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Would you meet anyone without a veri??

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just curious to see how many people meet people without a fab verification??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have, a couple and single female.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men - yes. Have and will.

Couples - Possibly. Depends on how new they are, their rapport, and if they're willing to Skype or meet for a social.

Women - almost certainly not. The likelihood of a fake is too high. The only exception is if the woman will meet locally for a social first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes. completely depends on the person..if theyve been on here a while, then yes, id probabaly clock the fact they have them or not and wonder if not, why not.. but if someones fairly new, then why not? i wouldnt do instant meets anyway so i would have a lot of contact with someone regardless. I think veri's show a person exists, beyond that i have no interest in some purely subjective opinion of someone else...

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By *rightonCheekyMan
over a year ago

Brighton

Oh I have and will ... Fab virgins can make for great meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if they just have photo veri yes without any I be unsure unless they can really prove it's them in the pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only if we could speak on the phone first, still don't get people on here over a year with no verifications, not even a photo one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Where I am nobody speaks to single guys or maybe it's just me haha

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By *irky_coupleCouple
over a year ago

kirky

We were chatting to a "couple" who had pics, sent a face pic but always the man who was chatting.we asked if they had met on here before as they had no veris but been on over a year,said yes but didn't show it for the reason that someone they knew commented,then asked them why no veri tick,no real reply except saying they had met on here but it was up to us if we wanted to meet. Dont know whether to report it as something doesn't add up but maybe we are not seeing it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well when your a single bloke like me its had to get verification, its the catch 22 situation, thats why iv post a pic of me fucking some blokes wife, granted its pic i had sent to me through kik of the tv in the womens bedroom after shed uploaded the pic to her tv but if anyone asks for more proof iv got short clips and more pics to prove it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes for a social I would. Everyone has to start somewhere.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I've met unverified chaps before but I wouldn't go too far out of my way incase they didn't show up. I always have a social first anyway and obviously he would still have to be attractive to me!!

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By *reamweaversCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

No...never

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By *ornylittlesubWoman
over a year ago

Grangemouth

Has to be the "no" camp....just too many timewasters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah have done before and would do again, we have and been fucked about by people with veris, they aren't the be all and end all

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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago

In a sleepy little village

Yes I have. Just as likely to get let down by a verified person so it makes no difference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I quick phone call between the girls is good. And if they say no most is fake we think.

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

If we see them in a club we don't ask as they are there and real. Veri's help us decide if we'd like to arrange a meet at a club, no veri no planned meet - simples.

So in answer to your question, no we wouldn't.

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By *uziebabyWoman
over a year ago

Worcester


"Just curious to see how many people meet people without a fab verification??"

I prefer to make my own judgement on meeting someone not making a decision based on a total strangers words and think its pretty sad if people do actually meet based on what someone who is real or fictitious said about someone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Preferably not no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no never... been let down to many times by fake couples ..and timewasters who just chat about meeting up and never arrange anything

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Well when your a single bloke like me its had to get verification, its the catch 22 situation, thats why iv post a pic of me fucking some blokes wife, granted its pic i had sent to me through kik of the tv in the womens bedroom after shed uploaded the pic to her tv but if anyone asks for more proof iv got short clips and more pics to prove it"

Not quite sure that "proves" anything - could be pics/clips of you with a girlfriend or wife or *shudder* if they don't show your face something you downloaded off the net.

Know it's tough but getting along to a local club or social event is your best way to get a veri- although as this thread has shown there are plenty that will meet unverified people (as would I if it was someone I had chatted to for a while and got a level of comfort with).

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

No, not at a private meet. We'd arrange it at a club, so hopefully it all works out, but if not there's still a good plan B.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn’t. As a single woman meeting men, my safety and well-being are of paramount importance to myself and it’s just not worth it...!

If I really like one’s pictures and profile when they message me but have no veris, I always make a point of asking them to revisit once they have a couple of verifications under their belt! (:

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes but if nobody ever met the person without a veri then he would never get a veri, spotting a fake is so easy only a fool would fall for it and as for the people that dont turn up, well just see it as their loss and move on, i dont think iv ever let anyone down and i came her after using craigslist, now that is a minefield but i met my best ever couple off there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have many times. Admittedly, for a social first but still met them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. Anyone joining this site will not have been verified, so someone will have to be the first to do so.

