FabSwingers.com forum: Hotels

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Given that(hopefully most) ladies like to look great for meets and therefore lots of investment in to this. ie underwear, outfits, nails, tanning,hair toys etc and men just sort of show up, Do you think its still appropriate to go dutch on hotel room?

Personally, i wouldnt pay half unless its a regular meet as i invest alot of time, effort and money in to the above.

Your thoughts please??

Laila x

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

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I've met some men who also seem to invest in underwear, outfits, nails, tanning, hair, toys etc. I don't think its specific to women.

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By *priteyMan
over a year ago

Hitchin

Yes I agree ,I dont expect the lady to pay anything towards hotel costs ,turning up is more than sufficient lol

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By *issFuckingBitchWoman
over a year ago

bournemouth

Omg! retro stereotypes! Is there a kinky ending when you play it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't see why women shouldn't share the expenses of a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's Travelodge no probs, but if you specify The Grovesnor then it's 50/50

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By *lexaWoman
over a year ago

southampton

I've always contributed my half to the hotel bill even though it's been the guys suggestion that we meet there as they can't accommodate - mmmm, may have to re-think that one!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I believe in sharing the cost of a meet. If one pays for the meal, the other pays for the hotel room etc...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

unless the gentleman is staying there anyway for work, I will always pay my share.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've met some men who also seem to invest in underwear, outfits, nails, tanning, hair, toys etc. I don't think its specific to women."

Share the costs always, mem I meet make an effort too with their appearance

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By *weet threesome wifeCouple
over a year ago

somewhere out there

well we believe that as all present are there for there own pleasure then the cost should def be split, lets face it i wont shag a guy i dont want to ergo equal enjoyment equal payment, but then we dont do hotels guess thats a bit like carlsberg

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" underwear, outfits, nails, tanning,hair toys etc and men just sort of show up"

There are a lot of women on here who make little or no effort, also there are guys will buy new clothes, get their hair done and get waxed all over. Should the unwashed pay for the room no matter which sex it is?

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"Given that(hopefully most) ladies like to look great for meets and therefore lots of investment in to this. ie underwear, outfits, nails, tanning,hair toys etc and men just sort of show up, Do you think its still appropriate to go dutch on hotel room?

Personally, i wouldnt pay half unless its a regular meet as i invest alot of time, effort and money in to the above.

Your thoughts please??

Laila x"

Surely doing all those things are to make you feel good too?

I think 50/50 if I was single and looking for singles.

As a couple we pay when we stay in hotels so we can have the room after the fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have to be honest i always pay half on a meet and that includes going to clubs with guy, which to be honest costs me more than going in alone, i have a few times paid the whole hotel bill as i dont drive so any guy who meets me has to travel and i think it only fair that if they travel a long way to meet i should provide the room, however if they are local i would expect them to pay half

This does of course limit the amount of meets i can do as i dont accommodate so every time i meet it means taxis to and from clubs, entry fees, hotel fees etc which add up and some dont understand that if you have already had a couple of meets that week i sometimes simply cant afford any more

As for the nail, hair cost argument, lets be honest we'd go and have that done anyway so you cant really use that as a point to not pay your way, and i refuse to believe anyone buys a new outfit every single time they meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only person I met in a hotel was my other half before he was my other half. I accommodated, if, when it was his turn to and his daughter was home he'd book a hotel close to me.

He provided dinner and the room, never crossed my mind to offer a penny towards it why should I? My house is down the road with stocked food cupboards.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

If we had booked a hotel to meet someone we'd expect to share the cost. If we where already there then fair enough we would not expect more than the meeting.

The reason giving of getting dressed unless there has been some special request for say a fish mongers outfit surely what you wear is down to your own choice. You could go in jeans and t shirt.

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By *umpkinMan
over a year ago

near the sounds of the wimborne quarter jack!

"I believe in sharing the cost of a meet. If one pays for the meal, the other pays for the hotel room etc...

