FabSwingers.com forum: Safety

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Many people it seems, are ok with meeting at someones home or yours (you have may been conversing but not met)

I refuse to do it unless met before a few times and i trust them as my safety is important and if anyone who doesn't get that i wont meet,

whats your stance on this?

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By *i1971Man
over a year ago

Cornwall

That's a sensible approach. Personally I prefer to meet socially first, coffee & chat. However, have met by going straight to their house, and although the meets have been ok, have thought in hindsight that I was a muppet for doing so. Ultimately we're all responsible for our own safety & each must do what they need to, if it makes them feel safer

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By *wo4FemCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Many people it seems, are ok with meeting at someones home or yours (you have may been conversing but not met)

I refuse to do it unless met before a few times and i trust them as my safety is important and if anyone who doesn't get that i wont meet,

whats your stance on this?

Safety has to come first regardless of who you are. We meet socially first, usally in a bar and have a chat and a drink whilst we get to know each other and see if their is any chemistry between us.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

It’s different as a couple , and we have never done a social meet .

We happily rock up , fuck and go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I meet on my terms of what works & keeps me safe ~ Anyone who doesn't agree can go do one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never go to someone's house and there's no chance they'd come to mine. If they don't like that tough, I won't meet them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm happy to invite someone to mine but I would have to meet socially. Or at the very least talk on the phone and get to know each other in a verbal way. It's never safe and easy to get things wrong but I'm quite a good judge of character

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By *iscean MaleMan
over a year ago

Darlaston

I have no issues inviting people to mine or going to someones house when ready as I never do hotels.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use my Spidey Senses ..

So far I've been right or maybe lucky

If I over thought meeting people on here then I wouldn't meet anyone!

It's like anything in life you have to take a risk - otherwise you will miss out!

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

"I use my Spidey Senses ..

So far I've been right or maybe lucky

If I over thought meeting people on here then I wouldn't meet anyone!

It's like anything in life you have to take a risk - otherwise you will miss out!

Spot on , love this attitude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just a thought just coz u meet someone in a bar or cafe first doesnt mean their not dangerous its still a stranger after all

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"I use my Spidey Senses ..

So far I've been right or maybe lucky

If I over thought meeting people on here then I wouldn't meet anyone!

It's like anything in life you have to take a risk - otherwise you will miss out!

I'm the same!

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"I use my Spidey Senses ..

So far I've been right or maybe lucky

If I over thought meeting people on here then I wouldn't meet anyone!

It's like anything in life you have to take a risk - otherwise you will miss out!

I agree with this. I do always let someone know where I'll be though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Many people it seems, are ok with meeting at someones home or yours (you have may been conversing but not met)

I refuse to do it unless met before a few times and i trust them as my safety is important and if anyone who doesn't get that i wont meet,

whats your stance on this?

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even as a man I like a social chat first make sure that they are who they say and also that we engage with each other as for a lady it's a no brainer even when I can accommodate I ask to m meet them somewhere else first

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By *D835Man
over a year ago

London

"I use my Spidey Senses ..

So far I've been right or maybe lucky

If I over thought meeting people on here then I wouldn't meet anyone!

It's like anything in life you have to take a risk - otherwise you will miss out!

Nice Approach !!!

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Clubs are safest in that respect and you get a 'protection' against no-shows and timewasters as there is often PlanB's around, or just socialising if not.

Home meets at eithers can be a safety issue and could turn sour even with someone you thought you knew.

Keep safe, have fun xx

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By *sums.r.usCouple
over a year ago

conwy

Yea. Safety first. Always.

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

Always chat on here, then a social.

Yes I'd go to soneones house, if I felt comfortable after that.

My best friend always knows where I'm going, she can track my phone too.

I rarely accommodate though due to unpredictable teenagers who appear without warning.

In fact I've only ever had 2 people to my house, one of which already I knew but met through here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Many people it seems, are ok with meeting at someones home or yours (you have may been conversing but not met)

I refuse to do it unless met before a few times and i trust them as my safety is important and if anyone who doesn't get that i wont meet,

whats your stance on this?

Totally the same. Remember they are strangers, no need to put yourself at risk just for a shag!

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By *lighty1Woman
over a year ago

You Dont Need to Know, right now

I've invited strange men to my house without a social 3 times. Twice it was late at night, and I was feeling horny. The other time, we'd been chatting online for months, when he called to say he'd travelled "Up North" from Oxford on business, and could be with me in 30 mins (he arrived 2.5 hours later, and admitted he thought Manchester was half-an-hour from Nottingham!).

All 3 times worked out fine, but I knew every time that I was taking a risk, so I gave up meeting at home, without a social in a public place first. It was a bit like when I used to ride a motorbike. I 'got away with it' for about 5 years, but then I gave up, thinking that my luck would run out soon, and I would be killed or seriously injured in an accident.

So now I never meet without a social first in a pub or coffee bar - and I never ride a motorbike!

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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago

swingers clubs

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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago

swingers clubs

We prefer club meets as we can then keep swinging and personal life separate.

We learned this the hard way mind. With a guy who had been invited to the house.

Just be warned, you can't make them forget where you live. And when a guy starts sending photos of knives and guns saying he was driving past your house and had these in his car...

It's also why we don't use snap chat, kik or WhatsApp.

Communication comes through the site. That way it can be reported if necessary and also stops incessant messaging once they have the ability to contact you of site. Sometimes these apps make communication too easy.

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

"I use my Spidey Senses ..

So far I've been right or maybe lucky

If I over thought meeting people on here then I wouldn't meet anyone!

It's like anything in life you have to take a risk - otherwise you will miss out!

I'm the same! "

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I never meet at mine for different reasons. I've been to guys houses after checking them out previously over coffee. But at the end of the day it is very risky, anything could happen.

On my way out of a chaps house I noticed he had a collection of medieval type weapons displayed in his hallway. There was a mace as well

I never went back!!

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By *orthern BeardMan
over a year ago

Preston

Much prefer covering the cost of a hotel. Safe for both parties, you never know who you're meeting

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By *Devil77Man
over a year ago

West Midlands

"Many people it seems, are ok with meeting at someones home or yours (you have may been conversing but not met)

I refuse to do it unless met before a few times and i trust them as my safety is important and if anyone who doesn't get that i wont meet,

whats your stance on this?

I've never arranged a meet at my home as I won't consider it unless it's with someone I've met several times and consider a close friend.

I prefer a social and a hotel room if it gets that far.

I have my daughter at home regularly, so I just put my profile as cannot accommodate as to avoid confusion,but this seems to give the impression that I'm either married and/or cheating.

Rock...me...hardplace!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer hotel meets for this reason, I have a best friend who I tell where I am and when I'll be out

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Always a social in a public place first for me, if they don't want that, then they clearly have no regard for safety, mine or theirs.

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By *Devil77Man
over a year ago

West Midlands

"I prefer hotel meets for this reason, I have a best friend who I tell where I am and when I'll be out

Wish I had a friend I could trust like that.

I suppose it's different for men though.

As a woman,I think the friend knowing where you are is an excellent idea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I never go to someone's house and there's no chance they'd come to mine. If they don't like that tough, I won't meet them. "

This exactly!

But many don't seem to understand x

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