FabSwingers.com forum: Double Standards

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Always amuses me when single guys get a GF and become a cpl. Get a cpls profile but ‘not looking to meet single guys’

OK for them to shag other people’s partners or wives .... but ohhh no you can’t fuck my GF ....

Just saying.... Rant over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't about 95% of the population do this?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bastards.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Bastards.

Total Cads & bounders ??

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Don't about 95% of the population do this?!"

Well yes... just a rant point being they are now swinging as a cpl but not wanting to meet singles

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I think that when it comes to sex it's ok to be like that. Quite a few women will happily have sex with other men but don't want their partner to have sex with other women. If everyone involved bis happy I can't see a problem.

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

No not really, they are just being like most of the people on here and not wanting to be inundated with messages and unwanted attention.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How is it double standards?

Have you considered that it isn't the guy that's saying 'you can't fuck my gf' and that is the gf deciding she doesn't want to be ducked by another guy?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How is it double standards?

Have you considered that it isn't the guy that's saying 'you can't fuck my gf' and that is the gf deciding she doesn't want to be ducked by another guy? "

Absolutely it could be. However, when that female was on here as a single female too I doubt it...

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By *ngandnickCouple
over a year ago

Haverhill

We are a couple, I don't have sex with other men, not because I'm 'not allowed' but because I don't want to--simples!

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

I like bananas but I don't like apples. They're both fruit. Am I wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was a single before meeting someone to swing with who is now my wife. We don't meet single guys because my wife feels she doesn't need other me, but she will play with men from a couple. How is not wanting to meet single guys as a couple double standards?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ya buggers, you've resurrected my finest typo.

It's a new kink, being ducked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like bananas but I don't like apples. They're both fruit. Am I wrong

It may even make you a cad or a bounder!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was a single before meeting someone to swing with who is now my wife. We don't meet single guys because my wife feels she doesn't need other me, but she will play with men from a couple. How is not wanting to meet single guys as a couple double standards?"

This is not my issue but I have seen other couples complain on here that single men are happy to play with the wife of a couple but when the single man has a wife, they seem to marry women who don't meet single men. So the double standard is it is ok as a single man to have sex with someone's wife but when that single men has a wife no single man is able to have sex with her.

Please don't shoot the messenger I am not saying you are wrong in your situation but merely setting out a point of view.

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By *itnkatCouple
over a year ago

in lincs between lincoln grantham boston

We found that its like what's mine I keep what's yours we share! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Those bastards with their preferences!

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Jack and I met as singles here

We don't meet single men because thats something i'm not currently interested in,If I was then Jack would be fine with it.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kind of wondering why what others do on here or who with would make anyone want to rant...

It's always simple if you don't like it or don't agree with it just move on to where you feel comfortable...

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

When guys and girls are single the dynamic is that they are single. So they only have to agree with themselves.

When they are a couple they need to react agreement between them. Seems strange that you'd expect them to have some agreement that requires the woman to fuck other single men.

Even if she used to fuck single men as a single woman, it does not mean as a couple she will still want to do that.

For example my wife is bisexual and over the many years we've been together she has been off to have sex with other single bisexual women less than a handful of times. If she had been single she may have done that far more often.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

Reach not react

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole

We don't meet couples who won't 4 way play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't think it's doubled standards it's perhaps just how people play, we are here for the right men for mmf and to fufil some fantasies of ours etc, my husband has no interest in being with other women... I can't say I would like seeing no him with a women but if it's something he would want to try I may consider it think as long as your happy with how your playing your rules etc then nothing else should matter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Always amuses me when single guys get a GF and become a cpl. Get a cpls profile but ‘not looking to meet single guys’

OK for them to shag other people’s partners or wives .... but ohhh no you can’t fuck my GF ....

Just saying.... Rant over "

we met swinging while the

monkey was a single guy and now we don't meet single men.

Entirely my choice because I have no interest in being fucked by random men...no hypocrisy...it just never occured to you that the woman in a couple could exercise her own choice?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Always amuses me when single guys get a GF and become a cpl. Get a cpls profile but ‘not looking to meet single guys’

OK for them to shag other people’s partners or wives .... but ohhh no you can’t fuck my GF ....

Just saying.... Rant over

we met swinging while the

monkey was a single guy and now we don't meet single men.

Entirely my choice because I have no interest in being fucked by random men...no hypocrisy...it just never occured to you that the woman in a couple could exercise her own choice?"

Exactly this. It's more my wife's choice than mine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Must admit it is frustrating at times but it is what it is so just go with the flow

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester

Sharing is caring - we play as equals that's our preference - just saying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How is it double standards?

Have you considered that it isn't the guy that's saying 'you can't fuck my gf' and that is the gf deciding she doesn't want to be ducked by another guy?

Absolutely it could be. However, when that female was on here as a single female too I doubt it...

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why.. being with someone does change things. I certainly would not behave how I did as a single now I'm part of a couple.

And I know plenty of women that met their partners on here and are now only wanting to swap with other couples or just add women to the mix.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Always amuses me when single guys get a GF and become a cpl. Get a cpls profile but ‘not looking to meet single guys’

OK for them to shag other people’s partners or wives .... but ohhh no you can’t fuck my GF ....

Just saying.... Rant over "

Like this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Always amuses me when single guys get a GF and become a cpl. Get a cpls profile but ‘not looking to meet single guys’

OK for them to shag other people’s partners or wives .... but ohhh no you can’t fuck my GF ....

Just saying.... Rant over

we met swinging while the

monkey was a single guy and now we don't meet single men.