Well if I meet you and you`re using one of your "bargain" rooms, don`t expect more than a bag of chips and a Coke "al fresco" from me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If we had booked a hotel to meet someone we'd expect to share the cost. If we where already there then fair enough we would not expect more than the meeting.

yeah i must admit if i meet a guy in a hotel near me who has mailed me saying he works in my area once a month or whatever and stays in a local hotel while he's here i do not put towards the room, simply because if hes staying due to work he will claim back the room cost so will cost him nothing so i dont see why i should give him half towards a room his complany is paying for

Also i had a mail off a guy once who said he had booked a room and the women hadnt turned up so was looking for someone else to meet, i hadnt got my daugher that night and it was very close so i agreed to meet him for a drink and see if we got on, had a great night and was glad i went, but i didnt put towards the room as he had booked it anyway and i was just a stand in

When i stated above i always pay at least half towards a hotel room that only covers guys ive been talking to and we've agred to meet in a hotel together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I believe in sharing the cost of a meet. If one pays for the meal, the other pays for the hotel room etc...

thats true, paying your way does not always mean splitting everything 50/50, i have on occasion met guys to go to chams with and booked a room to stay over in after and one will pay to get in the club and other will pay for the room, or on occasion when ive gone into clubs with guys who have refused to take half the entry fee off me i have grabbed the key at the end of the night and paid the bar bill

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By *ocksoff3Couple
over a year ago

Liverpool

As it is our preference to use hotels then we pay for our room. If he has a meal/drink with us then we expect to share the cost of that and if he takes a room as well then that's down to him

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By *LBishCouple
over a year ago

near bury st edmunds

My point sometimes is, if we meet local to us in a Hotel , and we have to be home for the kids, so only spending a few hours there etc etc. The for us i feel it would be a waste of money as we are not staying in the room over night. Ok it may seen rather tight, but it just seems like its a waste of money. If however the guy was going to be staying there over night, then sorry would expect him to pay for the room as he is the one getting most use out of it. I know im probably gonna get grief for this, but its just how i feel.

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By *ilmiss75Woman
over a year ago

Thornton

I'm willing to pay half on hotels because I cannot accomodate over night plus I cannot travel to far. Si if somebody is willing to travel to meet me then I have no problem with paying towards the room.

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By *he tactile technicianMan
over a year ago

the good lands, the bad lands, the any where you may want me lands

personally I don't believe there should be any expectation for you to pay anything toward the cost of the room. I think that sharing costs perhaps for dinner and drinks is a nice touch, but again, I have no expectations when I meet with a woman or a couple in a hotel room, that I have suggested or vooked because I can't accommodate. I will most probably be using that room for the night anyhow, so unless I'm going to flip on the taxi meter when someone arrives and calculate their share by the second, then I'm not going to bother! Hahahahaha! I guess the gentleman in me stands out a mile, and some girls just prefer the bad boys! Fair enough, be prepared to pay your share if that is your preference!

And for all those generous ladies out there, on behalf of the guys that you have gone halfs with, thank you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if i agree a meet with someone i will pay 50/50 for a hotel then there is no element of i owe that person anything

i know i buy underwear etc but 99.9% im always buying stuff so no hardship for me to go out and buy something special.

even if i meet with a view of playing, i will buy a drink for th person no biggie x

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

Personally, i wouldnt pay half unless its a regular meet as i invest alot of time, effort and money in to the above.

Your thoughts please??

Laila x"

my thoughts...

well since you are getting the same about of prospective enjoyment from using the room... then you should also pay your share...

if i was staying in the room and someone was coming up then no, however if it has been booked for that specific purpose... then i don't see why people shouldn't pay their share...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if i was staying there anyway for business then no i wouldn't expect anyone to pay

but if meeting to play then yes x

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over a year ago

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over a year ago

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

Hm... well if he is smelly, tatty and hairy its only fair he pay the full amount....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

i am very happy to pay my way with good freinds i have known for a few years and one or two freinds that i see a lot of. as that is only right and proper and its all swings and round-a-bouts here.

However, my profile specifically says that the i preffer people that can accom, therefore if they really want to meet me and they cant accom then they should have thought about that before hand surely???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You said prefer so surely it's just as much about you thinking if you want to meet them or not if they can't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont think having to pay for your own upkeep and appearance should reflect on a meet and its cost.

How you percieve yourself is down to you. As said above some guys like to make an effort with a suit/cologne/etc. If a guy requests for you to spend lots on a makeup/outfit/heels that you wouldnt usually do then fair enough, but i always take the approach that you go to a meet as equals.

