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Do you need to fancy someone to fuck them??

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've come to the conclusion after years of being on the scene. That most of my best meets have been with ladies that I was really attracted too, Most of the women I've met I've had a mild attraction too but never a strong one. I know it's hard to be fully attracted to another person just from a pic, But I was wondering how many people actually need a strong physical attraction with a person before they can have sex with them??

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

sex with no attraction = desperation. I'm no way desperate. Mutual attraction or no play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm afraid it's a necessity or what's the point...??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

100 percent physical attraction plus getting on mentally and have a laugh are just as important

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

Mental attraction leads to physical attraction leads to good sex. For me, anyway. I have to do it that way round.

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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago

In a sleepy little village

I need to be mentally and physically attracted to someone to meet them. If I'm not feeling it , it's never gonna happen as I'm not up for taking one for the team.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely neither of us will take one for the team ever

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By *andom2chatMan
over a year ago

A Galaxy Far, Far Away & Spain

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In a word

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've come to the conclusion after years of being on the scene. That most of my best meets have been with ladies that I was really attracted too, Most of the women I've met I've had a mild attraction too but never a strong one. I know it's hard to be fully attracted to another person just from a pic, But I was wondering how many people actually need a strong physical attraction with a person before they can have sex with them??"

I have to fancy them yes

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

Mental attraction is just as important. With neither, then it's a huge no from me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely without a connection it's impossible stimulate the mind its the sexiest thing you can do and makes way for mind blowing fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mental attraction is just as important. With neither, then it's a huge no from me "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do now, I have done it with a few men I didn't fancy, ones I had not seen a photo of. Now I want to see a photo first. XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When younger I could fuck any woman. Now, I'm older and more selective

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah have to have some physical attraction but also like them as a person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I need to be mentally and physically attracted to someone to meet them. If I'm not feeling it , it's never gonna happen as I'm not up for taking one for the team. "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I definitely do.... but it helps i havnt gotta type, someone's laugh or accent even can get my balls throbbing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely has to be some physical attraction first then it has to be stimulation of the mind to drive the mood through the roof.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There has to be something there, a connection, meeting of minds, chemistry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm afraid it's a necessity or what's the point...??"
sorry but totally disagree. Some of my best times with others have been when I've berm blindfolded. Or haven't even really seen the other person. However i don't do intimacy with meets. And its group play. X

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest


"sex with no attraction = desperation. I'm no way desperate. Mutual attraction or no play."

absolutely! There has to be physical attraction and natural chemistry when interacting with the person for anything to go down (pun intended)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me there has to be a connection

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I have to find someone attractive, both mentally and physically. Don't understand the people who will shag anyone to get their rocks off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm afraid it's a necessity or what's the point...?? sorry but totally disagree. Some of my best times with others have been when I've berm blindfolded. Or haven't even really seen the other person. However i don't do intimacy with meets. And its group play. X "

That's a different thing entirely though ...just my preference everyone's different ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Making a mental connection with someone will make the whole package more attractive.

What I find physically attractive in a lady will be enhanced significantly by her confidence, her flirtiness, her ability to hold a conversation etc.

Sex with someone I wasn't attracted to? nope.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Defineitly have to find them attractive. No way could I fuck someone who looks like the hunch back of notre damm or even worse Shane McGowan from the Pogues lol.

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By *ananas57Couple
over a year ago

lake ariel

Something has to click before I'll spread my legs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm afraid it's a necessity or what's the point...?? sorry but totally disagree. Some of my best times with others have been when I've berm blindfolded. Or haven't even really seen the other person. However i don't do intimacy with meets. And its group play. X

That's a different thing entirely though ...just my preference everyone's different .. "
yes but you stated its a necessity... which I know you probably meant for you. However for me if i was waiting to fancy someone before I fucked them then I'd never have sex with anyone but my partner as I just don't look at other men like that. Weird but true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm afraid it's a necessity or what's the point...?? sorry but totally disagree. Some of my best times with others have been when I've berm blindfolded. Or haven't even really seen the other person. However i don't do intimacy with meets. And its group play. X "

I have a blindfold...

Just sayin.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There needs to be some sort of connection. But no I don't need a strong physical attraction to have sex with someone. If I want to have sex with someone I will, and if I don't want to I won't. But I don't worry too much about the level of attraction.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There needs to be some sort of connection. But no I don't need a strong physical attraction to have sex with someone. If I want to have sex with someone I will, and if I don't want to I won't. But I don't worry too much about the level of attraction.

Mrs"

There has to not be unattraction if that makes sense. Ie no beards.. certain features... and even blindfolded I know Mr knows my do not likes

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff


"There needs to be some sort of connection. But no I don't need a strong physical attraction to have sex with someone. If I want to have sex with someone I will, and if I don't want to I won't. But I don't worry too much about the level of attraction.

Mrs"

Wise words as always! Same here, but M is slightly fussier on looks & I'm fussier on the mental connection. Make me smile, make me laugh and then i feel connected

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By *lan157Man
over a year ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex

There has to be a connection. That connection could be looks or attitude or conversation or it could be any number or combination of other things. What I do know is that I recognise the connection when I see it and all is well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The amount of men I see clamouring around a playing female in clubs suggests to me that any hole is a goal.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Yes, simples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do. I would only ever meet someone I fancy. And it's not just all about looks/pics.

