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By *sGivesWood OP   Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

At the amount of guys and couples that would happily fuck a silhouette with no info, my friend joined and left after less than a day, after being offered fake veris and money and sheer volume of messages (before any comments about filters I did suggest this but she was specifically looking for single guys and didn't want to block them)

It would seem that there are an awful lot of desparate people on here, also quite surprised to find that some of the people I've been meeting have been up for it too, don't think I'll be seeing them again if they are really not fussy who they fuck lol.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"At the amount of guys and couples that would happily fuck a silhouette with no info, my friend joined and left after less than a day, after being offered fake veris and money and sheer volume of messages (before any comments about filters I did suggest this but she was specifically looking for single guys and didn't want to block them)

It would seem that there are an awful lot of desparate people on here, also quite surprised to find that some of the people I've been meeting have been up for it too, don't think I'll be seeing them again if they are really not fussy who they fuck lol."

Most men, other things being equal, will fuck any half decent woman. I am surprised that comes as a surprise to you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, it's a case of supply and demand. Most single guys are not looking for deep, meaningful, relationships just good sex. Ladies being in the minority here, means that if they want the meets, then they can't be as choosy as a lady getting hundreds of offers a day. I am a normal man that wants to know who / what I am getting involved with and in 2 and a bit months on here, no meets at all.

Not defending the behaviour, just explaining it...

P.s. Does your friend like older guys? Nudge nudge

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By *sGivesWood OP   Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"At the amount of guys and couples that would happily fuck a silhouette with no info, my friend joined and left after less than a day, after being offered fake veris and money and sheer volume of messages (before any comments about filters I did suggest this but she was specifically looking for single guys and didn't want to block them)

It would seem that there are an awful lot of desparate people on here, also quite surprised to find that some of the people I've been meeting have been up for it too, don't think I'll be seeing them again if they are really not fussy who they fuck lol.

Most men, other things being equal, will fuck any half decent woman. I am surprised that comes as a surprise to you! "
think I'm more surprised that some of the people I'm mutually verified with have responded and the fact that I thought couples would be a bit more choosy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

some people will say anything for a meet.

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By *sGivesWood OP   Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"OP, it's a case of supply and demand. Most single guys are not looking for deep, meaningful, relationships just good sex. Ladies being in the minority here, means that if they want the meets, then they can't be as choosy as a lady getting hundreds of offers a day. I am a normal man that wants to know who / what I am getting involved with and in 2 and a bit months on here, no meets at all.

Not defending the behaviour, just explaining it...

P.s. Does your friend like older guys? Nudge nudge "
no she's gone lol she was looking for max of 45-50 I think

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By *sGivesWood OP   Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"some people will say anything for a meet.

"
she screenshotted some of the messages to me

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By *rightonCheekyMan
over a year ago

Brighton

I don't get it. I'm here to swing. If I want a fuck I'll go on tinder

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By *sGivesWood OP   Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"I don't get it. I'm here to swing. If I want a fuck I'll go on tinder "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"some people will say anything for a meet.

she screenshotted some of the messages to me "

i wish i could say im shocked but im not

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

I think that in recent months a lot of men who just want a hole to fuck have joined this site. For them it is not about swinging but about finding a fuck....and with little interest in who they are fucking.

It's a crying shame.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think that in recent months a lot of men who just want a hole to fuck have joined this site. For them it is not about swinging but about finding a fuck....and with little interest in who they are fucking.

It's a crying shame."

a reason why i meet less and less

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By *sGivesWood OP   Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"I think that in recent months a lot of men who just want a hole to fuck have joined this site. For them it is not about swinging but about finding a fuck....and with little interest in who they are fucking.

It's a crying shame.

a reason why i meet less and less "

I don't remember it being quite this bad when I initially joined over two years ago, things seem to have changed a lot since then

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton


"I think that in recent months a lot of men who just want a hole to fuck have joined this site. For them it is not about swinging but about finding a fuck....and with little interest in who they are fucking.

It's a crying shame.

a reason why i meet less and less

I don't remember it being quite this bad when I initially joined over two years ago, things seem to have changed a lot since then"

This site and possibly the scene in general had definitely changed

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By *sGivesWood OP   Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"I think that in recent months a lot of men who just want a hole to fuck have joined this site. For them it is not about swinging but about finding a fuck....and with little interest in who they are fucking.

