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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I find it interesting how most men and women are wired differently when it comes to how they feel immediately following orgasm. As many women have testified on another thread (and I've noticed myself from personal experiences over the years), it seems that a large proportion of women are immediately horny for more as soon as they cum.

This contrasts with me: when I cum it's like a switch goes off in my brain and I'm no longer horny. I start thinking about practical things like the clean up, not things like my next orgasm. For me (and a lot of other men, from what I've read), it takes a 10 or 15 minute break, with some gradual teasing and stimulation to get me back in the mood, hard and ready to go again.

I just find it funny that most women seem programmed to want more immediately, while most men are programmed to switch off, have a break and slowly get back into it

What do you think?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get that feeling but viagra and the right attention always helps me.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

That's why it's much better to have a second guy there as well

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By *entileschiWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

I just want to sleep straight after

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"That's why it's much better to have a second guy there as well "

Brilliant answer!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tbh I’m feeling more than a little inadequate as a woman on here after reading that other thread. I’m not sure if I’m one of the only ones out there who seems to be programmed like a man, or if others the same as me are just too shy to speak up about it!

For me though it’s just how you describe for yourself.

L x (f)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I get that feeling but viagra and the right attention always helps me."

Yeah I've tried the odd blue pill in the past, it certainly speeds the recovery up. Not sure it was worth the headaches though!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Tbh I’m feeling more than a little inadequate as a woman on here after reading that other thread. I’m not sure if I’m one of the only ones out there who seems to be programmed like a man, or if others the same as me are just too shy to speak up about it!

For me though it’s just how you describe for yourself.

L x (f)"

It's nice to hear not all women are rampant sex machines! I guess it's all about finding a partner whose intensity matches your own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I can relate to this and is why it's always good (but pitifully rare) to have a second man there. Actually at the moment I'd settle for one man I find attractive (also pitifully rare).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That's why it's much better to have a second guy there as well "

i love the way you think

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By *rnortholtMan
over a year ago

Waveney Valley


"I just want to sleep straight after"

You've just gine to the top of so many lists!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes I can relate to this and is why it's always good (but pitifully rare) to have a second man there. Actually at the moment I'd settle for one man I find attractive (also pitifully rare). "

I love that you ladies have accepted our shortcomings and devised a workaround Good luck to you I say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did a couples counselling course where I learnt that the evolutionary reason men tend to fall asleep straight after is so that they wake up next to the potential mother of their child and so might hang around. Not terribly relevant today however or in a Fab context

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tbh I’m feeling more than a little inadequate as a woman on here after reading that other thread. I’m not sure if I’m one of the only ones out there who seems to be programmed like a man, or if others the same as me are just too shy to speak up about it!

For me though it’s just how you describe for yourself.

L x (f)

It's nice to hear not all women are rampant sex machines! I guess it's all about finding a partner whose intensity matches your own."

Yes! I think it can be easy here to slip into the trap of thinking of things as right/wrong or better/worse when really it’s just a matter of compatibility

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By *ornylicious67Woman
over a year ago

Ryton

I love to sleep after an orgasm but I'm also open to resting for 15 mins or so then starting again!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I did a couples counselling course where I learnt that the evolutionary reason men tend to fall asleep straight after is so that they wake up next to the potential mother of their child and so might hang around. Not terribly relevant today however or in a Fab context "

I thought the real reason was so that the lady can pull out her wand and finish the job properly after the man has cum in 2 minutes?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm different with different people. I kind of pick up on their moods, sometimes it's a long flowing sexy time. Some times some giggles and talking inbetween, sonetimes just endless fucking each other, ...sometimes I climb off and go to sleep.

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By *ilver_StarMan
over a year ago

Warwickshire

Agree that it's like a switch - always try and make sure my partner cums first at the very least.. and if she is still horny i'm happy to oblige orally while I recover!

I also have a bi-curious side, and when I'm horny the thought of sucking and wanking cocks makes me v hard!... but once I've cum I often in two minds about the whole bi thing!

Good thread though fella!

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

hahaha being bi I can tell the difference too.

Most fabstraight men are useless, cum in 10min and out the door in 15min.

Gay/bi men better sex, more intimate, lasts longer and usually few hours play, cum and ready to go in a few mins.

Women more intimate, touchy feely, lasts longer, cum and ready to go again.

Motto; _ungblacktop stop meeting fabstraight men!! lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That's why it's much better to have a second guy there as well "

Absolutely! This is one of the many reasons I enjoy three/moresomes, it's quite an ask for one man alone to satisfy a woman with a very healthy appetite!

V x

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I like to chill immediately after, spooning, being held, his breath on my neck but if I feel his cock digging on my back in not going to say no!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That's why it's much better to have a second guy there as well "

Any excuse for an MMF!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I like to chill immediately after, spooning, being held, his breath on my neck but if I feel his cock digging on my back in not going to say no!!! "

Sounds perfect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get that feeling but viagra and the right attention always helps me.

Yeah I've tried the odd blue pill in the past, it certainly speeds the recovery up. Not sure it was worth the headaches though!"

I find a couple of ibuprofen about 20 minutes after taking them sorts that out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

9 times out of ten I'll take a sleep over another fuck, we tend to go all out and give 100% first time round, its rarely a short session and we're both spent - so a wee, a cuddle and something to fall asleep to on the tv is my after sex favourite

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