Entirely my choice because I have no interest in being fucked by random men...no hypocrisy...it just never occured to you that the woman in a couple could exercise her own choice?

Exactly this. It's more my wife's choice than mine. "

I am not having a go but asking; (apart from having a female partner), what is the difference between a random male belonging to couple and random single male?

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

"Always amuses me when single guys get a GF and become a cpl. Get a cpls profile but ‘not looking to meet single guys’

OK for them to shag other people’s partners or wives .... but ohhh no you can’t fuck my GF ....

Just saying.... Rant over

we met swinging while the

monkey was a single guy and now we don't meet single men.

Entirely my choice because I have no interest in being fucked by random men...no hypocrisy...it just never occured to you that the woman in a couple could exercise her own choice?

Exactly this. It's more my wife's choice than mine.

I am not having a go but asking; (apart from having a female partner), what is the difference between a random male belonging to couple and random single male?"

Eh?

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

Many couples say they're not looking for single men because they don't want to be inundated with messages. It's easy to find willing single guys on Fab or in clubs without advertising, so we don't see hypocrisy, just common sense.

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London

I am not having a go but asking; (apart from having a female partner), what is the difference between a random male belonging to couple and random single male?"

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

95% of the guys on here that have partners at home will never let another man shag their gf but happy to shag other peoples. It's just how it works on here mate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He he

OP you're just jealous that you're not getting enough shags

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

"Don't about 95% of the population do this?!

Well yes... just a rant point being they are now swinging as a cpl but not wanting to meet singles "

Why's it double standard's?. Suppose they've had a bad experience with single guys or maybe the female doesn't want single guys as my girl does. You didn't think this one through did you mate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Always amuses me when single guys get a GF and become a cpl. Get a cpls profile but ‘not looking to meet single guys’

OK for them to shag other people’s partners or wives .... but ohhh no you can’t fuck my GF ....

Just saying.... Rant over

we met swinging while the

monkey was a single guy and now we don't meet single men.

Entirely my choice because I have no interest in being fucked by random men...no hypocrisy...it just never occured to you that the woman in a couple could exercise her own choice?

Exactly this. It's more my wife's choice than mine.

I am not having a go but asking; (apart from having a female partner), what is the difference between a random male belonging to couple and random single male?"

because the dynamic is utterly different and this is what floats my boat...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"He he

OP you're just jealous that you're not getting enough shags

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aaagggh my head hurts we all on here for one reason "sex" we all love it let's just learn to get on with each other ok so certain cpls / ppl don't want to meet single guys others don't want to meet guys who are attached at the end of the day we are all on here for sex for one reason or another so why dont we all get along ok were not all for each other but please stop harping on about it, if you don't like it then fine but don't keep going on about were all different and have different needs but for crying out. Loud give it a rest and just get along with each other, I'm not saying you have to meet but respect each others views

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By *pl4moreCouple
over a year ago

oldham

"Always amuses me when single guys get a GF and become a cpl. Get a cpls profile but ‘not looking to meet single guys’

OK for them to shag other people’s partners or wives .... but ohhh no you can’t fuck my GF ....

Just saying.... Rant over "

I suppose every couple have different reasons. We have got that on our profile, no men at all. I am bi fem, but my husband is straight. I use to swing before I met him, but not since we got married. He knows I like and miss ladies touch, thats why we joined this site and started attending swingers club.I like to play with other fems, and I dont mind my husband playing with fems either. I also would enjoy just watching him getting intimate with another fem. My husband however is straight, never had any swinging experience at all. At this point in time he doesn't feel comfortable with other man touching me, also that could change in the future.We respect each other wishes, and taking it one step at the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now see that is OK because your open about it and your hubby is new to swinging I also respect you/his decision so in this case I wouldn't ask or push but I wouldn't mind chatting, but like you say we all have our reasons it's the double standards I don't agree with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How dare they!

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead

I would love to see my Mrs have sex with another guy or couple but she is not interested sadly even though I keep asking her to. But sadly I have to swing alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Now see that is OK because your open about it and your hubby is new to swinging I also respect you/his decision so in this case I wouldn't ask or push but I wouldn't mind chatting, but like you say we all have our reasons it's the double standards I don't agree with "

but in other cases, you'd push? nice...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't think it's doubled standards it's perhaps just how people play, we are here for the right men for mmf and to fufil some fantasies of ours etc, my husband has no interest in being with other women... I can't say I would like seeing no him with a women but if it's something he would want to try I may consider it think as long as your happy with how your playing your rules etc then nothing else should matter. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don’t meet single males purely because Nickey although happy to play with males is bisexual so wants to meet couples so she can play with other woman. It’s not double standards it’s about what you are looking for. We also wouldn’t meet couple where both are straight as Nickey wouldn’t get what she is looking for.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

Double standards?

I would not force any partner to fuck anyone. If she does not want a man that's her choice. Whether I would play with other women when I was single has absolutely no bearing on her choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I wouldn't push I accept what has been said from individual cpls but you have to admit there is a lot of double standards on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it is a preference really if they do not wish to see single men then that is up to them, each do his thing,

Maybe it is a fantasy to have a threesome with a girl only so they pair up and they do it

Think of it this way their passion about it and sexual preference got them to find each Other and couple up

And I don't see nothing wrong with that I mean no one stopping you from doing the same really!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Always amuses me when single guys get a GF and become a cpl. Get a cpls profile but ‘not looking to meet single guys’

OK for them to shag other people’s partners or wives .... but ohhh no you can’t fuck my GF ....

Just saying.... Rant over "

Love this..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure it would take time to build that sort of trust in a relationship. Only the couple in question would know if they were ready for that.

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