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By *eadonistCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Ashton under Lyne


"Men - yes. Have and will.

Couples - Possibly. Depends on how new they are, their rapport, and if they're willing to Skype or meet for a social.

Women - almost certainly not. The likelihood of a fake is too high. The only exception is if the woman will meet locally for a social first."

Pretty much how we feel. . If a single woman is too eager. . Rings alarm bells.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just curious to see how many people meet people without a fab verification??"

Yup and would do again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to get loads of fakes , infact i still do but the way i get proof their real is to ask them to send a selfie while making the peace sign with 2 fingers, genuine people usually have no problem doing this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a verification dosent make them anymore genuine than without one ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes absolutely. I do not rely on them in any way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. I rely totally on my instincts about someone.

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By *homasP80Man
over a year ago

Linwood

Yes. I've met only a few without veris.

All depending how genuine they come across in there messages etc.

I've seen people who have been on here who have been on here AGES, a few been on a whole year. And they've never met, had any veris etc.

Don't know why you'd stay on that long if you've never had a meet, or never intend to meet

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

I'm a guy, so yeah of course I would, I'd probably even meet them if they had no photo, just cross fingers and hope for the best.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I would. We all have to start somewhere.

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By *eanne n AliCouple
over a year ago

glasgow

We have sadly been let down too many times by unverified people so we generally no longer arrange to meet them. Same if people have been on for over a year with no verifications.

Its a shame really because we were unverified newbies once.

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By *onkeyandBonesCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

It is something we look at but if they are photo verified and come across genuine then a meet verification is not a stopper!

Afterall, we were all new once!

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By *rs Myvanwy Scarlet-BlackTV/TS
over a year ago

hot wife

Yes I do and have meet people after all we all started out with none and my meets all ways have more than just one person coming xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not the remotest change.

Easy to get a photo verify if you're a single man and there are loads of good people in the cam chat rooms who will verify people too.

No green means absolutely no chance

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Yes but if nobody ever met the person without a veri then he would never get a veri, spotting a fake is so easy only a fool would fall for it and as for the people that dont turn up, well just see it as their loss and move on, i dont think iv ever let anyone down and i came her after using craigslist, now that is a minefield but i met my best ever couple off there"

...just go to a club, veri's are easy then

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes but if nobody ever met the person without a veri then he would never get a veri, spotting a fake is so easy only a fool would fall for it and as for the people that dont turn up, well just see it as their loss and move on, i dont think iv ever let anyone down and i came her after using craigslist, now that is a minefield but i met my best ever couple off there

...just go to a club, veri's are easy then "

That is by far the easiest way to get veris a club or a social gathering!! Being a singly guy i cant really afford to be picky!! But I only meet verified people as I have more trust in them to actually meet unlike unverified people.

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By *uzz And WoodyCouple
over a year ago

Maidstone

We would and we hope others would meet couples without a Veri too .. otherwise we’re screwed! And not in a good way!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes but if nobody ever met the person without a veri then he would never get a veri, spotting a fake is so easy only a fool would fall for it and as for the people that dont turn up, well just see it as their loss and move on, i dont think iv ever let anyone down and i came her after using craigslist, now that is a minefield but i met my best ever couple off there

The thought of going to a club terrifies me id feel so out of place, and i dont drink either so would feel like a right lemon

...just go to a club, veri's are easy then "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They tend to be more reliable!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bear with me im getting the hang of the forum, that was surposed to be at the bottome of the other quote!

The thought of going to a club terrifies me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep no problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been quite a few peoples first veri

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By *ongueNcheek33Couple
over a year ago

Manchester

Yes we would but socially first anyway, at the end of the day everyone one on here started with no veri's so why not give someone new a chance just like the chance we/You were given once upon a time

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By *layful Couple For YouCouple
over a year ago

Lust

Possibly, it would depend on how willing they are to prove they are actually who they’re portraying on here. So willing to appear on cam, chat on phone etc...

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By *apillonNoirWoman
over a year ago

There...