It's a crying shame.

a reason why i meet less and less

I don't remember it being quite this bad when I initially joined over two years ago, things seem to have changed a lot since then

This site and possibly the scene in general had definitely changed"

Just seems a very short period of time

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"I think that in recent months a lot of men who just want a hole to fuck have joined this site. For them it is not about swinging but about finding a fuck....and with little interest in who they are fucking.

It's a crying shame."

Personally speaking, if any reasonably attractive woman wanted sex with me, I would have sex with her and I hazard that 95% of men would agree with me.

I really don't understand this thread. It's a casual sex site, not a dating site. What's the deal with shaming people about their willingness to have sex?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not everyone is cut out for websites like this. No place for the weak minded.

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

When I created my single profile.

Uploaded 1 pic - of my hand.

Then wrote out my profile while waiting for it to be approved.

I made a sandwich & brew, ate, washed up, went back to my tablet, photo still pending.

189 messages!!

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

Swinging for me had always had a social aspect plus I take time to get to know someone a bit so the sex is better.

To be honest I do turn down some offers if there is no spark. This isn't a shag site.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"I think that in recent months a lot of men who just want a hole to fuck have joined this site. For them it is not about swinging but about finding a fuck....and with little interest in who they are fucking.

It's a crying shame.

Personally speaking, if any reasonably attractive woman wanted sex with me, I would have sex with her and I hazard that 95% of men would agree with me.

I really don't understand this thread. It's a casual sex site, not a dating site. What's the deal with shaming people about their willingness to have sex? "

OPs friend was a silhouette with no pics. The hundreds of men who messaged her were willing to fuck her and had no idea if she was "reasonably attractive" in any way. I think that's the point of the thread.

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

But what do I know....only been part of the scene for 13 years....

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"I think that in recent months a lot of men who just want a hole to fuck have joined this site. For them it is not about swinging but about finding a fuck....and with little interest in who they are fucking.

It's a crying shame.

Personally speaking, if any reasonably attractive woman wanted sex with me, I would have sex with her and I hazard that 95% of men would agree with me.

I really don't understand this thread. It's a casual sex site, not a dating site. What's the deal with shaming people about their willingness to have sex?

OPs friend was a silhouette with no pics. The hundreds of men who messaged her were willing to fuck her and had no idea if she was "reasonably attractive" in any way. I think that's the point of the thread. "

It's the numbers game. Fifteen man to every woman on here. She presumably described herself. Slim aged 35, say, would be enough for most men to give it a punt.

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

Guys like to take a punt. New profile pops up. No pics uploaded. Due to the approval system delay for example. Get in quick as it where.

Personally dont do it but I can see why a lot would.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"But what do I know....only been part of the scene for 13 years...."

And I have been part of the scene for fifteen years.

In the eyes of the great vanilla world, we are all disgusting perverts what with our non monogamy. It seems to me that trying to put yourself on some either moral plane than other non monogamous types is slightly strange.

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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago

Hull


"I think that in recent months a lot of men who just want a hole to fuck have joined this site. For them it is not about swinging but about finding a fuck....and with little interest in who they are fucking.

It's a crying shame."

I’ve noticed this and had a few messages along the lines of ‘it’s a sex site, you chat for 5 minutes then meet for sex, if you want chat go to facebook’

I think they genuinely think that. I wonder if the site has been associated one of those ads you see on porn sites that promise women are waiting to fuck you and waiting right now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not shocked!! I had the same when I joined, still get guys want to meet yet have never seen my face!!

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East


"Swinging for me had always had a social aspect plus I take time to get to know someone a bit so the sex is better.

To be honest I do turn down some offers if there is no spark. This isn't a shag site."

It really is a shag site. Despite how you or I go about our business this thread proves it to be for a heck of a lot of people.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"Guys like to take a punt. New profile pops up. No pics uploaded. Due to the approval system delay for example. Get in quick as it where.

Personally dont do it but I can see why a lot would."

Indeed. If you wait until a pic goes up, someone else may have got in there first.

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By *sGivesWood OP   Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"I think that in recent months a lot of men who just want a hole to fuck have joined this site. For them it is not about swinging but about finding a fuck....and with little interest in who they are fucking.

It's a crying shame.

Personally speaking, if any reasonably attractive woman wanted sex with me, I would have sex with her and I hazard that 95% of men would agree with me.

