FabSwingers.com forum: Bisexuality. A survey

By *inkyLondonpair OP Couple
over a year ago

London

So in the interests of research I have just looked at the first fifty couples profiles to come up on a search. On bisexuality we get the following breakdown.

Both bi 13

Female only bi 28

Male only bi 0

Both straight 9

So if those figures are representative we have 82% of women in couples being bi and only 26% of men.

Anyone got any theories for this discrepancy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the 82% is equal in both men and women, it’s just more acceptable for the women to admit it and not the guys.

I would say any guy who’s prepared to be naked in close proximity in a sexual encounter, with another guy, is getting some form of arousal from that moment.

I know there’ll be a lot of “straight “ guys protesting this, but I reckon most guys, given a no comeback or none judgemental opportunity with another guy, who experiment!

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By *inkyLondonpair OP Couple
over a year ago

London

"I think the 82% is equal in both men and women, it’s just more acceptable for the women to admit it and not the guys.

I would say any guy who’s prepared to be naked in close proximity in a sexual encounter, with another guy, is getting some form of arousal from that moment.

I know there’ll be a lot of “straight “ guys protesting this, but I reckon most guys, given a no comeback or none judgemental opportunity with another guy, who experiment! "

That sounds feasible, but begs the question as to why guys are not more open.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Look at ours

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

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"I think the 82% is equal in both men and women, it’s just more acceptable for the women to admit it and not the guys.

I would say any guy who’s prepared to be naked in close proximity in a sexual encounter, with another guy, is getting some form of arousal from that moment.

I know there’ll be a lot of “straight “ guys protesting this, but I reckon most guys, given a no comeback or none judgemental opportunity with another guy, who experiment! "

First point quite likely to be true in a number of cases. Purely based on what I have read on here there does seem to be a stigma. Rest of what you said. Nonsence. I strip off at the gym and see other guys doing so. I don't get aroused. I only speak for myself and you only speak for you. Neither of us can come to the conclusion that we represent most guys. I have been naked in a sexual encounter with one of my best mates. We both just got on and did our duty for queen and country. We high fived at one point mind you haha

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By *anTouchThisCouple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

MFM is what brought us here, but I only get a kick out of cock if there's a woman on the end of it. Guys don't do it for me.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

But what was your search criteria ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would love to experiment getting oral off a couple

It's a fantasy that has been building for a while lol

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"I would love to experiment getting oral off a couple

It's a fantasy that has been building for a while lol "

Kinda curious then

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By *inkyLondonpair OP Couple
over a year ago

London

"But what was your search criteria ?"

Searched for couples. So they were the fifty nearest us. If anything, given we are London, we are probably over sampling the bi males.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps a little. Would love to see what it is like he he

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Look at ours

Gladly

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

Ok I sampled 25 couples and got this.

Straight / straight - 10

Fem S / Male B -

Male S / Fem B - 12

Both Bi - 3

But I would question the bi side of these women. Bit like with blokes the spectrum is wide and i suspect a lot aren't very bi.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Women are encouraged to explore on here and men aren't sadly it seems ,i think some men hide that they are bi so they are not turned down for meets.

Miss

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By *inkyLondonpair OP Couple
over a year ago

London

"Ok I sampled 25 couples and got this.

Straight / straight - 10

Fem S / Male B -

Male S / Fem B - 12

Both Bi - 3

But I would question the bi side of these women. Bit like with blokes the spectrum is wide and i suspect a lot aren't very bi. "

So you've got 60% v 12%. A similar level of discrepancy.

As for questioning the bi side of women, I think because women are expected to be bi if they are up for a bit of same sex touching they will say they are bi, whilst men who are the same won't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More women claim to be bi then actually are, because it’s seen as desirable for them to be that way.

And less men say they’re bi then actually are, because they see it as a negative to be perceived like that.

I’d say 70% of messages I receive from males on here are from men who have “straight” on their profile.

And all of the women have “curious” or “bi”

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

"I think the 82% is equal in both men and women, it’s just more acceptable for the women to admit it and not the guys.

I would say any guy who’s prepared to be naked in close proximity in a sexual encounter, with another guy, is getting some form of arousal from that moment.

I know there’ll be a lot of “straight “ guys protesting this, but I reckon most guys, given a no comeback or none judgemental opportunity with another guy, who experiment! "

Seriously

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By *rightonCheekyMan
over a year ago

Brighton

As with all Fab surveys the results are a definitive 82% straight 74% bi

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"As with all Fab surveys the results are a definitive 82% straight 74% bi

Doubtful in your town

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By *rightonCheekyMan
over a year ago

Brighton

"As with all Fab surveys the results are a definitive 82% straight 74% bi

Doubtful in your town

Oh it's all gay down here, apparently

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

"I think the 82% is equal in both men and women, it’s just more acceptable for the women to admit it and not the guys.

