FabSwingers.com forum: Arse slapping during sex with someone new

By *ecretlyASoftie OP Woman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

If you've agreed to fuck someone, what do you think to being repeatedly slapped on the arse like it's a porn film when it's not been discussed or agreed beforehand and there's no planned Dom sub element? Yay or nay and why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you've agreed to fuck someone, what do you think to being repeatedly slapped on the arse like it's a porn film when it's not been discussed or agreed beforehand and there's no planned Dom sub element? Yay or nay and why?"

I always ask the do's and don't first.x

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

I would've asked beforehand if it's something they like. Fortunately, from my experience, most women seem to like this!

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By *uzz And WoodyCouple
over a year ago

Maidstone

Why wasn’t the slapping discussed?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not into pain whatsoever

But...come on..a slap on the Ass is hardly sackable offence lol

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By *ecretlyASoftie OP Woman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

"Why wasn’t the slapping discussed?"

It was a group play situation, only condoms as a boundary we're discussed. One of the guys just starting slapping my arse like he was riding a horse

I let the first one go thinking it might be his exuberance but it was quickly followed by the other side. He may as well have shouted yee-ha

I just said slap me one more time and I'll turn around and punch you. In the right context with the right person absolutely yes but with a random without being discussed or agreed, absolutely not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I genuinely don't understand the need to arse slap

Too much porn?

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By *ecretlyASoftie OP Woman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

"I genuinely don't understand the need to arse slap

Too much porn?"

That's my best guess yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He sounds like a cowboy shagger, you should report him to trading standards

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By *uzz And WoodyCouple
over a year ago

Maidstone

Yeah, neither of us would have been impressed. Some people just don’t think and are only in it for themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if its not wanted and its done once - just say dont do that again - if they do then stop play - simples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"if its not wanted and its done once - just say dont do that again - if they do then stop play - simples"

This

A bit over excited maybe, it happens

Just say no not for me and continue to fuck senseless

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"He sounds like a cowboy shagger, you should report him to trading standards

Ba-doom-tush

I'd probably let the first one go, after the second I'd let them know I didn't like it.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Communicate up front is a two way process

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One of the guys just starting slapping my arse like he was riding a horse

You should have neighed at him

Or slapped him back.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"Why wasn’t the slapping discussed?

It was a group play situation, only condoms as a boundary we're discussed. One of the guys just starting slapping my arse like he was riding a horse

I let the first one go thinking it might be his exuberance but it was quickly followed by the other side. He may as well have shouted yee-ha

I just said slap me one more time and I'll turn around and punch you. In the right context with the right person absolutely yes but with a random without being discussed or agreed, absolutely not

Yeah that's not on if you hadn't discussed it. The odd one fine but that sound's too much if you'd just met him.

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By *ouble CCouple
over a year ago

Gran Canaria

"Why wasn’t the slapping discussed?

It was a group play situation, only condoms as a boundary we're discussed. One of the guys just starting slapping my arse like he was riding a horse

I let the first one go thinking it might be his exuberance but it was quickly followed by the other side. He may as well have shouted yee-ha

I just said slap me one more time and I'll turn around and punch you. In the right context with the right person absolutely yes but with a random without being discussed or agreed, absolutely not

And this young man has all his teeth still?

Miss C Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d be in meltdown, perhaps start crying, then start boxing! I hate my arse slapped

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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I love it so I’d be super happy. But then, I’d definitely have mentioned my predilections and lack thereof before fucking someone.

Someone once gave me a swing across the chops during a session and I was so shocked, I didn’t know what to do.

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By *uke8888Man
over a year ago

Bradford

I'm sure you said you liked it at the time, sorry....

. Xx

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By *ustafasinghMan
over a year ago

leicester

I think that it's something that should of been asked about before hand, personally though I find that girls like it, some rougher than others but yeah

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Wandsworth

men can't win, of course if he was inconsiderate slapping you hard them his fault, but a little palm to the ass you can tell him nicely if you don't like it.

