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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've had bipolar now for over 20 years and I have my ups and downs but lately I've felt really ill, no sex drive, can't sleep and just don't want to get up or dressed anymore.

My company was recently took over and my new boss is a complete bitch and making my life a hell at the moment. She doesn't know I'm BP as it's never been an issue at work before but I feel so low I'm frightened of going off sick at work and getting the sack.

At a loss what to do right now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had bipolar now for over 20 years and I have my ups and downs but lately I've felt really ill, no sex drive, can't sleep and just don't want to get up or dressed anymore.

At a loss what to do right now. "

Only things i can suggest is speak to her, speak to someone close to you and here is big hugs from me and even though im a complete stranger please feel free to contact me for a chat ANYTIME X

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you, means a lot xxxx

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

They can't sack you for being off sick unless you're in a trial. Did you go through that TUPE malarkey?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"They can't sack you for being off sick unless you're in a trial. Did you go through that TUPE malarkey?"

TUPE?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you got a HR department you can talk too. You can't be sacked for being ill. Xx

See you doc too if you feel you're getting low, and find someone you trust who you can talk too xx

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"They can't sack you for being off sick unless you're in a trial. Did you go through that TUPE malarkey?

TUPE?"

Yeah, when my place got taken over it was like an agreement kind of thing that meant time you'd worked for the previous company etc still counted on the new one. You kept holidays earned and all that. So even though I've technically only worked for my new company 2 yrs, it's classed as 8 coz it counts the 6 I worked for the old one.

It's a transition thing.

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

Does your company have a HR department?

If they do speak to them and explain about your BP and how your new boss is making things worse for you.

If there is no HR speak to your new boss's senior.

Your BP is considered to be a disability and your employer is required to support you and make any reasonable adjustments you need. They can't help you if they don't know about it.

If you need to take time off work then you must. Your health and wellbeing is far more important that going to work.

Hugs xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"They can't sack you for being off sick unless you're in a trial. Did you go through that TUPE malarkey?

TUPE?

It's a transition thing."

Sadly not in my case.

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By *appy squirrelWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

2 things really- your health and your job. if you have been dealing with your condition I can imagine that you know what helps you during your low mood. but its always worth being reminded of previous coping strategies- so use them! or see if mass need to be adjusted or the like.

you shouldn't be sacked because of an illness- especially when you say that its never been an issue at work so I assume you haven't been off sick with it (at least recently). so take some time off to focus on your health. if you feel that you are treated unfairly- HR, union or the like are usually pretty good. companies are supposed to make reasonably adjustments for health conditions- might be that you discuss with work that you start a bit later in the morning if they are especially difficult?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably better to go and speak to your Dr. rather than seeking advice here.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Agree, doctor, the system is what it is, as has been said, TUPE is on your side.

You will soon be at ease with this and come out of in a great place.

Mega hugs lady

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you all!

Made an appointment for Thursday my day off xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had this with where I work. Was made to re-apply for my job 4 times in as many years! Was put under lots of stress, awful boss and was frequently reminded how lucky I was to have a job. Ended up being threatened with non compliance as my job was becoming impossible. I took over the work of 3 other people who were laid off but had less time to hit more targets. I ended up walking out and didn't go back for 8 weeks. Got signed off on the sick. Focussed on my life and spent time with family as I became a total irritable stranger. Returned to work and they backed off. In a way i wishbi hadn't walked out buy i couldn't take any more. They now think i'm a ticking time bomb and may walk at any time. I crossed the line which kind of worked in my favour. I've always worked all my life but this job gave me serious depression. I'm looking for a new job now. I did find solace at the gym and running. Do you have any hobbies OP? Hope you get well soon!

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By *appy squirrelWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

let us know how you get on!!

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By *adyGardenWoman
over a year ago

LONDON (se)

I've bipolar too and it can be a bitch to live with. You can't be sacked for being ill so don't worry about that. You do need to talk to your employees though as support in the workplace can be offered and certain allowance made. Increase in medication may help you through this rough patch.