I would say any guy who’s prepared to be naked in close proximity in a sexual encounter, with another guy, is getting some form of arousal from that moment.

I know there’ll be a lot of “straight “ guys protesting this, but I reckon most guys, given a no comeback or none judgemental opportunity with another guy, who experiment! "

I was thinking the 1st part is correct and then i read further down. What. Where do you get this information from?. Pmsl. What you reckon is soo wrong as well. Just bcz you may want to experiment most guys i think who are actually straight and not fab straight wouldn't lol. No comebacks or not

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

"I think the 82% is equal in both men and women, it’s just more acceptable for the women to admit it and not the guys.

I would say any guy who’s prepared to be naked in close proximity in a sexual encounter, with another guy, is getting some form of arousal from that moment.

I know there’ll be a lot of “straight “ guys protesting this, but I reckon most guys, given a no comeback or none judgemental opportunity with another guy, who experiment!

i have read alot of similar posts on here over the years ..funnily enough every one has been a bi or curious guy that said it ...its almost as if trying to justify their bi tendancies..at the end of the day some are bi some curious and some straight

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By *inkyLondonpair OP Couple
over a year ago

London

"More women claim to be bi then actually are, because it’s seen as desirable for them to be that way.

And less men say they’re bi then actually are, because they see it as a negative to be perceived like that.

I’d say 70% of messages I receive from males on here are from men who have “straight” on their profile.

And all of the women have “curious” or “bi”"

But the question is why

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well that's a bit tedious but here's my results;

Bi f , bi m 10

Straight f straight m 3

Straight f bi m 1

Bi f straight m 36

Seems the vast majority of females claim to be bi!

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

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"More women claim to be bi then actually are, because it’s seen as desirable for them to be that way.

And less men say they’re bi then actually are, because they see it as a negative to be perceived like that.

I’d say 70% of messages I receive from males on here are from men who have “straight” on their profile.

And all of the women have “curious” or “bi”

But the question is why "

Hes given reasons for why.

If you mean why does this occur.

One word - Judgement.

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By *inkyLondonpair OP Couple
over a year ago

London

"More women claim to be bi then actually are, because it’s seen as desirable for them to be that way.

And less men say they’re bi then actually are, because they see it as a negative to be perceived like that.

I’d say 70% of messages I receive from males on here are from men who have “straight” on their profile.

And all of the women have “curious” or “bi”

But the question is why

Hes given reasons for why.

If you mean why does this occur.

One word - Judgement."

That is indeed what I meant and your response begs another question. Why are bi males judged harshly when bi females are not?

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By *offee with MilkCouple
over a year ago

Over the roundabout and then turn right.

All the bi guys who claim to be straight are only hiding from themselves and more importantly losing out on a lot of potential fun

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think the 82% is equal in both men and women, it’s just more acceptable for the women to admit it and not the guys.

I would say any guy who’s prepared to be naked in close proximity in a sexual encounter, with another guy, is getting some form of arousal from that moment.

I know there’ll be a lot of “straight “ guys protesting this, but I reckon most guys, given a no comeback or none judgemental opportunity with another guy, who experiment!

It’s a forum to open up debate, a little controversy to stir up the pot does no harm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Labels

We would all be so much happier without them.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"Labels

We would all be so much happier without them.

Not this lady. I'm quite happy to be honest

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By *jbucksCouple
over a year ago

Bletchley

I think some guys are scared of being that open about even bi curious as some women get suprised when they find out their other half is bi or curious and some men are afraid their other half won't accept it and lead to it ending the relationship and some are scared as they think they would accept it but scared if that scenario happen and it did end because of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's more acceptable for women to be bi.

More men want to watch their partners with a woman than women want to watch theirs with a man.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"It's more acceptable for women to be bi.

More men want to watch their partners with a woman than women want to watch theirs with a man.

Yeah I think this is true in vanilla world and it spills over into the scene.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"More women claim to be bi then actually are, because it’s seen as desirable for them to be that way.

And less men say they’re bi then actually are, because they see it as a negative to be perceived like that.

I’d say 70% of messages I receive from males on here are from men who have “straight” on their profile.

And all of the women have “curious” or “bi”

But the question is why

Hes given reasons for why.

If you mean why does this occur.

One word - Judgement."

Yes judgement probably does come into it for some - but can honestly say in the time I've been on the site I've only ever experienced any kind of judgement about my sexuality twice - and in both cases it was from females who had very bigoted and homophobic views on the matter.

The rest of the time I've had nothing but respect for who I am and my sexual prefences - so to anyone reading this scared of being judged, fear not

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

I did the same search, of 50 couples only 7 featured a bi male. Most (didn't count) were bi or curious female.

So, that's only 14% bi men up here.