If yo had to put it in monetary terms, how much extra do you think you'd spend?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"However, my profile specifically says that the i preffer people that can accom, therefore if they really want to meet me and they cant accom then they should have thought about that before hand surely???"

I must admit I have also got on my profile that, if the gent cannot accommodate, he must be willing to book a hotel. However I have split the Etap with guys for an evening meet. Depends how much I want to shag them!

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"i am very happy to pay my way with good freinds i have known for a few years and one or two freinds that i see a lot of. as that is only right and proper and its all swings and round-a-bouts here.

if you are going to use that arguement, since you don't accom, if you want to meet that person shouldn't you be paying them... after all, it is there accomodation you are using... right???

doesn't that sound silly.....

no one if holding a gun to your head and saying you have to meet that person...

if you agree to use a hotel knowing all that.. and you are using it for the same enjoyment as everyone else.. then i don't see why you shouldn't pay your share.....

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

I can accomodate - if the lady is happy to come to mine then I do not see the need for a hotel.

Also, if I'm travelling to a meet, I;d rather they accomodate - it does not make sense to me that I travel to them and yet end up in a hotel.

Then throw in the added insult, in either above case, that I'm expected to pay? Sorry, that's sounds too much like paying for a shag.

I'm sure there are cheaper (yet morally questionable) options that I won't go into detail about (if I fancy wasting money).

Simply put, if we haven't agreed how expenses will be factored, then I'm not to be assumed a walking wallet expected to be grateful for "getting laid".

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Simply put, if we haven't agreed how expenses will be factored, then I'm not to be assumed a walking wallet expected to be grateful for "getting laid"."

Wanna go halves one day?

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

Personally, i wouldnt pay half unless its a regular meet as i invest alot of time, effort and money in to the above.

Your thoughts please??

Laila x"

But this is my argument - underwear and clothing and the like are based on what the lady feels comfortable wearing: tanning, nails hair, make-up... as long as she's comfortable and well presented, are optional.

In my mind, this does not present a case for "because I've done this, you have to pay for the room or else am not meeting you".

If she's gonna have that attitude, am more than happy to give a miss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally, i wouldnt pay half unless its a regular meet as i invest alot of time, effort and money in to the above.

Your thoughts please??

Laila x

In my mind, this does not present a case for "because I've done this, you have to pay for the room or else am not meeting you".

If she's gonna have that attitude, am more than happy to give a miss."

half the time im happy naked as the day i was born but with added glitter

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By *elsh_lass74Woman
over a year ago

South Wales

Ok, I'm gonna really put the cat in the pigeons now ......

Because of previous partners, I have become totally independant. Would rather go without than ask anyone for anything!!!

The last hotel meet I had, I paid for the room. It was only £19 so what really was the point of going halves, although he did get his wallet out and said he would go halves. I insisted, it wasn't and isn't a problem.

Next hotel meet is gonna be up north, I will go halves for the hotel plus half for the entry into the club, no if's nor buts! I could go and get free entry as a single women but he wants us to go as a couple, so only far we split the cost.

I dont see the problem in splitting costs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely the majority of that stuff is just good hygiene and grooming anyway? Apart from the tanning and the nails, all the other stuff is stuff I have anyway as part of our regular sex life, I certainly wouldn't buy toys, undies especially for a meet that we wouldn't have the use of many times afterwards and wouldn't factor it in as a shared cost.

We're happy if someone brings a bottle of wine to be honest...

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

"Simply put, if we haven't agreed how expenses will be factored, then I'm not to be assumed a walking wallet expected to be grateful for "getting laid".

Wanna go halves one day?

I'm sure an excursion can be arranged

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

Personally, i wouldnt pay half unless its a regular meet as i invest alot of time, effort and money in to the above.

Your thoughts please??

Laila x

In my mind, this does not present a case for "because I've done this, you have to pay for the room or else am not meeting you".