I really don't understand this thread. It's a casual sex site, not a dating site. What's the deal with shaming people about their willingness to have sex? "

Fyi, I'm not shaming anyone, it's an observation, and it's a swingers site not a casual sex site, hence the name Fabswingers, otherwise it would be Fabinstashag, Fabfucks, Fablocalclunge or name along those lines....

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"I think that in recent months a lot of men who just want a hole to fuck have joined this site. For them it is not about swinging but about finding a fuck....and with little interest in who they are fucking.

It's a crying shame.

I’ve noticed this and had a few messages along the lines of ‘it’s a sex site, you chat for 5 minutes then meet for sex, if you want chat go to facebook’

I think they genuinely think that. I wonder if the site has been associated one of those ads you see on porn sites that promise women are waiting to fuck you and waiting right now. "

It does make you wonder!

And it is due to mainly receiving these types of messages that I haven't met anyone this year!

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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago

swingers clubs

We're Picky.

We won't arrange a meet without seeing pics, and will judge someone if they request a meet with us without seeing pics.

We also then choose to meet in clubs so if they don't look like their pics, or either party decide against play, we haven't wasted each others time.

We won't even start convo with a profile if there's no pics. We are that shallow

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"I think that in recent months a lot of men who just want a hole to fuck have joined this site. For them it is not about swinging but about finding a fuck....and with little interest in who they are fucking.

It's a crying shame.

Personally speaking, if any reasonably attractive woman wanted sex with me, I would have sex with her and I hazard that 95% of men would agree with me.

I really don't understand this thread. It's a casual sex site, not a dating site. What's the deal with shaming people about their willingness to have sex?

Fyi, I'm not shaming anyone, it's an observation, and it's a swingers site not a casual sex site, hence the name Fabswingers, otherwise it would be Fabinstashag, Fabfucks, Fablocalclunge or name along those lines...."

You obviously have a different definition of swinging to me. For me swinging is a willingness to have sex with multiple people outside a committed relationship. . I suspect other people have different definitions. The only thing that the definitions have in common is a willingness to have sex outside a committed relationship.

Hence a casual sex site.

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By *sGivesWood OP   Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"I think that in recent months a lot of men who just want a hole to fuck have joined this site. For them it is not about swinging but about finding a fuck....and with little interest in who they are fucking.

It's a crying shame.

Personally speaking, if any reasonably attractive woman wanted sex with me, I would have sex with her and I hazard that 95% of men would agree with me.

I really don't understand this thread. It's a casual sex site, not a dating site. What's the deal with shaming people about their willingness to have sex?

Fyi, I'm not shaming anyone, it's an observation, and it's a swingers site not a casual sex site, hence the name Fabswingers, otherwise it would be Fabinstashag, Fabfucks, Fablocalclunge or name along those lines....

You obviously have a different definition of swinging to me. For me swinging is a willingness to have sex with multiple people outside a committed relationship. . I suspect other people have different definitions. The only thing that the definitions have in common is a willingness to have sex outside a committed relationship.

Hence a casual sex site. "
swinging is also about the social side as has been mentioned in previous posts as well.

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By *imonP23Man
over a year ago

Shepton Mallet

Hmm, not quite sure what to make of this, as I may or may not fit this category myself!

Yes, I have messaged quite a few female profiles with no pics and virtually no profile text (one just said "sex"). However, there has to be at least something else in the meager information supplied (age/size etc) which indicates that she MIGHT meet my preferences.

If so, I will politely suggest a social meet, I certainly won't send a crude FAF message. So at least I'm not one of those then!

But that's because I'm looking for someone local, and I live in the middle of nowhere, my options are extremely limited. I'm picky about who I have sex with (maybe too much, in fact), but I'm not automatically going to turn someone down just because she hasn't put much effort into her profile.

The sad truth is that men in my position simply cannot afford to do that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think that in recent months a lot of men who just want a hole to fuck have joined this site. For them it is not about swinging but about finding a fuck....and with little interest in who they are fucking.

It's a crying shame.

Personally speaking, if any reasonably attractive woman wanted sex with me, I would have sex with her and I hazard that 95% of men would agree with me.

