FabSwingers.com forum: Why are young people shut down so quick

By *obby931000 OP Man
over a year ago

new york city

Been here a while and if you not above 30 you getting nothing much ?

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

I don't find younger people that attractive. I like the physical and mental maturity that only age can bring.

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By *obby931000 OP Man
over a year ago

new york city

Fair enough but is that a generalization for everyone or just you ?

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"Fair enough but is that a generalization for everyone or just you ? "

That shows you still have some brain maturity to finish off, it’s a normal, physiological process.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

can i ask why you think your age is the factor?

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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago

swingers clubs

"Been here a while and if you not above 30 you getting nothing much ?

Most over 30s would tell you the same.

If you're serious about meeting, get off the Internet and get to a club, with real people who you can see and talk to

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By *obby931000 OP Man
over a year ago

new york city

That shows you still have some brain maturity to finish off, it’s a normal, physiological process.

Did you not use the word “I” so the question wasn’t directly to yourself, I was asking the forum is that a generalization (do others agree with your statement) or is it just yourself that thinks that

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

I don't think your age is the main problem.

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By *obby931000 OP Man
over a year ago

new york city

If you're serious about meeting,:

See the main problem there is Ireland let alone the north west doesn’t have clubs and are very hard to find

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"That shows you still have some brain maturity to finish off, it’s a normal, physiological process.

I think you're replying to two different people at once OP

If you use the reply and quote it's easier

I answered you first and I was speaking for myself. I can only speak for myself!

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By *razycoupleniCouple
over a year ago

belfast

Ok you do have somethings which aren’t helping. Firstly you single male so the odds aren’t in your favour to start with. Then you have no pictures and finally you are on the younger side. My advice is to redo your profile

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By *obby931000 OP Man
over a year ago

new york city

"That shows you still have some brain maturity to finish off, it’s a normal, physiological process.

I think you're replying to two different people at once OP

If you use the reply and quote it's easier

I answered you first and I was speaking for myself. I can only speak for myself! "

Thank you for your opinion, it does help

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By *obby931000 OP Man
over a year ago

new york city

"Ok you do have somethings which aren’t helping. Firstly you single male so the odds aren’t in your favour to start with. Then you have no pictures and finally you are on the younger side. My advice is to redo your profile "

Thank you, and advice on the redo side of things ?

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

"I don't find younger people that attractive. I like the physical and mental maturity that only age can bring. "

Age alone doesn't bring maturity. Life experience does and some experience a lot irrelevant of age. I know this as my fwb is only 22 and she's very mature for her age..even more so than some older people I've met

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

Thank you, and advice on the redo side of things ? "

Lool at a thread titled help

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"I don't find younger people that attractive. I like the physical and mental maturity that only age can bring.

Cool but I like the physical and mental maturity that only age can bring.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah for myself I'm not sexually into younger people that much , and they may not meet my requirements

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Age has a slight bearing due to the fact some women have children and that affects their ability to see a young chap in a sexual manner. It's also rather crucial that you conduct yourself appropriately too. It's just a typical case of preferences and you're not always going to fall within them. Having said that, plenty of photos and frequent posts in forums can help people get a primary idea of your character but I don't feel like moaning or self pity is an attractive trait, I'd imagine that's a similar view for women too.

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By *obby931000 OP Man
over a year ago

new york city

"Age has a slight bearing due to the fact some women have children and that affects their ability to see a young chap in a sexual manner. It's also rather crucial that you conduct yourself appropriately too. It's just a typical case of preferences and you're not always going to fall within them. Having said that, plenty of photos and frequent posts in forums can help people get a primary idea of your character but I don't feel like moaning or self

pity is an attractive trait, I'd imagine that's a similar view for women too. "

Good point i said I’d just ask to see what others thought, I’ll only learn from asking questions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Age is not a factor for us but an interesting profile always grabs our attention

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By *obby931000 OP Man
over a year ago

new york city

"Age is not a factor for us but an interesting profile always grabs our attention "

How do you mean interesting do you mind me asking

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley

Interesting to us stems from getting the feeling that we will have things in common and not just sexual preferences. Yes people can be more 'mature' than others at the same young age but if you're looking for someone you're going to get on socially with it's unlikely (as opposed to impossible) to be someone who's decades younger. For couples with adult children there can also be a natural aversion to having sex with people of a similar age to the kids. That's certainly how we feel and that's why we won't meet younger guys however mature they are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been here a while and if you not above 30 you getting nothing much ?

