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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I recently sent two couples friendly polite messages only to get blocked by both of them for my trouble. What's wrong with just saying their not interested ?

I do find this behaviour very annoying & rude.

What do other people think?

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

I’m not looking for single men. I probably get 20 a day messaging me. I get abuse for saying that I’m not interested from over half of them when I say no. It’s easier to block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And today's classic forum thread award goes to....

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley


"I recently sent two couples friendly polite messages only to get blocked by both of them for my trouble. What's wrong with just saying their not interested ?

I do find this behaviour very annoying & rude.

What do other people think? "

The trouble is that people can get quite nasty when they're turned down so it's not quite as simple as you might think. Also couples and females get vastly more mail than guys here so replying to everyone isn't easy and soon gets very tedious. That's one reason why in the site's guidelines it says no reply should be taken as a polite refusal. Presumably you didn't know that.

The reason for blocking needn't be an insult either. If they've decided you don't meet their needs, as great a person as you may be, they may just not want to hear from you again because it would be pointless and they want to avoid the risk of having to argue about it.

Just now we had an message from a guy here who sent us a pic of his erect cock and "Hoping to hear from you." Then we get stuff like "Hey how you doing?", "Lovely pics, care to meet up?" etc. etc. etc.

No they're not abusive but why would anyone respond to something like when they almost always come from guys who haven't even read their profile and don't match their basic requirements? It might not seem a big deal to you but then you don't have a mailbox full of such messages to reply to...

The best thing to do is not take offence as in all probability none was intended.

Just accept it and move on. It won't be the last time it happens though so just make sure that when you contact people you show you've taken on board what they're looking for and can explain why you're a good match. You'll be far more likely to get a positive response that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is always a reason. The blockee might disagree with it but they don't have the right to dispute it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I recently sent two couples friendly polite messages only to get blocked by both of them for my trouble. What's wrong with just saying their not interested ?

I do find this behaviour very annoying & rude.

What do other people think? "

How would it make you feel better receiving a rejection mail in your inbox?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is always a reason. The blockee might disagree with it but they don't have the right to dispute it."

People generally do not block people for no reason.

I have been blocked by people I have had no interaction with at all, but I move on. Could be my profile, could be my pics, could be my t, could be a post on a thread. I have also blocked people who I can clearly see are not looking for someone like me so I know not to look at their profile again.

It is a site tool to be used however you wish.

Just say to yourself "their loss" and move on

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

You never get blocked for no good reason.

The perfectly good and valid reason is that the blocker wants no more contact with you.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich


"

Just say to yourself "their loss" and move on "

Actually if someone that you want to interact with blocks you it's your loss. They have lost nothing lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" blocked by both of them for my trouble.

What do other people think? "

I think that is one of the most entitled sounding posts I've ever seen on here.

Nobody owes anyone anything on here. The sooner people learn that, the sooner these kind of threads will stop

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By *illyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

We've blocked a few guys in the past over a message.if there not what we are looking or wildly off out spectrum ie age or location or just plan disgusting then they haven't read our profile. So if they can't be bothered why should we.plus some guys use the same massage every time but can't remember who they sent it to. So the first time we polite .with a no thank you. If we get the same message again we just block them.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth


"There is always a reason. The blockee might disagree with it but they don't have the right to dispute it."

Exactly this. There is a perfectly good reason to the people you messaged. They are using the site in the way that suits them best. Put your energy into the people who are right for you!

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By *infulSandyCouple
over a year ago

London


"I recently sent two couples friendly polite messages only to get blocked by both of them for my trouble. What's wrong with just saying their not interested ?

I do find this behaviour very annoying & rude.

What do other people think? "

How much trouble is it to write a genuine message?

And if you find them so rude and annoying isn't it better that they saved you the trouble of having to meet them?

Regardless, while those couple's responses were blunt we don't think its rude, maybe annoying and ego bruising (it has happened to us) but not rude.

Just move on would be our advice.

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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago

swingers clubs


"I recently sent two couples friendly polite messages only to get blocked by both of them for my trouble. What's wrong with just saying their not interested ?

I do find this behaviour very annoying & rude.

