FabSwingers.com forum: Married

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Totally understandable that people on here are not interested in married men who are playing away.

However thought I'd post on here to try and find some people that aren't judgemental and don't mind playing with married men.

Any on here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Totally understandable that people on here are not interested in married men who are playing away.

However thought I'd post on here to try and find some people that aren't judgemental and don't mind playing with married men.

Any on here? "

My wife doesn't mind me playing on my own. But as you say a lot of people refuse to even chat once they know I'm married. Surley if the wife is happy for her husband to have extra marital fun then that's all that matters,after all we're all here for fun only,I've been married for over thirty years & am not going to leave my wife for someone I find on here.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Unfortunately without speaking to your wives to confirm the fact that they are happy for you to be having sex with others, we only have your word for it. That's why many would stop speaking and not meet you.

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By *ornylittlesubWoman
over a year ago

Grangemouth

"Totally understandable that people on here are not interested in married men who are playing away.

However thought I'd post on here to try and find some people that aren't judgemental and don't mind playing with married men.

Any on here? "

Not wanting to play with married men isnt judgemental, its a choice! Just like you make yours, we all do!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Totally understandable that people on here are not interested in married men who are playing away.

However thought I'd post on here to try and find some people that aren't judgemental and don't mind playing with married men.

Any on here?

Not wanting to play with married men isnt judgemental, its a choice! Just like you make yours, we all do!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Sorry probably didn't make it clear. My wife doesn't know I'm on here. So yes I'm cheating on my wife...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's a lot of people that are fine with fucking married people.

Bear in mind that many (most?) men find it difficult getting meets though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Totally understandable that people on here are not interested in married men who are playing away.

However thought I'd post on here to try and find some people that aren't judgemental and don't mind playing with married men.

Any on here? "

Ever been cheated on OP? Well it ain't pretty, so i will be judgemental all I want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I won't meet anyone with a partner let alone married, hence I get few meets but I am not changing for them.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Totally understandable that people on here are not interested in married men who are playing away.

However thought I'd post on here to try and find some people that aren't judgemental and don't mind playing with married men.

Any on here?

And nothing about being married on your profile...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And that is despite having an open relationship when I was married

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

You need to just be honest with the people you want yo meet so that they can make informed choices and suck it up.

For unattached men it's hard to get meets so it stands to reason it's harder for married men.

What you must never do is mislead anyone simply to get a fuck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Totally understandable that people on here are not interested in married men who are playing away.

However thought I'd post on here to try and find some people that aren't judgemental and don't mind playing with married men.

Any on here?

And nothing about being married on your profile..."

Does state he's married unless he's just put that up on his profile.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

"Sorry probably didn't make it clear. My wife doesn't know I'm on here. So yes I'm cheating on my wife..."

Serious question. Why do you and others tell the truth on here about being married? You're already deceiving your wife so I can't see you would have moral qualms about lying to randoms on the Internet. Given that saying you are attached will drastically lessen your chance of a meet being honest to people to whom you have no moral obligation seems a bit daft.

So why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know some married men that do really well on here, one in particular that does better than you can imagine.

I don't have a problem with married men, but I don't like people slagging off their partners on here.

Ginger

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

"Totally understandable that people on here are not interested in married men who are playing away.

However thought I'd post on here to try and find some people that aren't judgemental and don't mind playing with married men.

Any on here? "

You can't assume everyone is the same... I don't care what you are ...that is your risk after all.

The reason I don't really go for attached people is hey can't deliver on availability what I seek.

Simple.

Doesn't make judgmental

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Totally understandable that people on here are not interested in married men who are playing away.

However thought I'd post on here to try and find some people that aren't judgemental and don't mind playing with married men.

Any on here?

And nothing about being married on your profile..."
he's called bored husband Sherlock

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

"You need to just be honest with the people you want yo meet so that they can make informed choices and suck it up.

For unattached men it's hard to get meets so it stands to reason it's harder for married men.

What you must never do is mislead anyone simply to get a fuck. "

If he lies to his wife why should he feel any moral obligation to be honest with strangers?

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Sorry probably didn't make it clear. My wife doesn't know I'm on here. So yes I'm cheating on my wife...

So why? "

So the people the meet can have the choice of whether to meet them!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I don't mean people are judgemental just by choosing not to meet attached guys. I'm on about the people that give you abuse when you tell them you're attached

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Totally understandable that people on here are not interested in married men who are playing away.

However thought I'd post on here to try and find some people that aren't judgemental and don't mind playing with married men.

Any on here? "

I prefer not to play with married me that doesn't make me judgemental!! It's because I like to be able to make some of the meet decisions ....... where, when etc. Married men tend to need to sneak about and mostly want the meet on their terms, I like simple fun

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

"Sorry probably didn't make it clear. My wife doesn't know I'm on here. So yes I'm cheating on my wife...

So why?

So the people the meet can have the choice of whether to meet them!"

Yes, but my question is why you would feel any moral obligation to give strangers that choice when you are prepared to deceive your life partner about something very important to her.

Obviously you and I would like people to be honest with us, but from the point of view of your married cheater being honest seems daft.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having a preference is being judgemental??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Totally understandable that people on here are not interested in married men who are playing away.

However thought I'd post on here to try and find some people that aren't judgemental and don't mind playing with married men.

Any on here?

You can't assume everyone is the same... I don't care what you are ...that is your risk after all.

The reason I don't really go for attached people is hey can't deliver on availability what I seek.

Simple.

Doesn't make judgmental

Exactly

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"You need to just be honest with the people you want yo meet so that they can make informed choices and suck it up.

For unattached men it's hard to get meets so it stands to reason it's harder for married men.

What you must never do is mislead anyone simply to get a fuck.

If he lies to his wife why should he feel any moral obligation to be honest with strangers? "

People always raise this question of honesty and I do get the disparity between being honest with their partners and being honest with people they fuck but the reality is nothing we say is going to make them be honest (I have learnt this the hard way!) but as long as there are married people on this site I would like for them to make their situation clear so that I can choose whether or not I play with them. Thats as much as I can do to control the situation.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"I don't mean people are judgemental just by choosing not to meet attached guys. I'm on about the people that give you abuse when you tell them you're attached

You need to tell them? Surely the username is a giveaway and they can just delete your message?

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"Sorry probably didn't make it clear. My wife doesn't know I'm on here. So yes I'm cheating on my wife...

So why?

So the people the meet can have the choice of whether to meet them!

Yes, but my question is why you would feel any moral obligation to give strangers that choice when you are prepared to deceive your life partner about something very important to her.