I’ve met unverified single men and couples socially. Most have turned up and looked like their photos. A couple looked nothing like their photos and one single male no show. Some of my best meets have been with unverified folk with whom I’ve instigated contact. There have been a couple of howling disasters too...!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would be highly unlikely to meet someone without a number of veris. For private meets we really prefer a man who's very experienced with meeting couples, so we use veris to ascertain that. Sure it's possible that a man might be experienced but his profile is new to Fab, so we could be missing out. But we hardly ever meet new guys anyway as we have enough to be getting on with, so in that sense no real need to meet a guy with no veris. I will say that we have never had a no show, so our selection process must count for something. We do use word of mouth too.

Mrs

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By *iscovery channelCouple
over a year ago

Blyth

If no one is willing to meet them, how do they get verified?

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Yes I have but only after I have done my due diligence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes of course. I don't need baby sitting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If no one is willing to meet them, how do they get verified?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We all started out in the same situation,we have in past and been great times had by all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, I'm happy to meet unverified men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. Veris are more likely to give me a reason to not want to meet someone

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

Yes and have even met people who aren't even on Fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. They are usually great.

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By *he DifferentiatorMan
over a year ago

Co Durham

Totally if the preliminary conversation is all good

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

Yes, regardless I like to chat for a bit and always meet socially first so no issues here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sure, but only for a social.

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By *othrockercplCouple
over a year ago

Halloween Town

Yes because we all have to start somewhere.

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By *arciocialWoman
over a year ago

Leicester

I have done, normally last minute, see their face pic in recently uploaded and arrange it. Have more cancel last minute than turn up though, so I never change plans to do it that's why they're last minute.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes - reading something someone else wrote about someone is not how I get to know a potential meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think this is the problem I'm having in that I don't have any verifications.

I'd happily meet someone without verifications, we all have to start somewhere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meet people from other sites many a time without needing a varification..childish nonsense springs to mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I certainly hope they might

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep...last guy was untrue! 10" cock. Athletic!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many of us in the same boat. Need a veri to get a meet need a meet to get a veri

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes for a social meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yea sure not just straight away and never without chatting on phone and cam.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

? Why does anyone have to have a "badge" to be worth meeting.

Perhaps if you follow your own judgement rather than rely on others opinions, who may not accord with your view of the world anyway, to make decisions for you then if a person has veries or not is wholly irrelevant..

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Many of us in the same boat. Need a veri to get a meet need a meet to get a veri "

To reiterate, go to a club, they aren't scary, they are fun & they stop people thinking you aren't real

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Yep I've done it and would do it again. I trust my own judgement more than a verification, which us just someone else's opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Many of us in the same boat. Need a veri to get a meet need a meet to get a veri

To reiterate, go to a club, they aren't scary, they are fun & they stop people thinking you aren't real "

What if there are no clubs nearby Id love a club lol!!

I have been on before and was well verified but gave my account up when I met my partner... wish id just hidden it now.

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"Men - yes. Have and will.

Couples - Possibly. Depends on how new they are, their rapport, and if they're willing to Skype or meet for a social.

Women - almost certainly not. The likelihood of a fake is too high. The only exception is if the woman will meet locally for a social first."

I'm glad someone gave me the chance

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

I've never met anyone without one and tbh i don't think i would. There's a lot more fakes out there wven than when i joins not even 2 years ago

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

I have!! But we spoke for sometime on the phone etc before we actually met.

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Many of us in the same boat. Need a veri to get a meet need a meet to get a veri

To reiterate, go to a club, they aren't scary, they are fun & they stop people thinking you aren't real

What if there are no clubs nearby Id love a club lol!!

I have been on before and was well verified but gave my account up when I met my partner... wish id just hidden it now.

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Ok, reasonable point for where you are! We usually drive 1-3 hours to clubs, once 4 hours but that's pushing it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just curious to see how many people meet people without a fab verification??"

Yes and they have been more genuine than those who have veries

We all started off without them so it's only fair to give a non verified person a chance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've never met anyone without one and tbh i don't think i would. There's a lot more fakes out there wven than when i joins not even 2 years ago "

So there are no profiles here with fake veries then?

Or you can't make your own desicions unless someone else tells you what to think about another person...ie we are people not profiles...renember that strange concept??

And when you joined fab did you come pre-verified ..or did someone take a chance meet and verify you???

Do you think others should be given the same opportunity..

FFS... what happened to simple logic???

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

I have met 3 people unverified. 1 was a disaster the other 2 where awesome. 1 of the 2 awesome ones I have met 5 times over 2 years and will be meeting again next month.

