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"How do we go about asking to meet couples of Colour about meeting without it coming across all racist? X " Probably don't call them coloured for a start? | |||
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"How do we go about asking to meet couples of Colour about meeting without it coming across all racist? X " Too late. You don't refer to someone as a person "of colour" | |||
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" Too late. You don't refer to someone as a person "of colour"" Agree!  | |||
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"i normally find that "hello" is a radical start....... but on the finding a black couple to play with.. i tend to find asking for a "black couple" helps......." | |||
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"It's no big deal, simply use the ethnicity filter, browse merrily away, and when you find someone suitable, simply introduce yourself and see where it leads you. I'm not sure what black folks in the UK think of the term "people of colour". I, for one don't think you were being pejorative - and know it's a phrase in common use over in the USA. " You're right, "people of colour" is considered an acceptable term in the USA (and I thought here as well, but I could be wrong?) But "colored" (as the OP used in this thread title) is generally considered to be an old fashioned, offensive term. | |||
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"No way in hell I'd meet someone who refered to me as "coloured" " The connotations of the word for many (myself included) hark back to the bad old days of bigotry in Britain and hideous apartheid regime in South Africa. | |||
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"Think that’s all semantics really. What one group of people like to be called varies from place to place and changes over time. The fuckers you need to watch are the ones that know all the right words. They are the ones making lists. " | |||
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"It's no big deal, simply use the ethnicity filter, browse merrily away, and when you find someone suitable, simply introduce yourself and see where it leads you. I'm not sure what black folks in the UK think of the term "people of colour". I, for one don't think you were being pejorative - and know it's a phrase in common use over in the USA. You're right, "people of colour" is considered an acceptable term in the USA (and I thought here as well, but I could be wrong?) But "colored" (as the OP used in this thread title) is generally considered to be an old fashioned, offensive term." Don't you just love how two white males are now experts on what the accepted terminologys are  | |||
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"Think that’s all semantics really. What one group of people like to be called varies from place to place and changes over time. The fuckers you need to watch are the ones that know all the right words. They are the ones making lists. " Agree | |||
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"Try educating people without kicking their teeth in. You dont have to get all "points of view" on their asses. They've been told. Move on." Here, here!! | |||
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"Try educating people without kicking their teeth in. You dont have to get all "points of view" on their asses. They've been told. Move on." And miss an opportunity to virtue signal to the whole forum? | |||
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"It's no big deal, simply use the ethnicity filter, browse merrily away, and when you find someone suitable, simply introduce yourself and see where it leads you. I'm not sure what black folks in the UK think of the term "people of colour". I, for one don't think you were being pejorative - and know it's a phrase in common use over in the USA. You're right, "people of colour" is considered an acceptable term in the USA (and I thought here as well, but I could be wrong?) But "colored" (as the OP used in this thread title) is generally considered to be an old fashioned, offensive term." Some chinese TV presenter (in america) was saying how 'oriental' was not an acceptable term in the USA - what a cunt. | |||
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"Try educating people without kicking their teeth in. You dont have to get all "points of view" on their asses. They've been told. Move on." Clem someone's hacked your account and written a sensible post 
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"It's no big deal, simply use the ethnicity filter, browse merrily away, and when you find someone suitable, simply introduce yourself and see where it leads you. I'm not sure what black folks in the UK think of the term "people of colour". I, for one don't think you were being pejorative - and know it's a phrase in common use over in the USA. You're right, "people of colour" is considered an acceptable term in the USA (and I thought here as well, but I could be wrong?) But "colored" (as the OP used in this thread title) is generally considered to be an old fashioned, offensive term. Don't you just love how two white males are now experts on what the accepted terminologys are "That's because they are more likely to get in trouble if they use the wrong term than you are. | |||
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"I think White is offensive. " How so? | |||
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"I think White is offensive. How so?" Use the term people want to be referred to as. I never stop laughing at the unending stupidity when a white person complains "political correctness". I know tons of black people who don't like being called colored. You dont have ownership over their bodies therefore they don't have to tolerate any term you give them just because you're horny but lack social skills. That is u less of course you find someone who doesn't mind being called coloured. Until then, good luck I guess. | |||
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"No way in hell I'd meet someone who refered to me as "coloured" " But in your profile your asking to meet white men. Thats fucked up politically correct bullshit. | |||
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"I think White is offensive. How so? Use the term people want to be referred to as. I never stop laughing at the unending stupidity when a white person complains "political correctness". I know tons of black people who don't like being called colored. You dont have ownership over their bodies therefore they don't have to tolerate any term you give them just because you're horny but lack social skills. That is u less of course you find someone who doesn't mind being called coloured. Until then, good luck I guess." I refer you to my previous answer. | |||