Obviously you and I would like people to be honest with us, but from the point of view of your married cheater being honest seems daft. "

Yes that baffles me as well. Lie to the wife but not a random stranger on the Internet

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

"You need to just be honest with the people you want yo meet so that they can make informed choices and suck it up.

For unattached men it's hard to get meets so it stands to reason it's harder for married men.

What you must never do is mislead anyone simply to get a fuck.

If he lies to his wife why should he feel any moral obligation to be honest with strangers?

We would all like people to be honest with us but that's not my point.

By definition the cheating swinger is prepared to lie about important things to people close to him. Thus he can have no moral qualms about lying to strangers on here. As being honest about his marital status will dramatically reduce his chances, the rational married swinger would lie and say he is single.

Many do do that. I am curious as to why people like the OP don't lie.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I've spoken to guys on here that are married and cheating, I don't wish to meet them as the majority have not been honest with me from the start of the conversation. If for some reason I didn't find out till meeting I would walk away and block them. Surely I have a right to make choices about who I meet or are preferences not allowed?

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple
over a year ago

Bedworth

"I don't mean people are judgemental just by choosing not to meet attached guys. I'm on about the people that give you abuse when you tell them you're attached

Nobody has the right to give you abuse for the choices you make on fab or in your marriage!

If you receive abusive messages on here you should report them to admin and let them deal with it

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"Totally understandable that people on here are not interested in married men who are playing away.

However thought I'd post on here to try and find some people that aren't judgemental and don't mind playing with married men.

Any on here? "

Do the decent thing, grow a pair and leave her.

Let her find a decent guy that won't cheat on her so she can enjoy her life.

Other opinions are available but that's mine

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I don't lie on here because with me being married it is hard to arrange meets as it has already been stated. Therefore if I lie it will become obvious that I am attached and the person I am messaging will no longer want to meet due to being deceived?

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"I don't mean people are judgemental just by choosing not to meet attached guys. I'm on about the people that give you abuse when you tell them you're attached

Nobody has the right to give you abuse for the choices you make on fab or in your marriage!

If you receive abusive messages on here you should report them to admin and let them deal with it "

If someone's life has been devastated by being cheated on they've every right to voice there opinion

What's wrong with him using the block button

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"You need to just be honest with the people you want yo meet so that they can make informed choices and suck it up.

For unattached men it's hard to get meets so it stands to reason it's harder for married men.

What you must never do is mislead anyone simply to get a fuck.

If he lies to his wife why should he feel any moral obligation to be honest with strangers?

We would all like people to be honest with us but that's not my point.

Many do do that. I am curious as to why people like the OP don't lie. "

Very good point here, perhaps they want to give us the choice?

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple
over a year ago

Bedworth

"I don't mean people are judgemental just by choosing not to meet attached guys. I'm on about the people that give you abuse when you tell them you're attached

Nobody has the right to give you abuse for the choices you make on fab or in your marriage!

If you receive abusive messages on here you should report them to admin and let them deal with it

If someone's life has been devastated by being cheated on they've every right to voice there opinion

What's wrong with him using the block button"

An opinion is fine, abuse is not!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have met loads of married guys and women off this site and see nothing wrong with it. There are far too many holier than thou types on here

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"I don't mean people are judgemental just by choosing not to meet attached guys. I'm on about the people that give you abuse when you tell them you're attached

Nobody has the right to give you abuse for the choices you make on fab or in your marriage!

If you receive abusive messages on here you should report them to admin and let them deal with it

If someone's life has been devastated by being cheated on they've every right to voice there opinion

What's wrong with him using the block button

An opinion is fine, abuse is not!"

One persons opinion is another's abuse, what's actually been said and why can't he block them

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"I have met loads of married guys and women off this site and see nothing wrong with it. There are far too many holier than thou types on here "

Let's see if your opinion changes if you ever lose your house,access to kids etc through someone cheating on you

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

"I don't lie on here because with me being married it is hard to arrange meets as it has already been stated. Therefore if I lie it will become obvious that I am attached and the person I am messaging will no longer want to meet due to being deceived?"

Fair point. But you can always say you work shifts or some such. That will increase your chances.

Many people do take a moralistic view towards cheaters. Given single men are already up against it being open about your marital status will send you to the back of the queue.

We work on the assumption that most alleged single guys are in fact attached. We have a don't ask don't tell policy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well if people arn't prepared to accept my word that my wife is ok with me meeting others then thats their problem not mine.

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple
over a year ago

Bedworth

"I don't mean people are judgemental just by choosing not to meet attached guys. I'm on about the people that give you abuse when you tell them you're attached

Nobody has the right to give you abuse for the choices you make on fab or in your marriage!

If you receive abusive messages on here you should report them to admin and let them deal with it

If someone's life has been devastated by being cheated on they've every right to voice there opinion

What's wrong with him using the block button

An opinion is fine, abuse is not!

One persons opinion is another's abuse, what's actually been said and why can't he block them"

Actually no it's not.

I have an opinion, it will probably differ from some people's but a difference of opinion is not abuse, how you react to that difference can be.

I would not play with someone who is attached and playing behind their partners back as I feel it's wrong. I also believe that those doing so should have it on their profile so that we can make an informed choice. Swinging for us is about being open and honest!

However, if we receive a message from someone who is cheating, then we would simply delete it and move on.

What gives anyone the right to send nasty messages?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't mean people are judgemental just by choosing not to meet attached guys. I'm on about the people that give you abuse when you tell them you're attached

Nobody has the right to give you abuse for the choices you make on fab or in your marriage!

If you receive abusive messages on here you should report them to admin and let them deal with it

If someone's life has been devastated by being cheated on they've every right to voice there opinion

What's wrong with him using the block button

An opinion is fine, abuse is not!

One persons opinion is another's abuse, what's actually been said and why can't he block them

Actually no it's not.

I have an opinion, it will probably differ from some people's but a difference of opinion is not abuse, how you react to that difference can be.

However, if we receive a message from someone who is cheating, then we would simply delete it and move on.

What gives anyone the right to send nasty messages?"

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Bored husband at 26, wait until you've been married for 20+ years!!

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Ooh it's soooo not a case of being judgemental!

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

but fuck it I'll judge away to my hearts content...

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By *_jkCouple
over a year ago

glasgow

Weve yet to hear a chat in a club when guys get involved to see if they have a wife at home. Not sure if that's relevant or just different rules at a club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Married men are the best fun more of a thrill

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I will admit I am always confused why someone would marry so young, yet break their vows at such an early stage, if your not ready to settle, why marry? It does truly baffle me, but as long as I have the information to hand, I can at least make my own choice, rather than being lead to believe a lie, so all I would ask is all attached people should be clear with their profiles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I appreciate it when it's written in the profile. My choice then to message or not. Have to say it doesn't put me off.

