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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I just wanted to see what other people's views on meeting people with disabilities is??

M

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Disabilities vary massively....

Impaired vision... arthritis.... wheelchair bound... mental illness

Peoples opinions would reflect this...

Can u give us an example.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do either of you have a disability or are you just seeing if it’s acceptable on here to meet someone with some form of disability?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well I am visually impaired and don't have much sight. Plus I have a little bit of a mobility issue. I'm only asking to see what other people's views are. There is no malice intended

M

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I've met a guy who was visually impaired (we met lots of times and became good mates) I've also met a fella who had a prosthetic leg.

I think it depends on what you want from the meet. If the disability prevents the desire of the meet being met, then no, I wouldn't meet the person.

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By *lacksausageMan
over a year ago

Birmingham Airport

It is such a minefield to navigate, you won't believe it!

Historically, disabled persons have be excluded from so much. Mental disabilities have had to even fight to come under the definition.

Now let's bring the discussion home. The swinging world is phisically oriented : no other way of putting it. This makes it difficult for a lot of physically disabled people who otherwise may have some very filthy and imaginative minds. The more severe the disability, the more difficult it is to swing.

It is not easy to allow a total stranger to see you completely naked! It is even harder when you have some body parts completely missing or much much smaller than the norm. It is not an easy topic. I wish I knew the way forward.

I used to chat with a disabled lady friend in Oxford ( not from fab) and we could talk about anything under the sun. She would cook and do everything like any other person but she would not take the next step with me nor any other guy. She would invite me over and all but would never get physical. I couldn't figure it out.

I wish I knew the way forward but this is what I think: it is much much easier if you knew the person or were very close and "fresh" before onset of disability. I could be wrong.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've met a guy who was visually impaired (we met lots of times and became good mates) I've also met a fella who had a prosthetic leg.

I think it depends on what you want from the meet. If the disability prevents the desire of the meet being met, then no, I wouldn't meet the person."

My disabilities don't restrict me and the wife in anyway from having sex. I guess it's just more that I'm slower changing position.

M

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some I would meet and some I definitely wouldn't.

I'd prefer to know details early on. I would be unhappy if they'd said nothing and I found out when we met in person.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It is such a minefield to navigate, you won't believe it!

Historically, disabled persons have be excluded from so much. Mental disabilities have had to even fight to come under the definition.

Now let's bring the discussion home. The swinging world is phisically oriented : no other way of putting it. This makes it difficult for a lot of physically disabled people who otherwise may have some very filthy and imaginative minds. The more severe the disability, the more difficult it is to swing.

It is not easy to allow a total stranger to see you completely naked! It is even harder when you have some body parts completely missing or much much smaller than the norm. It is not an easy topic. I wish I knew the way forward.

I used to chat with a disabled lady friend in Oxford ( not from fab) and we could talk about anything under the sun. She would cook and do everything like any other person but she would not take the next step with me nor any other guy. She would invite me over and all but would never get physical. I couldn't figure it out.

I wish I knew the way forward but this is what I think: it is much much easier if you knew the person or were very close and "fresh" before onset of disability. I could be wrong. "

Even though I do have slight mobility problems it's not really visible and my sight impairment is probably the bigger issue tbh but thanks for your answer. It was very informative

M

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

I have MS. Thankfully it doesnt affect me too much. Slightly affects my mobility and some positions are tricky lol. You wouldnt really know if you saw me in the street. I do mention it to people if there is a possibility of meeting. Thankfully it hasnt been an issue.

Jack

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have MS. Thankfully it doesnt affect me too much. Slightly affects my mobility and some positions are tricky lol. You wouldnt really know if you saw me in the street. I do mention it to people if there is a possibility of meeting. Thankfully it hasnt been an issue.

Jack"

Thanks for the reply jack. It's nice to see that it's not holding you back

M

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just wanted to see what other people's views on meeting people with disabilities is??