If she's gonna have that attitude, am more than happy to give a miss.

half the time im happy naked as the day i was born but with added glitter

I always hated clothes anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i am very happy to pay my way with good freinds i have known for a few years and one or two freinds that i see a lot of. as that is only right and proper and its all swings and round-a-bouts here.

if you are going to use that arguement, since you don't accom, if you want to meet that person shouldn't you be paying them... after all, it is there accomodation you are using... right???

doesn't that sound silly.....

no one if holding a gun to your head and saying you have to meet that person...

if you agree to use a hotel knowing all that.. and you are using it for the same enjoyment as everyone else.. then i don't see why you shouldn't pay your share....."

I agree with you. I had on my profile that I accommodate and expected playmates to too. I also stated I didn't do hotels.

Lost count how many times I was contacted to do a hotel meet. When I deemed to reply saying ok I'd meet but only at the Dorchester or Marriott, limo pick up and return I'd never hear from them again, funnily enough.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Simply put, if we haven't agreed how expenses will be factored, then I'm not to be assumed a walking wallet expected to be grateful for "getting laid".

Wanna go halves one day?

I'm sure an excursion can be arranged

I'm 60 miles from you next week. Still a bit far though.

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

"Simply put, if we haven't agreed how expenses will be factored, then I'm not to be assumed a walking wallet expected to be grateful for "getting laid".

Wanna go halves one day?

I'm sure an excursion can be arranged

I'm 60 miles from you next week. Still a bit far though.

I'm at Chams thursday night

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Simply put, if we haven't agreed how expenses will be factored, then I'm not to be assumed a walking wallet expected to be grateful for "getting laid".

Wanna go halves one day?

I'm sure an excursion can be arranged

I'm 60 miles from you next week. Still a bit far though.

I'm at Chams thursday night

I meant 11h onwards. I am in Andover, which is not the kind of place to have a thriving sex club, more's the pity.

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

"Simply put, if we haven't agreed how expenses will be factored, then I'm not to be assumed a walking wallet expected to be grateful for "getting laid".

Wanna go halves one day?

I'm sure an excursion can be arranged

I'm 60 miles from you next week. Still a bit far though.

I'm at Chams thursday night

I meant 11h onwards. I am in Andover, which is not the kind of place to have a thriving sex club, more's the pity."

To brng it back to the discussion, what's hotel prices in Andover like?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Simply put, if we haven't agreed how expenses will be factored, then I'm not to be assumed a walking wallet expected to be grateful for "getting laid".

Wanna go halves one day?

I'm sure an excursion can be arranged

I'm 60 miles from you next week. Still a bit far though.

I'm at Chams thursday night

I meant 11h onwards. I am in Andover, which is not the kind of place to have a thriving sex club, more's the pity.

To brng it back to the discussion, what's hotel prices in Andover like?"

There's only one 'proper' hotel in Andover, the rest are B&Bs. I was quoted £55 per night at the hotel but as thats through work it may be slightly higher for others.

Although, as I am staying there already, I wouldn't expect reimbursement from any guy I meet while there. A drink or two would be nice though!

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By *LBishCouple
over a year ago

near bury st edmunds

Personally, i think it also depends on who is going to be useing the room for the rest of the night, once play is over. If no-one is then yehh maybe go halves, but of one of the playing party is, then maybe they should pay the cost of the room,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally, i think it also depends on who is going to be useing the room for the rest of the night, once play is over. If no-one is then yehh maybe go halves, but of one of the playing party is, then maybe they should pay the cost of the room, "

i dont see what it matters who is staying over

to me if that room has been booked as a out come of A and B chatting and arranging a meet, and neitehr would be going other wise then A and B should contribute towards the cost

Tho if im going to be honest i think i could still get more meets than i could possibaly handly if i put on my profile i dont pay towards costs

Ive had offers of guys picking me up, taking me out for a meal, booking a room and taking me home after and it not costing me a penny on many occasions, and i truely believe lots of men would do this

So at the end of the day if your a woman/couple who dont want to pay your way theres lots of men out there happy to meet you still

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I wouldn't expect someone to pay my share of anything! I pay my own way and if I can't afford it then I don't go.

To say that I've spent money on an outfit/hairdo or anything else and therefore someone else should foot the bill for my share of a hotel room really makes me cringe.