I really don't understand this thread. It's a casual sex site, not a dating site. What's the deal with shaming people about their willingness to have sex? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"At the amount of guys and couples that would happily fuck a silhouette with no info, my friend joined and left after less than a day, after being offered fake veris and money and sheer volume of messages (before any comments about filters I did suggest this but she was specifically looking for single guys and didn't want to block them)

It would seem that there are an awful lot of desparate people on here, also quite surprised to find that some of the people I've been meeting have been up for it too, don't think I'll be seeing them again if they are really not fussy who they fuck lol."

She should have taken your advice, I've got no sympathy for anyone who complains of too many messages or messages from the wrong people. Anyone is free to turn on filters and search for and message people that interest them. There is no reason for anyone to be harassed on here if they don't want to be, the tools are all there to prevent it.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"I think that in recent months a lot of men who just want a hole to fuck have joined this site. For them it is not about swinging but about finding a fuck....and with little interest in who they are fucking.

It's a crying shame.

Personally speaking, if any reasonably attractive woman wanted sex with me, I would have sex with her and I hazard that 95% of men would agree with me.

I really don't understand this thread. It's a casual sex site, not a dating site. What's the deal with shaming people about their willingness to have sex?

Fyi, I'm not shaming anyone, it's an observation, and it's a swingers site not a casual sex site, hence the name Fabswingers, otherwise it would be Fabinstashag, Fabfucks, Fablocalclunge or name along those lines....

You obviously have a different definition of swinging to me. For me swinging is a willingness to have sex with multiple people outside a committed relationship. . I suspect other people have different definitions. The only thing that the definitions have in common is a willingness to have sex outside a committed relationship.

Hence a casual sex site. swinging is also about the social side as has been mentioned in previous posts as well."

For some people it is, for some it isn't. Some people like to meet and fuck with minimal conversation. Might not be your thing, but I fail to see why that isn't swinging.

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By *sGivesWood OP   Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"At the amount of guys and couples that would happily fuck a silhouette with no info, my friend joined and left after less than a day, after being offered fake veris and money and sheer volume of messages (before any comments about filters I did suggest this but she was specifically looking for single guys and didn't want to block them)

It would seem that there are an awful lot of desparate people on here, also quite surprised to find that some of the people I've been meeting have been up for it too, don't think I'll be seeing them again if they are really not fussy who they fuck lol.

She should have taken your advice, I've got no sympathy for anyone who complains of too many messages or messages from the wrong people. Anyone is free to turn on filters and search for and message people that interest them. There is no reason for anyone to be harassed on here if they don't want to be, the tools are all there to prevent it."
I did warn her lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think that in recent months a lot of men who just want a hole to fuck have joined this site. For them it is not about swinging but about finding a fuck....and with little interest in who they are fucking.

It's a crying shame.

Personally speaking, if any reasonably attractive woman wanted sex with me, I would have sex with her and I hazard that 95% of men would agree with me.

I really don't understand this thread. It's a casual sex site, not a dating site. What's the deal with shaming people about their willingness to have sex?

Fyi, I'm not shaming anyone, it's an observation, and it's a swingers site not a casual sex site, hence the name Fabswingers, otherwise it would be Fabinstashag, Fabfucks, Fablocalclunge or name along those lines....

You obviously have a different definition of swinging to me. For me swinging is a willingness to have sex with multiple people outside a committed relationship. . I suspect other people have different definitions. The only thing that the definitions have in common is a willingness to have sex outside a committed relationship.

Hence a casual sex site. "

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton


"

She should have taken your advice, I've got no sympathy for anyone who complains of too many messages or messages from the wrong people. Anyone is free to turn on filters and search for and message people that interest them. There is no reason for anyone to be harassed on here if they don't want to be, the tools are all there to prevent it."

We can filter out undesired ages, handsets, smoking etc....but not one line messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think that in recent months a lot of men who just want a hole to fuck have joined this site. For them it is not about swinging but about finding a fuck....and with little interest in who they are fucking.

It's a crying shame.

Personally speaking, if any reasonably attractive woman wanted sex with me, I would have sex with her and I hazard that 95% of men would agree with me.

I really don't understand this thread. It's a casual sex site, not a dating site. What's the deal with shaming people about their willingness to have sex?

Fyi, I'm not shaming anyone, it's an observation, and it's a swingers site not a casual sex site, hence the name Fabswingers, otherwise it would be Fabinstashag, Fabfucks, Fablocalclunge or name along those lines....