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By *aelawMan
over a year ago

Paisley

Its always best to meet socially first which alleviates any potential initial worries but it's a preference question again and those that don't are well in their rights not to.

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East


"We would be highly unlikely to meet someone without a number of veris. For private meets we really prefer a man who's very experienced with meeting couples, so we use veris to ascertain that. Sure it's possible that a man might be experienced but his profile is new to Fab, so we could be missing out. But we hardly ever meet new guys anyway as we have enough to be getting on with, so in that sense no real need to meet a guy with no veris. I will say that we have never had a no show, so our selection process must count for something. We do use word of mouth too.

Mrs"

99% of that is reasonable. But word of mouth? Read that as Gossip or tittle tattle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Many of us in the same boat. Need a veri to get a meet need a meet to get a veri

To reiterate, go to a club, they aren't scary, they are fun & they stop people thinking you aren't real "
The problem being most clubs don't allow single males and/or accept non veri's

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've never met anyone without one and tbh i don't think i would. There's a lot more fakes out there wven than when i joins not even 2 years ago "

But you was unverified when you first joined

Someone gave you a chance didn't they?

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Many of us in the same boat. Need a veri to get a meet need a meet to get a veri

To reiterate, go to a club, they aren't scary, they are fun & they stop people thinking you aren't real The problem being most clubs don't allow single males and/or accept non veri's "

I haven't looked at every single club on the site, but all bar one we went to does allow single guys at least one night of a weekend. We only go because they do, much better nights than just couples

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East


"Many of us in the same boat. Need a veri to get a meet need a meet to get a veri

To reiterate, go to a club, they aren't scary, they are fun & they stop people thinking you aren't real The problem being most clubs don't allow single males and/or accept non veri's "

No club is owned by fab as far as I am aware. Why would they check if your verified or not? What about those that aren't on fab?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Many of us in the same boat. Need a veri to get a meet need a meet to get a veri

To reiterate, go to a club, they aren't scary, they are fun & they stop people thinking you aren't real The problem being most clubs don't allow single males and/or accept non veri's

No club is owned by fab as far as I am aware. Why would they check if your verified or not? What about those that aren't on fab?"

Your correct fab don't own clubs so when it comes to clubs verifications mean nothing

You have to contact the club via email and ask to be put on the guest list

Maybe pay a membership fee and produce Id

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

A club is so easy for any person, either single or a couple, to go to and get verified it just seems crazy not to.

It's only like going in a bar. The staff or other club goers will verify you. You will have a fun time chatting and might even get to play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive still to meet anyone, find it hard to be honest, any advice to get first one ??????

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield


"Ive still to meet anyone, find it hard to be honest, any advice to get first one ??????"

Do a decent profile and go to a club. Both are easy enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm shite at writhing a profile, lol, need help lol,

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"I've never met anyone without one and tbh i don't think i would. There's a lot more fakes out there wven than when i joins not even 2 years ago

So there are no profiles here with fake veries then?

Or you can't make your own desicions unless someone else tells you what to think about another person...ie we are people not profiles...renember that strange concept??

And when you joined fab did you come pre-verified ..or did someone take a chance meet and verify you???

Do you think others should be given the same opportunity..

FFS... what happened to simple logic???"

Of course there are fake profiles with fake veries. What's your point? Go have a rant at someone else haha. I'm allowed my opinion and i didn't say i follow what's said on a veri. I would just be more likely to believe that they are who they say. Obviously depending on who the veries are from,how many etc. I don't need to remember anything so ssshhh. Yes i came pre-varified actually. Seeing as you asked. And See my post above this one. The answer is there!!! for your last question. . Jeez someone ran out of loo roll or something to that affect

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"I've never met anyone without one and tbh i don't think i would. There's a lot more fakes out there wven than when i joins not even 2 years ago

But you was unverified when you first joined

Someone gave you a chance didn't they?"