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"It's no big deal, simply use the ethnicity filter, browse merrily away, and when you find someone suitable, simply introduce yourself and see where it leads you. I'm not sure what black folks in the UK think of the term "people of colour". I, for one don't think you were being pejorative - and know it's a phrase in common use over in the USA. You're right, "people of colour" is considered an acceptable term in the USA (and I thought here as well, but I could be wrong?) But "colored" (as the OP used in this thread title) is generally considered to be an old fashioned, offensive term. Don't you just love how two white males are now experts on what the accepted terminologys are "...because I lived in the US for a while, and dated a few girls here and there - who just happened to be black.  | |||
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"No way in hell I'd meet someone who refered to me as "coloured" But in your profile your asking to meet white men. Thats fucked up politically correct bullshit." "Coloured" and "white" are not remotely the same as I see plenty of white people call themselves white and thus show they have no problem with the term. I am yet to see a single ethnic minority fabber refer to themselves colored. This is an attempt to be disingenuous and it only makes u look stupid. | |||
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"It's no big deal, simply use the ethnicity filter, browse merrily away, and when you find someone suitable, simply introduce yourself and see where it leads you. I'm not sure what black folks in the UK think of the term "people of colour". I, for one don't think you were being pejorative - and know it's a phrase in common use over in the USA. You're right, "people of colour" is considered an acceptable term in the USA (and I thought here as well, but I could be wrong?) But "colored" (as the OP used in this thread title) is generally considered to be an old fashioned, offensive term. Don't you just love how two white males are now experts on what the accepted terminologys are "I'd prefer if you used the correct term please - it's called "whitesplaining"  | |||
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"I think White is offensive. How so? Use the term people want to be referred to as. I never stop laughing at the unending stupidity when a white person complains "political correctness". I know tons of black people who don't like being called colored. You dont have ownership over their bodies therefore they don't have to tolerate any term you give them just because you're horny but lack social skills. That is u less of course you find someone who doesn't mind being called coloured. Until then, good luck I guess." It works both ways. You don't have owmership over their bodies and they don't have ownership over your mouth. They don't have to tolerate any term and people don't have to use terms they will tolerate. It is of course polite to do so, but there are less obvious terms that offend some people and some people love being outraged. | |||
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"I think White is offensive. How so? Use the term people want to be referred to as. I never stop laughing at the unending stupidity when a white person complains "political correctness". I know tons of black people who don't like being called colored. You dont have ownership over their bodies therefore they don't have to tolerate any term you give them just because you're horny but lack social skills. That is u less of course you find someone who doesn't mind being called coloured. Until then, good luck I guess." I can't work out if you're having a go at me all I asked is why would a white person find being called white offensive. | |||
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"I think White is offensive. How so? Use the term people want to be referred to as. I never stop laughing at the unending stupidity when a white person complains "political correctness". I know tons of black people who don't like being called colored. You dont have ownership over their bodies therefore they don't have to tolerate any term you give them just because you're horny but lack social skills. That is u less of course you find someone who doesn't mind being called coloured. Until then, good luck I guess. I can't work out if you're having a go at me all I asked is why would a white person find being called white offensive. "Its not having a go. I know a lot of friends who call white people "white boy" or "white chick", if I used to use said terminology and the white people in question didnt like it, I would not use it. Simple as really. As stated, you will be hard pressed to find anyone who likes being referred to as "colored". | |||
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"It's no big deal, simply use the ethnicity filter, browse merrily away, and when you find someone suitable, simply introduce yourself and see where it leads you. I'm not sure what black folks in the UK think of the term "people of colour". I, for one don't think you were being pejorative - and know it's a phrase in common use over in the USA. You're right, "people of colour" is considered an acceptable term in the USA (and I thought here as well, but I could be wrong?) But "colored" (as the OP used in this thread title) is generally considered to be an old fashioned, offensive term. Don't you just love how two white males are now experts on what the accepted terminologys are
...because I lived in the US for a while, and dated a few girls here and there - who just happened to be black. "Dont tell me you got good friends who happen to be black as well . Yeah thought so. You sure are the expert. | |||
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"No way in hell I'd meet someone who refered to me as "coloured" But in your profile your asking to meet white men. Thats fucked up politically correct bullshit." Not sure how you made the correlation between those two points but I'd be happy to clear something up for you. The term "white" isn't offensive, the term "coloured" is. There are plenty of WHITE men who are able to approach me both on here and in real life without being offensive and calling me "coloured"  | |||
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"It's no big deal, simply use the ethnicity filter, browse merrily away, and when you find someone suitable, simply introduce yourself and see where it leads you. I'm not sure what black folks in the UK think of the term "people of colour". I, for one don't think you were being pejorative - and know it's a phrase in common use over in the USA. You're right, "people of colour" is considered an acceptable term in the USA (and I thought here as well, but I could be wrong?) But "colored" (as the OP used in this thread title) is generally considered to be an old fashioned, offensive term. Don't you just love how two white males are now experts on what the accepted terminologys are
...because I lived in the US for a while, and dated a few girls here and there - who just happened to be black.