Hope things get better for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You may not get sacked but I'd be pissed off as an employer if you didn't tell me. They pay you and want you to work or provide a service. Talk to them....its in both your interests x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You may not get sacked but I'd be pissed off as an employer if you didn't tell me. They pay you and want you to work or provide a service. Talk to them....its in both your interests x"

But would you offer support or think oh no this ones going to be off sick a lot xx

Not having a go just trying to see if from the bosses point ?? of view.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well I've sent the loveliest email to my new boss and copied HR in it. They want to meet for a chat on Thursday on how to help me xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did you declare your bipolar on your application for the job?? If so they don't have a chance to sack you. If not I'm not to sure about what would happen. As most have said get to docs and make sure you get better

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I wasn't asked when I applied for this job over 16 months go. But my previous boss knew and was well aware of my bipolar.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"Well I've sent the loveliest email to my new boss and copied HR in it. They want to meet for a chat on Thursday on how to help me xx"

This has put a smile on my face. Fingers crossed for you xx

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

"Well I've sent the loveliest email to my new boss and copied HR in it. They want to meet for a chat on Thursday on how to help me xx"

Good luck lovely

I don't have bp ,but anxiety and depression.

Had some good and not so good experiences.

Hope you get a solution as the anxiety doesnt help.

Miss xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You may not get sacked but I'd be pissed off as an employer if you didn't tell me. They pay you and want you to work or provide a service. Talk to them....its in both your interests x

But would you offer support or think oh no this ones going to be off sick a lot xx

Not having a go just trying to see if from the bosses point ?? of view. "

I would be less likely to help you if you deliberately kept things from me x

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By *oubyLoverWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

"Well I've sent the loveliest email to my new boss and copied HR in it. They want to meet for a chat on Thursday on how to help me xx"

Good luck with it. Does your mediation need reviewing? Sound like you might need more of what you're already on or a change?

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By *oubyLoverWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

"Well I've sent the loveliest email to my new boss and copied HR in it. They want to meet for a chat on Thursday on how to help me xx

Good luck with it. Does your mediation need reviewing? Sound like you might need more of what you're already on or a change? "

Medication even

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By *oubyLoverWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

"You may not get sacked but I'd be pissed off as an employer if you didn't tell me. They pay you and want you to work or provide a service. Talk to them....its in both your interests x

But would you offer support or think oh no this ones going to be off sick a lot xx

Not having a go just trying to see if from the bosses point ?? of view.

I would be less likely to help you if you deliberately kept things from me x"

I agree but there's still a lot of stigma around mental health. It obviously depends on each individual case but sometimes people staying quiet can be the right thing. Sounds like the OP has made the right choice though and hopefully her manager will be better with her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I myself also suffer with Bipolar and have been in a position where the company I worked for did not believe that I was being signed off due to mental health condition. Got so bad I walked out and now work for myself so I do not have to deal with it, although that can have many downsides.

I understand your worry about being sacked but your health comes first. If you get to a point where you are so low, you will be unable to work anyway. If they threaten you with dismissal, approach ACAS and see what they can suggest for you.

I hope it all works out for you in the end hunni xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wasn't asked when I applied for this job over 16 months go. But my previous boss knew and was well aware of my bipolar. "

If your original boss knew then I should have thought that it would be mentioned in your company record? I could be wrong but I am not sure if they would include your medical records when they passed your file to the new employer (if they passed files at all).

I hope all goes well for you and that you start to feel more like yourself soon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm currently off on the sick for mental health issues. I thought the same about my boss but when I eventually sat down she was nothing but supportive. Current been off three weeks and when I go back I'm in a different department to help with my recovery. Sometimes it's scarier to sit there than it actually is to bite the bullet. I was horribly anxious for days before and during. But once it'd had finished it was like a release. Like a weight had been lifted. It's becoming less taboo and more people understand now. Not all but some. Sending a lot of love sweet. Hope you feel better soon cxx

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