FabSwingers.com forum: Question for you married guys

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Whilst you've been swinging, have you ever had anyone shag you like your wife does, or do you sometimes feel short changed?

We've been on the scene for three years now and in that time we've had some great meets, but hand on heart, only 2 ladies have made me feel like saying, " 'kin 'ell that was something else"

I'm sure some of the ladies I've played with might have thought I've come up short too, lol, but I was just wondering if other guys shared my thoughts?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just want to clarify my opening sentence really.

Kate told me that she plays with other guys just as she plays with me. If that's the case, then I know what the other guy is getting and sometimes, or more often than not, I don't get the same experience.

Do some of us hold something back?

Hope you understand what I'm asking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I may sexually be no different with another man to my Master... but its the effect each other has on the other that makes it different...

Its not the physical that makes it great.. its the emotional and mental side of it.

Cali

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By *oole2010Couple
over a year ago

southampto

perhaps you feel short changed because you already have the best although we havent had a full swap yet (not for the lack of trying lol )we have indulged in mmf and her playing on her own some people might think thats a bit unreal but turns us both on when she gets back and she always says right now give me a proper fucking cos my cock hits all the right places lol well we regard anything else apart from ourselves as just sex does that make sense ?

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By *ushtwoCouple
over a year ago

london

we as a couple give ourselves fully to the other couple.

we have had on numerous occations been told by others that we were the best swing they have ever had.

we also feel that either other people hold back sometimes, or they are just not as good...

on the other hand your wife will and should be your best shag you ever

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By *oole2010Couple
over a year ago

southampto

having seen callimeros post yes i agree u have the emotional and mental bond that makes it great with the missus perhaps that wat i was trying to say but she hit the nail on the head

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By *LBishCouple
over a year ago

near bury st edmunds

"I may sexually be no different with another man to my Master... but its the effect each other has on the other that makes it different...

Its not the physical that makes it great.. its the emotional and mental side of it.

Cali "

Got it exactly, no meet can match the sex me and my partner have EVER, no matter how good they are. Its the best with My partner always as we have the emotional ties.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Got it exactly, no meet can match the sex me and my partner have EVER, no matter how good they are. Its the best with My partner always as we have the emotional ties. "

Couldn't agree more...and that is exactly how it SHOULD be...xx

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

"I may sexually be no different with another man to my Master... but its the effect each other has on the other that makes it different...

Its not the physical that makes it great.. its the emotional and mental side of it.

Cali

Got it exactly, no meet can match the sex me and my partner have EVER, no matter how good they are. Its the best with My partner always as we have the emotional ties. "

Yep that's our view aswell.

It's weird how, no matter how good the meet, the sex we have when we get home is always the best sex we have ever had!!!

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By *riseeTV/TS
over a year ago

MacKay

Until my partner chose to 'ex' me in May, she said I was the best she'd ever had, and judging by her deleting her single profile she hasn't had anything better since!

I know after a party on night my (then) wife was being talked to by other women discussing my future ... as I then went very red in the face, I was told that i am quite a dream partner ...

On another occasion a date from this site had been slightly apprehensive, after four ours of intense girly sex, she took my hands, looked into my eyes and said 'Please don't be offended but this has been such an incredibly girly experience I've never had a woman like you before, but would you mind penetrating me, you don't have to of course' - she then smiled and told me 'A built in strapon and really know how to use and fell it' ... we continued for 40 minutes till 5 AM and I caressed her to sleep.

And then at a Club in East London one night, we met a couple who were one of few at the venue. After a little chatter, I was invited to join them ... and fumbled getting my now ex to come along ... anyway after 3 hours of intense every position you could imagine the other wife asks if I need air! Closing time was called. Her husband laughs and says 'You know what my wife said when we saw you earlier tonight?" I replied 'No', he replied 'I'm not having sex with a man in a dress' I laughed and put my arm around her and said 'Thank god you didn't, your reputation is safe with me, I'm a Hermaphrodite!'

Neither of us know whet her husband and my (now)ex got up to! I barely stopped for air!

So the Morals of the story are: Attraction is often confused for what you have for your partner - stay attracted to your partner and enjoy the variety our there! You don't want to miss out on something delightful!

xox

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think because you are more comfortable with each other and have known each other for years and so not strangers bound to have better sex and along with the emotion ties it should be better. The thrill, of swinging is the not knowing however, but also means left guessing what the other likes, or get too excited as a bloke by someone new or what ever. things can get in the way but i think good sex can come from meets but sounds like you are a good couple and maybe wont find better sex through meets. Long as you having fun still, that is what matters.

That being said i have had some great sex from meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some men may fuck me harder, or faster, or longer, or deeper... but no one will ever make love to me like my hubby does x

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

This is quite a hard post to write without sounding v arrogant...but here goes

Once i asked kev why he rarely played with other women in clubs alone or with me, i wanted to know he was having as much fun as i was. He answered that he rarely met a woman as good at oral or sex as me,he preferred to go down on other women and watch me than have second best.

Its not about the fact we know each other,or make love rather than fuck...cos we do that alone,but about being bloody good !i feel the same about oral,no one has ever come near kev so i just dont do it with other men.