M"

Disabilities are so individual in how they manifest, from physical to mental to hidden impairments and learning difficulties. They also have such vast ranges of impact and severity on the functioning of an individual's life that you can't make a generalisation of "how it is". It's also very individual how the person themselves perceives their difference as to whether they'd even consider it being termed a disability or not, or view it positively or negatively or even rather neutrally just as another aspect of themselves and not the single most defining one.

I would never be able to say if I would or wouldn't meet someone due to them having a disability. I would have to be attracted to the person and want to spend time with them, so if I were to make a blanket statement about anything it would be that they were not continuously bitter or negative or angry about the impact of their disability -- not always, everyone is entitled to feeling negative at times, but it would be someone's main presiding attitude that was most important to me.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax


"I just wanted to see what other people's views on meeting people with disabilities is??

M

Disabilities are so individual in how they manifest, from physical to mental to hidden impairments and learning difficulties. They also have such vast ranges of impact and severity on the functioning of an individual's life that you can't make a generalisation of "how it is". It's also very individual how the person themselves perceives their difference as to whether they'd even consider it being termed a disability or not, or view it positively or negatively or even rather neutrally just as another aspect of themselves and not the single most defining one.

I would never be able to say if I would or wouldn't meet someone due to them having a disability. I would have to be attracted to the person and want to spend time with them, so if I were to make a blanket statement about anything it would be that they were not continuously bitter or negative or angry about the impact of their disability -- not always, everyone is entitled to feeling negative at times, but it would be someone's main presiding attitude that was most important to me. "

As always, beautifully said.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I just wanted to see what other people's views on meeting people with disabilities is??

M

Disabilities are so individual in how they manifest, from physical to mental to hidden impairments and learning difficulties. They also have such vast ranges of impact and severity on the functioning of an individual's life that you can't make a generalisation of "how it is". It's also very individual how the person themselves perceives their difference as to whether they'd even consider it being termed a disability or not, or view it positively or negatively or even rather neutrally just as another aspect of themselves and not the single most defining one.

I would never be able to say if I would or wouldn't meet someone due to them having a disability. I would have to be attracted to the person and want to spend time with them, so if I were to make a blanket statement about anything it would be that they were not continuously bitter or negative or angry about the impact of their disability -- not always, everyone is entitled to feeling negative at times, but it would be someone's main presiding attitude that was most important to me. "

Thanks for your answer. I don't fall into the bitter personality and certainly don't allow myself to be held back by my disabilities.

M

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax


"I have MS. Thankfully it doesnt affect me too much. Slightly affects my mobility and some positions are tricky lol. You wouldnt really know if you saw me in the street. I do mention it to people if there is a possibility of meeting. Thankfully it hasnt been an issue.

Jack

Thanks for the reply jack. It's nice to see that it's not holding you back

M"

No probs. It is what it is. Just got to get on with things really. Like I said, thankfully it isnt too much of an issue at the moment. Sadly, there is no cure and there is every possibility it will get worse. Guess I'll just have to deal with it if it does. Tripped over in town yesterday. I had to reassure people I wasnt d*unk lol. Bit embarrasing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have MS. Thankfully it doesnt affect me too much. Slightly affects my mobility and some positions are tricky lol. You wouldnt really know if you saw me in the street. I do mention it to people if there is a possibility of meeting. Thankfully it hasnt been an issue.

Jack

Thanks for the reply jack. It's nice to see that it's not holding you back

M

No probs. It is what it is. Just got to get on with things really. Like I said, thankfully it isnt too much of an issue at the moment. Sadly, there is no cure and there is every possibility it will get worse. Guess I'll just have to deal with it if it does. Tripped over in town yesterday. I had to reassure people I wasnt d*unk lol. Bit embarrasing."

I bet it was. Are you ok??