Been here since 21 and confirm you're rather wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Interesting to us stems from getting the feeling that we will have things in common and not just sexual preferences. Yes people can be more 'mature' than others at the same young age but if you're looking for someone you're going to get on socially with it's unlikely (as opposed to impossible) to be someone who's decades younger. For couples with adult children there can also be a natural aversion to having sex with people of a similar age to the kids. That's certainly how we feel and that's why we won't meet younger guys however mature they are. "

Spot on for the most part, however as for getting on socially with someone decades younger well things ranging from my music taste to general opinions and such generally mean if I go into a bar I'll end up spending most of the evening chatting to people in their mid to late thirties. Just seems to be more captivating conversation for me.

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By *razedcatMan
over a year ago

London / Herts

"Been here a while and if you not above 30 you getting nothing much ?

That's not true - I've been having fun on here, on and off, for a few years, never had too much difficulty meeting people...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are opportunities for everyone on this site no matter what age, It's just where you choose to look for it. I always say go to clubs or socials and connect because you get a better chance to connect with people than you do sending endless messages.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

I just find it a bit weird. Go out and get some life skills. Learn how relationships work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm guessing a majority of people on here are middle aged and are not comfortable having sex with people young enough to be their son's or daughters.

If there were mostly under 30s on here, including women, old people like me would be getting shut down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer younger men but most under 30s don't accommodate and neither do I.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I prefer younger men but most under 30s don't accommodate and neither do I. "

That's the beauty with hotels, you needn't have to worry about all of the mess either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I prefer younger men but most under 30s don't accommodate and neither do I.

That's the beauty with hotels, you needn't have to worry about all of the mess either

I'm looking for regular partners, who can accommodate. Not many people would want to regularly pay for a hotel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I prefer younger men but most under 30s don't accommodate and neither do I.

That's the beauty with hotels, you needn't have to worry about all of the mess either

Also personally I enjoy staying in different places and seeing new things along the way so it's perfect for me.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Been here a while and if you not above 30 you getting nothing much ?

who says you are being shut down?

I think you have to be pragmatic....

not every person is going to like people young enough to be their sons or daughters....

and not every person is going to like people old enough to be their mums and dads.....

people like to concentrate on the their that excludes them, rather than concentrate on those who embrace them....

sometimes its like being want the challenge of trying to change people who are not going to change, then complaint because they won't change....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not to mention that there are also sapiosexuals around including myself and people of all age ranges where the biggest factor is mental stimulation. You have to engage them from that initial message.

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

It's not your age thats the problem OP.

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By *obby931000 OP Man
over a year ago

new york city

"It's not your age thats the problem OP."

So what do you think is ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I went to a place where young people hang out, and tried to pull, I would be shot down so fast in favour of younger fitter women. So I wonder why all of a sudden young guys come to Fab and take an interest in middle aged women like myself who they wouldn't look twice at when with their peers. I think the 'shooting down' goes both ways. At the end of the day I feel more comfortable with my own age group.

Mrs

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

"It's not your age thats the problem OP.

So what do you think is ? "

You're male

You're single

You have no profile picture

You have no public photos

Your age range goes up to 80

Your profile needs work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I went to a place where young people hang out, and tried to pull, I would be shot down so fast in favour of younger fitter women. So I wonder why all of a sudden young guys come to Fab and take an interest in middle aged women like myself who they wouldn't look twice at when with their peers. I think the 'shooting down' goes both ways. At the end of the day I feel more comfortable with my own age group.

Mrs"

absolutely this...never seen it put better...

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"I don't think your age is the main problem. "
it's clearly not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think age is much of an issue on here either, as we attract quite a few people who find us being younger appealing. I think for some it's the whole mentoring idea so being younger can be beneficial. So I'd say it's more about the quality of your profile, you could put more effort into it, look at other profiles and see what they do for ideas

A x

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By *uriousTwosomeCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

"Been here a while and if you not above 30 you getting nothing much ?

Bless, try being 45!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would have no problem playing with a guy of your age ...if I didn't have sons in their 20s and 30s! I actually prefer younger guys than myself. I find guys over 55 more set in their ways and controlling which I don't like.

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

"Been here a while and if you not above 30 you getting nothing much ?

Most over 30s would tell you the same.

If you're serious about meeting, get off the Internet and get to a club, with real people who you can see and talk to"

Exactly - I often play with young guys in a club where I can see and talk to them before committing to play. I've no intention of playing with anyone, young or old, who expects a free fuck for writing a three line message on fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because a lot of them brag about skills they haven't got its a big disappointment

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

You've been here a while op and maybe seen many posts from single males of all ages who struggle to get meets. Whilst I've been to Ireland, I don't know your club options.