What we do alone is between us,and bears no relation to what we do swinging.

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By *punkloverCouple
over a year ago

hatfield

I actually think its breat to be fucked differently ! What me and Nick do is special cos we luv each other.

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By *scottMan
over a year ago

Uttoxeter

"I may sexually be no different with another man to my Master... but its the effect each other has on the other that makes it different...

Its not the physical that makes it great.. its the emotional and mental side of it.

Cali

Got it exactly, no meet can match the sex me and my partner have EVER, no matter how good they are. Its the best with My partner always as we have the emotional ties.

Yep that's our view aswell.

It's weird how, no matter how good the meet, the sex we have when we get home is always the best sex we have ever had!!!

110% agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is quite a hard post to write without sounding v arrogant...but here goes

What we do alone is between us,and bears no relation to what we do swinging."

i really dont get that

swinging isnt about others compeating with your own partner is it?

All because someone isnt as good as your partner why does that mean you cant do it?

If when you swing your both thinking....well shes not as good as my wife or hes not as good at that as my hubby, so we not going to bother doing it, why swing?

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By *empnbunkCouple
over a year ago

south coast

Possibly due to fact its a first meet and you dont know exactly the rite buttons to push for that individual and vice versa always gets better with repeat meets

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

"Possibly due to fact its a first meet and you dont know exactly the rite buttons to push for that individual and vice versa always gets better with repeat meets

Here be the truth! Its half the fun of swinging!

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

I never compare swinging to making love with my partner...it doesn't. However, we don't swap we add one and this is why. I have the best so adding to it is heaven.

I think we all realise our partners are the best because we are emotionally attached to them, we are comfortable with them and....we have trained them to perform as we like it!!!! Sorry to burst bubbles but you are not the best out there, you just do it exactly as your partner likes it.

Mistress x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I never compare swinging to making love with my partner...it doesn't. However, we don't swap we add one and this is why. I have the best so adding to it is heaven.

Mistress x"

if its that good then....why do you feel the need to swing?

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By *ngieandMrManCouple
over a year ago

hereford

Some times I have sex with my wife, most often we 'make love' and that is a very different thing.

Sticking with the 'having sex', with another women I always give it my best. Different women appreciate and enjoy what I do to a greater or lesser degree.

With one regular couple the fem REALLY enjoys what we do but I'd NEVER consider it as better or as good as it is with my wife. Equally I don't think for one second that I might be 'better' than her husband, its just different that's all.

The more a woman enjoys me, the more I enjoy her. However, no other woman will come close to what my wife and I share and that is the way it should be isn't it?

I get the impression Jack that you are really referring to 'technique'? I can only say that same thing, some are better for me than others but after six or seven years in this hobby I've yet to have an experience that has prompted me to say to my wife, 'could you try doing it this way like *insert a name* did'.

Inversely my wife has had one experience with one guy on one occasion whereby she reported 'I don't know what he did but fucking hell it was good'. We still haven't worked out what it was IF indeed it was a particular technique, chances are it was more to do with 'the moment in time'.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

The question I'm really asking, if anyone can see through my ramblings, is whether or not we hold anything back when we are with someone else.

Of course I understand the emotional understanding and attachment that we have with our partners.

You may have hit the nail on the head Mr, when you mentioned "technique"

Yes, I think you've answered it with one word

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By *ngieandMrManCouple
over a year ago

hereford

"The question I'm really asking, if anyone can see through my ramblings, is whether or not we hold anything back when we are with someone else.

Yes I do but not because I feel a need to for myself but because I feel that the fem doesn't want it.

However this may also be about technique, thing is I'm a lover not a bull, so I tend to be touchy-feely, kissing, cuddling with lots of eye contact too, its surprising perhaps how much sexual energy can be exchanged with eye to eye contact.

I think that us lover types can be a problem for a fem inasmuch that its too 'loving' if you follow my drift?

Personally I don't have to be 'in love' to 'make love' but I sometimes get the impression that some woman cannot separate the two, they don't want to cross the line and so reject the 'technique' and so I adjust and hold back whatever seems not wanted. This of course is never an issue when having sex /making love to my wife.

And so I think its fair to say in that context I have never so far given everything, my all, to a woman other than my wife... as yet

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Maybe what we are talking about is the difference between love and sex....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not one for holding back when I make love, whether its my wife or some one of our social group. I think that if you are in a position to start comparing the quality of sex with you partners to that of your wife in any depth or critical way, then I think (and its only my personal view) perhaps you shouldn't be swinging, what if they are better than your wife, does it change the way you make love to her or how often or how long? Will you be asking her to things she doesn't want to as a result? I feel that you do need to be mentally robust and secure in your relationship before you go swinging, as well as open and honest with one another. If you are mentally ticking off boxes about how someone is better than someone else or comparing them to your partner, then what else are you doing differently as opposed to enjoying the social and physical pleasures and is that change in behavior going to affect your relationship? Don't go down that road its not a healthy one! My love making (sex) with other people can and does vary, compared to how I make love to my wife and that's because they are different people and they prefer different things and have erotic zones in different places. Its the variety and change that makes it interesting and exciting, its all the differences about individuals that make playing with them in an erotic and intimate way so wonderful

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