M

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By *RnMrsFreakCouple
over a year ago

Hull,England

We both have disabilities, it puts some folk off but not many, in fact most people can be very accommodating. We've come across so many other people who also have health issues of all types. Everyone likes to fuck

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We both have disabilities, it puts some folk off but not many, in fact most people can be very accommodating. We've come across so many other people who also have health issues of all types. Everyone likes to fuck "

That's very true lol

M

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax


"I have MS. Thankfully it doesnt affect me too much. Slightly affects my mobility and some positions are tricky lol. You wouldnt really know if you saw me in the street. I do mention it to people if there is a possibility of meeting. Thankfully it hasnt been an issue.

Jack

Thanks for the reply jack. It's nice to see that it's not holding you back

M

No probs. It is what it is. Just got to get on with things really. Like I said, thankfully it isnt too much of an issue at the moment. Sadly, there is no cure and there is every possibility it will get worse. Guess I'll just have to deal with it if it does. Tripped over in town yesterday. I had to reassure people I wasnt d*unk lol. Bit embarrasing.

I bet it was. Are you ok??

M"

Yes fine thanks. A young bloke and his gf came up and asked if I was ok which was nice. Just felt a twat lol.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax


"We both have disabilities, it puts some folk off but not many, in fact most people can be very accommodating. We've come across so many other people who also have health issues of all types. Everyone likes to fuck "

So very true.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have MS. Thankfully it doesnt affect me too much. Slightly affects my mobility and some positions are tricky lol. You wouldnt really know if you saw me in the street. I do mention it to people if there is a possibility of meeting. Thankfully it hasnt been an issue.

Jack

Thanks for the reply jack. It's nice to see that it's not holding you back

M

No probs. It is what it is. Just got to get on with things really. Like I said, thankfully it isnt too much of an issue at the moment. Sadly, there is no cure and there is every possibility it will get worse. Guess I'll just have to deal with it if it does. Tripped over in town yesterday. I had to reassure people I wasnt d*unk lol. Bit embarrasing.

I bet it was. Are you ok??

M

Yes fine thanks. A young bloke and his gf came up and asked if I was ok which was nice. Just felt a twat lol."

Lol yeah I know how that feels. I walked into a bollard about a week ago and ended up on the deck. A nice group of lads came over and helped me up and to get my things I dropped.

M

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax


"I have MS. Thankfully it doesnt affect me too much. Slightly affects my mobility and some positions are tricky lol. You wouldnt really know if you saw me in the street. I do mention it to people if there is a possibility of meeting. Thankfully it hasnt been an issue.

Jack

Thanks for the reply jack. It's nice to see that it's not holding you back

M

No probs. It is what it is. Just got to get on with things really. Like I said, thankfully it isnt too much of an issue at the moment. Sadly, there is no cure and there is every possibility it will get worse. Guess I'll just have to deal with it if it does. Tripped over in town yesterday. I had to reassure people I wasnt d*unk lol. Bit embarrasing.

I bet it was. Are you ok??

M

Yes fine thanks. A young bloke and his gf came up and asked if I was ok which was nice. Just felt a twat lol.

Lol yeah I know how that feels. I walked into a bollard about a week ago and ended up on the deck. A nice group of lads came over and helped me up and to get my things I dropped.

M"

There are some genuinely nice people out there.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have MS. Thankfully it doesnt affect me too much. Slightly affects my mobility and some positions are tricky lol. You wouldnt really know if you saw me in the street. I do mention it to people if there is a possibility of meeting. Thankfully it hasnt been an issue.

Jack

Thanks for the reply jack. It's nice to see that it's not holding you back

M

No probs. It is what it is. Just got to get on with things really. Like I said, thankfully it isnt too much of an issue at the moment. Sadly, there is no cure and there is every possibility it will get worse. Guess I'll just have to deal with it if it does. Tripped over in town yesterday. I had to reassure people I wasnt d*unk lol. Bit embarrasing.

I bet it was. Are you ok??

