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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

why is it so hard to find what u are looking for on here girls only she doint want cock any tip please thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its takes time and patience. seven weeks is nothing on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Patience is the key. Hope you get some joy soon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

give it time... you'll be fine.

rest assured if mrs is looking for girls they'll be stealth-perving ya for a while before they get in touch...

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems like it can take forever and you will come across plenty of timewasters and failed meetings but stick with it, you are the right age, good luck

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By *rummiePartyManMan
over a year ago

birmingham


"why is it so hard to find what u are looking for on here girls only she doint want cock any tip please thanks "

Maybe re-wording your profile into short succinct sentences, with correct spelling and grammar will help people understand you better? Maybe a headline of "Women Only" or something to start things off with? The long series of words that you currently have just makes it hard for people. Then they give up, ignore what you have written, and send you what they want, whether it's what you are after or not.

It doesn't have to be difficult to do. MS Word has spelling and grammar checkers. It also some tools to evaluate readability too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"why is it so hard to find what u are looking for on here girls only she doint want cock any tip please thanks

Maybe re-wording your profile into short succinct sentences, with correct spelling and grammar will help people understand you better? Maybe a headline of "Women Only" or something to start things off with? The long series of words that you currently have just makes it hard for people. Then they give up, ignore what you have written, and send you what they want, whether it's what you are after or not.

It doesn't have to be difficult to do. MS Word has spelling and grammar checkers. It also some tools to evaluate readability too."

I have to agree your profile is really hard to read and finding single women, who want to play with a couple, is a slow starter. It will take a bit of time before you get a bite. It does get easier. I've added a spell check app to my web browser, so that I can check my spelling in any of the forums or other web sites.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry, but I struggled to even understand this thread until I read the responses to it.

Found your profile a little confusing too. Will the male half be playing with the woman too?

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By *ong_legs2Couple
over a year ago

essex

we're still looking for our first meet...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sorry OP but the profile and this post sound purely from the male half...single fems may not be that enamoured by this nor will female cpl halfs.

perhaps getting to a party or club would be more of an interest and find what u are looking for there

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

Its tough to find bifems. We gave up after being messed around too much by the one we did meet. Much easier to have girlie fun or make contact at parties.

Mistress x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't sweat it. You're not the only couple to be struggling to find a single bi fem.

As son as you start narrowing down who you are wanting to meet, the smaller amount of people you have to pick from.

It's like only eating red m&ms. If you were willing to eat more colours you'd be able to eat more from 1 packet.

It's something you're going to have to accept.

If it happens, it happens. If it doesn't, it doesn't. No big deal.

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By *riseeTV/TS
over a year ago

MacKay


"why is it so hard to find what u are looking for on here girls only she doint want cock any tip please thanks "

Sadly with every couple looking for a woman for a bi-curious experience (something that was rare in advertise 15 years ago, but in the last 5 years every women has suddenly become BiCurious ... see below) the chances are very very slim.

Single women, like myself, are often invite to join a couple on the pretence of girlie fun only to find we're expected to pounce on and devour the male! Well wait up a sec! If the male wants to be devoured, why can't be be devoured by his adoring loving wonderfully sexy partner!

Most women are looking for soft sensual sexy slinky fun with a silky smooth body and the warmth that only a woman can give ... we've all had a man or two and they are much of a muchness! (In time and commitment!)

It seems that many profiles, like they were 15 years ago, are written by the male partner. 15 years ago it was about the menage o trois (that's 2 girls focused on the man). Clearly as some men have found promoting their wives as bi has aided drawing out women (just like that stupid hoax Sydney University disclaimer - seriously people it's a FAKE, A HOAX, it started 13 years ago, you keep it going, it's a joke.) So as men read other profiles they seem to have adapted the female bicurious approach.

I could write an essay on bi-curious, bi-sexual and bi-sensual which are all very differnet things. When you understand the entomology of each you can understand why it might in reality be difficult to fulfil that fantasy.