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By *ouble CCouple
over a year ago

Gran Canaria

I think unless the lady asked you to do it OR it's discussed beforehand then DO NOT smack the lady's bottom.

What if the lady was on top of you and she slapped u in the face or slapped u like a horse?

Miss C Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They should ask first. i find it irritating when i am just about to cum and i get an unexpected stinging slap.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Yes men can come to an equal agreement, well if it is done right.

Passive “oh not me” make me smile, discussion with a woman who knows what she wants, not playing games, up for fun with a capital F now that is erotic.

Still keyboard dreams come in all sexes.

High maintenance on the dragon scale mmm,

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

A couple of times would be ok but not repeatedly, not on a first sex meet when it's not expected!

Someone slapped me around my face, I thought if he does that again my fanny is going to freeze up and that'll be game over!!!

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By *ogerNesszonesMan
over a year ago

Northern England

"I love it so I’d be super happy. But then, I’d definitely have mentioned my predilections and lack thereof before fucking someone.

Someone once gave me a swing across the chops during a session and I was so shocked, I didn’t know what to do.

Hmmm. Knowing absolutely nothing of your limits / predilections, or what you'd actually discussed prior to your assignation with the individual concerned; and speaking as a Dominant who loves to administer spankings and traditional chastisement. From what I can glean from your post, it appears to me that his out of the blue smack across your chops is purely an assault.

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By *dores blackmenWoman
over a year ago

incognito mode ;-)

Often guys will slap my arse while having sex,it's not a dom thing,my arse is big and round so they can't help it

If there too full on I tell them to stop it never been a problem

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

The guy has got it completely wrong and seems to have been in his own world.

Situations have to be read and people need to act in accordance with that. In some situations *a* gentler slap might fit with the tempo of play at that moment. Reactions can be gauged and play can flow as appropriate.

Unfortunately inexperience or lack of those skills exist some people. Watching how people are responsonding and modifying how you are playing is an important part of sex and especially in swinging.

Every small detail can't be pre-planned, but his actions weren't a small detail. He's gone in guns blazing uninvited. You should have turned the tables on him...

MrB

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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"I love it so I’d be super happy. But then, I’d definitely have mentioned my predilections and lack thereof before fucking someone.

Someone once gave me a swing across the chops during a session and I was so shocked, I didn’t know what to do.

Oh, absolutely, hence the shock. Something I filed away for ‘might enjoy with the right person’ but definitely not appropriate for a first time meet.

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By *ogerNesszonesMan
over a year ago

Northern England

"I love it so I’d be super happy. But then, I’d definitely have mentioned my predilections and lack thereof before fucking someone.

Someone once gave me a swing across the chops during a session and I was so shocked, I didn’t know what to do.

Oh, absolutely, hence the shock. Something I filed away for ‘might enjoy with the right person’ but definitely not appropriate for a first time meet."

I'm glad you're cool about it Cat. I think I've made my views abundantly clear on individuals like this and their behaviour.

From reading through your profile, I suspect that you're more than capable of dealing with potential axe murderers / creeps like this (even in the nude ha ha), but there are many submissives who aren't.

One answer might be for you and your sister submissives on here to get together via a new forum thread (good luck stopping blokes posting on it ha ha) with the aim of starting up a Kik / WhatsApp group (I'm aware that you can't "name and shame" on here) to warn others away from these individuals?

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By *inkyChrissy99TV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

Just be careful not to do it during group play it can put some guys right off their stride

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"He sounds like a cowboy shagger, you should report him to trading standards

Ba-doom-tush

I'd probably let the first one go, after the second I'd let them know I didn't like it."

This for me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Apparently I've a good left hook! Hate my arse being slapped or anything like it including teeth

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By *angbangsociatyCouple (MM)
over a year ago

london

It should be discussed and agreed before any meet is arranged

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah I’m not into ass slapping unless pre-agreed/pre-discussed.