What do other people think? "

THEY KNOW YOU - expect letters soon threatening to expose who you really are

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Does anyone else automatically block people that start threads like this?

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By *infulSandyCouple
over a year ago

London


"Does anyone else automatically block people that start threads like this?

"

Was considering it if I'm honest.

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By *andom2chatMan
over a year ago

A Galaxy Far, Far Away & Spain


"Does anyone else automatically block people that start threads like this?

"

Yip

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By *rightonCheekyMan
over a year ago

Brighton


"And today's classic forum thread award goes to....

"

Wasn't this thread yesterday?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I recently sent two couples friendly polite messages only to get blocked by both of them for my trouble. What's wrong with just saying their not interested ?

I do find this behaviour very annoying & rude.

What do other people think? "

I think you are over reacting.

They don't want further contact from you,so they are making sure it doesn't happen.

Just because you felt your message was polite doesn't mean they did.

Move on.Don't be so touchy,you will enjoy fab a lot more if you don't let others get to you like that.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Always a reason to block, it usually means they're not interested. Best thing to do is to move on to people who might be

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

OP, in another thread single men are saying that they block people if they get no reply or a negative one. Apparently it saves them from wasting their time, writing a message in the future to someone who isn't interested.

Now from your perspective you may feel there was no reason, but the person that has blocked you will have a reason and they are not obliged to run it past you before doing so.

Chin up, move on.

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By *lpha-and-FoxtrotCouple
over a year ago

Kettering


"I recently sent two couples friendly polite messages only to get blocked by both of them for my trouble. What's wrong with just saying their not interested ?

I do find this behaviour very annoying & rude.

What do other people think? "

It should be "they're" not their. Does that help with what's wrong?

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By *INGLEBBWWoman
over a year ago

ocala

Most of the time, if you read their profile first you will know if it is ok to messafe them.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

It would really help if people stopped seeing the block button as some sort of punishment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been blocked today

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have blocked people that I know I will never be interested in meeting, it stops them filling my news threads and who's near too. It is not a personal slight, just personal choice!

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By *roggMan
over a year ago

haverfordwest

Part of fab life and best thing on here is try not to take it too seriously

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I recently sent two couples friendly polite messages only to get blocked by both of them for my trouble. What's wrong with just saying their not interested ?

I do find this behaviour very annoying & rude.

What do other people think? "

It works both ways.

When we say no to guy's some send abusive messages back then block us

Not that it bothers us.

Others keep messaging trying to persuade us that we could atleast meet them as they know we would like him if we did. It gets boreing after a while. Easier to block it sends a very clear message

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)


"

I think that is one of the most entitled sounding posts I've ever seen on here.

Nobody owes anyone anything on here. The sooner people learn that, the sooner these kind of threads will stop "

I got an email the other day that stated I owed it to him to meet him face to face, to tell him exactly what I didn't want to fuck him...

The entitlement was strong....

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"And today's classic forum thread award goes to....

Wasn't this thread yesterday? "

Yesterday? Try half an hour ago!!

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich


"

I think that is one of the most entitled sounding posts I've ever seen on here.

Nobody owes anyone anything on here. The sooner people learn that, the sooner these kind of threads will stop

I got an email the other day that stated I owed it to him to meet him face to face, to tell him exactly what I didn't want to fuck him...

The entitlement was strong...."

Maybe you should have met him and showed him a mirror

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By *rightonCheekyMan
over a year ago

Brighton


"And today's classic forum thread award goes to....

Wasn't this thread yesterday?

Yesterday? Try half an hour ago!! "

Same time tomorrow?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why don’t you send your message preferences to stop them messaging you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I recently sent two couples friendly polite messages only to get blocked by both of them for my trouble. What's wrong with just saying their not interested ?

I do find this behaviour very annoying & rude.

What do other people think?

How would it make you feel better receiving a rejection mail in your inbox?"

Had a few of them,at least they've been polite enough to reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeh it’s a pain in the arse. I tend not to message people not looking for single guys and I understand people must get sick of chancers. Dunno why they just don’t sent their message perfences to what they want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And today's classic forum thread award goes to....