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By *arkWeightMan
over a year ago

London

Much weirdness.... Not had sex with my wife for longer than I can remember.... Only reason I'm still in the relationship is to provide for my kids.... What happens (if/when) I get lucky doesn't effect them... Yeah I'm a lying muppet, and I'm still frustrated... Somebody shoot me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My husband is allowed to play how ever, were ever and when ever he likes.

He talks about me on his profile and my name is on his profile and he is on my profile. He finds it hard to get meets but enjoys the club scene he does better at clubs than on here xx

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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

"Totally understandable that people on here are not interested in married men who are playing away.

However thought I'd post on here to try and find some people that aren't judgemental and don't mind playing with married men.

Any on here? "

Never bothers me

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By *ampWithABrainWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Even if you set aside the moral issues, there are practical ones (difficult to arrange times to meet, married person can't Accom) and personal safety ones, I live just with my daughter I don't need a betrayed angry wife tracking me down possibly to my home or worse mistaking my daughter for who her husband has been cheating with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We much prefer married men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Weve yet to hear a chat in a club when guys get involved to see if they have a wife at home. Not sure if that's relevant or just different rules at a club. "

I think it's because they are there ready to fuck.

On here the men may be just able to chat. They may never be able to get away. The message trail may lead her to phone numbers or addresses- as Eve72 said, no-one wants an angry wronged wife causing them problems.

In a club she can find out where he went but she'd never know who he fucked or be able to stalk them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Even if you set aside the moral issues, there are practical ones (difficult to arrange times to meet, married person can't Accom) and personal safety ones, I live just with my daughter I don't need a betrayed angry wife tracking me down possibly to my home or worse mistaking my daughter for who her husband has been cheating with. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry probably didn't make it clear. My wife doesn't know I'm on here. So yes I'm cheating on my wife..."

We don't judge but seriously can't be arsed with the faff that inevitably cones with meeting married people...and yes, that includes women...

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

"Totally understandable that people on here are not interested in married men who are playing away.

However thought I'd post on here to try and find some people that aren't judgemental and don't mind playing with married men.

Any on here? "

Every one is judgemental. What you mean is people who are willing to judge the same way as you.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Fair point. But you can always say you work shifts or some such. That will increase your chances.

Many people do take a moralistic view towards cheaters. Given single men are already up against it being open about your marital status will send you to the back of the queue.

We work on the assumption that most alleged single guys are in fact attached. We have a don't ask don't tell policy. "

By telling OP to say he works shifts to cover up the fact that he is married is disgusting, why are you encouraging married men to lie and taking away choices from others?

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

Pretty sure swinging and cheating aren't compatible and was never what the scene was meant to be

Plenty of sites like Ashley Maddison where op should be trying as everyone is in the same situation ?

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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago

swingers clubs

I'm not sharing mine, if you're not sharing yours!

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By *ob_nwMan
over a year ago

Cumbria

I like the idea of a married woman, with or with out the husband permission. and it's only some thing that has just started to get me turned on !

now before I get all the abuse this is just a fantasy thing and not some thing I have done, it's one too get turned on by the idea and another thing in reality, but I find the married thing a turn on.

its sounds as if this is more a man thing that women ? or is there any ladies that get turned on by married men ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like the idea of a married woman, with or with out the husband permission. and it's only some thing that has just started to get me turned on !

its sounds as if this is more a man thing that women ? or is there any ladies that get turned on by married men ? "

I don't have a problem with sleeping with married men, but I don't get an extra kick out of it because they are married. I don't really understand my logic on this but getting a kick out of someone being married seems a bit spiteful really.

Ginger

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By *ob_nwMan
over a year ago

Cumbria

"I like the idea of a married woman, with or with out the husband permission. and it's only some thing that has just started to get me turned on !

its sounds as if this is more a man thing that women ? or is there any ladies that get turned on by married men ?

Ginger "

is it the forbidden that makes it more of a turn on ?? I am not being spiteful as it is just a fantasy in my head like lots of things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like the idea of a married woman, with or with out the husband permission. and it's only some thing that has just started to get me turned on !

its sounds as if this is more a man thing that women ? or is there any ladies that get turned on by married men ?

Ginger

is it the forbidden that makes it more of a turn on ?? I am not being spiteful as it is just a fantasy in my head like lots of things "

It's just simply if I fancy them or not, the fact that they are married is insignificant

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By *andom2chatMan
over a year ago

A Galaxy Far, Far Away & Spain

"I'm not sharing mine, if you're not sharing yours!"

That made me lol.

As for the OP... up to you dude. Just focus on the ones that are cool with it.

The only judgements I worry about are my own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not sharing mine, if you're not sharing yours!"

Using people as currency to get sex. Swinging 2017.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it clearly states at the start of my profile what i'm up to. rather tell the truth than lie, honesty is the best policy ! !

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

There are specific sites for married who want to play away.

You would have more chance on there.

This is a swingers site so you are in the wrong market place OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Totally understandable that people on here are not interested in married men who are playing away.

However thought I'd post on here to try and find some people that aren't judgemental and don't mind playing with married men.

Any on here? "

Welcome to Fabswingers where you will find the most judgemental people on the planet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don’t mind... we don’t asked questions.. not for us to judge.. my hubby knows and is happy with it xx

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I'm happy to meet married men but I've still got find them attractive etc.

I wouldn't meet a married man of the OP's age though because really he should be still in that lovely honeymoon phase.

Someone who was on their honeymoon messaged me once wanting to arrange a meet!! I must admit even my morals kicked in then

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm happy to meet married men but I've still got find them attractive etc.

I wouldn't meet a married man of the OP's age though because really he should be still in that lovely honeymoon phase.

Someone who was on their honeymoon messaged me once wanting to arrange a meet!! I must admit even my morals kicked in then

We have been together a very long time. So yes I am young but the honeymoon stage is well and truly over.. unfortunately

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"There are specific sites for married who want to play away.

You would have more chance on there.

This is a swingers site so you are in the wrong market place OP."

It's quite true; there are specific sites catering for marrieds looking to play away, and I've used one in particular very successfully

But there are plenty of people in Fab looking to meet marrieds too, for no-strings fun, they just don't shout about it on open forums. Be upfront with who you are in your profile OP, and have fun in here, as well as anywhere else

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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago

swingers clubs

"I'm not sharing mine, if you're not sharing yours!