Dont tell me you got good friends who happen to be black as well . Yeah thought so. You sure are the expert. "Why thank you kind sir. | |||
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"It's no big deal, simply use the ethnicity filter, browse merrily away, and when you find someone suitable, simply introduce yourself and see where it leads you. I'm not sure what black folks in the UK think of the term "people of colour". I, for one don't think you were being pejorative - and know it's a phrase in common use over in the USA. You're right, "people of colour" is considered an acceptable term in the USA (and I thought here as well, but I could be wrong?) But "colored" (as the OP used in this thread title) is generally considered to be an old fashioned, offensive term. Don't you just love how two white males are now experts on what the accepted terminologys are
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Dont tell me you got good friends who happen to be black as well . Yeah thought so. You sure are the expert. "Hell, I used to have a black cat. So I can't be racist. | |||
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"I think White is offensive. How so? Use the term people want to be referred to as. I never stop laughing at the unending stupidity when a white person complains "political correctness". I know tons of black people who don't like being called colored. You dont have ownership over their bodies therefore they don't have to tolerate any term you give them just because you're horny but lack social skills. That is u less of course you find someone who doesn't mind being called coloured. Until then, good luck I guess. I can't work out if you're having a go at me all I asked is why would a white person find being called white offensive. "I don't, I was being flippant! | |||
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"i normally find that "hello" is a radical start....... but on the finding a black couple to play with.. i tend to find asking for a "black couple" helps......." | |||
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"Thank you for all your posts. The last thing we acted to do was offend anyone. So thanks again for the help/ suggestions x" In all fairness I didn't see the original post as you being offensive, it clearly wasn't meant that way x | |||
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"My washing machine always asks me to choose "white" or "coloureds". Sally" Haha nice one | |||
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"The OP is merely looking for a preference, no one would blink an eye if they wanted a blonde or a redhead! So if we were looking to fulfil the GF's fantasy of having an Usher lookalike, do we ask for black (which he's not really) half-caste (which was an acceptable term during my school years) or is it now IC3?! " It's now IC3 I'm afraid lol..... But even if you use IC3 it will still offend some. For me if people use black or coloured to describe me, I won't feel offended by either. But people are different and can interpret certain words differently which can make the said word offensive to them. | |||
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"Growing up in there 80's we were taught "black" was racist, and TOLD to call people "coloured" as this was politely descriptive of all darker skin colourings. Now it's the opposite!! FFS, does everyone have to be offended about everything these days?!? " Did you grow up on the set of Till Death Us Do Part? | |||
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"Growing up in there 80's we were taught "black" was racist, and TOLD to call people "coloured" as this was politely descriptive of all darker skin colourings. Now it's the opposite!! FFS, does everyone have to be offended about everything these days?!? Did you grow up on the set of Till Death Us Do Part? "Actually in an Asian school. Weren't allowed to use terms like black-list, black-board etc | |||
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"I bet the "do-gooders" jizzed in their politically correct pants at this one. Can I also ask how we should now punish teens for saying 'nigger' yet rap stars like Kendrick Lamar and Kanye etc who they idolise spit it out Tourette's fashion.... Or how British can be shortened to Brits but when Pakistani is shortened its abusive?? it's either right or wrong, or just a fucking word and we all crack on with living???" most people dont shout out "Brit!" when they see someone they dont like, they will however shout out "Paki!"..just on looking. It was shouted to me by a passer by a few months ago..despite the fact I'm an IC3........... | |||
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"I take it 'white' is not a colour." In physics, a color is visible light with a specific wavelength. Black and white are not colors because they do not have specific wavelengths. Instead, white light contains all wavelengths of visible light. Black, on the other hand, is the absence of visible light. | |||
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"I take it 'white' is not a colour. In physics, a color is visible light with a specific wavelength. Black and white are not colors because they do not have specific wavelengths. Instead, white light contains all wavelengths of visible light. Black, on the other hand, is the absence of visible light." Love this answer!!! | |||
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"I take it 'white' is not a colour. In physics, a color is visible light with a specific wavelength. Black and white are not colors because they do not have specific wavelengths. Instead, white light contains all wavelengths of visible light. Black, on the other hand, is the absence of visible light." It still has the letter "u" in it though... | |||