Erm...no i think i went to a club or i found someone who i knew on here. And yes i understand what you're saying but that doesn't mean i have to follow suit. May be harsh yes but isn't it my option or should i have to meet someone who isn't verified just bcz someone met me before i was verified? . There's plenty people that would verify them. Why do i have to take the chance. I don't have the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Many of us in the same boat. Need a veri to get a meet need a meet to get a veri

To reiterate, go to a club, they aren't scary, they are fun & they stop people thinking you aren't real The problem being most clubs don't allow single males and/or accept non veri's

I haven't looked at every single club on the site, but all bar one we went to does allow single guys at least one night of a weekend. We only go because they do, much better nights than just couples "
How do you get in in Wales Beth, there's nothing in West Wales at least nothing I'm aware of

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just curious to see how many people meet people without a fab verification??"

Most people I meet are not even on fab, so definitely not verified

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We would be highly unlikely to meet someone without a number of veris. For private meets we really prefer a man who's very experienced with meeting couples, so we use veris to ascertain that. Sure it's possible that a man might be experienced but his profile is new to Fab, so we could be missing out. But we hardly ever meet new guys anyway as we have enough to be getting on with, so in that sense no real need to meet a guy with no veris. I will say that we have never had a no show, so our selection process must count for something. We do use word of mouth too.

Mrs

99% of that is reasonable. But word of mouth? Read that as Gossip or tittle tattle."

If a friend on the swing scene says that someone is reliable that's not gossip.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have met 2 men with no veries. XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"? Why does anyone have to have a "badge" to be worth meeting.

Perhaps if you follow your own judgement rather than rely on others opinions, who may not accord with your view of the world anyway, to make decisions for you then if a person has veries or not is wholly irrelevant..

"
m

We don't find our own judgement is sufficient. We used to look for guys on Craig's List where there is no verification system. We got messed about, so obviously our own judgement was crap. Since we started using Fab and sticking to guys who were well verified we haven't got it wrong.

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By *inglehotchickWoman
over a year ago

blackpool

Not any more after a few timewasters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I also meet men off another site that has no verification system, so I have met about 18 unverified men including them xxx

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By *he fab twoCouple
over a year ago

brentwood


"Well when your a single bloke like me its had to get verification, its the catch 22 situation, thats why iv post a pic of me fucking some blokes wife, granted its pic i had sent to me through kik of the tv in the womens bedroom after shed uploaded the pic to her tv but if anyone asks for more proof iv got short clips and more pics to prove it"

Lol pic of a tv on your tv what more proof do they need?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've never met anyone without one and tbh i don't think i would. There's a lot more fakes out there wven than when i joins not even 2 years ago

So there are no profiles here with fake veries then?

Or you can't make your own desicions unless someone else tells you what to think about another person...ie we are people not profiles...renember that strange concept??

And when you joined fab did you come pre-verified ..or did someone take a chance meet and verify you???

Do you think others should be given the same opportunity..

FFS... what happened to simple logic???"

Yes I realise someone verified us the first time. Should we give a chance to someone else because gave a chance to us? Like everybody, we are here for our own selfish reasons, and that includes meeting the people we want to meet, as opposed to meeting people to give a 'step up'. Fab is not a charity. We don't have a strict rule that we won't meet unverified people, but we feel more comfortable with men who are established on the swing scene and are experienced with meeting couples privately. Verifications that reflect this save a huge amount of time in finding out this information. We find it works in finding what we want.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My view would be very different if I were single. I don't think verifications would be as important.

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

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I doubt it, Way to many fakes on here, I would of have to have met them at a club beforehand or for a friend to recommend them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

met a fem unverified - did have a quick phone call beforehand - a few happy 3sum aftrnoons followed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course!

How else do genuine newbies get a veri? A bit of a silly question, we were all newbies once..

No veri = no meet and no meet = no veri is the catch 22 for all new people on the site.

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By *ola.Woman
over a year ago

Just where I need to be.

Yes and I have met someone without a veri.His profile could have appeared to be that of a time waster, no veris, over a year on site and no public pics.His first message got my attention and we met.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I would after talking on phone or cam a few times with them, female would have to be photo verified as would couples, also I'd have to speak to both of them, and then it would only be for a social local to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would be very very careful to arrange a social, and even then My expectations would be that it won't happen.

So yes, I'd talk, but I wouldn't be rushing to iron a shirt.