Using people as currency to get sex. Swinging 2017. "

It was actually a tongue in cheek comment.

But the principle is there. We play with singles, and we play with couples.

We do not knowingly play with cheaters and we have not knowingly played with one part of a couple (with their partners blessing or not).

It is not using a person as currency for sex, it is our preferred method of play.

As a couple, we don't want to play separate, and we prefer not to play with one half of a couple.

If we are going to couple play, then we want to couple play. If that means missing out on sex because that's not what that couple wants, then so be it. No one is forced to play with us, and we don't ask anyone to change for us.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I'm happy to meet married men but I've still got find them attractive etc.

I wouldn't meet a married man of the OP's age though because really he should be still in that lovely honeymoon phase.

Someone who was on their honeymoon messaged me once wanting to arrange a meet!! I must admit even my morals kicked in then

We have been together a very long time. So yes I am young but the honeymoon stage is well and truly over.. unfortunately "

Really? That's very sad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are specific sites for married who want to play away.

You would have more chance on there.

This is a swingers site so you are in the wrong market place OP."

For Example.....?

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"I'm happy to meet married men but I've still got find them attractive etc.

I wouldn't meet a married man of the OP's age though because really he should be still in that lovely honeymoon phase.

Someone who was on their honeymoon messaged me once wanting to arrange a meet!! I must admit even my morals kicked in then

We have been together a very long time. So yes I am young but the honeymoon stage is well and truly over.. unfortunately "

The honeymoon stage doesn't last for ever for everyone,it's up to you both to look at things together! She's probably bored out of her head as well,well I can guarantee it!

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

"There are specific sites for married who want to play away.

You would have more chance on there.

This is a swingers site so you are in the wrong market place OP.

For Example.....?

We aren't allowed to name them on here but the initials AM are specifically for that market, just watch your credit card details don,t get stolen.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

Wrong genitals mate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

These threads come and go and everyone has their two penny's worth.

But I'm interested to know from people in this situation if it actually improves their life having meets or actually make everything far more complex?

To be honest, the whole starting a thread thing about it, suggests there's a lot going on in your head about the affair(excuse pun).

Go speak to a professional. Most opinions in here will be based on their experiences not yours.

You'll have the cheated on, the superior swinger brigade and the banter brigade amongst others.

You do what you do, I do what I do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Totally understandable that people on here are not interested in married men who are playing away.

However thought I'd post on here to try and find some people that aren't judgemental and don't mind playing with married men.

Any on here?

Not wanting to play with married men isnt judgemental, its a choice! Just like you make yours, we all do!

I’m pretty judgemental though

If you have permission I can prove... cool. Otherwise I don’t want to be part of anyone’s lies and deceit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Its not always that people who won't meet cheats are judgemental op.It just doesnt sit right with me and i'd hate it done to me,I admire the ones who are upfront about it though.

Lots of people will meet a married man/woman though.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"it clearly states at the start of my profile what i'm up to. rather tell the truth than lie, honesty is the best policy ! ! "

There's something innately ironic about this

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By *ntnCleoCouple
over a year ago

Dortmund (Germany) might travel!

"Totally understandable that people on here are not interested in married men who are playing away.

However thought I'd post on here to try and find some people that aren't judgemental and don't mind playing with married men.

I absolutely won't meet anyone if I know they are married and cheating. Female half here by the way. If you are in a relationship and you are looking for more then either get out or try and explore the possibility of doing this together. If you are not of like minds then you are probably not a good match. Being unfaithful and admitting such to your spouse can be dealt with. A 'mistake'can be dealt with. A lie is a whole different ball game. In an affair or a fling or a one night stand the worst betrayal of all is lying about it. A lie cannot be fixed or worked through.

That's just my personal opinion and it is from experience.

Any on here? "

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By *issyfaggotfayeTV/TS
over a year ago

Bolton

"I don't mean people are judgemental just by choosing not to meet attached guys. I'm on about the people that give you abuse when you tell them you're attached

Which is pretty much every woman commenting here, such prim and proper swingers exist?

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By *im and her 2017Couple
over a year ago

birmingham

We have and will again one regular even said it improved his sex life back at home

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You need to just be honest with the people you want yo meet so that they can make informed choices and suck it up.

For unattached men it's hard to get meets so it stands to reason it's harder for married men.

What you must never do is mislead anyone simply to get a fuck. "

Too right, I'm single but get labelled a cheat because I won't accommodate.

I don't want the nosey neighbours sticking their noses into my business

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

"Totally understandable that people on here are not interested in married men who are playing away.

However thought I'd post on here to try and find some people that aren't judgemental and don't mind playing with married men.

Any on here?

Not wanting to play with married men isnt judgemental, its a choice! Just like you make yours, we all do!

unfortunately if you don't do what other people want you to do, think like who they think or believe in what they believe then you are classed as judgemental, I get it all the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do unto others as what you would have done unto you"

Imagine the scene op. Your wife is on here searching for sex with randoms. Would you divorce her??

Not religious at all but feel we should treat people as we wish to be treated and cheats never prosper and all it's doing is making you into a liar. Lies tend to snowball and grow and twist and your life will change whether you care to accept and admit it or not.

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By *ntnCleoCouple
over a year ago

Dortmund (Germany) might travel!

Just watch Dr Foster to see what a lie does.... it may be a dramatization but I can assure you that the majority of women know more than you think. It's a great and awful portrayal of betrayal of the worst kind.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Values and projection are odd things, speak to my wife about it...

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By *ampWithABrainWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

I also don't understand staying in a clearly unhappy marriage

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By *andom2chatMan
over a year ago

A Galaxy Far, Far Away & Spain

"Totally understandable that people on here are not interested in married men who are playing away.

However thought I'd post on here to try and find some people that aren't judgemental and don't mind playing with married men.

Any on here? "

Apparently a few are not judgemental & have responded on here - as you requested.

Also apparently there’s ones, also on a thread which is of no interest to them, judging the heck outta the OP.

So, just focus on those who don’t mind married men playing away & do yer own thing OP. Good luck.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

""Do unto others as what you would have done unto you"

Imagine the scene op. Your wife is on here searching for sex with randoms. Would you divorce her??

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maybe she is on here already

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Sorry probably didn't make it clear. My wife doesn't know I'm on here. So yes I'm cheating on my wife..."

And if we don't want to meet you that doesn't make us judgemental, just doing what we want to

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Why is it always married men that complain on a forum, yet married women just go and do their thing, to me it come's across a 'woe is me' not an attractive trait!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are specific sites for married who want to play away.