You obviously have a different definition of swinging to me. For me swinging is a willingness to have sex with multiple people outside a committed relationship. . I suspect other people have different definitions. The only thing that the definitions have in common is a willingness to have sex outside a committed relationship.

Hence a casual sex site. swinging is also about the social side as has been mentioned in previous posts as well."

For many people swinging isn't about the social side at all though. For us we just meet for a quick drink to see if we all like how each other look (we don't send face pics). Nothing more, we aren't looking to make friends. We are just looking for sexual fun.

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

Genders not handsets.

I am trying a new keyboard app

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

And that, ladies and gentlemen, is the sea change this site has witnessed.

Not so long ago the vast majority of people here were looking for something more than a shag. But dating but friend with benefits or at least someone whose company they enjoyed.

Now it's a fuck site apparently

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"At the amount of guys and couples that would happily fuck a silhouette with no info, my friend joined and left after less than a day, after being offered fake veris and money and sheer volume of messages (before any comments about filters I did suggest this but she was specifically looking for single guys and didn't want to block them)

It would seem that there are an awful lot of desparate people on here, also quite surprised to find that some of the people I've been meeting have been up for it too, don't think I'll be seeing them again if they are really not fussy who they fuck lol."

Just a quick question as it alway's intrigues me when people use that statement. When you say not fussy who they fuck,what type of woman are you actually talking about?

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"I think that in recent months a lot of men who just want a hole to fuck have joined this site. For them it is not about swinging but about finding a fuck....and with little interest in who they are fucking.

It's a crying shame.

Personally speaking, if any reasonably attractive woman wanted sex with me, I would have sex with her and I hazard that 95% of men would agree with me.

I really don't understand this thread. It's a casual sex site, not a dating site. What's the deal with shaming people about their willingness to have sex?

Fyi, I'm not shaming anyone, it's an observation, and it's a swingers site not a casual sex site, hence the name Fabswingers, otherwise it would be Fabinstashag, Fabfucks, Fablocalclunge or name along those lines....

You obviously have a different definition of swinging to me. For me swinging is a willingness to have sex with multiple people outside a committed relationship. . I suspect other people have different definitions. The only thing that the definitions have in common is a willingness to have sex outside a committed relationship.

Hence a casual sex site. swinging is also about the social side as has been mentioned in previous posts as well.

For many people swinging isn't about the social side at all though. For us we just meet for a quick drink to see if we all like how each other look (we don't send face pics). Nothing more, we aren't looking to make friends. We are just looking for sexual fun."

Exactly.

I think there are quite a few people on here who feel that sex for the sake of sex is a bit shameful and want to dress it up with words like "social side" and "friends".

We are like you. We are here for sex. It's possible we might make friends along the way but when deciding whether to meet someone our primary question is "do we fancy them" not "can we become friends with them".

Apparently that means we are not proper swingers.

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East


"And that, ladies and gentlemen, is the sea change this site has witnessed.

Not so long ago the vast majority of people here were looking for something more than a shag. But dating but friend with benefits or at least someone whose company they enjoyed.

Now it's a fuck site apparently"

I question the not so long ago. I joined in 2013. It was just the same then. My friend has been on here longer than that. Same when she joined. As has been said in this thread and many others. People are here for many reasons. Only concern yourself with why you're here.

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By *sGivesWood OP   Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"And that, ladies and gentlemen, is the sea change this site has witnessed.

Not so long ago the vast majority of people here were looking for something more than a shag. But dating but friend with benefits or at least someone whose company they enjoyed.

Now it's a fuck site apparently

I question the not so long ago. I joined in 2013. It was just the same then. My friend has been on here longer than that. Same when she joined. As has been said in this thread and many others. People are here for many reasons. Only concern yourself with why you're here."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't get it. I'm here to swing. If I want a fuck I'll go on tinder "

All the same the sites as my mates showed me messages they get on tinder and it's the same on here .men just want sex and a lot will tell lies and fuck anyone who is willing .some are nice who are truthful but not many .

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton


"I don't get it. I'm here to swing. If I want a fuck I'll go on tinder

All the same the sites as my mates showed me messages they get on tinder and it's the same on here .men just want sex and a lot will tell lies and fuck anyone who is willing .some are nice who are truthful but not many ."