Wasn't this thread yesterday? "

And tomorrow

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley


"Yeh it’s a pain in the arse. I tend not to message people not looking for single guys and I understand people must get sick of chancers. Dunno why they just don’t sent their message perfences to what they want"

Because there isn't a filter for guys who haven't bothered to read your profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I found the other day that i have been blocked by a couple that I haven't even messaged before. Found it a bit strange, but each to their own. Also didn't realise my profile was that bad

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley


"I found the other day that i have been blocked by a couple that I haven't even messaged before. Found it a bit strange, but each to their own. Also didn't realise my profile was that bad "

Maybe they checked your profile, found they weren't interested (it could have just been distance for example) then blocked you to avoid inadvertently checking you out again.

On the other hand they may have blocked all single guys from contacting them because they get so many messages they don't really want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I found the other day that i have been blocked by a couple that I haven't even messaged before. Found it a bit strange, but each to their own. Also didn't realise my profile was that bad

Maybe they checked your profile, found they weren't interested (it could have just been distance for example) then blocked you to avoid inadvertently checking you out again.

On the other hand they may have blocked all single guys from contacting them because they get so many messages they don't really want.

"

Yeah you could be right, was just a little confused when i clicked the profile and cannot view profile page came up lol. Good way to stop I wanted messages really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I found the other day that i have been blocked by a couple that I haven't even messaged before. Found it a bit strange, but each to their own. Also didn't realise my profile was that bad "

Don’t take it personally, we’ve all been blocked by someone on here

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By *artytwoCouple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

Blocked for:

Being a single faker

Grotesque pics

Being so far from our requirements eg monsters (use privacy function if you must leer)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I recently sent two couples friendly polite messages only to get blocked by both of them for my trouble. What's wrong with just saying their not interested ?

I do find this behaviour very annoying & rude.

What do other people think?

The trouble is that people can get quite nasty when they're turned down so it's not quite as simple as you might think. Also couples and females get vastly more mail than guys here so replying to everyone isn't easy and soon gets very tedious. That's one reason why in the site's guidelines it says no reply should be taken as a polite refusal. Presumably you didn't know that.

The reason for blocking needn't be an insult either. If they've decided you don't meet their needs, as great a person as you may be, they may just not want to hear from you again because it would be pointless and they want to avoid the risk of having to argue about it.

Just now we had an message from a guy here who sent us a pic of his erect cock and "Hoping to hear from you." Then we get stuff like "Hey how you doing?", "Lovely pics, care to meet up?" etc. etc. etc.

No they're not abusive but why would anyone respond to something like when they almost always come from guys who haven't even read their profile and don't match their basic requirements? It might not seem a big deal to you but then you don't have a mailbox full of such messages to reply to...

The best thing to do is not take offence as in all probability none was intended.

Just accept it and move on. It won't be the last time it happens though so just make sure that when you contact people you show you've taken on board what they're looking for and can explain why you're a good match. You'll be far more likely to get a positive response that way. "

This.

I used to send everyone who messaged, a polite 'no thank you' type message. You wouldn't believe the abusive messages we get in return. One of them was so upsetting, that I hid our profile and took a break from the site for a while. So now, if someone hasn't bothered to put any thought into a message, or is clearly hasn't read our profile, I often just delete and block. If they've put some effort into a message, I'll send a polite reply and then block them, to eliminate the possibility of abuse.

V x

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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago

swingers clubs


"Yeh it’s a pain in the arse. I tend not to message people not looking for single guys and I understand people must get sick of chancers. Dunno why they just don’t sent their message perfences to what they want"

People do set filters and message preferences. As it happens we are looking for single guys, between a certain age, looking for couples blah, blah, blah.

But we're not looking for every single guy, between a certain age, looking for couples blah, blah, blah.

We can still pick which ones we want,and ignore the ones we don't.

If you think that's impolite and it upsets you. Block us and move on - we already have!

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By *ookingforlustMan
over a year ago

northants


"And today's classic forum thread award goes to....

Wasn't this thread yesterday?

And tomorrow "

I bagsy doing Saturdays........

Bagsy!! Haven’t used that word in yonks.....

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By *ookingforlustMan
over a year ago

northants

And as my dad used to say.......