The effort I put into my appearance is my choice. I don't expect my choices to be subsidised by anyone else and in my view, if you do then you're taking the piss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont know if anyone else can remember this but i remember a while ago a guy posting a thread about a couple that that even asked him for baby sitting money if they met lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

seen on a few couples, saying hotel at the guys cost lmao

3 people using it, the 1 person pays lol

that sort of attitude just attracts the desperate people on the website rather than good quality meets.

not that i would bother with hotel rooms, got my own place and up for going to theirs locally.

i just think i wouldnt bother with the meet if i had to front the costs and it was instisted rather than me offering.

had a couple i was going to see with my fk buddy that wanted to use a hotel for all of us to meet, and we would of just paid our half, thats fine. but wouldnt pay the whole thing, just smacks of desperation and its not that hard to get laid

i would think the person insisting also would be a strange meet, they obviousily dont consider themselves equal with you, they feel like they are cutting you a favour, i cant imagine what they are like when you meet. probally full of a million rules, wont do this wont do that, where the best people seem to want to do anything for you thats in their comfort zone if you are for them. and these sorta people i dont think will usually want to make one person pay all the costs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"seen on a few couples, saying hotel at the guys cost lmao

3 people using it, the 1 person pays lol

that sort of attitude just attracts the desperate people on the website rather than good quality meets.

you know what i think thats the truest thing thats been said on this site

Saything that some men, who arnt desparate do still have the old values that men should pay

But ive got to be honest, when ever ive had a message from a guy offering to pay for everything in a first message they have always been from guys i wouldnt meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally, i wouldnt pay half unless its a regular meet as i invest alot of time, effort and money in to the above.

Your thoughts please??

Laila x"

I used to spend a fortune on gym membership, then spent a wad on kitting a gym into my gaff to look my best for meets.

Does anyone want to hire Peter Jones' yacht for a week so I can bone them silly on it? You pick up the tab of course.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally, i wouldnt pay half unless its a regular meet as i invest alot of time, effort and money in to the above.

Your thoughts please??

Laila x

I used to spend a fortune on gym membership, then spent a wad on kitting a gym into my gaff to look my best for meets.

Does anyone want to hire Peter Jones' yacht for a week so I can bone them silly on it? You pick up the tab of course.....

i think some people go over the top lol

I honestly do not believe anyone goes and gets a tan or goes to the gym just for meets off here!!

I get my eye brows done, i use sun beds, i get my nails done, get my legs waxed, am a member at the gym etc but not for guys on here, they are all things i would still do even if i didnt swing, because i like to feel good about myself wether i meet guys off here or not

I think all the money it takes to look after ones self is just an excuse to try and not pay, im sure women on here would still get their brows waxed and guy who go to the gym still would go even if they didnt get meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally, i wouldnt pay half unless its a regular meet as i invest alot of time, effort and money in to the above.

Your thoughts please??

Laila x

I used to spend a fortune on gym membership, then spent a wad on kitting a gym into my gaff to look my best for meets.

Does anyone want to hire Peter Jones' yacht for a week so I can bone them silly on it? You pick up the tab of course.....

i think some people go over the top lol

I honestly do not believe anyone goes and gets a tan or goes to the gym just for meets off here!!

That's my point exactly Madam, although I executed it in a rather ott tongue in cheek way. Do I balls work out just for the sake of meets, I do it because I like the way it makes me look and its always a benefit to be stronger, leaner and faster. The fact that I can throw a sexual partner around and lift them into some lovely positions is merely an added bonus, albeit a delicious one.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I'm offering I would never expect my partner to pay half.

I would however think a lot less of them if they didn't offer to do so - allowing me to gallantly decline

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps it is a bit old fashioned but I cover the hotel cost as it seems like the right thing to do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you get a invite for a hotel i wouldnt pay if it was suggested to get a hotel thats different and only fair to share the cost xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's a sign of desperation to try and cover all costs and a sign of arrogance to expect someone to do so.

But that's just me.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"I think it's a sign of desperation to try and cover all costs and a sign of arrogance to expect someone to do so.

But that's just me.

I think its probably between the people meeting to sort it, but that could be just me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I must be honest, I have been known to stump up the cost of a hotel, without asking the lady to spit the cost, but then I am an old fashioned type of guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it's a sign of desperation to try and cover all costs and a sign of arrogance to expect someone to do so.

