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Is it selfish to want someone to be verified?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Please don't hang me, but is it selfish for people to want members on here to be verified before meeting?

Surely they must of been in the situation in the first place?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Started from the bottom now we here

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Building foundations as we speak!

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By *imetoexplore69Couple
over a year ago

Aberdeen


"Started from the bottom now we here"

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

A lot of people choose to only meet verified members because they have been messed around by those who aren't verified. It's no guarantee but many assume you are less likely to have no shows.

Many new people like the idea of swinging but get cold feet when it comes to actually meeting.

There are those who will meet unverified, just keep on looking.

A good way to get verified is to go to an organised social. These are usually advertised in the meets and events forums.

Don't assume getting verified is a magic key to fab and everyone will want to meet you. You will still have to put in plenty of effort to attract others. As a man you are in a massive majority on here.

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By *ampWithABrainWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

I'll rarely meet unverified people, as previously said reduces risk of having time (and effort) wasted.

However I do on occasion but they have to impress me in some way. I trust my gut.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP unfortunately as time has progressed over the years this site has become more and more well known, which in turn increases the amount of fantasists and fakers signing up.

As a result of this people are wary about those who are new and have no verifications. Added to the complexity are hose who have been on the site for quite sometime and have none either.

Get photo verified, site support and chat with people (trust me when I say “hey” or “hey fancy a fuck now” is not the way to start a conversation here)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'll rarely meet unverified people, as previously said reduces risk of having time (and effort) wasted.

However I do on occasion but they have to impress me in some way. I trust my gut. "

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"Started from the bottom now we here"

Stuck in my head now

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By *ampWithABrainWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Yea I especially won't meet those on for AGES with a shit profile, no veris and no pics seriously make an effort!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Started from the bottom now we here

Stuck in my head now "

.. the whole team fuggen here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can only go with my own cynicism but I assume all unverified 'women' are fake until proven otherwise. Even a single verification makes me suspicious -especially if account has been around for a while - as a veri'ed guy can easily set up a fake. Its a doddle to get verified so no reason why not to.

Maybe not such an issue with guys but it will show a track record of dependability.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not really, this site is chock full of timewasters and fake losers who seem to get off on some kind of thrill of lying about who they are.

Therefore its not really a surprise people want or expect verifications...especially considering even verified members can end up being fake/timewasters too sometimes.

Even as a single guy there is no excuse for not being verified. You have photo verification and every single modern laptop/phone has a front facing camera. And thats not even including the many free socials/swing clubs/adult cinemas you can attend and meet fellow Fabbers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People use Fab how they see fit.

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By *exicolaMan
over a year ago

West Lothian

Finding it really difficult as a new member at the minute.

I wish they would upgrade the chat so that you could show your face from your mobile.

I'm thinking a veri or two by webcam would be easier to achieve for me than a proper meet at the minute. That way it might make me a bit more appealing as being verified by other members as genuine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, it's not selfish but personally I think it's unnecessary.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No, it's not selfish but personally I think it's unnecessary. "

I love a good debate, some really good points. Personally I don't think it is selfish myself as I agree lots of males on here who waste people's time and also from a safety point of view. Definitely think it is a good idea to attend a social when one comes up. Just frustrating when I am a good guy!!

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By *mojeeCouple
over a year ago

Dunfermline

We ask for verifications because we got let down so many times by guts we gave a chance to but didn't show or made lame excuses. At least if someone has veris then it shows to us that they donate least turn up for planned meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been let down twice in the last month both from people with verifications. I take no notice of it now

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By *uzz And WoodyCouple
over a year ago

Maidstone

I’ve never understood why people would refuse to get a green flag? There’s no harm in having one and people send out the wrong signals when refusing to get one. That said, everything can be faked on here. But personally, we do like a flag. It builds confidence.

Mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its chicken and egg scenario, people want you to have veri to meet, but then you cant get a veri due this lol.

I joined previously in 2011 and had a great year of meets with over 10 diff cpls and fems,but then left and rejoined 6 months ago but all from 2011 no longer around, so although had meets in past no veris are meaning no play

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

Don't go mad with them either once you get one it will be a verification that you are who you say you are in your profile.

We have started looking at people's veri's now to see who they have met previously before deciding if they are for us.

It's a minefield and you can never please everyone.

Good luck OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't meet anyone that's not verified

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By *INGLEBBWWoman
over a year ago

ocala

No, its smart

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well looking up the definition of selfish you could maybe argue that yes it is. But it's up to people however they want to choose who they do and don't meet.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

It's precisely for this reason that when I joined fab I would just be on the forums and perving, but not really messaging anyone. I took it upon myself to go to clubs on my own to get a veri, and only then began to reach out to people. Laborious process that has fortunately paid off well and has culminated in sexy friends, amazing meets and with the best, I believe, still to come

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By *igJandTheBlondeCouple
over a year ago

Kings Hill

It's not that hard to get verified surely? A lot of ours have come from socials in clubs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Verifications (meet & photo) don't prove anything. Funny when people think they do.

I use my own common sense when choosing who to meet.

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By *exy sandra deeWoman
over a year ago

telford

Its purely a safety issue for me as a single woman. A veri or two at least proves that he is who he says he is and hopefully hes not an axe murderer! Safety first ladies x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its purely a safety issue for me as a single woman. A veri or two at least proves that he is who he says he is and hopefully hes not an axe murderer! Safety first ladies x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are on Fab for our own selfish reasons. That doesn't mean we are selfish people, and we treat our Fab friends with the utmost respect and courtesy, putting thought into their needs as well as our own. However, we are selfish enough to regard a complete stranger who is unverified as not our problem.

Mrs

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By *oubyLoverWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire


"Yea I especially won't meet those on for AGES with a shit profile, no veris and no pics seriously make an effort! "

It doesn't take much to attend a social, meet people and get verified

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax


"Verifications (meet & photo) don't prove anything. Funny when people think they do.

I use my own common sense when choosing who to meet. "

This and the one time i was stood up on my single profile,he was well verified.

Miss

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over a year ago

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