In fact I have told someone recently to stop with ass slapping and choking as it wasn’t that kind of meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually ask before meeting anything in particular you like ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would always ask first but im happy to dish it out either way lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Problem is you can't always negotiate every eventuality beforehand...

Too much (bad) porn is definitely a factor in this sort of thing. I had young guy literally hoik and spit on my clit once. Such a massive turn off; I told him to fuck off there and then.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"Apparently I've a good left hook! Hate my arse being slapped or anything like it including teeth"

Assault comes on many forms.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"He sounds like a cowboy shagger, you should report him to trading standards

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Spontaneous fun comes in many forms, kind of why I like a little up front discussion, then explore play within parameters.

In a club, well we have all been there... haven’t we, lust/musth

OP, to me, you both got it wrong .

For me, male, the ladies can be a lot worse.

However, don’t let it spoil what is stunning fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I love it so I’d be super happy. But then, I’d definitely have mentioned my predilections and lack thereof before fucking someone.

Someone once gave me a swing across the chops during a session and I was so shocked, I didn’t know what to do.

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By *ecretlyASoftie OP Woman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

"Spontaneous fun comes in many forms, kind of why I like a little up front discussion, then explore play within parameters.

In a club, well we have all been there... haven’t we, lust/musth

OP, to me, you both got it wrong .

For me, male, the ladies can be a lot worse.

However, don’t let it spoil what is stunning fun."

Sexual cluedo - softie in a dark room with several random men, remit fuck me with condoms. I don't think I got it wrong - I stated what I wanted with the one relevant hard limit. To state what I didn't want or hard limits unrelated to the play at hand kind of takes the spontaneity out of the situation and we may all as well sat down with a cuppa for a social to discuss it first

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By *ecretlyASoftie OP Woman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

"I love it so I’d be super happy. But then, I’d definitely have mentioned my predilections and lack thereof before fucking someone.

Someone once gave me a swing across the chops during a session and I was so shocked, I didn’t know what to do.

Yeah I'd have swung back. I think slapping the arse isn't good if not agreed but slapping the face is far worse. I have done it but it was pre agreed.

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over a year ago

"Spontaneous fun comes in many forms, kind of why I like a little up front discussion, then explore play within parameters.

In a club, well we have all been there... haven’t we, lust/musth

OP, to me, you both got it wrong .

For me, male, the ladies can be a lot worse.

However, don’t let it spoil what is stunning fun.

Softie take me in a dungeon please

I’ll be a good girl

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By *ecretlyASoftie OP Woman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

"Why wasn’t the slapping discussed?

It was a group play situation, only condoms as a boundary we're discussed. One of the guys just starting slapping my arse like he was riding a horse

I let the first one go thinking it might be his exuberance but it was quickly followed by the other side. He may as well have shouted yee-ha

I just said slap me one more time and I'll turn around and punch you. In the right context with the right person absolutely yes but with a random without being discussed or agreed, absolutely not

And this young man has all his teeth still?

Miss C Xx "

Yeah I needed fucking more than I needed a fight

Hello lovely mwah xx

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By *ecretlyASoftie OP Woman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

"Spontaneous fun comes in many forms, kind of why I like a little up front discussion, then explore play within parameters.

In a club, well we have all been there... haven’t we, lust/musth

OP, to me, you both got it wrong .

For me, male, the ladies can be a lot worse.

However, don’t let it spoil what is stunning fun.

Softie take me in a dungeon please

I’ll be a good girl

Behave bitch otherwise ill mark the other side of your face to match last time

Ps I may have a suitcase with me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Spontaneous fun comes in many forms, kind of why I like a little up front discussion, then explore play within parameters.

In a club, well we have all been there... haven’t we, lust/musth

OP, to me, you both got it wrong .

For me, male, the ladies can be a lot worse.

However, don’t let it spoil what is stunning fun.