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"We live in an age where anyone can be offended by anything if they so choose." And people get offended if you didn't get offended because it means you are implying they shouldn't get offended and potentially you should have been offended on their behalf even if they weren't offended | |||
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"We live in an age where anyone can be offended by anything if they so choose. And people get offended if you didn't get offended because it means you are implying they shouldn't get offended and potentially you should have been offended on their behalf even if they weren't offended" I for one find your post offensive. It is up to me to be offended if someone else isn't offended on my behalf when I'm not offended by something offensive... | |||
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"We live in an age where anyone can be offended by anything if they so choose. And people get offended if you didn't get offended because it means you are implying they shouldn't get offended and potentially you should have been offended on their behalf even if they weren't offended I for one find your post offensive. It is up to me to be offended if someone else isn't offended on my behalf when I'm not offended by something offensive... "I'm offended by your suggestion that the victim of offence must recognise the offence for it to be offensive. There are several micro aggressions and casual racism that that offended party may not immediately realise is offending them and therefore it is imperative to take offence on behalf of the offended even before they become offended. | |||
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"I think people are missing the main problem. The OP is looking for a black, local couple. In Devon. Give the guy a break, he's already got a job on." That can accomodate | |||
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"We live in an age where anyone can be offended by anything if they so choose. And people get offended if you didn't get offended because it means you are implying they shouldn't get offended and potentially you should have been offended on their behalf even if they weren't offended I for one find your post offensive. It is up to me to be offended if someone else isn't offended on my behalf when I'm not offended by something offensive...
I'm offended by your suggestion that the victim of offence must recognise the offence for it to be offensive. There are several micro aggressions and casual racism that that offended party may not immediately realise is offending them and therefore it is imperative to take offence on behalf of the offended even before they become offended. "I take offence at your passive aggressive offensive reply. I am also offended that no one else is offended that I have been offended. I am even more offended by the person who is offended but has not expressed their offendedness... | |||
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"We live in an age where anyone can be offended by anything if they so choose." No, it's just the inevitable result of getting old. Learning new things takes too much effort, so it's easier to pretend everyone else (including those perky youths) have just gone mad. | |||
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"We live in an age where anyone can be offended by anything if they so choose. No, it's just the inevitable result of getting old. Learning new things takes too much effort, so it's easier to pretend everyone else (including those perky youths) have just gone mad. " Yup, that's why we prefer to focus on learning things that matter rather than solutions to imagined / first world problems. | |||
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"I take it 'white' is not a colour. In physics, a color is visible light with a specific wavelength. Black and white are not colors because they do not have specific wavelengths. Instead, white light contains all wavelengths of visible light. Black, on the other hand, is the absence of visible light. Black and white are not colours? Jeez! What are you smoking?" I guess you also haven't heard that Brazil nuts aren't nuts | |||
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"I take it 'white' is not a colour. In physics, a color is visible light with a specific wavelength. Black and white are not colors because they do not have specific wavelengths. Instead, white light contains all wavelengths of visible light. Black, on the other hand, is the absence of visible light. Black and white are not colours? Jeez! What are you smoking?" In physics they aren't. Are black and white in a rainbow? No. Only the actual colours of light are there. | |||
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"I take it 'white' is not a colour. In physics, a color is visible light with a specific wavelength. Black and white are not colors because they do not have specific wavelengths. Instead, white light contains all wavelengths of visible light. Black, on the other hand, is the absence of visible light. Black and white are not colours? Jeez! What are you smoking? I guess you also haven't heard that Brazil nuts aren't nuts " Apparently the tree that makes brazil nuts (the Brazil tree?) can't be cultivated, so all the Brazil nuts you have ever had have come from wild trees. | |||
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"To be honest, I think people are missing the bigger issue here... Colour is spelled with a "u"!!!