You would have more chance on there.

This is a swingers site so you are in the wrong market place OP."

What a crock of shite!

I do way better on here than I ever did on the other more specific site.

I found the level of entitlement from some of the men was awful because they had to pay and I didn't.

Oh and FYI it maybe a swingers site but it also comes up under NSA google search which how I found it...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not sharing mine, if you're not sharing yours!"

This

We stay away from married/attached men because I've been on the receiving end of an unfaithful husband (my ex) the pain and devastation is crushing.

I suggest you speak to your wife/partner and invite them into the swinging world and both enjoy it!

Or is the OP unwilling to share his wife/partner??

When that question is asked it sheds a whole new light on the subject

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By *ittenbutnotshyCouple
over a year ago

North Manchester

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By *imetoexplore69Couple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

"Sorry probably didn't make it clear. My wife doesn't know I'm on here. So yes I'm cheating on my wife...

So why? "
that's a good question lol.

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By *ittenbutnotshyCouple
over a year ago

North Manchester

We instantly block guys who are married regardless of if they say their wives know or not. Can't be arsed wasting time to check if they're genuine as there are loads of others. If your openly cheating then you're scum and have no place in the swinging community. Judgemental enough?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We instantly block guys who are married regardless of if they say their wives know or not. Can't be arsed wasting time to check if they're genuine as there are loads of others. If your openly cheating then you're scum and have no place in the swinging community. Judgemental enough?"

Ditto and 100% agree.

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By *imetoexplore69Couple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

"There are specific sites for married who want to play away.

You would have more chance on there.

This is a swingers site so you are in the wrong market place OP.

What a crock of shite!

I do way better on here than I ever did on the other more specific site.

I found the level of entitlement from some of the men was awful because they had to pay and I didn't.

Oh and FYI it maybe a swingers site but it also comes up under NSA google search which how I found it...

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contrary to popular belief,woman and men are not equal so comparisons on success with dating/sex sites can't really be made.you have a vagina,that's all you need for success on any site

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

bedford

Lucky for me my wife does come with me to club and she lets people know face to face we play solo too .but we also find wives and husbands there with people other than their partners .some blatant others you could not tell.we dont question people at club we there to have fun .yes we have unknowingly played with married guys and ive had offers from married women .the hard part is trying to work out who is cheating .for instance on deliveries ive had women coming on to me where the husband has been in room and peeping through doors .so some could be like me and enjoy watching wife or knowing wife is playing .i draw the line at full blown affairs where people are married with children .as ive seen what that can do to familys

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By *imetoexplore69Couple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

"Why is it always married men that complain on a forum, yet married women just go and do their thing, to me it come's across a 'woe is me' not an attractive trait!

"
this

guys moan about how women don't get judged for it but fail to realise it's because the majority of there fellow blokes leave their morals at home and simply don't give a fuck if a woman is married and woman have the common sense to keep it quiet and not start threads about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just to add my penny worth. Mrs N has just been away for the weekend and throughout the weekend I came on Fab and cammed and stuff and had 3 offers to go and meet people. I decided not to, the basic reason being that If I had met and just supposing those people I met had got something, which I then gave her.I don't think I'd ever forgive myself. She is such a great person and really doesn't deserve that. Have a bit of control I thought, she deserves it.

I suppose my point is some people can be slightly forgiven because maybe they are with someone that has lost their libido or whatever and they don't have sex anyway so they are not putting that partner at risk, maybe that is acceptable. Just a thought to add to the melting pot.

I also hate trying to handle the guilt. Nope it's far better to keep it in your trousers in my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're only 26 and already bored in your marriage??

Rather than turning to swinging I'd be seriously questioning my life choices.

And to stay on topic, yes I'd meet married men, but not those who slag their partner off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just about covers it we think.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

"Sorry probably didn't make it clear. My wife doesn't know I'm on here. So yes I'm cheating on my wife..."

Totally uncool in my opinion.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

"I'm not sharing mine, if you're not sharing yours!

This

We stay away from married/attached men because I've been on the receiving end of an unfaithful husband (my ex) the pain and devastation is crushing.

I suggest you speak to your wife/partner and invite them into the swinging world and both enjoy it!

Or is the OP unwilling to share his wife/partner??

When that question is asked it sheds a whole new light on the subject

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You're only 26 and already bored in your marriage??

Rather than turning to swinging I'd be seriously questioning my life choices.

And to stay on topic, yes I'd meet married men, but not those who slag their partner off. "

So it's ok to cheat on their partner but not to slag them off ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont understand cheatin personally. If your not happy with your sex life speak to them about it or it wont change.

Or give them the dignity they deserve and leave them to find someone you would be happier with.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"You're only 26 and already bored in your marriage??

Rather than turning to swinging I'd be seriously questioning my life choices.

And to stay on topic, yes I'd meet married men, but not those who slag their partner off.

So it's ok to cheat on their partner but not to slag them off ?? "

Got to laugh haven't you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You're only 26 and already bored in your marriage??

Rather than turning to swinging I'd be seriously questioning my life choices.

And to stay on topic, yes I'd meet married men, but not those who slag their partner off.

So it's ok to cheat on their partner but not to slag them off ?? "

Completely depends on circumstances.

Someone in a loving but sexless marriage, where the wife/husband won't even discuss trying to find a way to to improve things, is completely different to someone screwing around just because he/she is bored and too much of a pussy to just end things.

Hard as it is to believe, but there are married people who dote on their partners, but don't want to to be forced into celibacy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You're only 26 and already bored in your marriage??

Rather than turning to swinging I'd be seriously questioning my life choices.

And to stay on topic, yes I'd meet married men, but not those who slag their partner off.

So it's ok to cheat on their partner but not to slag them off ??

Got to laugh haven't you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You're only 26 and already bored in your marriage??

Rather than turning to swinging I'd be seriously questioning my life choices.

And to stay on topic, yes I'd meet married men, but not those who slag their partner off.

So it's ok to cheat on their partner but not to slag them off ??

Completely depends on circumstances.

Hard as it is to believe, but there are married people who dote on their partners, but don't want to to be forced into celibacy. "

'I would meet married men But not married men that slag their wife off' you say that like your on some moral high ground! It was the oddest sentence I think I've actually read on fab

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By *orkshire ladyWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

I'm married and my hubby don't know I'm on here. Me bad x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm married and my hubby don't know I'm on here. Me bad x"

But so far away......and ageist!

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"You're only 26 and already bored in your marriage??