Softie take me in a dungeon please

I’ll be a good girl

Behave bitch otherwise ill mark the other side of your face to match last time

Ps I may have a suitcase with me

Yes of course, I apologise, staple me though please?

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By *ecretlyASoftie OP Woman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

"Spontaneous fun comes in many forms, kind of why I like a little up front discussion, then explore play within parameters.

In a club, well we have all been there... haven’t we, lust/musth

OP, to me, you both got it wrong .

For me, male, the ladies can be a lot worse.

However, don’t let it spoil what is stunning fun.

Softie take me in a dungeon please

I’ll be a good girl

Behave bitch otherwise ill mark the other side of your face to match last time

Ps I may have a suitcase with me

Yes of course, I apologise, staple me though please?

If you let me staple your pussy shut yes (part of a bra and panties design)

Oi I'm meant to be soft

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Spontaneous fun comes in many forms, kind of why I like a little up front discussion, then explore play within parameters.

In a club, well we have all been there... haven’t we, lust/musth

OP, to me, you both got it wrong .

For me, male, the ladies can be a lot worse.

However, don’t let it spoil what is stunning fun.

Softie take me in a dungeon please

I’ll be a good girl

Behave bitch otherwise ill mark the other side of your face to match last time

Ps I may have a suitcase with me

Yes of course, I apologise, staple me though please?

If you let me staple your pussy shut yes (part of a bra and panties design)

Oi I'm meant to be soft

Well yes you are soft, you remember the conversation I had with the other person

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By *ecretlyASoftie OP Woman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

"Spontaneous fun comes in many forms, kind of why I like a little up front discussion, then explore play within parameters.

In a club, well we have all been there... haven’t we, lust/musth

OP, to me, you both got it wrong .

For me, male, the ladies can be a lot worse.

However, don’t let it spoil what is stunning fun.

Softie take me in a dungeon please

I’ll be a good girl

Behave bitch otherwise ill mark the other side of your face to match last time

Ps I may have a suitcase with me

Yes of course, I apologise, staple me though please?

If you let me staple your pussy shut yes (part of a bra and panties design)

Oi I'm meant to be soft

Well yes you are soft, you remember the conversation I had with the other person

Yes I remember and yes you're still to have your punishment for that

So yes to the pussy stapling?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Spontaneous fun comes in many forms, kind of why I like a little up front discussion, then explore play within parameters.

In a club, well we have all been there... haven’t we, lust/musth

OP, to me, you both got it wrong .

For me, male, the ladies can be a lot worse.

However, don’t let it spoil what is stunning fun.

Softie take me in a dungeon please

I’ll be a good girl

Behave bitch otherwise ill mark the other side of your face to match last time

Ps I may have a suitcase with me

Yes of course, I apologise, staple me though please?

If you let me staple your pussy shut yes (part of a bra and panties design)

Oi I'm meant to be soft

Well yes you are soft, you remember the conversation I had with the other person

Yes I remember and yes you're still to have your punishment for that

So yes to the pussy stapling?

Yes of course as you wish

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By *ecretlyASoftie OP Woman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

"Spontaneous fun comes in many forms, kind of why I like a little up front discussion, then explore play within parameters.

In a club, well we have all been there... haven’t we, lust/musth

OP, to me, you both got it wrong .

For me, male, the ladies can be a lot worse.

However, don’t let it spoil what is stunning fun.

Softie take me in a dungeon please

I’ll be a good girl

Behave bitch otherwise ill mark the other side of your face to match last time

Ps I may have a suitcase with me

Yes of course, I apologise, staple me though please?

If you let me staple your pussy shut yes (part of a bra and panties design)

Oi I'm meant to be soft

Well yes you are soft, you remember the conversation I had with the other person

Yes I remember and yes you're still to have your punishment for that

So yes to the pussy stapling?

Yes of course as you wish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well she asked me to grab and slap her arse whilst fucking her doggy, more cried out for it really, and it's rude to disappoint a lady...

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