M

Yes fine thanks. A young bloke and his gf came up and asked if I was ok which was nice. Just felt a twat lol.

Lol yeah I know how that feels. I walked into a bollard about a week ago and ended up on the deck. A nice group of lads came over and helped me up and to get my things I dropped.

M

There are some genuinely nice people out there."

Yes there is.

M

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax


"I have MS. Thankfully it doesnt affect me too much. Slightly affects my mobility and some positions are tricky lol. You wouldnt really know if you saw me in the street. I do mention it to people if there is a possibility of meeting. Thankfully it hasnt been an issue.

Jack

Thanks for the reply jack. It's nice to see that it's not holding you back

M

No probs. It is what it is. Just got to get on with things really. Like I said, thankfully it isnt too much of an issue at the moment. Sadly, there is no cure and there is every possibility it will get worse. Guess I'll just have to deal with it if it does. Tripped over in town yesterday. I had to reassure people I wasnt d*unk lol. Bit embarrasing.

I bet it was. Are you ok??

M

Yes fine thanks. A young bloke and his gf came up and asked if I was ok which was nice. Just felt a twat lol.

Lol yeah I know how that feels. I walked into a bollard about a week ago and ended up on the deck. A nice group of lads came over and helped me up and to get my things I dropped.

M

There are some genuinely nice people out there.

Yes there is.

M"

And just for the record, it wouldnt put us off meeting you. Its about attraction and personality after all.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have MS. Thankfully it doesnt affect me too much. Slightly affects my mobility and some positions are tricky lol. You wouldnt really know if you saw me in the street. I do mention it to people if there is a possibility of meeting. Thankfully it hasnt been an issue.

Jack

Thanks for the reply jack. It's nice to see that it's not holding you back

M

No probs. It is what it is. Just got to get on with things really. Like I said, thankfully it isnt too much of an issue at the moment. Sadly, there is no cure and there is every possibility it will get worse. Guess I'll just have to deal with it if it does. Tripped over in town yesterday. I had to reassure people I wasnt d*unk lol. Bit embarrasing.

I bet it was. Are you ok??

M

Yes fine thanks. A young bloke and his gf came up and asked if I was ok which was nice. Just felt a twat lol.

Lol yeah I know how that feels. I walked into a bollard about a week ago and ended up on the deck. A nice group of lads came over and helped me up and to get my things I dropped.

M

There are some genuinely nice people out there.

Yes there is.

M

And just for the record, it wouldnt put us off meeting you. Its about attraction and personality after all. "

Awwww shucks. Thanks for that. We have both said disabilities won't play a part in who we choose to play with.

M

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax


"I have MS. Thankfully it doesnt affect me too much. Slightly affects my mobility and some positions are tricky lol. You wouldnt really know if you saw me in the street. I do mention it to people if there is a possibility of meeting. Thankfully it hasnt been an issue.

Jack

Thanks for the reply jack. It's nice to see that it's not holding you back

M

No probs. It is what it is. Just got to get on with things really. Like I said, thankfully it isnt too much of an issue at the moment. Sadly, there is no cure and there is every possibility it will get worse. Guess I'll just have to deal with it if it does. Tripped over in town yesterday. I had to reassure people I wasnt d*unk lol. Bit embarrasing.

I bet it was. Are you ok??

M

Yes fine thanks. A young bloke and his gf came up and asked if I was ok which was nice. Just felt a twat lol.

Lol yeah I know how that feels. I walked into a bollard about a week ago and ended up on the deck. A nice group of lads came over and helped me up and to get my things I dropped.

M

There are some genuinely nice people out there.

Yes there is.

M

And just for the record, it wouldnt put us off meeting you. Its about attraction and personality after all.

Awwww shucks. Thanks for that. We have both said disabilities won't play a part in who we choose to play with.

M"

No probs pal.