If you’re looking for sympathy, it’s in the dictionary between shit and syphilis......

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

I block people, for pretty much the reasons already stated.

I've also blocked people I've noticed have looked at my profile a lot, they really don't meet my preferenced, right now I'm not meeting anyone new & it just saves the hassle knowing, from experience, that eventually they will message, then I'm faced with either delete or politely decline, which again can open a whole new can of worms

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok. Thanks everyone for your thoughts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok. Thanks everyone for your thoughts.

"

Ive just got blocked for repkying to a status being polite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get blocked as i wont pander to people for meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We block anyone and everyone that we can - this includes anyone that winks or messages us or looks at us, or posts on the forums. We also block anyone we have ever met (and those we have never met too, just for good measure) and am trying to work out a way of blocking real life people, for example out irritating neighbour. Would love to block her. We'd block ourselves if we could. We are blocking crazy !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We block anyone and everyone that we can - this includes anyone that winks or messages us or looks at us, or posts on the forums. We also block anyone we have ever met (and those we have never met too, just for good measure) and am trying to work out a way of blocking real life people, for example out irritating neighbour. Would love to block her. We'd block ourselves if we could. We are blocking crazy ! "

Small Christmas card list then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s happened to me several times. Strike up a conversation with a nice woman and get down to arranging a meet and then suddenly I’m blocked. I used to find it really rude and now I just think “Your loss”.

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By *TrainMan
over a year ago

London

Happens to me

Message back and forth a lot

Send/accept friend requests

Then...blocked out of the blue

There’s so many beautiful women on here I don’t bother worry anymore

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we only block if someone either sends a friend request without chatting before hand or sends a message where it's obvious they haven't read our profile. Other than that we send replies as much as possible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m not looking for single men. I probably get 20 a day messaging me. I get abuse for saying that I’m not interested from over half of them when I say no. It’s easier to block. "

It's easier to add a nail filter to prevent the messages in the first place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I recently sent two couples friendly polite messages only to get blocked by both of them for my trouble. What's wrong with just saying their not interested ?

I do find this behaviour very annoying & rude.

What do other people think? "

Block button is quick and simple plus tantrum free.

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By *he-Hosiery-GentMan
over a year ago

Older Hot Bearded Guy


"I recently sent two couples friendly polite messages only to get blocked by both of them for my trouble. What's wrong with just saying their not interested ?

I do find this behaviour very annoying & rude.

What do other people think? "

Many mean give them abuse apparently for some strange reason.

So, that's probably why they've done it, regardless of whether you would or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I recently sent two couples friendly polite messages only to get blocked by both of them for my trouble. What's wrong with just saying their not interested ?

I do find this behaviour very annoying & rude.

What do other people think?

Block button is quick and simple plus tantrum free."

Almost tantrum free. They come into the forums whining about it instead

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone else automatically block people that start threads like this?

"

Yep.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I recently sent two couples friendly polite messages only to get blocked by both of them for my trouble. What's wrong with just saying their not interested ?

I do find this behaviour very annoying & rude.

What do other people think? "

anyone who has anything in their profile demanding a response to their unsolicited mail just makes me more likely to delete and block...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because when you politely respond to say 'no thanks', people whip out their cocks and clits in front of you and start rubbing and begging and asking why.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m not looking for single men. I probably get 20 a day messaging me. I get abuse for saying that I’m not interested from over half of them when I say no. It’s easier to block. "

Why not set that on your profile...easier then blocking each one individually surely

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

Just because I'm not looking to fuck a man doesn't mean I can't have conversation, I've had some great ones after posts the forum, especially because of my involvement with bdsm. I do that want to have to block people, or stop them messaging me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I go through phases of replying, deleting and/or blocking.

Main reason for deleting/blocking? It's a shit message. Five words which have been cut and pasted a million times. Or there's a dick pic attached. Or there's no profile pic. Or a dick pic as a profile pic.

I have a secret phrase in my profile so anyone using that will usually get a reply.

I don't respond to anyone who can't spell or form a sentence because it's something that REALLY pisses me off here and IRL.

