FabSwingers.com forum: Identifying timewasters

By *orksCouple25 OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

There are many things about couples profiles that suggest it’s a timewaster ( usually a guy wanking to photos) .Here are a few examples .

Says joined over a year ago but profile wording hasn’t changed over that time so starts with ‘New to this ...,

No verifications ,not even socials (yes you can choose to hide some or all of your verifications if you don’t want everyone to know your business but surely worth showing just a couple of family recent ones .

Verifications and the last one was 2014.

One line profiles

A face photo of the female half and she looks like a perfect supermodel

Any more suggestions ?

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By *ugarandspice9569Couple
over a year ago

Doncaster

Messaging couples and the female is always busy or out or not available etc.

I know in some cases it's the males that look after the profiles but Mrs has to get involved a bit.

Also swapped kiks with couples and 'Mrs doesn't have kik so we'll both chat through me

Hmmmmm

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley

The easiest way to identify fakes of that type is to ask to see them on cam.

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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago

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We don't spend that much time messaging on here.

We tend to find those that try to take you off site straight away are Timewasters.

We basically ask early on, if the other party will meet at a club.

If no - move on

If yes - ask them to let us know when they are going maybe we'll bump into them. (At no point do we guarantee any play though).

That's about our convo complete.

If they are a no show, not like their pics, not for us once we've met in person - there's a club full of others to at least socialise with.

Keeps time wasting to a minimum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had one a few days ago, asked to speak on kik but "they" only had the one account between them, then she was at work so couldn't send a live pic. Then kept asking for pics and vids to show her later and convince her to meet us. We very quickly realised he was a wanker, but had our fun

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By *hatterley64Couple
over a year ago

Hertford

"The easiest way to identify fakes of that type is to ask to see them on cam.

We will never talk on cam. Just our choice. But we're not fakes!

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By *ust Us TogetherCouple
over a year ago

Newport

We don't send face pics, we won't Cam, rarely update our profile and will not go to a local club.....we must be fakes as well then!!

We have a good time meeting people and they have all been good meets with 2 exceptions over a good number of years on here.

We do get timewasters, pic collectors and wankers, who get off, trying to get us to meet, it's part of the game unfortunately and can be frustrating....

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By *limaxinnylonCouple
over a year ago

CHESTER

Girl, girl chat where the female half is never free. Also had my wife wants me to come round it's a fantasy of hers but when asked if I could speak to her to discuss exactly what type of fantasy she wanted me to act out she was too shy to chat! Ha!

Jayne xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The easiest way to identify fakes of that type is to ask to see them on cam.

We will never talk on cam. Just our choice. But we're not fakes!"

We don’t use kik and would never go on cam but we’re far from fake. We message on here and if we plan a meet we give the male halfs phone number out to finalise the meet once we have met we are happy to do a group WhatsApp but wouldn’t give the females number out until a meet had happened just in case it was some fake profile. But normally with the thinks op point out you can tell a fake quickly enough

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By *orksCouple25 OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

Once we have filtered out the obvious timewasters just by reading their profile we then filter out the more crafty/clever timewasters guys by asking for a female to female phone conversation.

It’s great entertainment seeing the excuses by text or Fab message why the female half isn’t in this 21st century even able to hold a simple phone conversation with another woman !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Question is how do you know a profile is fake. I mean it's been difficult for me to get a chat going with a lady or a couple as they think I'm a fake I know it's provably because I hide my profile but I always send a picture on messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Question is how do you know a profile is fake. I mean it's been difficult for me to get a chat going with a lady or a couple as they think I'm a fake I know it's provably because I hide my profile but I always send a picture on messages."

Do you really need someone to tell you the solution???

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By *w.markMan
over a year ago

north west town

As a single male on here it is difficult to get beyond the default setting of many couples and fems that I am just another timewaster or fake. I accept that is the nature of things.

But please bear in mind I have messaged many "couples and fems " that have been fictitious.

It is sometimes hard to accept seeing messages deleted by those who are genuine because they are overwhelmed by mail from idiots.

The most obvious symptoms of fakes are;

Couples lack of fem pics. Sorry it might be politically incorrect but it's their biggest "selling" point.

Dodgy looking pics.

Couples who's fem is unavailable but I can play alone. Yes this can be genuine but not often.

No verifications. I am not mad hot on the trend for explicit verifications. But after some time even if diplayed without being public can't be too much to ask.

Grammar. I will probably post this and realise I have made the same mistake, but the Neanderthals on here will let themselves down in the way the fail to express themselves. Having said that, I have ballsed up on that.

Repeated messages after a no and a lack of decorum.

I am not a saint and have been blocked by simple errors bu the disingenuous ruin for all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

really ?? who cares im here for fun not to check others grammer

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By *w.markMan
over a year ago

north west town

I didn't mean it that literally

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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago

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That's not why we wouldn't hold a conversation with you.

There's no doubt in our mind that you're a single guy.

However the profile would give us no reason to strike up a conversation with you.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Apparently I'm a blunt and arrogant timewaster, had a nice chat with a single guy who thought he was entitled to a meet when my profile states this..

"This profile is for mainly for keeping in touch with friends and forums.

Update 03/10/17

SINGLE GUYS...I'm not looking to meet you but happy to have a chat on here, thanks!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The easiest ways to know whether someone is a fake or a timewaster ....... won't chat on phone, refuses to cam and or won't meet for a drink!! But nothing is full proof, I've done all of the above and still been stood up for a meet!!