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By *ykoCouple
over a year ago

york

I the male of the couple have mobility problems and have to use a walking stick most of the time but it has not bothered most people we have met up with and is on the profile so the ones who read profiles will see it and know it in the first place.

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

I can only reiterate what others have said. Knowibg the disability and how it might affect a meet is very important. Much more likely to not care one jot if I know what's what.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I meet people.

It is the personality I connect with, not the outward characteristics of a person.

If anyone is differently abled, I would like to think that we can work to have a mutually enjoyable time.

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By *icky_tvLondonTV/TS
over a year ago

london

I love nothing more than prancing about like a right ol' cock-craving dancing queen for my paramour, so some fella in a wheelchair for example, would suit me fine. If he were blind however he wouldn't be able to witness the spectacle of me making such a massive tit of myself which would totally take the wind out of my sails.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well guys thank you all for answering my question. It seems to me that people are not bothered about disabilities as long as you are upfront about them. I would always be upfront about my eyesight and mobility as it's unfair to keep it silent and for it to impact on a meet.

M

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By *RnMrsFreakCouple
over a year ago

Hull,England

The only enemy here is kerbs, fucking hate kerbs, if ever I've ended up on my arse it's coz of them fucking kerbs, stairs no problem, the odd railing, at a push ok, but kerbs grrr I swear them things are friggin organised

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi I was a teacher and been struck down with early Parkinson's I would love to meet someone and have some fun been celibate for 9 years and loved every minute I live in a bungalow and own car beautiful grandkids love them so much X X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The only enemy here is kerbs, fucking hate kerbs, if ever I've ended up on my arse it's coz of them fucking kerbs, stairs no problem, the odd railing, at a push ok, but kerbs grrr I swear them things are friggin organised "

Lol yeah kerbs, bollards and bus stops seem to always get me. Broke my nose a couple of times in the past year because of them hahaha but I just laugh it off and get on with it

M

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I love nothing more than prancing about like a right ol' cock-craving dancing queen for my paramour, so some fella in a wheelchair for example, would suit me fine. If he were blind however he wouldn't be able to witness the spectacle of me making such a massive tit of myself which would totally take the wind out of my sails. "

That's why they invented grinding!!!! We visually impaired peeps may not see well but we can certainly move well.

M

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

am partially sighted. A meet i had tonite had steps to hes home so i had to be careful in the dark walking down them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"am partially sighted. A meet i had tonite had steps to hes home so i had to be careful in the dark walking down them."

Them bloody steps in the dark!!! The silent killer lol

M

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a warning on my profile, so people don't expect too much from me. On a good day you wouldn't notice anything. On a bad day you'll hear me creak as I walk.

As long as someone can give me the sex I'm here for I'm happy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have a warning on my profile, so people don't expect too much from me. On a good day you wouldn't notice anything. On a bad day you'll hear me creak as I walk.

As long as someone can give me the sex I'm here for I'm happy."

And I'm sure your never short of offers

M

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

wow well said..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is such a minefield to navigate, you won't believe it!

Historically, disabled persons have be excluded from so much. Mental disabilities have had to even fight to come under the definition.

Now let's bring the discussion home. The swinging world is phisically oriented : no other way of putting it. This makes it difficult for a lot of physically disabled people who otherwise may have some very filthy and imaginative minds. The more severe the disability, the more difficult it is to swing.

It is not easy to allow a total stranger to see you completely naked! It is even harder when you have some body parts completely missing or much much smaller than the norm. It is not an easy topic. I wish I knew the way forward.

I used to chat with a disabled lady friend in Oxford ( not from fab) and we could talk about anything under the sun. She would cook and do everything like any other person but she would not take the next step with me nor any other guy. She would invite me over and all but would never get physical. I couldn't figure it out.

I wish I knew the way forward but this is what I think: it is much much easier if you knew the person or were very close and "fresh" before onset of disability. I could be wrong. "

I would agree to a point where people who have disables it much harder to join in the fun of swinging.

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