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Is it rude to stop if he hasn't cum yet?

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By *lexa OP   Woman
over a year ago

southampton

This one is related to 'can the sex go on too long,' but I think it warrants its own thread here. It'll be interesting to know your thoughts about this. Picture the scene. You've met each other for the first time and things have got to the point where the sex is introduced to the meet. So, you're at it but he doesn't seem to cum for ages. How long is reasonable before you have to say sorry but I've got to get back to the baby-sitter. Do you worry about hurting his feelings if this happens?

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

No.... but it would be rude if he then asked for a picture of your sister to help him get off

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By *lexa OP   Woman
over a year ago

southampton

I haven't got a sister .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes nothing worse than someone banging away and you know its not going to happen, boring unless they continuously change positions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends, if i have a meet i tend to find out how long i have. If i know my meet has only got 3 hours and i dont cum in that time and she has to leave then no feelings hurt whatsoever

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By *lexa OP   Woman
over a year ago

southampton


"Yes nothing worse than someone banging away and you know its not going to happen, boring unless they continuously change positions"

But if you know he's not going to, how do you stop the session without seeming rude about it? Do you think he should be the one to stop?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From the guy perspective... I'd be more than happy to hear some encouragement from the lady to finish what I started, long before the time was up!

Plenty of time then for a cuddle/shower/change of clothing/mopping of floor/whatever

Personally I always try and establish the time boundaries beforehand...whether it's my partner or me that has to be away by a certain time, then you know if there's long enough for round 2 (or 5...)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I give meets a 10 min warning lol.. and yes I have called time.

they are all aware that I only play for a certain amount of time..

but to be fair it rarely happens that I even have to give the warning.

cali

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just try a bit of dirty talk, begging him to cum for me. Usually works

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just try a bit of dirty talk, begging him to cum for me. Usually works "

That's what I meant... just put much more succinctly. Thank you!

Works for me for sure

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By *ILLY aka SirslagWoman
over a year ago

Land of the Prince Bishops

i have the opposite problem trying to make em last long enuf to make the meet an actual meet and not ten mins of frenzied fun and now what to do for the other four hours pmpl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just try a bit of dirty talk, begging him to cum for me. Usually works "

Thats what I normally do.. but I think someguys think they have to hang on to it to prove a point.. but really once Master says okay times up.. thats it.. so they are better off just enjoying it and if they cum in 5 mins I really dont mind lol

cali

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

Ask...they might not always come, often men find it easier to do it themselves, and nothing is sexier than finishing off lying under a man while he wanks over your tits and face

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This one is related to 'can the sex go on too long,' but I think it warrants its own thread here. It'll be interesting to know your thoughts about this. Picture the scene. You've met each other for the first time and things have got to the point where the sex is introduced to the meet. So, you're at it but he doesn't seem to cum for ages. How long is reasonable before you have to say sorry but I've got to get back to the baby-sitter. Do you worry about hurting his feelings if this happens? "

Ive done it a few times, not because they havnt cum but because i have got bored

Im not here for people to just take their pleasure, if im playing with someone and theres no sexual chemistry and their doing nothing for me or like the other thread the guys had his blow job and now he just wants to bang away for hours without any variety i will stop and leave, sometimes you can lead the way and get them to do something different it you make it obvious you'd like to try something else, but other are just stuck in their ways and are just going to bang no matter what lol

Its not a case of wanting to hurt others feeling its just thats not how sex is supposed to be, both are supposed to be enjoying it and if their not then it should stop

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By *ibrosMan
over a year ago

harrow


"I just try a bit of dirty talk, begging him to cum for me. Usually works "

Yep. Works on me.

You could bring a kitchen timer and set it before you start.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i have the opposite problem trying to make em last long enuf to make the meet an actual meet and not ten mins of frenzied fun and now what to do for the other four hours pmpl"

I normally have that.. but only meet for 30mins to 2 hours tops..

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

Not really had this problem as we are not usually on the clock as it were but have had some reluctant to leave... usually we know them anyways and can laughingly sling them out. I always want them to go with a satisfied smile on their faces though (yes, ways and means if necessary!)

Mistress x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope if boredom sets in it would remind me to much of my married years so I'd be outta there lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends how much i like him, after an hour and i am bored i will say, i have to go get hubbys dinner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

at least i got inside the hole(s) lol

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By *r ManxMan
over a year ago

NeverWhere

I get more pleasure out of my partners orgasms me cuming is secondary but an added bonus i hope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get more pleasure out of my partners orgasms me cuming is secondary but an added bonus i hope "

See for me if the guy does not cum, he may as well have not bothered turning up.. Harsh but true for me lol

cali

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get more pleasure out of my partners orgasms me cuming is secondary but an added bonus i hope "

Thats the type of chap i like.

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By *anx NymphWoman
over a year ago

Ramsey


"I get more pleasure out of my partners orgasms me cuming is secondary but an added bonus i hope "

and does he

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never happened to me.

If you know the guy well enough, you'll know exactly what to do to get him off. Everyone has that little action where they can't help but cum.....or so I've found.

However if he has problems cumming & knows about it, I would assume that he would know when you've had enough.

I know I would want to be (& thankfully am) with a guy that can read me & knows when I either want more or have had enough.