With regard to your age as a single guy, it's less of an issue if you target people who have stated their preference for guys who match you - forget the rest.

Your profile is your main way to sell you, to make yourself seem like the kind of person that u potentially better for the viewer than the rest here. Use that opportunity wisely.

Fab cant make a higher density of potential meets in an area than there are - some places are just more remote and are a long way from commercial venues too. Some people travel regularly to areas with more or different opportunities. There will always be huge competition from other men though and a club visit is no guarantee of any action.

If you mainly want single women then you may be better suited to meet more conventionally. It's reasonable to assume that life here for you single men is not easy - even in major cities like London.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If your over 50 it's fecking hard going

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By *owlin WolfMan
over a year ago

wirral

"Been here a while and if you not above 30 you getting nothing much ?

Most over 30s would tell you the same.

If you're serious about meeting, get off the Internet and get to a club, with real people who you can see and talk to

Oh well said!

Personally, I have to engage in conversation.

Now, like other's, age isn't a factor for me, but as other posts have so eloquently put, it may (and I stress the may) be for some.

We are all individuals after all and generalisations are, usually, unreliable.

You've had some good advice here:

1. Work on your profile. What makes you unique, stand out, different?

2. Photos... I'll be the first to admit that mine are rubbish, so will leave others with more experience and credibility to comment there.

3. Have a conversation. Get on a flight and come to the UK (assuming of course you can find one with all the Ryanair cancellations) and go to a club. I know lots of people on the island of Ireland do just that.

Try that and see how it goes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mrs"

Its because they think we are all desperate, ugly old bints, and they will get an easy lay

The reality is that we would eat them alive

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

Mrs

absolutely this...never seen it put better..."

Yeah that's nailed that, I agree. I meant to add to my original post, that it works both ways. Doubt anyone under 25 and probably a lot older would have an interest in a woman my age. That's just life. We all have different things to offer at different ages.

Where's my zimmer

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By *TrainMan
over a year ago

London

Mrs

absolutely this...never seen it put better...

Where's my zimmer

Women in their 40s are by far the best

They're more comfortable in themselves and really know how to have fun in meets

And you're beautiful, I'd be surprised at anyone who didn't find you attractive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mrs

absolutely this...never seen it put better...

Where's my zimmer

In the back of the landy...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have met a few guys under 30 and I actually looked for younger guys too but its not just the age I look for....infact one of my favourite friends on here is in his twentys but that is by far not the only reason we get on so well!

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By *obby931000 OP Man
over a year ago

new york city

"Because a lot of them brag about skills they haven't got its a big disappointment "

That’s why I don’t brag, I’m just a normal fella that just enjoys sex the same as everyone here

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By *obby931000 OP Man
over a year ago

new york city

To the quote about shutting down older women if younger were beside me, personally age has never been an issue for me, Iv been with more women older than me than younger, I just rather someone who know about life and knows where there going and can hold a conversation and not be so “but what does the other person think”. I find women that are down to earth and can chat are more attractive than a women with a “nice body” or “nice features” I rather having the craic and joking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To the quote about shutting down older women if younger were beside me, personally age has never been an issue for me, Iv been with more women older than me than younger, I just rather someone who know about life and knows where there going and can hold a conversation and not be so “but what does the other person think”. I find women that are down to earth and can chat are more attractive than a women with a “nice body” or “nice features” I rather having the craic and joking "

They're* sorry to be that guy but I know that's another thing to be mindful of if searching for older ladies. There,they're and their are the usual peeves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We get turned down alot due to Luke being 23 not great but everyone has there preferences

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley

But we're not in our mid to late 30's

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Speak for yourself. I tend to find alot of users who want to chat a and meet us under 30s

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley

"Speak for yourself. I tend to find alot of users who want to chat a and meet us under 30s

I'm sure there are. We don't mind chatting to younger guys, we just choose not to meet them anymore for the reasons stated in our original post.

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

In my opinion the young guys are cool and of course the young guys go through unbelievable stress with the young girls so that's why they come on fabs looking for matured ladies and when they meet the matured ladies they realise the difference is just too much , no stress to start with and another hidden truth is most of these matured ladies have not been properly fucked, they married early so their bodies are still very fresh and their pussy very tight , most of the matured ladies are trophy wives , their husbands don't fuck them daily maybe once every 3 weeks or sometimes months for the ones with husbands working abroad , so when you fuck them as a young guy you see that it is a waste of time taking all the stress from the young girls . I personally prefer the mature ladies although I will not discount a young girl who is mentally matured and ready to jump through all my hoops.

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