But that is kind of the point of tinder. Tinder is a fuck app. Fab is supposedly a swingers site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't get it. I'm here to swing. If I want a fuck I'll go on tinder

All the same the sites as my mates showed me messages they get on tinder and it's the same on here .men just want sex and a lot will tell lies and fuck anyone who is willing .some are nice who are truthful but not many .

But that is kind of the point of tinder. Tinder is a fuck app. Fab is supposedly a swingers site. "

But people on tinder fuck others on tinder so it's swinging as all are meeting

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East


"I don't get it. I'm here to swing. If I want a fuck I'll go on tinder

All the same the sites as my mates showed me messages they get on tinder and it's the same on here .men just want sex and a lot will tell lies and fuck anyone who is willing .some are nice who are truthful but not many .

But that is kind of the point of tinder. Tinder is a fuck app. Fab is supposedly a swingers site. "

Fab is a swinger site. Tinder is a dating app. Pof badoo etc are dating sites.

Regardless. All are used for dating, shagging, swinging and socialising. There are 4 things that set fab apart from the others. Nudity, couples profiles, cams and the forum.

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro


"I think that in recent months a lot of men who just want a hole to fuck have joined this site. For them it is not about swinging but about finding a fuck....and with little interest in who they are fucking.

It's a crying shame.

a reason why i meet less and less "

Me too! You only have to look at the status updates so many men come across as desperate, its a real turn off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think that in recent months a lot of men who just want a hole to fuck have joined this site. For them it is not about swinging but about finding a fuck....and with little interest in who they are fucking.

It's a crying shame.

a reason why i meet less and less

Me too! You only have to look at the status updates so many men come across as desperate, its a real turn off "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im very fussy. Best way i think. Each to there own really.

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By *riskynriskyCouple
over a year ago

Essex.

I bet if you put a meet up saying my wife's fantasy is to be drugged then fucked by 15 guys in a hotel room whilst unconscious, you would get a load of guys offeting up...

The other thing I have noticed is in the stories/fantasy threads you must now include lines like.

"Make me your cum slut." or "Fill my cum dump holes with your man juice." Adding Daddy seems to help as well...

What the hell is that all about???

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"At the amount of guys and couples that would happily fuck a silhouette with no info, my friend joined and left after less than a day, after being offered fake veris and money and sheer volume of messages (before any comments about filters I did suggest this but she was specifically looking for single guys and didn't want to block them)

It would seem that there are an awful lot of desparate people on here, also quite surprised to find that some of the people I've been meeting have been up for it too, don't think I'll be seeing them again if they are really not fussy who they fuck lol.

Just a quick question as it alway's intrigues me when people use that statement. When you say not fussy who they fuck,what type of woman are you actually talking about?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't get it. I'm here to swing. If I want a fuck I'll go on tinder

All the same the sites as my mates showed me messages they get on tinder and it's the same on here .men just want sex and a lot will tell lies and fuck anyone who is willing .some are nice who are truthful but not many ."

Learnt this one the hard way, I wanted a regular fuck/swing buddy, most said yeh I can do that, I can meet days, had a couple of fumbles then surprise it dies out, or I'm to far etc

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By *.1079Man
over a year ago

rhyl

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

This is a free site for people who want non committed sex. Given that, you will get loads of men on it who basically want sex now.

Its the nature of the beast. If you get off with men sending messages asking for a fuck, this isn't the site for you.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

Pissed off I meant.

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By *rightonCheekyMan
over a year ago

Brighton


"I don't get it. I'm here to swing. If I want a fuck I'll go on tinder

All the same the sites as my mates showed me messages they get on tinder and it's the same on here .men just want sex and a lot will tell lies and fuck anyone who is willing .some are nice who are truthful but not many .

But that is kind of the point of tinder. Tinder is a fuck app. Fab is supposedly a swingers site.

Fab is a swinger site. Tinder is a dating app. Pof badoo etc are dating sites.

Regardless. All are used for dating, shagging, swinging and socialising. There are 4 things that set fab apart from the others. Nudity, couples profiles, cams and the forum."

Those apps are really shag apps dressed up as dating apps. At least with tinder you have to swipe on each other to begin chatting. I'll stand by what I said though, for a quick shag tinder is the place. I'm on Fab for group sex and for the outside chance of finding a partner who also enjoys swinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And that, ladies and gentlemen, is the sea change this site has witnessed.