If you want a reply from me (and probably most other couples/singles) read profiles, explain why you meet their criteria, check your grammar and spelling, have a decent profile, don't send dick pics or have them as your profile pic, have at least three photos on your profile (not all of your dick) and possibly send a GOOD face pic with your message.

Obviously everyone is different, but this is what will work with me! Just realise how many messages people get every day and how you want yours to stand out!

HTH xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We block anybody who we don’t want to meet, that way they don’t come up when we search again.

It’s not because we are mean, but we don’t want to meet that person.

When we first came on here we got a few not so nice messages when we turned people down.

We know that not everyone is the same, but we don’t want the drama.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I recently sent two couples friendly polite messages only to get blocked by both of them for my trouble. What's wrong with just saying their not interested ?

I do find this behaviour very annoying & rude.

What do other people think? "

You may think there's no reason but there'll be some part of your profile that may not match their preferences. Block is really not the best word to use. For example, those that viewed us may not be looking for our age range so we hit block because we took the time out to check them out but no compatibility. So rather than do that again in the future, we continually filter out profiles.

You can only filter so much on the filter settings and the final filter is called Block.

Various people send nasty replies when declined so it's less heart ache just to block and delete.

We often do this for local guys, TV's, too old or not physically our type.

You're reading too much into it, just move on.

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By *eardedProctologistMan
over a year ago

Here and there but more here than there

I actually get off when I get blocked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I too have had many circumstances with being blocked for nothing,just today i messaged a woman,she replied back saying hello and I messaged her back and she deleted it so I sent her another message just incase she accidentally deleted it and then i got blocked by her.

To me women don't give non verified guys a chance,they only want to meet verified men as it's safer for them which is understandable but not saying it in a bad way but I think non verified women find it easier to get verified then men do. I think fab should have a system where if you've been a member of the site for 6-12 months and more they should give you a different type of verification to show that you've been on the site for a certain amount of time but that's just my idea,also being a site supporter makes no difference to gaining meets either

I think something needs to be done,sure people say go on cams,chatrooms and attend clubs etc but most people are not into that sort of thing like myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I too have had many circumstances with being blocked for nothing,just today i messaged a woman,she replied back saying hello and I messaged her back and she deleted it so I sent her another message just incase she accidentally deleted it and then i got blocked by her.

To me women don't give non verified guys a chance,they only want to meet verified men as it's safer for them which is understandable but not saying it in a bad way but I think non verified women find it easier to get verified then men do. I think fab should have a system where if you've been a member of the site for 6-12 months and more they should give you a different type of verification to show that you've been on the site for a certain amount of time but that's just my idea,also being a site supporter makes no difference to gaining meets either

I think something needs to be done,sure people say go on cams,chatrooms and attend clubs etc but most people are not into that sort of thing like myself."

Then meet for a social or go to a social gathering event and get verified that way. It's really not that difficult

C

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One dosent have to give a reason or explanation for blocking you

It's totally there choice

Simple as that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I too have had many circumstances with being blocked for nothing,just today i messaged a woman,she replied back saying hello and I messaged her back and she deleted it so I sent her another message just incase she accidentally deleted it and then i got blocked by her.

To me women don't give non verified guys a chance,they only want to meet verified men as it's safer for them which is understandable but not saying it in a bad way but I think non verified women find it easier to get verified then men do. I think fab should have a system where if you've been a member of the site for 6-12 months and more they should give you a different type of verification to show that you've been on the site for a certain amount of time but that's just my idea,also being a site supporter makes no difference to gaining meets either

I think something needs to be done,sure people say go on cams,chatrooms and attend clubs etc but most people are not into that sort of thing like myself."

To get verified, we visited a club. Another way is to go to a local social.

As with your block experience today, she may have read your profile and then decided she didn't fancy you. The way you were sending more messages is likely to get yourself blocked.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville


"I too have had many circumstances with being blocked for nothing,just today i messaged a woman,she replied back saying hello and I messaged her back and she deleted it so I sent her another message just incase she accidentally deleted it and then i got blocked by her.