Rather than turning to swinging I'd be seriously questioning my life choices.

And to stay on topic, yes I'd meet married men, but not those who slag their partner off.

So it's ok to cheat on their partner but not to slag them off ??

Completely depends on circumstances.

Hard as it is to believe, but there are married people who dote on their partners, but don't want to to be forced into celibacy. "

I understand what you're saying,but they're still cheating at the end of the day. Anyone can give out a sob story,how the heck do you believe their story is true? By how convincing they are? How much they cry when they tell you they haven't had sex for 4 1/2 year's?

Cynical me doesn't believe anything a cheat say's.

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By *iss GalitzineWoman
over a year ago

Near Bath

My preference not to meet men without their partners consent. It annoys me that many use words like genuine and gentleman in their profile. Also many continue messaging after I have said no thankyou. How rude.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"I'm married and my hubby don't know I'm on here. Me bad x"

That's a coincidence there's a guy further up saying the same...

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"My preference not to meet men without their partners consent. It annoys me that many use words like genuine and gentleman in their profile. Also many continue messaging after I have said no thankyou. How rude."

You've forgotten the word 'honest'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Totally understandable that people on here are not interested in married men who are playing away.

However thought I'd post on here to try and find some people that aren't judgemental and don't mind playing with married men.

Any on here?

Not wanting to play with married men isnt judgemental, its a choice! Just like you make yours, we all do!

You can always tell the ones that are,out to cheat, and does not have permission.....as soon as you ask for their home number so that you can call the wife to check, they disappear quicker than Houdini

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

The ‘problem ‘ I find is that many couples- even if they play separately and with partner consent (or when they don’t have consent) often have their own set of rules that singles don’t usually have!

For instance - recently I had an all night meet with a very hot guy! After the sex was over (fairly early as he wasn’t feeling great!) he informed me that there was to be no cuddling or even touching during the night at any time - as cuddling was a ‘girlfriend ‘ thing!

I felt the night on ‘my own’ side of the bed feeling pretty shit - and first thing next morning he left before breakfast after giving me a brief hug!

There are loads of single guys on fab - so not sure I’d do that again!

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"The ‘problem ‘ I find is that many couples- even if they play separately and with partner consent (or when they don’t have consent) often have their own set of rules that singles don’t usually have!

I felt the night on ‘my own’ side of the bed feeling pretty shit - and first thing next morning he left before breakfast after giving me a brief hug!

There are loads of single guys on fab - so not sure I’d do that again!

That's pretty grim and why I stopped meeting,it does bugger all for the soul!

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

I felt the night on ‘my own’ side of the bed feeling pretty shit - and first thing next morning he left before breakfast after giving me a brief hug!

There are loads of single guys on fab - so not sure I’d do that again!

Refer him to an escort site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I felt the night on ‘my own’ side of the bed feeling pretty shit - and first thing next morning he left before breakfast after giving me a brief hug!

There are loads of single guys on fab - so not sure I’d do that again!

What an arse. This kind of thing puts me off meeting couples or men in a relationship already.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You're only 26 and already bored in your marriage??

Rather than turning to swinging I'd be seriously questioning my life choices.

And to stay on topic, yes I'd meet married men, but not those who slag their partner off.

So it's ok to cheat on their partner but not to slag them off ??

Completely depends on circumstances.

Hard as it is to believe, but there are married people who dote on their partners, but don't want to to be forced into celibacy.

Cynical me doesn't believe anything a cheat say's."

Your cynicism serves you well but do you really believe that is the only lie told on this site or in the swinging world....

Of course those pics are really me

I've never had an sti

I'll use a condom

Yes, I'll be there

Yes, we'll do this again

That was fun

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By *imetoexplore69Couple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

I felt the night on ‘my own’ side of the bed feeling pretty shit - and first thing next morning he left before breakfast after giving me a brief hug!

There are loads of single guys on fab - so not sure I’d do that again!

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why would he stay over in the first place then.would of been less awqward if he just left after the sex.think alot of couples like to keep stuff back for themselves for example my Mrs dosent like to kiss as for some reason it feels more intimite and something she likes to keep between us so obviously I will respect that.best thing you can do is discuss boundaries before meeting then that way you know where you stand.i see where you are coming olso have respect for the guy for sticking to what his Mrs wants even when he could of easily lied about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You're only 26 and already bored in your marriage??

Rather than turning to swinging I'd be seriously questioning my life choices.

And to stay on topic, yes I'd meet married men, but not those who slag their partner off.

So it's ok to cheat on their partner but not to slag them off ??

Completely depends on circumstances.

Hard as it is to believe, but there are married people who dote on their partners, but don't want to to be forced into celibacy.

'I would meet married men But not married men that slag their wife off' you say that like your on some moral high ground! It was the oddest sentence I think I've actually read on fab

You interpret me not being interested in meeting someone who slags their partner off because they're too much of a pussy to finish it, over meeting someone who dotes on their partner and is very happy in the relationship on the exception that their partner no longer wants sex, as taking a moral high ground.

No. It's someone who is in a very long term relationship, who has been in that very position. It's not having a moral high ground, it's having some understanding of what it's like to to force someone into celibacy and the issues it brings to an otherwise happy and loving relationship.

But you do you. You keep kidding yourself that everyone you've ever met off here is completely single, while keeping your 'moral high ground'.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"You're only 26 and already bored in your marriage??

Rather than turning to swinging I'd be seriously questioning my life choices.

And to stay on topic, yes I'd meet married men, but not those who slag their partner off.

So it's ok to cheat on their partner but not to slag them off ??

Completely depends on circumstances.

Hard as it is to believe, but there are married people who dote on their partners, but don't want to to be forced into celibacy.

Cynical me doesn't believe anything a cheat say's.

Your cynicism serves you well but do you really believe that is the only lie told on this site or in the swinging world....

Of course those pics are really me

I've never had an sti

I'll use a condom

Yes, I'll be there

Yes, we'll do this again

That was fun

Of course not.

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By *imetoexplore69Couple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

"You're only 26 and already bored in your marriage??

Rather than turning to swinging I'd be seriously questioning my life choices.

And to stay on topic, yes I'd meet married men, but not those who slag their partner off.

So it's ok to cheat on their partner but not to slag them off ??

Completely depends on circumstances.

Hard as it is to believe, but there are married people who dote on their partners, but don't want to to be forced into celibacy.

'I would meet married men But not married men that slag their wife off' you say that like your on some moral high ground! It was the oddest sentence I think I've actually read on fab

But you do you. You keep kidding yourself that everyone you've ever met off here is completely single, while keeping your 'moral high ground'.