Not so long ago the vast majority of people here were looking for something more than a shag. But dating but friend with benefits or at least someone whose company they enjoyed.

Now it's a fuck site apparently"

I'm not sure if you are referring to my comment about not everyone seeking a social side to swinging because you didn't quote the messege. However i have quoted your comment because it's similar to others on the thread that are critical of people who spend their swinging life differently to them.

Anyway i have been "part of this scene" a lot longer than you (according to what you said earlier in this thread), i have used this site and several others for many, many years and i don't find swinging any different than it was when i first started. There have always been some people who like it to have a big social side to it aswell as those of us who aren't interested in the social side (other than to see if they like the look of the guy they are meeting). It's good that we all like different aspects about swinging and use this site, other sites, clubs etc the way we like them. I personally don't care how others use the swinging world, i/we use it the way we like it. If we just want the sex part then that's good for us and there's nothing wrong with it. There seems to be people who are critical of others who use it differently to them and critical of how they use the swinging world. If people want to use Fab or any other site as a fuck site then thats fine, the same as if others want to spend lots of time socialising then thats fine too.

Everyone should feel free to swing how they want.

I find people are so critical of others when really they should just concentrate on themselves and their enjoyment surely !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think that in recent months a lot of men who just want a hole to fuck have joined this site. For them it is not about swinging but about finding a fuck....and with little interest in who they are fucking.

It's a crying shame.

Personally speaking, if any reasonably attractive woman wanted sex with me, I would have sex with her and I hazard that 95% of men would agree with me.

I really don't understand this thread. It's a casual sex site, not a dating site. What's the deal with shaming people about their willingness to have sex?

Fyi, I'm not shaming anyone, it's an observation, and it's a swingers site not a casual sex site, hence the name Fabswingers, otherwise it would be Fabinstashag, Fabfucks, Fablocalclunge or name along those lines....

You obviously have a different definition of swinging to me. For me swinging is a willingness to have sex with multiple people outside a committed relationship. . I suspect other people have different definitions. The only thing that the definitions have in common is a willingness to have sex outside a committed relationship.

Hence a casual sex site. swinging is also about the social side as has been mentioned in previous posts as well.

For many people swinging isn't about the social side at all though. For us we just meet for a quick drink to see if we all like how each other look (we don't send face pics). Nothing more, we aren't looking to make friends. We are just looking for sexual fun.

Exactly.

I think there are quite a few people on here who feel that sex for the sake of sex is a bit shameful and want to dress it up with words like "social side" and "friends".

We are like you. We are here for sex. It's possible we might make friends along the way but when deciding whether to meet someone our primary question is "do we fancy them" not "can we become friends with them".

Apparently that means we are not proper swingers. "

I think others should leave us all to be swingers the way we want to be. We use the swinging world the same way you do, it may be different to some others but its still swinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And that, ladies and gentlemen, is the sea change this site has witnessed.

Not so long ago the vast majority of people here were looking for something more than a shag. But dating but friend with benefits or at least someone whose company they enjoyed.

Now it's a fuck site apparently

I question the not so long ago. I joined in 2013. It was just the same then. My friend has been on here longer than that. Same when she joined. As has been said in this thread and many others. People are here for many reasons. Only concern yourself with why you're here."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not interested in a friend with benefits to go to the cinema with etc, which might be the thing that makes me not a "swinger".

But that doesn't mean I don't want meaningful conversation and interaction before after it in-between activities.

What I've discovered though is that it's not about interaction and conversation, it's largely about face pics and being vvwe. I know it's not all like it, but it's why I joined this site and not tinder as I thought there was more to it.

To then be labelled with all guys as desperate and simply seeking sex regardless of looks seems a little unfair.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have no interest in social meets here, we can do that with our close friends. A quick drink and then play (or not).

If that means we are not 'real' swingers then, to be honest, we don't really care?!

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By *iredhandMan
over a year ago

Manchester

My understanding of swinging is that it involves a couple bringing at least one other person into their relationship for sex. If it is simply one on one meets, then that is not swinging. Fab is a mixture of both but maybe wasn’t originally intended as such. While I will meet single women, I am just as much here to meet couples for MFM, which then makes me a swinger.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But what do I know....only been part of the scene for 13 years....

