shit that I've never experienced?!

Genuine question as an orgasm to me involves physical ejaculation and can be heightened by the amount of stimulation and situation. For me it's far more intense with someone I know and have feelings for but still enjoyable (tho less intense) if it's a d*unken shag or a one off type situation. No idea what a mental orgasm is but more than happy to be enlightened on this one!"

No it not some tantic shit.

It comes from the emotional side, that tells you: that you have enjoyed a good fuck and feel totally satisfied whether you have ejaculated, or not.

Although I appreciate that some guys think with the head thats at the end of their penis, not the one thats at the end of their neck, and some don't know the difference

I'm pleased for you that both happen simultaneously , although the actual mechanism is different in each case. -Google is your friend in these matters. (Masters and Johnson)

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Wandsworth

It does not reflect on the woman rather the psyche of the man to last longer, stay hard and make sure the lady is thoroughly fucked. Normally I can decide when I cum because I can hold it in, which results in being a heavy cummer.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"I may start a thread on how dissapointed I am if a woman doesn't squirt or gush and see how well that goes down "

I'm a huge disappointment I know . Nar I'm glad I don't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I may start a thread on how dissapointed I am if a woman doesn't squirt or gush and see how well that goes down

I'm a huge disappointment I know . Nar I'm glad I don't "

Well that's not good...how do I know I've done a good job unless there's some kind of fluid to prove it?

Not good enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Gonna sound stupid but you can also go cum shy despite how much your enjoying it. Or that could just be me. Iv never had an issue cuming until I started my loopy crazy pills a few years ago and they did say the initial side effect is unable to ejaculate. Needless to say I got used to it but can still now struggle. Bloody embarrassing annoying heartbreaking as I feel I’m letting the lady down"

i got prescribed pills for epilepsy even though it was for pain .

the effect was to dull the nerves to stop the pain but a cock is full of nerve endings that make you cum.

needless to say i gave up taking them no pain no gain (or muck chucking)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Gonna sound stupid but you can also go cum shy despite how much your enjoying it. Or that could just be me. Iv never had an issue cuming until I started my loopy crazy pills a few years ago and they did say the initial side effect is unable to ejaculate. Needless to say I got used to it but can still now struggle. Bloody embarrassing annoying heartbreaking as I feel I’m letting the lady down

i got prescribed pills for epilepsy even though it was for pain .

the effect was to dull the nerves to stop the pain but a cock is full of nerve endings that make you cum.

needless to say i gave up taking them no pain no gain (or muck chucking)"

Exactly there are medications out there that affect men from coming having experienced this my self and few year's ago. Most of them tackle nerve pain or others that tackle a chemical imbalance of the brain

But I'm all better now

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By *D835Man
over a year ago

London


"What an interesting series of comments. Some well informed, some ignorant, some considerate, and some from a downright selfish point of view.

1) A man is judged by the size of his penis before he starts.

2)He then has to get a nice firm erection, many fall at this hurdle especially in group sex situation. It is hard to keep it hard when you dont know who is going to do what with what and to whom.

3) Cum too soon and you are "Quick draw McGraw"

4) Take too long and that is an issue.

5) Fail to splooge at all and "you dont find me attractive enough!"

As we all know, and have done for a long time, A man's place is in the wrong!

By the way I know you can draw up similar issues for women. This was intended to have a humorous element to it, albeit with an element of truth. "

Interesting read.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It has honestly never been a problem...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm fairly fortunate that I have pretty much complete control, so often I will choose not to cum until the end of maybe a 4 hour session but if I wanted to I can cum after a 5 minute quickie. Just depends on the mood, but generally I prefer to edge and not cum for quite a while as it's then a lot more intense when I do let go.

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains


"I may start a thread on how dissapointed I am if a woman doesn't squirt or gush and see how well that goes down "

I've been made to feel inadequate in the past for not being able to. I've even mentioned it on my profile so guys don't get their hopes up. I also can't cum 90% of the time so I ain't gonna judge if a man struggles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I may start a thread on how dissapointed I am if a woman doesn't squirt or gush and see how well that goes down "

How would it be different it's still someone airing something that bothers them, my ex husband could never make me squirt /gush when many others could. I rarely make Ch3wy cum & it still bothers me, I try my best not to be upset but everytime it makes me feel I can't get it right, even after all this time X

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By *ink magnolia s yorksWoman
over a year ago

south yorkshire

Met one and he's on here, it wasn't tea an issue, he was great in the bedroom just meant more fun lol

If I'd only just met him and I was insecure I might have thought differently x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Jeezz This could only be written by a woman that doesn't A) listen to the man she is with, or B) doesn't understand the male orgasm.

There are TWO mechanisms. One is the mental orgasm. The other is ejaculation. They ARE NOT the same!

For all the Fems reading this: A shit fuck doesn't result in either. A Good fuck results in one (often mental orgasm), or if the guy is very lucky both.

Sorry am I missing something here? Is this some sort of weird tantra shit that I've never experienced?!

Genuine question as an orgasm to me involves physical ejaculation and can be heightened by the amount of stimulation and situation. For me it's far more intense with someone I know and have feelings for but still enjoyable (tho less intense) if it's a d*unken shag or a one off type situation. No idea what a mental orgasm is but more than happy to be enlightened on this one!"

The mental orgasm is the best of the two kinds.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The male orgasm and ejaculation don't have to be linked, you can train yourself to have dry orgasms which can become whole body orgasms and last for 30 minutes or more. It's learned using Tantric techniques.

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By *hoot45Man
over a year ago

Ramsgate


"I'm fairly fortunate that I have pretty much complete control, so often I will choose not to cum until the end of maybe a 4 hour session but if I wanted to I can cum after a 5 minute quickie. Just depends on the mood, but generally I prefer to edge and not cum for quite a while as it's then a lot more intense when I do let go."

Love edging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Glad I'm not the only one who has this problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Three years ago, I was diagnosed with prostate cancer and the treatment I received which was taking hormone tablets and a course of prolonged radiotherapy helped in defeating the cancer. But since then I have been unable to cum as I did before. Most of the times it is dry. I feel frustrated when I have sex and I can't cum, but the consolation is I can still pleasure a woman in other ways. Thank goodness for oral sex!

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By *andemanMan
over a year ago

bedforshire


"I may start a thread on how dissapointed I am if a woman doesn't squirt or gush and see how well that goes down

How would it be different it's still someone airing something that bothers them, my ex husband could never make me squirt /gush when many others could. I rarely make Ch3wy cum & it still bothers me, I try my best not to be upset but everytime it makes me feel I can't get it right, even after all this time X"

You have nothing to beat yourself up.

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By *irtygirl11Couple
over a year ago

East Cheshire

I can't come because of medication i am on.

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