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Do you plan days or weeks ahead or 'at the moment' ??

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By *risee OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

MacKay

Recently there has been some forum and chatroom discussion about the spontaneous or sometimes lack thereof, in meeting.

Couples complain that single guys come online and 'assume' that because a couple is online they want to meet right away.

Of course we all know guys want to meet instantly to satisfy their primal and bio-chemical urges!

I've been watching the Meet's and Meet Today list for some time now and looking for patterns and some interesting ones have emerged.

There are some couples who post ads every day nearly for weeks on end, but have few if any verifications. Heaps of guys post ads all the time. Single girls are rare.

There is also a 'great number' of ads from the current day, can number for example in London across all genders, from 78 to as low as 40, but looking forward 7 to 10 days it drops to 3, 5 sometimes 8.

Watching on a daily basis, ads from couples and singles can appear a day or 2 before, to literally 3 PM on a day for a meet that night.

A lot of people complain that finding meets is hard.

Do you think it's because on one hand people want a spontaneous experience, yet on the other hand wish to plan ahead?

If you are seeking an 'instant' meet, why does it take 3 or 4 hours of email exchange to arrange? (not always, I've had some arranged in under an hour, but there is always a 'thinking delay' somewhere in there.)

What is it that causes you to hesitate and go slow once you start to get replies or express interest?

Do verifications help you make speedier decisions?

If you are a couple is it all the more difficult to decide to meet a single or couple so instantly because of fears of 'not clicking' or one of you is more likely to engage whilst the other is hesitant?

Single guys especially, as a couple and now as a single, the let downs are staggering, but also couples, what brings you to decide not to go forward with a meeting in planning at the last minute and either cancel or as it often the case, just stop communicating in that literal 11th hour?

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I genuinely believe there is no correct formula for this game... well except the one that works for me.

some plan, some don't, some go with the flow, some are planned like a military operation...

the only golden rule for me is never take it too seriously.. it is sex with strangers afterall, not a life altering decision

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes we plan weeks ahead.. sometimes we just decide to see who is close and available and have them over...

it depends on our mood...

Cali

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In our case we are months ahead as those who have met us will know.

This however can be a very bad thing as it tends to put couples off.

This is our loss..however we have been lucky with our meets and most want to meet us again, as we do them.

We find ourselfs returning from a meet and us or the other couple then arrange another date. Before you know were you are you are weeks/months ahead.

As we have mentioned is does put some couples who might want to meet us for the first time off.

But what can we do, we are lucky that couples want to meet again, so if we are honoured enough to be asked to meet again of course we arrange.

we are lucky, but it can be as mentioned our loss when it comes to new meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

depends on my mood or how i feel

if i plan a meet it usually goes pearshaped

so i like something spur of the mo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I play mainly at weekends, and have been known to play with someone within hours of communicating with them.

It depends on what I am doing and my mood, and the person in question etc...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i hv regs i meet weekly others tend to be spur of the moment

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

i like to plan ahead and enjoy the excited feeling as i rarely leave the house apart from work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Blimey OP you have too much time on your hands if you're producing Gantt charts showing members available to meet!

If you meet just to satisfy an itch not much planning is needed I guess. The way I play it would be foolish to do so, so I chose to get to know people first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We really need to work on our babysitting network..... We need months!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We like to mix it up! A bit of spontaneous meets. Others need sitter planning.

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By *r ManxMan
over a year ago

NeverWhere

My Female friend with benefits and I are planing a trip to the UK this month.

Ww already have one meet planned and a trip to a Club.

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

I have to plan weeks in advance, everytime I attempt a last minute meet everyone turns out to be busy.

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By *ilmiss75Woman
over a year ago

Thornton

I've always found that 'Meet today' always attracts the wrong people for me so I tend not to use it. I once put myself on meet today.. at around 3pm - 9pm. Out of 9 replies, not one person had read my profile.

Other than that, being a single working parent means I have to plan ahead.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"also couples, what brings you to decide not to go forward with a meeting in planning at the last minute and either cancel or as it often the case, just stop communicating in that literal 11th hour?"

Yeah, it's annoying when that happens. I had a couple accuse me that 'the sound of my voice made it seem if I was sure the lady would put out'. I kid you not. wtf! You're arranging to fuck a stranger, not put your kids into a Crèche under my care!