Communication, communication, communication.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does anyone remember an episode of Sex and the City when Carrie ended up in bed with a guy who banged her so hard and furious he cricked her neck? Watching her lying there as he leapt up and down under the covers always made me giggle - until it happened to me. She was bridesmaid next day and could hardly walk cos of her neck injury and he was upset when she refused his invitation for a repeat session saying I made love to you last night I really made love to you!

I honestly believe sometimes you just have to stop if its going nowhere banging. Some men think this is what women want. I sort of shifted positions as he was in full flow and gave him a lovely snog and cuddled him in and started chattering knowing he had to leave soon anyway.

Learning how to bring a halt to the proceedings without being callous is another string to our sexual bow when you think about it. I am sure men have experienced trying to cum when they're faced with an inanimate object underneath them sometimes too!

EEEh its a lark!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get more pleasure out of my partners orgasms me cuming is secondary but an added bonus i hope "

I have to agree, it is such a turn on knowing who you are playing with is really enjoying themselves!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some of the gents I play with can take a long time to cum, and they insist on "lady first", and that my pleasure is their pleasure etc., bless them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get more pleasure out of my partners orgasms me cuming is secondary but an added bonus i hope "

thats fair comment, and nice to hear

but some women feel the same so just as you would be disappointed if you left knowing the woman hadnt cum they would feel the same

so its rude not to lol

i must admit if i meet a guy and he does not come, i feel thats down to me, maybe i wasnt turning him on enough, maybe i wasnt really his type etc and i would make sure i never met him again

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By * Dirty CoupleCouple
over a year ago

East London/Essex

the old chestnut i get is " ur starting to hurt me now"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

oh i doubt you fail to make them cum naughtynymphos hehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"oh i doubt you fail to make them cum naughtynymphos hehe "

ive had a few, i blame bloody viagra lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"oh i doubt you fail to make them cum naughtynymphos hehe

ive had a few, i blame bloody viagra lol"

does that stop them cumming then? must admit to being naive on its properties other than keeping a guy erect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"oh i doubt you fail to make them cum naughtynymphos hehe

ive had a few, i blame bloody viagra lol

does that stop them cumming then? must admit to being naive on its properties other than keeping a guy erect. "

if effects men different

i've played with a few guys who have taken it and while they still cum what it does do it even after they have cum they stay hard and good to go straight away or they get hard again very soon after they have cum

While other just dont cum

I remember first time my ex took one we went to a party and hes not very good with condoms, could get a hard on no problem but as soon as he put a condom on it went, we was told by a guy that he had the same problem and viagra made him stay hard even with a condom on so he tried it

Anyway he took this viagra friday evening on way to the party, was shagging all night and didnt come, so when we got home carried on, still didnt cum, went to chams saturday night, shagged most of the night, still didnt cum, again sunday we carried on at home and still nothing

to be honest it was pissing us both off by this point lol

it was early hours monday morning he cum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

surprised you didn't kill him lol

huge cum explosion!

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

No I don't think it's rude....If it was getting uncomfortable (which let's face it, it does after a while) then I wouldn't carry on.

Would try other ways to see if he could cum....

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By *he tactile technicianMan
over a year ago

the good lands, the bad lands, the any where you may want me lands

It's taking the singer sewing machine service a bit far, running the machine constantly as it threads away till the motor gets hot and burns out! Definitely the service contract has to be restricted to what the service engineer considers reasonable!

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By *reyyaMan
over a year ago

North Yorkshire


"This one is related to 'can the sex go on too long,' but I think it warrants its own thread here. It'll be interesting to know your thoughts about this. Picture the scene. You've met each other for the first time and things have got to the point where the sex is introduced to the meet. So, you're at it but he doesn't seem to cum for ages. How long is reasonable before you have to say sorry but I've got to get back to the baby-sitter. Do you worry about hurting his feelings if this happens? "

Whatever happened to premature ejaculation? It does not affect swingers? Is this the cure for premature ejaculation, get into the swinging scene?

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By *riseeTV/TS
over a year ago

MacKay

Strangley my (now ex) partner rarely had guys orgasm, in fact many went floppy after a while and she blamed herself. Took me a lot of convincing that it wasn't her

Even in my experiences where males are involved, they seem to go floppy more often than not (not that this bothers me!)

Sex and the act of, comes in many forms. I like sensual sex culminating in orgasms after a longish period of time.

Men seem to come in two types: those that just wanna blow in the first 5 mins, or those that never seem to. In between is a bit of droopy.

My advice is, no one should have any expectations and enjoy what happens. If you need to have a break or stop, then do so. Nothing worse than feeling 'used and abused' for the sake of pleasing someone else.

If things don't work entirely right the first time, well that's life as an adult!

Anyway, Women's Liberation and Feminism! Time men satisfied us not themselves by using us!

xox

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wish I could last that long. I try my hardest not to cum to quick but get very excited very quickly. I just fancy a cup of tea after lol. Maybe you can get Viagra tea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just normally get told ta fuck off and go ta sleep

By OH and some meets xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes nothing worse than someone banging away and you know its not going to happen, boring unless they continuously change positions

But if you know he's not going to, how do you stop the session without seeming rude about it? Do you think he should be the one to stop? "

Just tell him that its not working, the only time its happened, he actually stopped play as he knew he couldnt

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