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"I think White is offensive. How so? Use the term people want to be referred to as. I never stop laughing at the unending stupidity when a white person complains "political correctness". I know tons of black people who don't like being called colored. You dont have ownership over their bodies therefore they don't have to tolerate any term you give them just because you're horny but lack social skills. That is u less of course you find someone who doesn't mind being called coloured. Until then, good luck I guess." | |||
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"I think White is offensive. How so? Use the term people want to be referred to as. I never stop laughing at the unending stupidity when a white person complains "political correctness". I know tons of black people who don't like being called colored. You dont have ownership over their bodies therefore they don't have to tolerate any term you give them just because you're horny but lack social skills. That is u less of course you find someone who doesn't mind being called coloured. Until then, good luck I guess." Agree | |||
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"We live in an age where anyone can be offended by anything if they so choose. No, it's just the inevitable result of getting old. Learning new things takes too much effort, so it's easier to pretend everyone else (including those perky youths) have just gone mad. Yup, that's why we prefer to focus on learning things that matter rather than solutions to imagined / first world problems." You understand that's in no way different to what I described, right? | |||
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"To be honest, I think people are missing the bigger issue here... Colour is spelled with a "u"!!!
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"i normally find that "hello" is a radical start....... but on the finding a black couple to play with.. i tend to find asking for a "black couple" helps......." Indeed very radical for those who are beyond approaching someone. Very radical indeed for those who simply want to sit and watch the messages roll in. Life could be so much easier. | |||
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"We’re just normal people, not aliens. There isn’t some secret magical rule to meet “people of colour”. Talk to us like you would anyone else. This is the dumbest thing I’ve ever read " But this is the issue my thread raised the other day. Alot of people here on Fab genuinely lack maturity. An extraordinary number actually. People somehow think that because its a sex site then it means they have to lose of decorum and convention. Even if you do have a strong preference for "coloured" couples...why refer to them as such? I have a strong preference for women with large asses...I dont run around messaging girls with shit like "PAWG" or "fat booty" in the title or message...  | |||
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"i normally find that "hello" is a radical start....... but on the finding a black couple to play with.. i tend to find asking for a "black couple" helps....... Indeed very radical for those who are beyond approaching someone. Very radical indeed for those who simply want to sit and watch the messages roll in. Life could be so much easier. " the problem is that some people "overthink" every situation... and then need to give a thesis lecturing people on how and what should happen..... sometimes a lot can be said for good old common sense.... | |||
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"Talking of goal posts? The posts started shifting a long time ago. I'm afraid they are not settling anytime soon. We just have to make the most of it now. Let's be civil. We'll get there." I totally agree, the goalposts have been constantly moving for 50 years and tbh 'white people' are scared to say anything anymore because whatever they say its going to upset some intolerant liberal. | |||
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"Talking of goal posts? The posts started shifting a long time ago. I'm afraid they are not settling anytime soon. We just have to make the most of it now. Let's be civil. We'll get there. I totally agree, the goalposts have been constantly moving for 50 years and tbh 'white people' are scared to say anything anymore because whatever they say its going to upset some intolerant liberal." i wouldn't say "intolerant liberal" buy why would you think the language of 50 years ago, since you used that example, should be acceptable today? its a genuine question? | |||
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"I wouldn't say "intolerant liberal" buy why would you think the language of 50 years ago, since you used that example, should be acceptable today? its a genuine question?" Its changed probably 5 times over the last 10 years. | |||
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"I wouldn't say "intolerant liberal" buy why would you think the language of 50 years ago, since you used that example, should be acceptable today? its a genuine question? Its changed probably 5 times over the last 10 years. " is that a bad thing? | |||
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"The OP is merely looking for a preference, no one would blink an eye if they wanted a blonde or a redhead! So if we were looking to fulfil the GF's fantasy of having an Usher lookalike, do we ask for black (which he's not really) half-caste (which was an acceptable term during my school years) or is it now IC3?! " Usher has always been black, so any lookalike would also need to be black, not sure why you anything would think he isn't, both his parents are black. Half-Caste i don't find offensive at all because I'm half white and half black a d half English half Jamaican so it's what I am, but i can see why people who aren't straight half and half mixed raced would find it offensive, because its not what they are. | |||