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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago

swingers clubs

Physical and mental attraction.

Physical attraction comes first. If we're attracted, then we'll get to know if there is the mental attraction.

That being said, we're not here for a relationship with anyone, so if you're particularly hot with no personality, well...

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex

Absolutely have to fancy them !

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Mental and physical attraction, chemistry and connection are hugely important to me - without them I just wouldn't be interested, nor would the experience be satisfactory.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It could also depend if someone is "taking one for the team"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've come to the conclusion after years of being on the scene. That most of my best meets have been with ladies that I was really attracted too, Most of the women I've met I've had a mild attraction too but never a strong one. I know it's hard to be fully attracted to another person just from a pic, But I was wondering how many people actually need a strong physical attraction with a person before they can have sex with them??"

Physical no, but mental attraction yes, there are plenty of people I have been strongly attracted to physically that I wouldn't play with because mentally I wasn't attracted to them at all, and likewise there have been people who I am not "strongly attracted" to but have some level of physical attraction to that I have played with because I find them mentally stimulating and had great fun with. If there was nothing there at all then I wouldn't play.

P x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've come to the conclusion after years of being on the scene. That most of my best meets have been with ladies that I was really attracted too, Most of the women I've met I've had a mild attraction too but never a strong one. I know it's hard to be fully attracted to another person just from a pic, But I was wondering how many people actually need a strong physical attraction with a person before they can have sex with them??"

I really need that attraction, I can't get jiggy with anyone and I have met up with some lovely people but there's a lack of attraction so I haven't got jiggy with them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mental attraction does count for more than pure aesthetics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've come to the conclusion after years of being on the scene. That most of my best meets have been with ladies that I was really attracted too, Most of the women I've met I've had a mild attraction too but never a strong one. I know it's hard to be fully attracted to another person just from a pic, But I was wondering how many people actually need a strong physical attraction with a person before they can have sex with them??"

Personally speaking I have to find someone attractive first and then we have to click mentally.......No mean feat as I am an oddball

And then we can go mental physically

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm afraid it's a necessity or what's the point...?? sorry but totally disagree. Some of my best times with others have been when I've berm blindfolded. Or haven't even really seen the other person. However i don't do intimacy with meets. And its group play. X "

Yes I agree. Done the blindfold thing many times so...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"sex with no attraction = desperation. I'm no way desperate. Mutual attraction or no play."

You totally wrong!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes go for the hot looking stud with a sparkling personality and fantastic sense of humour - who's useless in the sack!!

I prefer a guy who is honest, decent and clean who can keep it up. If that makes me desperate then so be it!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I need to be mentally and physically attracted to someone to meet them. If I'm not feeling it , it's never gonna happen as I'm not up for taking one for the team. "

Exactly this xx

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

100% yes, I couldn't shag someone I didn't fancy!!

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By *rNaughtyNickMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Physical and a mental attraction is a must x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im buck, and I like to fuck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes yes!

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield


"Mental attraction leads to physical attraction leads to good sex. For me, anyway. I have to do it that way round."

Yes and a big turn on for me is laughter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I definitely need to fancy a man but also feel a connection with him .This is why socials first as most I wouldn't want to meet again too fuck .

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By *owboy BebopMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Definitely Yes !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thought it was a natural foregone conclusion? Why would even think of sleeping with someone your e not attracted to? You've really list the plot once you decide you'll do that just to satisfy stirrings in the loin.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Omg that's me Hun same as u

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

God ur so right Hun x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've come to the conclusion after years of being on the scene. That most of my best meets have been with ladies that I was really attracted too, Most of the women I've met I've had a mild attraction too but never a strong one. I know it's hard to be fully attracted to another person just from a pic, But I was wondering how many people actually need a strong physical attraction with a person before they can have sex with them??"

Oh I understand exactly what you mean

And I have to be attracted or some other connection of some sort before taking things to bed room

If I didn't have some attraction then it would'nt be fun for anyone

No float no boat

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

One of my most exciting and memorable fucks was in a club when I was sucking off my partner and a guy took me from behind. I never even saw who it was so no - attraction isn't always necessary.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mental attraction leads to physical attraction leads to good sex. For me, anyway. I have to do it that way round.

Yes and a big turn on for me is laughter. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to read the profile before looking at the photos. If I don't like what I read then it doesn't matter how attractive they are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One of my most exciting and memorable fucks was in a club when I was sucking off my partner and a guy took me from behind. I never even saw who it was so no - attraction isn't always necessary."
this is how many of our meets with single guys are.. it's brilliant..

Finding it much harder when we plan ahead to be I into it x

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By *arciocialWoman
over a year ago

Leicester

I do.

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By *andACouple
over a year ago

glasgow

Wouldn't meet someone if there wasn't an attraction

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By *sRedbbwWoman
over a year ago

Amwythig

75% mental stimulation and 25% physical attraction for me.

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By *i1971Man
over a year ago

Cornwall

Has to be some attraction

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