Maybe a southern thing?

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"I did the same search, of 50 couples only 7 featured a bi male. Most (didn't count) were bi or curious female.

So, that's only 14% bi men up here.

Maybe a southern thing?

Well they do say softie southerner shandy drinking puffs

(.... that's the bit where we get a shed load of views on our profile

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

"I did the same search, of 50 couples only 7 featured a bi male. Most (didn't count) were bi or curious female.

So, that's only 14% bi men up here.

Maybe a southern thing?

Well they do say softie southerner shandy drinking puffs

(.... that's the bit where we get a shed load of views on our profile

Haha exactly

It was meant as a tongue in cheek stereotype comment, as you know.

I think the OP estimate of male bisexuality is on the high side.

Are women naturally more accepting of each other and their empathy runs through into sexuality too? I dont know, just a thought..

Either way, people should accept their sexuality and not be ashamed of it.

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By *razycoupleniCouple
over a year ago

belfast

Were the couples verified? With the high % of bi women could it be skewed due to the women wanting to explore that side and men are more than happy for there partners to do it. Also I feel bi women label has a bigger range of meaning which makes the case for being bi female easier. Another good point which seems to have been lost due to the comments after it looks better for the profile in many peoples eyes to have a bi female and bi male looks like a negative. This may be a factor of “fab straight” thing going around.

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By *inkyLondonpair OP Couple
over a year ago

London

"I did the same search, of 50 couples only 7 featured a bi male. Most (didn't count) were bi or curious female.

So, that's only 14% bi men up here.

Maybe a southern thing?

Well they do say softie southerner shandy drinking puffs

(.... that's the bit where we get a shed load of views on our profile

)

Haha exactly

It was meant as a tongue in cheek stereotype comment, as you know.

I think the OP estimate of male bisexuality is on the high side.

Are women naturally more accepting of each other and their empathy runs through into sexuality too? I dont know, just a thought..

Either way, people should accept their sexuality and not be ashamed of it."

It's a London thing I thing. We are far less prejudiced than you northern types, hence men are more likely to be open about their sexuality

Seriously, as someone who was born and brought up in Sheffield and has now lived nearly thirty years in the south, you can see the cultural differences. I would bet a lot of money that the location of bi men on here correlates strongly with strong remain areas in the referendum.

And, before anyone says they are bi and voted leave, I am talking correlation not a hard and fast rule

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

It's a London thing I thing. We are far less prejudiced than you northern types, hence men are more likely to be open about their sexuality

And, before anyone says they are bi and voted leave, I am talking correlation not a hard and fast rule "

It's funny you say that. When the Leave campaign bus had to take off the £350m thing, they replaced it with 'Remainers Like Cock' instead

Yes, what's not known in those quick stats is, how many are actually bi, and how many just are prepared to be open about it. But I would be surprised if it was 30% like the OP counted (based on no facts, just gut feeling)

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"I did the same search, of 50 couples only 7 featured a bi male. Most (didn't count) were bi or curious female.

So, that's only 14% bi men up here.

Maybe a southern thing?

Well they do say softie southerner shandy drinking puffs

(.... that's the bit where we get a shed load of views on our profile

)

Haha exactly

It was meant as a tongue in cheek stereotype comment, as you know.

I think the OP estimate of male bisexuality is on the high side.

Are women naturally more accepting of each other and their empathy runs through into sexuality too? I dont know, just a thought..

Either way, people should accept their sexuality and not be ashamed of it.

It's a London thing I thing. We are far less prejudiced than you northern types, hence men are more likely to be open about their sexuality

And, before anyone says they are bi and voted leave, I am talking correlation not a hard and fast rule "

But I'm bi and voted leave

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By *inkyLondonpair OP Couple
over a year ago

London

It's a London thing I thing. We are far less prejudiced than you northern types, hence men are more likely to be open about their sexuality

And, before anyone says they are bi and voted leave, I am talking correlation not a hard and fast rule

It's funny you say that. When the Leave campaign bus had to take off the £350m thing, they replaced it with 'Remainers Like Cock' instead

Indeed. In my view the basic issue is that the hetero normative view is that primarily hetero women willing to get it on with other women are hot, whilst men willing to get it on with other men are unmanly and a bit sordid.

Hence if you are a man interested in same sex action but are hetero normative in your values, you are likely to be on the down low.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's because many men have the fantasy of seeing their wife with another woman and the women go along with it. I would say less women have a similar fantasy about their husbands. Obviously my hubby and I buck the trend with a bi male and straight fem which is why we struggled to meet couples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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We would all be so much happier without them.

but then how would people find what they're looking for?

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By *ndulge101Couple
over a year ago

Village life in West Yorks

We both get lots pics fabed of each other or both together by cpls on a daily basis then blocked when they read our perticulers not bi biast at all

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