For the record I coined Bisensual about 10 years ago, the word didn't exist on the internet or in research papers, or the LGB community back then.

I don't think many women are really bisexual in the true sense of the word. I don't think many are bicurious either. I do think bisensual is highly likely.

I read the OP's profile. It's Typical. It's all about the male ego and satisfying his needs. The photos are very telling of the male ego too. A woman, from my experience, typically doesn't try and attract other women by photos of a labia majora and spread legs.

Women are sensual beings. We seek a whole body experience. We tend not to go for the crotch first up, unlike men who are up the thigh and under the dress in seconds groping and poking as if their next heart beat depends on it.

Bit like sperm really.

I can safely say that in 16 years of marriage and swinging on and off over that time, we never achieved the menage o trio, although my Ex did give a couple their fantasy last month, but for all the wrong reasons as she has since learned, by deleting her profile, and vanishing.

Final point for discussion: Ever wondered by women don't want another cock? I did for years and then it all made perfect sense!

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By *riseeTV/TS
over a year ago

MacKay

Oh one intersting final thought:

If the women is only needed to please the female in the couple, why not then

a) have a female profile that seeks a gay or bi woman cause the male isn't needed at all

or

b) make your profile clear - you want a lesbian, cause the male won't be hanging around spanking his monkey for 6 hours whilst the girls frolic in rose petals.

Much easier!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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If the male wants to be devoured, why can't be be devoured by his adoring loving wonderfully sexy partner! "

If that's your thinking, then why swing in the first place?


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Most women are looking for soft sensual sexy slinky fun with a silky smooth body and the warmth that only a woman can give ... we've all had a man or two and they are much of a muchness! (In time and commitment!)

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Guys can be sensual when they want to be. Tod does a fantastic job at being soft & sensual, I don't need another woman to do that for me.


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I don't think many women are really bisexual in the true sense of the word. I don't think many are bicurious either. I do think bisensual is highly likely.

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I think there are a lot of women that are straight & play BI to attract guys or to keep their partners happy.


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A woman, from my experience, typically doesn't try and attract other women by photos of a labia majora and spread legs.

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From my experience men ask to see breasts. Woman ask to see pussy.


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Women are sensual beings. We seek a whole body experience. We tend not to go for the crotch first up, unlike men who are up the thigh and under the dress in seconds groping and poking as if their next heart beat depends on it.

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Not always, when I first got with Mr t he was constantly telling me to slow down.


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Final point for discussion: Ever wondered by women don't want another cock?

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Because Mr T is uncomfortable with the idea of me being with another guy.

I love him deeply & respect his feelings. If sacrificing my fantasy of being in a MMF/MMFF is the price I have to pay for being with Mr T, than I'm happy to never experience that.

I think the main problem in finding a single bi woman is that they are a minority. Not every bi woman wants NSA sex. Not every Bisexual is a nymphomaniac as a lot of people seem to think.

Also location is a huge factor. You're going to struggle a hell of a lot more if you live in a tiny hamlet in the Highlands than if you live in the heart of London

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would just like to add something too.

I am a bisexual woman, I only discovered this from swinging with my OH. I said I was interested in girls and he helped me on my journey (FFM and MFMF), something I don't think I could have done on my own (strict upbringing, not thinking it was natural, etc, etc).

Now in a FFM 3some it is about me fulfilling my bisexual and bisensual desires. Sometimes OH joins in with me, her or both, sometimes he will watch and (hopefully next meet) me and the girl joining me will be going upstairs for a bit of us time before OH joins us.

Just my 2ps worth.

Yes single girls are hard to find, but you got to look at it from their PoV too, it must be a scary position in some ways, with the pressures that others have mentioned above....

Jx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

single and bi curious its virtualy impossible to find a couple interested.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

just a big thank u to u all we have took it on board again thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only meet bisexual fem couples....I could never be someones first time experiment lol. Happy searching though. There are fems out there

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