See, there are two types of timewasters.

Type 1 simply is a no-show who just goes 'dark' and doesn't bother to let you know the plan is off.

Type 2 goes on and on and on and on. For weeks. They're an even bigger waste of time. Basically they're too nervous to relax but won't admit it. It becomes all about them and their 'concerns'.

Swinging is about relaxed sex and adult fun. It is not about an elaborate freaking courting ritual or nervous nellies.

I mean, I'm not perfect, once or twice I haven't been able to make it to a meet. But I always told the person well in advance by a day or two and apologized. Some however, make a pastime of it, namely Type 1 and 2.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Like some people above, bit of both. I agree that sometimes you can plan too far in advance and one or the other of you goes off the boil, but when I am travelling for work I like to know I have a plan or two waiting for me.

On the other hand, some of the best meets I have had have been very last minute. It's all a matter of how you feel at the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's obvious there's no true answer...

but we find the one constant is the attitude of some people, no finger pointing or mud slinging, but it has so far been from single guys for us... we start out chatting, the conversation goes well, the attitude changes & they get pushy...we then stop & there's no meet.

The attitude of some single guys on here is... i wanna fuck,not chat, meet me so i can cum then ''fuck off''..... speaking as a couple, that doesn't make us want to meet.

No we aren't dropping the kids off at a creche & need to know ur not an axe murderer, but neither are we looking for an anonymous cock.... we want to know a little about who we meet, it's about the person too, not just dick.

As we make that clear, every meet we've arranged we've turned up & so has the guy....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its difficult for us to plan weeks ahead because of the OH's business, so it does tend to be fairly short notice for us. Thats why we tend to use clubs, they are always there and we can access them as and when we want

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

Depends how we feel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mind your own beeswax!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

social meet = plan

sexual meet = there & then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do both ways ... plan months ahead and do meet todays. Meet today usually happens because I end up child free when I didn't know I was going to be child free. Meet todays tend to be one offs, months ahead ones tend to be people I stay in touch with afterwards and become very good friends with, I think that's coz I knew them pretty well before I got there and knew already there was a "relationship" with the guy/girl/couple as opposed to just a shag Both scenarios are good and both have their place in my little world

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I don't plan more than 2 weeks in advance. I find that beyond that, the other person/people have a wank and lose interest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have never used the meets and greets section either by posting a meet or contacting one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if we want to meet we try and give a few days notice, we post in the planned meet section then on the day put up the available today box. but still find it hard to arrange a meet tho.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go with the flow if time is free then spontaneity is possible. It all depends on the person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A mix of the two but have found spontaneous meets to be more exciting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have to plan wel lahead most times due to my husbands work schedule, we never mess people about though. however sometimes my hubby has a cancelation on one of his shows then we like to try and meet someone quickly as we dont get many nights to play and like to make the most of the ones we do get...we have tried the "Meet now" thingy, but never has worked for us. we just message around our friends list to see if anyone would like to get to know us and meet us. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bit of both, with those I haven't met before, planned social meet well in advance before anything else, and usually need a sitter arranged if it goes beyond the social meet.

But, I have regular meets I know well and can often meet at short notice during the day when not at work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*stands in the corner and stalks laine*

shhhhhhhhh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I generally try and plan a little in advance... The people i have met so far need to sort out childcare and the like or work...

Doesnt always work but the one shorter notice meet failed miserably..

I can honestlt say ive been to every meet ive arranged... Just the other person hasnt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"*stands in the corner and stalks laine*

shhhhhhhhh "

dafty! here, have a bacon butty and a cup of coffee. xxx

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

We always have to plan weeks in advance due to kids and work. It is very restrictive for us on occasion and does put some people off but the way we look at it if they are the type of people we would like to meet then they would understand that ever so occasionally (Read all the ficking time) life does get in the way...

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By *orkieMan
over a year ago

Who knows

Have done the spontaneous meets and also the couple of weeks in front meets. Sometimes if I know for certain I will be in a location in the future I will look or place an add, not always with success but hey ho, however some of the best meets have been ones that are planned and built up over a couple of weeks. If the buildup is good then the meet is usually dynamite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I plan a few weeks ahead but for spur of the moment I go to chams

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Usually plan meets 3/4 weeks ahead due to work shifts and needing a babysitter.

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