To me women don't give non verified guys a chance,they only want to meet verified men as it's safer for them which is understandable but not saying it in a bad way but I think non verified women find it easier to get verified then men do. I think fab should have a system where if you've been a member of the site for 6-12 months and more they should give you a different type of verification to show that you've been on the site for a certain amount of time but that's just my idea,also being a site supporter makes no difference to gaining meets either

I think something needs to be done,sure people say go on cams,chatrooms and attend clubs etc but most people are not into that sort of thing like myself."

I think the system is fine. You’ve obviously read advice on how else you could get verified, though you don’t mention socials. Could that be something to try?

As for verifications , they aren’t fool proof. We’ve been messed around by some very well verified single guy profiles. But another type of veri just because you’ve been on the site a period of time?? Wouldn’t make any difference as we’d be able to see it wasn’t from a meet or cam etc so the credibility of such veri would be viewed negatively.

People can block and delete as they choose. And actually the scenario you describe, messaging a new unknown woman and then messaging her again... you’d get the same result from many people on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I recently sent two couples friendly polite messages only to get blocked by both of them for my trouble. What's wrong with just saying their not interested ?

I do find this behaviour very annoying & rude.

What do other people think? "

your not the only one its happen too the members here are very one sided in my book due to happening to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Getting blocked is a blessing. Focus on people that are actually interested in meeting with you. It's more fun that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I recently sent two couples friendly polite messages only to get blocked by both of them for my trouble. What's wrong with just saying their not interested ?

I do find this behaviour very annoying & rude.

What do other people think? "
people can block who they want and when they want,that's what it's there for and upto to the user.Weve done it alot for lots of different reasons and that's upto us x

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By *andare63Man
over a year ago

oldham

Does it really make one iota of difference if someone blocks or not ? Me personally I couldn’t give two hoots if someone blocks or not . I treat it as their freedom of choice and nothing more . If. Write to a lady and I see she has deleted then I know she is not interested . I then block her not out of malice but that I don’t forget and send mail to her again

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester

We blocked single men in the end, got bombarded - clearly don't read our profile. So many cock pics wanting to meet etc etc

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral


"I too have had many circumstances with being blocked for nothing,just today i messaged a woman,she replied back saying hello and I messaged her back and she deleted it so I sent her another message just incase she accidentally deleted it and then i got blocked by her.

To me women don't give non verified guys a chance,they only want to meet verified men as it's safer for them which is understandable but not saying it in a bad way but I think non verified women find it easier to get verified then men do. I think fab should have a system where if you've been a member of the site for 6-12 months and more they should give you a different type of verification to show that you've been on the site for a certain amount of time but that's just my idea,also being a site supporter makes no difference to gaining meets either

I think something needs to be done,sure people say go on cams,chatrooms and attend clubs etc but most people are not into that sort of thing like myself.

I think the system is fine. You’ve obviously read advice on how else you could get verified, though you don’t mention socials. Could that be something to try?

As for verifications , they aren’t fool proof. We’ve been messed around by some very well verified single guy profiles. But another type of veri just because you’ve been on the site a period of time?? Wouldn’t make any difference as we’d be able to see it wasn’t from a meet or cam etc so the credibility of such veri would be viewed negatively.

People can block and delete as they choose. And actually the scenario you describe, messaging a new unknown woman and then messaging her again... you’d get the same result from many people on here. "

Completely agree!! And it’s why some get no reply at all. If my response is a one word answer like ‘hi’ or ‘thanks’ it’s a polite acknowledgement of your message but not inviting further chat. Followed up by 2 more unsolicited messages would make me consider blocking!

Subsequently, the next message is less likely to get the polite one-worder & just be deleted!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens, not everyone will be attracted to you. Just shrug your shoulders and move on to the next person. It’s not that big of a deal tbh.

I used to get upset when I was blocked. But I quickly realised that it’s part of being on a site like this.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville


"Getting blocked is a blessing. Focus on people that are actually interested in meeting with you. It's more fun that way. "

Oh I see what you did there. So you don’t dwell on the blockers and non replies you focus on people who want to chat with you. Interesting new method I wonder if it will take off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Getting blocked is a blessing. Focus on people that are actually interested in meeting with you. It's more fun that way.

Oh I see what you did there. So you don’t dwell on the blockers and non replies you focus on people who want to chat with you. Interesting new method I wonder if it will take off.

"

Bet great if it did lol

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