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nobody is forced into celiciby just like nobody is forced into cheating.the only comparison is both are weak minded.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Unfortunately without speaking to your wives to confirm the fact that they are happy for you to be having sex with others, we only have your word for it. That's why many would stop speaking and not meet you."
Spot on .... we get lied too a lot here ... wife she know and then a call out off the blue I found your number on my husbands phone who are you ........... Yes had this and more then 4 times over my time here. Do I say ..? or do I say ask him ... or do I block..... after being lied too.? or say I meet him for sex and it could rip there life apart.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm married and my hubby don't know I'm on here. Me bad x"

Noted...proud moment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no problem meeting married men, it's not for me to judge their circumstances or police their morals. I prefer to be told though, and I'll always make sure they don't leave with a lipstick mark or stray ginger hair

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that couples when the wife agree s to their husband cheating on here is even worse: what sort of a relationship do they have?

Not the kind I want!!

Just my opinion which we are all entitled to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have no problem meeting married men, it's not for me to judge their circumstances or police their morals. I prefer to be told though, and I'll always make sure they don't leave with a lipstick mark or stray ginger hair "
And if they find your number on the phone or know something up and stork him and you Its not nice. I had both she turned up at the hotel .. he run off into the sunset never too be seen again .......

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"I think that couples when the wife agree s to their husband cheating on here is even worse: what sort of a relationship do they have?

Not the kind I want!!

Just my opinion which we are all entitled to "

But surely if the wife agrees then that's not cheating. I see cheating as the other partner not knowing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think that couples when the wife agree s to their husband cheating on here is even worse: what sort of a relationship do they have?

Not the kind I want!!

Just my opinion which we are all entitled to "

If the wife agrees to their husband being on here, then it’s not cheating

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"I think that couples when the wife agree s to their husband cheating on here is even worse: what sort of a relationship do they have?

Not the kind I want!!

Just my opinion which we are all entitled to

But surely if the wife agrees then that's not cheating. I see cheating as the other partner not knowing."

If the other half knows then it's not cheating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You need to just be honest with the people you want yo meet so that they can make informed choices and suck it up.

For unattached men it's hard to get meets so it stands to reason it's harder for married men.

What you must never do is mislead anyone simply to get a fuck.

If he lies to his wife why should he feel any moral obligation to be honest with strangers?

Agree

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By *r.ringMan
over a year ago

totton

I think it’s hard to get the balance right. I have a very good relationship at home. But yes a but she has a medical condition that makes a sex life nearly impossible. So cos she loves me I’m able to be here. I’m not cheating but out of respect to her I’m not shouting from the roof tops. I’ve met some fantastic women on here. Two that spring to mind that didn’t judge me. But sadly stoped seeing me as they stated to get feelings for me and knew I was married and that wasn’t going to change. Now if you don’t want to meet cos of xyz....... that’s up to you. It you send me shitty text crack on. I’m happy at home with my wife and kids and I love my family. I’m never going to change that. I’m here for a sex life. It’s a sex life site!!!! Isn’t it ??? I have a thick skin and a loving heart. Someone said “ until you have walked in a mans shoes then do not judge him “ every one has there own situation. Don’t they ??????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

personally.

If i get a message and the profile is honest and open and they are totally upfront then i can make my own opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After the message I got before clearly some people aren’t happy with married men meeting on their own (despite my profile making things pretty clear), funny though, guys are quite happy to meet a women regardless of their marital status and find it even hornier that they are doing some one else’s wife without the knowledge of their husband. Morals don’t seem to apply to most men it would seem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Totally understandable that people on here are not interested in married men who are playing away.

However thought I'd post on here to try and find some people that aren't judgemental and don't mind playing with married men.

Any on here?

And nothing about being married on your profile... he's called bored husband Sherlock "

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By *imetoexplore69Couple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

"I think it’s hard to get the balance right. I have a very good relationship at home. But yes a but she has a medical condition that makes a sex life nearly impossible. So cos she loves me I’m able to be here. I’m not cheating but out of respect to her I’m not shouting from the roof tops. I’ve met some fantastic women on here. Two that spring to mind that didn’t judge me. But sadly stoped seeing me as they stated to get feelings for me and knew I was married and that wasn’t going to change. Now if you don’t want to meet cos of xyz....... that’s up to you. It you send me shitty text crack on. I’m happy at home with my wife and kids and I love my family. I’m never going to change that. I’m here for a sex life. It’s a sex life site!!!! Isn’t it ??? I have a thick skin and a loving heart. Someone said “ until you have walked in a mans shoes then do not judge him “ every one has there own situation. Don’t they ??????"
thing is it's the internet so for all we know you are just another guy using the medical condition excuse.you always here "medical condition "but never the actual diagnosis.we have had this before and asking for a chat with the guys wife to confirm it lead for the guy to block us even though he said on his profile that the wife would confirm but I think he was just hoping it wouldint come to that.thing is there are so many guys on here that women and couples can afford to keep their morals and have the choice to avoid drama simply by the number a guys on here.one thing I have noticed though that most hate married guys on here and ask for phone calls etc but I bet they don't behave the same in a club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it’s hard to get the balance right. I have a very good relationship at home. But yes a but she has a medical condition that makes a sex life nearly impossible. So cos she loves me I’m able to be here. I’m not cheating but out of respect to her I’m not shouting from the roof tops. I’ve met some fantastic women on here. Two that spring to mind that didn’t judge me. But sadly stoped seeing me as they stated to get feelings for me and knew I was married and that wasn’t going to change. Now if you don’t want to meet cos of xyz....... that’s up to you. It you send me shitty text crack on. I’m happy at home with my wife and kids and I love my family. I’m never going to change that. I’m here for a sex life. It’s a sex life site!!!! Isn’t it ??? I have a thick skin and a loving heart. Someone said “ until you have walked in a mans shoes then do not judge him “ every one has there own situation. Don’t they ??????thing is it's the internet so for all we know you are just another guy using the medical condition excuse.you always here "medical condition "but never the actual diagnosis.we have had this before and asking for a chat with the guys wife to confirm it lead for the guy to block us even though he said on his profile that the wife would confirm but I think he was just hoping it wouldint come to that.thing is there are so many guys on here that women and couples can afford to keep their morals and have the choice to avoid drama simply by the number a guys on here.one thing I have noticed though that most hate married guys on here and ask for phone calls etc but I bet they don't behave the same in a club."

agreed

id much prefer the "yes im married im cheating no excuses, up to you"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally this! We've had one (totally devastated) wife contact us. She had Google street view pics of house and was "on her way if we didn't talk to her"!! Very embarrassing, felt totally ashamed and gutted for her. We didn't know he was married of course. Turns out none of us knew he was not bi-curious but actually gay. An uncomfortable situation for all involved, and needless to say we no longer meet anyone married if we believe they are first!