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"I wouldn't say "intolerant liberal" buy why would you think the language of 50 years ago, since you used that example, should be acceptable today? its a genuine question? Its changed probably 5 times over the last 10 years. is that a bad thing? " George Orwell seemed to think it was. | |||
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"Talking of goal posts? The posts started shifting a long time ago. I'm afraid they are not settling anytime soon. We just have to make the most of it now. Let's be civil. We'll get there. I totally agree, the goalposts have been constantly moving for 50 years and tbh 'white people' are scared to say anything anymore because whatever they say its going to upset some intolerant liberal." Intolerant liberal is an oxymoron. Liberals don't police language. | |||
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"It's no big deal, simply use the ethnicity filter, browse merrily away, and when you find someone suitable, simply introduce yourself and see where it leads you. I'm not sure what black folks in the UK think of the term "people of colour". I, for one don't think you were being pejorative - and know it's a phrase in common use over in the USA. You're right, "people of colour" is considered an acceptable term in the USA (and I thought here as well, but I could be wrong?) But "colored" (as the OP used in this thread title) is generally considered to be an old fashioned, offensive term. Don't you just love how two white males are now experts on what the accepted terminologys are "Well rather than being sarcastic why not enlighten them/us on current accepted terminology, it seems to change like the wind. | |||
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"I wouldn't say "intolerant liberal" buy why would you think the language of 50 years ago, since you used that example, should be acceptable today? its a genuine question? Its changed probably 5 times over the last 10 years. is that a bad thing? " Not just bad but absolutely ridiculous. | |||
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" Intolerant liberal is an oxymoron. Liberals don't police language. " Liberals are the most intolerant people on earth. They shut down free speech at every turn. They are only tolerant if you agree with everything they say. | |||
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"I wouldn't say "intolerant liberal" buy why would you think the language of 50 years ago, since you used that example, should be acceptable today? its a genuine question? Its changed probably 5 times over the last 10 years. " Can you name us 2 of those 5 terms that were acceptable in the last 10 years that are no longer acceptable? | |||
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" Intolerant liberal is an oxymoron. Liberals don't police language. Liberals are the most intolerant people on earth. They shut down free speech at every turn. They are only tolerant if you agree with everything they say." You clearly don't understand what a liberal is
You're probably confusing them with lefists. I know they both start with 'l' but that's about all they have in common. | |||
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" You can choose what "Ethnic Groups" you want to meet in the search function. x " Really? | |||
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" You can choose what "Ethnic Groups" you want to meet in the search function. x Really? "Well I'll be damned! | |||
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" Intolerant liberal is an oxymoron. Liberals don't police language. Liberals are the most intolerant people on earth. They shut down free speech at every turn. They are only tolerant if you agree with everything they say." Oh, if we could only harness the power of people whining about the imagined impingement on their free speech. | |||
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"Talking of goal posts? The posts started shifting a long time ago. I'm afraid they are not settling anytime soon. We just have to make the most of it now. Let's be civil. We'll get there. I totally agree, the goalposts have been constantly moving for 50 years and tbh 'white people' are scared to say anything anymore because whatever they say its going to upset some intolerant liberal." "Intolerant liberal" ? Once upon a time it was 'acceptable' to refer to black people as n*ggers, are being intolerant liberals by being offended by that term as well or? | |||
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"To be honest, I think people are missing the bigger issue here... Colour is spelled with a "u"!!!
Not everywhere it isn't!
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"How do we go about asking to meet couples of Colour about meeting without it coming across all racist? X Probably don't call them coloured for a start?" | |||
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"It's no big deal, simply use the ethnicity filter, browse merrily away, and when you find someone suitable, simply introduce yourself and see where it leads you. I'm not sure what black folks in the UK think of the term "people of colour". I, for one don't think you were being pejorative - and know it's a phrase in common use over in the USA. You're right, "people of colour" is considered an acceptable term in the USA (and I thought here as well, but I could be wrong?) But "colored" (as the OP used in this thread title) is generally considered to be an old fashioned, offensive term." it was an acceptable term at one time when i was in junior school one of my best mates was black and the kids kept calling her black and her mum came down the school shutting at all the kids holding something black next to her asking if she was that colour...we was taught that coloured was the correct term and unless u have been correct at sometime that what u was taught was wrong u will just keep doing it | |||
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