But that's just me.

bit od a no win situation with you then lol

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Yes I like to try and look good for meets as I'm sure most people do.

However saying that I invest in sexy lingerie, make up, hair products, nice perfume etc mainly for myself as it makes me feel good....So I would be buying it anyway.

I/we like to pay our own way/share costs as it's only fair.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just my opinion but not sure there is a definitive answer for me and depends on the scenario but common ones for me would be:

1. Travelling with work and arrange a meet. I should pick up the costs as going on expenses anyway but let's face it, how many ladies here meet men who are in the area on work anyway?

2. Arrange a meeting outside the local area; if the lady cannot accommodate then how would I get home so therefore more than happy to pick up the tab.

3. Mutually convenient to meet in a hotel locally so split the costs if both happy to do so; or I'd be old-fashioned and offer to pay anyway. Not sure that makes me desperate though of course, I am

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would not go out for a meet unless I had money to pay my share but, should some-one be happy to pay I would accept.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would not mind picking up the tab for hotel as I would spend the night there anyway .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hotel meets can be so fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If i was stopping the night and she drove or got taxis there and back it wouldn't be a problem. If i got asked for cab fair as well.....Maybe i would then be raising an eye bow.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Omg do people ask for taxi fairs as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it's a sign of desperation to try and cover all costs and a sign of arrogance to expect someone to do so.

But that's just me.

bit od a no win situation with you then lol"

Yep!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Omg do people ask for taxi fairs as well

oh god yeah some people are unreal

i remember a post one guy did months ago where he said the women even asked him for money for the baby sitter lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love this women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have just been asked to arrange a hotel, both of us are local and cannot accomodate. I don't want to appear rude and ask 'will we be sharing the costs'. I want to be a gentleman about it and I'd rather have one of those awkward moments, but I was asked afterall....

...any thoughts?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have just been asked to arrange a hotel, both of us are local and cannot accomodate. I don't want to appear rude and ask 'will we be sharing the costs'. I want to be a gentleman about it and I'd rather have one of those awkward moments, but I was asked afterall....

...any thoughts? "

I wouldnt think it was rude at all to ask but then again I would have said at time of asking to book it that I would pay half x

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By *urreyfun2008Man
over a year ago

East Grinstead

After being burnt once when naive about these things, now would only do this with someone I've previously met.

e.g. a low way from each other, but a hotel in the middle is a good midway point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

...any thoughts?

I wouldnt think it was rude at all to ask but then again I would have said at time of asking to book it that I would pay half x"

Thanks, personally I'd also offer to share the costs at the time if I was asking. I may be over-thinking it as she comes across as being very polite and honest - which I doubt for a second. I guess the only thing to do is ask their intention as soon as possible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

...any thoughts? "

i would say if you are asked to book the hotel you will be expected to pay, if she was happy to go halfs why ask you to book it, why not book it herself and ask you for money towards the cost

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow this is very modernnnn (;-)

It never occurred to me that that the woman would pay. In fact, I'd be embarrassed to ask

I'd even go as far to say, asking would reduce it to some kind of transaction

No, I think the women should spend money looking nice and the guy turn up in his old string vest and cough for the cost (;-)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wow this is very modernnnn (;-)

It never occurred to me that that the woman would pay. In fact, I'd be embarrassed to ask

I'd even go as far to say, asking would reduce it to some kind of transaction

No, I think the women should spend money looking nice and the guy turn up in his old string vest and cough for the cost (;-)"

Well said Ray and we do live in a modern world

With old fashioned values .

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

What about room service, should there be some kind of prior arrangement on that too?

If the lady wants a bottle of bubbly to mark the occasion, I'd happily phone down and have one sent up with a couple of flutes.

If, on the other hand, I get peckish half way through the activities and my swing partner claims she is not, then I think it would be only reasonable for me to inform her, politely yet forcibly, that she can keep her greedy fucking paws off my chicken club sandwich when it arrives.

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

...any thoughts?

i would say if you are asked to book the hotel you will be expected to pay, if she was happy to go halfs why ask you to book it, why not book it herself and ask you for money towards the cost"

Just a thought - what if its two girls that wanna meet ... who pays for the room? Or do they compare outfits and the one that is judged to have made less of an effort is stumped with the bill?

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