And I have been part of the scene for fifteen years.

In the eyes of the great vanilla world, we are all disgusting perverts what with our non monogamy. It seems to me that trying to put yourself on some either moral plane than other non monogamous types is slightly strange. "

I like vanilla. I don't slag off those who have more flavourful tastes

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By *sGivesWood OP   Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"I'm not interested in a friend with benefits to go to the cinema with etc, which might be the thing that makes me not a "swinger".

But that doesn't mean I don't want meaningful conversation and interaction before after it in-between activities.

What I've discovered though is that it's not about interaction and conversation, it's largely about face pics and being vvwe. I know it's not all like it, but it's why I joined this site and not tinder as I thought there was more to it.

To then be labelled with all guys as desperate and simply seeking sex regardless of looks seems a little unfair."
if you read the OP you will see I haven't just singled out men!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Granted, you did say couples too but am guessing that really they're couple profiles run by a guy that have bothered you.

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By *sGivesWood OP   Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Granted, you did say couples too but am guessing that really they're couple profiles run by a guy that have bothered you."

Actually no, the women can be just as bad, I had to block a couple because of the female half this morning

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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago

swingers clubs


"My understanding of swinging is that it involves a couple bringing at least one other person into their relationship for sex. "

Maybe we're not swingers after all? Nobody gets brought into our relationship. Our relationship is exactly that, ours!

People may join us for sex, but certainly not our relationship.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

We are firmly in the meet up and have sex without strings camp on this one . This doesn’t mean we will fuck anyone , but we aren’t into the whole social / make friends thing . We are a committed happily married couple who enjoy sex with others too . It’s that simple , and if this means people think it spoils the ethos of what swinging is , tough .

We accept that there are lots of people on the site are looking for so much more than this , but because we aren’t , it doesn’t mean we are spoiling anything for them .

Think about the history of non monogamous relationships - roman orgies , the Greeks and then the swinging sixties . Keys in a bowl and so on . We have moved in somewhat since then , we have the opportunity to say yes or no , and even to read a profile and sometimes see pics first . But ultimately , the nature of swinging is to be able to enjoy sex with others without strings or judgement . I’ve yet to see swinging described as a pastime which involves jumping through hoops , establishing meaningful friendships , socialising with those you have no interest in shagging , exchanging hundreds of messages etc...... all of that is more in the dating and relationship type of thing in my eyes .

So we will carry on enjoying sex with others and using the site the way that works for us . I would say we are sorry about that if it spoils it for those who prefer the social side , but we aren’t sorry , so I won’t .

Happy swinging , however you dress it up everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are firmly in the meet up and have sex without strings camp on this one . This doesn’t mean we will fuck anyone , but we aren’t into the whole social / make friends thing . We are a committed happily married couple who enjoy sex with others too . It’s that simple , and if this means people think it spoils the ethos of what swinging is , tough .

We accept that there are lots of people on the site are looking for so much more than this , but because we aren’t , it doesn’t mean we are spoiling anything for them .

Think about the history of non monogamous relationships - roman orgies , the Greeks and then the swinging sixties . Keys in a bowl and so on . We have moved in somewhat since then , we have the opportunity to say yes or no , and even to read a profile and sometimes see pics first . But ultimately , the nature of swinging is to be able to enjoy sex with others without strings or judgement . I’ve yet to see swinging described as a pastime which involves jumping through hoops , establishing meaningful friendships , socialising with those you have no interest in shagging , exchanging hundreds of messages etc...... all of that is more in the dating and relationship type of thing in my eyes .

So we will carry on enjoying sex with others and using the site the way that works for us . I would say we are sorry about that if it spoils it for those who prefer the social side , but we aren’t sorry , so I won’t .

Happy swinging , however you dress it up everyone "

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By *riskynriskyCouple
over a year ago

Essex.

For us tge site is an easy way to keep in touch with people we have met at clubs.

We let people know when we are going out and where we are going.

It's up to them if they want to come and find us, so we don't really plan meets on here...

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By *sGivesWood OP   Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"For us tge site is an easy way to keep in touch with people we have met at clubs.

We let people know when we are going out and where we are going.

It's up to them if they want to come and find us, so we don't really plan meets on here..."

I don't look for meets here generally as it's a waste of time, I wonder how many guys actually would have met my friend and how many would have been timewasters

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