On the other hand some couples and males (not had a female do it yet) tend to scream 'timewaster or fake' when they're turned down! Rejection is hard to deal with for some people and I've been on the receiving end of being called a timewaster a few times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

they think you're a fake what?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No matter what precautions you take...they will eventually waste your time. If thats the game they want to play then they will...just depends how good they are at it. How many threads like this now?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We won’t cam as it can be recorded but with the amount of verifications we have if you don’t think we are real then you have a issue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Define a timewaster?

The vast majority of couples never meet for a number of reasons - one of the main ones being that this is a numbers game - if you want to meet a guy/girl/couple you speak to say 5, and whittle it down. Then you have to work out logistics, and the drop out rate/being let down - remember every other person is doing the same thing so the odds shorten all the time.

If you're talking to one couple, that couple is talking to another couple, and then another couple etc etc.....it's diluted down the food chain over and over....and at some point you drop out of the game.....so do they become a time waster?

No, it's just the numbers on here dictate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Define a timewaster?

No, it's just the numbers on here dictate.

A timewaster is someone that doesn't show up to a meet

A fake is someone that uses a diff sex or says they're a couple when their single

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By *orksCouple25 OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Define a timewaster?

No, it's just the numbers on here dictate.

A timewaster is someone that doesn't show up to a meet

A fake is someone that uses a diff sex or says they're a couple when their single "

We tend to disagree although it’s probably just a matter of semantics. To us timewasters (because they waste our time) are the guys who contact us on here posing as couples to collect material to wank to .

We have never ever gone to a meeting with a couple and they just haven’t turned up and that’s because we make sure the two females speak on the phone at some stage beforehand so we know she is aware of the online activity and the plan to meet .

People not turning up to us would be far more than timewasters ,and more like complete and utter C***s !

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By *rmitageMan
over a year ago

Galway

Re verification. I realise I'm new here but some many want meet verified but how do you do that when you are new ?

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By *lpha-and-FoxtrotCouple
over a year ago

Kettering

"We don't spend that much time messaging on here.

We tend to find those that try to take you off site straight away are Timewasters.

We basically ask early on, if the other party will meet at a club.

If no - move on

If yes - ask them to let us know when they are going maybe we'll bump into them. (At no point do we guarantee any play though).

That's about our convo complete.

If they are a no show, not like their pics, not for us once we've met in person - there's a club full of others to at least socialise with.

Keeps time wasting to a minimum."

We've adopted this approach for anyone we feel is likely not who they claim to be/a time waster.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Re verification. I realise I'm new here but some many want meet verified but how do you do that when you are new ?

I know a lot of women won't meet men who are not verified, i think its bloody stupid. A lot of fakes even have meet verifications anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are many things about couples profiles that suggest it’s a timewaster ( usually a guy wanking to photos) .Here are a few examples .

Says joined over a year ago but profile wording hasn’t changed over that time so starts with ‘New to this ...,

Verifications and the last one was 2014.

One line profiles

A face photo of the female half and she looks like a perfect supermodel

Any more suggestions ?

Erm............ about 75% of the couples on here - full stop

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By *elshcouple91Couple
over a year ago

Llandudno

"The easiest way to identify fakes of that type is to ask to see them on cam.

This

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By *orksCouple25 OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

Another warning sign of a man hoovering up wanking material is the ‘single female ‘ profiles present over a year with no verifications.

What are the chances of a single woman on here with 100 x the number single men or couples couples on here looking for single women , not actually having one meeting in over a year ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When the couples profile states that the couple 'only plays together,' but the man constantly sends messages asking for one on one meets with other females, and is always camming solo with his dick out.

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley

We won’t cam as it can be recorded but with the amount of verifications we have if you don’t think we are real then you have a issue "

It doesn't matter if it's recorded. There's no need to show faces or even be naked to prove you're not a guy posing as a female or a couple. The mere suggestion that you want to see them on cam before going any further will send most fakes of this type packing.

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By *orksCouple25 OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

Other red lights are the sentences on couples profiles ‘male only playing at the moment’ or ‘ male has persission to play solo’ ’

Bet the lady if there is one hasn’t got a clue !

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By *ighnboxCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

What makes a time waster does the rejected guy/couple accuse the person doing the rejection/no thanks email a time waster....

We average 300 emails a DAY and spend 4 hours a day answering them and we do answer them all

We only meet 2-6 meets a YEAR work them odds out ...but hay have to be in it to win it

Now to get to know some one to see if you click/like them you have to chat if at the end of that there not right for you and its a no from you...are you a time waster no lol....but bet they think you are

As for fakes so so easy

Have they verifications ?

Have they been Photo verified by the site ?

View them on cam a good one

and what would APPEAR the simplest one the phone call.....ha not all ways so

We have called so called couples when there meant to BOTH be there and guess what its a guy....with the excuse "oh she just popped out" or "she just sorting the children" Then tries to get all dirty with Mary...

Thers a lot to be said for MMF meets lol guys are not fakes in general and DO turn up when pussy is on offer

Couples are the pain and even when it does get as far as meeting.....How many of us have been in that situation when you can tell as sweet and sexy as the other lady is she isn't really into it all she just doing it to keep hubby happy....

Fakes, bull shitters, time wasters, un willing wives, pic collectors, dreamers, wana be's

Thats just unfortunately part of swinging you can cut them down but not out

BUT WE ALL STILL HERE LOL

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By *orksCouple25 OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

Another sure giveaway of a timewaster is the classic two and a half words ...... ‘any more pics?’

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Another sure giveaway of a timewaster is the classic two and a half words ...... ‘any more pics?’"
exactly this

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By *irtycpl7980Couple
over a year ago

Northumberland

"The easiest way to identify fakes of that type is to ask to see them on cam.

We will never talk on cam. Just our choice. But we're not fakes!"

This is also us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can now send a picture with messages surely this will identify if there a fake.

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