FabSwingers.com forum: Terminology

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

There are loads of labels for gender types, sexual orientation, genitalia and sexual practices these days and labels do of course make people feel secure, which is obviously a positive especially when you're talking about the way people identify in an increasingly diverse society - this is something I feel strongly about, in particular with regard to the LGBTQ community.

On the flipside, am I alone in finding terms like 'smash' or 'destroy' when it comes to sex, and in particular when directed at women, as being quite negative, and misogynistic? I'm sure some people will think I'm being too PC here, I'm just curious as to the general consensus? Maybe people just don't think about it...

Those terms feel a bit 'lads down the pub' to me. "It's just harmless fun innit" and all that....

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I think you have two separate topics there - one being about how people identify themselves and whilst I agree with your point about a label giving a level of security or something to hang a hat on, I also think there can be a tendency to get too hung up on labels and what they mean, especially around the area of bisexuality - you only have to look at the number of threads on that very subject we get here to see that.

As for the second point, I couldn't agree more that phrases like that which are used to describe an activity, rather than provide a label, are vulgar, disrespectful and a complete turn off - same as when you see usernames with a variation of some of those phrases. Know I'd run a mile if I were a lady and someone with that kind of name contacted me - I always wonder what makes people think they're anywhere near acceptable.

The only time phrases like that are even close to being ok, are when used between two people that have mutually agreed they're acceptable in a role playing scenario and even then personally I find it distasteful.

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By *arciocialWoman
over a year ago

Leicester

I'd say "smash" and "destroy" are terms rather than labels, so completely different to ones identity.

When men use those terms, they just make me laugh and say "but you won't though". Those terms have no meaning as it will never happen in a mutual consenting situation, so I don't see what men get from saying them...guess that's one to ask them. They're the kind of messages that would just be ignored anyway.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

You're both right - my post is about 2 separate topics - the labels part at the start isn't really what I was curious about, that was more me stating an opinion.

It's the derogatory nature of the terms in the latter part I'm more interested in hearing what people think about them.

Good responses though, both of you, thanks.

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By *appy squirrelWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

I think its interesting that its always the guy who is "doing" something when it comes to expressions about sex. now I am sorry but I do something as well. never heard something like "my pussy is going to eat you" or what ever...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think its interesting that its always the guy who is "doing" something when it comes to expressions about sex. now I am sorry but I do something as well. never heard something like "my pussy is going to eat you" or what ever..."

This entirely

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