Mrs RC

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry probably didn't make it clear. My wife doesn't know I'm on here. So yes I'm cheating on my wife..."

A topic that has always intrigued me.....

Answer this, you do a local search and see a profile of your wife. How would you feel?

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By *r.ringMan
over a year ago

totton

As to the above I have had women chat to the mrs to confirm. Yes medical condition is very general I know. It you are truly interested I’m happy to chat in private. I’m sure my wife wouldn’t want that all across the web. Especially as there are friends on here that know her.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

It's our view that most guys on here are attached, whatever they say. We adopt a don't ask don't tell policy. You are responsible for your own domestic arrangements and they have nothing to do with us.

However, if your other half contacts us we won't lie for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry probably didn't make it clear. My wife doesn't know I'm on here. So yes I'm cheating on my wife...

A topic that has always intrigued me.....

Answer this, you do a local search and see a profile of your wife. How would you feel? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You're only 26 and already bored in your marriage??

Rather than turning to swinging I'd be seriously questioning my life choices.

And to stay on topic, yes I'd meet married men, but not those who slag their partner off.

So it's ok to cheat on their partner but not to slag them off ??

Completely depends on circumstances.

Hard as it is to believe, but there are married people who dote on their partners, but don't want to to be forced into celibacy. "

Totally agree Sin-derella

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do meet married for car sex, the main problem with married is they don't host. I had the married FWB for a couple of years before he got divorced. I would have a married one again, they tend to be less hassle than single men sometimes. It's up to them to take care their wives don't find out. I have had problems this year with "a single" man's girlfriend emailing me saying he was seeing me behind her back, I had only met the fker twice in 2 years. I have never been contacted by anyone's wife though and I,'ve fked about 5 married men xxx

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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

My goodness, people are such "moralists" here. Pretty silly being judgemental. Don't like married men, don't meet them your choice. Married men (and women) do what they do for reasons only they can understand, I never judge. Doesn't bother me if a man is married, I just ask him to be upfront.

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By *andom2chatMan
over a year ago

A Galaxy Far, Far Away & Spain

"My goodness, people are such "moralists" here. Pretty silly being judgemental. Don't like married men, don't meet them your choice. Married men (and women) do what they do for reasons only they can understand, I never judge. Doesn't bother me if a man is married, I just ask him to be upfront."

The “moralists” would be the first to throw there hands up & cry “foul” if others kvetched about something they enjoyed that might be considered amoral.

Instead of reading the OP’s question, or deciding it’s not a post of any interest to them & scrolling on by, it seems the ones who WOULDN’T Meet a married guy couldn’t resist wagging a finger & leaving a comment. (Not something the OP asked for).

So to try get things back on track the question was... “However thought I'd post on here to try and find some people that aren't judgemental and don't mind playing with married men.”

I don’t mind if they’re playing away or not. That’s not my business. It’s there’s. However, as someone else mentioned, if the partner contacts me or their life starts to spill into mine then I’m not going to lie for the person playing away.

Again, good luck OP.

Not my monkey, not my circus.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry probably didn't make it clear. My wife doesn't know I'm on here. So yes I'm cheating on my wife...

A topic that has always intrigued me.....

Answer this, you do a local search and see a profile of your wife. How would you feel? "

Great question!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I felt the night on ‘my own’ side of the bed feeling pretty shit - and first thing next morning he left before breakfast after giving me a brief hug!

There are loads of single guys on fab - so not sure I’d do that again!

A totally understandable reason but that's one of my reasons why I don't go down the path of meeting fab attached men.

The meeting as a whole needs to be fantastic not just the sex!

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

Can we stop with the phrase non-judgemental.

Its so inaccurate, everyone judges. Unless you are claiming to be a mindless automaton.

When people say non-judgemental they mean judge in the same way as them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks like the OP doesn't want to answer any questions.

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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

I felt the night on ‘my own’ side of the bed feeling pretty shit - and first thing next morning he left before breakfast after giving me a brief hug!

There are loads of single guys on fab - so not sure I’d do that again!

A totally understandable reason but that's one of my reasons why I don't go down the path of meeting fab attached men.

The meeting as a whole needs to be fantastic not just the sex!

Not cuddling after sex??? Hun, you met a prick that's all, got nothing to do with him being attached. Most of the men I've met are absolutely amazing post sex, the touching, cuddling, kissing etc. especially the married ones. I suppose I filter out the ones who won't but for me the real joy of sex is the kissing cuddling etc. The fucking is a bonus.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can we stop with the phrase non-judgemental.

Its so inaccurate, everyone judges. Unless you are claiming to be a mindless automaton.

When people say non-judgemental they mean judge in the same way as them. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm happy to meet married or attached men / women, as long as I know what I'm getting into.

As for a wife or partner coming to my door, never going to happen. Even the guy doesn't know my real name or where I live so his wife sure as hell isnt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not meeting married men has nothing to do with being judgemental, it is all to do with Morals.

I have been here on and off for many years and I have met some amazing people, be honest and allow them the right to decide for themselves and respect the choice that they make.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm happy to meet married or attached men / women, as long as I know what I'm getting into.

As for a wife or partner coming to my door, never going to happen. Even the guy doesn't know my real name or where I live so his wife sure as hell isnt. "

Exactly this, it's pretty easy to take preventative measures

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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Once upon a time a girl from fab was out when she saw someone and his wife.

Tralalala

True story.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Once upon a time a girl from fab was out when she saw someone and his wife.

Tralalala

True story."

I was in a similar story line last year, mine had a happy ending ~ I smiled hello and walked on by....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not meeting married men has nothing to do with being judgemental, it is all to do with Morals.

I have been here on and off for many years and I have met some amazing people, be honest and allow them the right to decide for themselves and respect the choice that they make.

This!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not meeting married men has nothing to do with being judgemental, it is all to do with Morals.

I have been here on and off for many years and I have met some amazing people, be honest and allow them the right to decide for themselves and respect the choice that they make.

Yes! Well said! We have zero issues with anyone else meeting married guys, not judging at all, that's their choice. It just doesn't sit well with us and would hate to be even a small part in someone else's unhappiness should someone's wife/partner find out. That's just us. It's our morals and the way we feel....not us judging those who do!

Mrs RC

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