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By *he incognito twoCouple
over a year ago

near you

Difficult one , but Rule of thumb is if someone , couple or males that have been on for a long time year to six months they are either fake or ugly

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Difficult one , but Rule of thumb is if someone , couple or males that have been on for a long time year to six months they are either fake or ugly

"

Who would fake a male profile? I think this applies more to females and couples in my experience!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes but if nobody ever met the person without a veri then he would never get a veri, spotting a fake is so easy only a fool would fall for it and as for the people that dont turn up, well just see it as their loss and move on, i dont think iv ever let anyone down and i came her after using craigslist, now that is a minefield but i met my best ever couple off there

...just go to a club, veri's are easy then "

And what if the person suffers from anxiety in a situation like that?

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield


"Yes but if nobody ever met the person without a veri then he would never get a veri, spotting a fake is so easy only a fool would fall for it and as for the people that dont turn up, well just see it as their loss and move on, i dont think iv ever let anyone down and i came her after using craigslist, now that is a minefield but i met my best ever couple off there

...just go to a club, veri's are easy then

And what if the person suffers from anxiety in a situation like that?"

A club is only like a pub. It's unfortunate but if a person cant handle that, how would they be when it comes to playing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes but if nobody ever met the person without a veri then he would never get a veri, spotting a fake is so easy only a fool would fall for it and as for the people that dont turn up, well just see it as their loss and move on, i dont think iv ever let anyone down and i came her after using craigslist, now that is a minefield but i met my best ever couple off there

...just go to a club, veri's are easy then

And what if the person suffers from anxiety in a situation like that?"

Well they either go without, or hang on and hope that they attract the attention of someone who doesn't mind meeting someone who's non-verified. As this thread shows there are plenty of people who don't mind.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, if I think we will get on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes why not? None of us had Veris to start.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would, and have

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's good to see that there are people prepared to out there.

Now I've just got find someone who will meet me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes but if nobody ever met the person without a veri then he would never get a veri, spotting a fake is so easy only a fool would fall for it and as for the people that dont turn up, well just see it as their loss and move on, i dont think iv ever let anyone down and i came her after using craigslist, now that is a minefield but i met my best ever couple off there

...just go to a club, veri's are easy then

And what if the person suffers from anxiety in a situation like that?

Well they either go without, or hang on and hope that they attract the attention of someone who doesn't mind meeting someone who's non-verified. As this thread shows there are plenty of people who don't mind.

Mrs"

They're a daunting place to think about visiting on your own, never mind actually going.

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Yes but if nobody ever met the person without a veri then he would never get a veri, spotting a fake is so easy only a fool would fall for it and as for the people that dont turn up, well just see it as their loss and move on, i dont think iv ever let anyone down and i came her after using craigslist, now that is a minefield but i met my best ever couple off there

...just go to a club, veri's are easy then

And what if the person suffers from anxiety in a situation like that?

Well they either go without, or hang on and hope that they attract the attention of someone who doesn't mind meeting someone who's non-verified. As this thread shows there are plenty of people who don't mind.

Mrs

They're a daunting place to think about visiting on your own, never mind actually going."

Without trying to be unduly rude, grow a pair! What is the point of being on here if you aren't prepared to take a risk - for us meeting outside of clubs is harder as the dynamic is wrong, especially if you meet and aren't interested. The thing about clubs is you are in a sweety shop, not all of the sweets are available, not all of them are to your taste, but they are sweets and they are real!

People at clubs are great, just go, talk, smile , don't assume you will have sex, just treat it as a social. Don't get us started on it costs too much as a single guy - we travel to clubs, often stay in hotels and usually buy new outfits for Beth, so we spend much more than the delta between single guys and couple prices!

There are many people that don't want to try clubs, fair enough, but there is no point complaining about not getting meets when you aren't veri'd - it is perfectly aesy to solve - potentially harder if you are in Shannon or St Kilda of course.

M has been to clubs on his own, had a great time. Maybe we one day B might

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes but if nobody ever met the person without a veri then he would never get a veri, spotting a fake is so easy only a fool would fall for it and as for the people that dont turn up, well just see it as their loss and move on, i dont think iv ever let anyone down and i came her after using craigslist, now that is a minefield but i met my best ever couple off there

...just go to a club, veri's are easy then

And what if the person suffers from anxiety in a situation like that?

Well they either go without, or hang on and hope that they attract the attention of someone who doesn't mind meeting someone who's non-verified. As this thread shows there are plenty of people who don't mind.

Mrs

They're a daunting place to think about visiting on your own, never mind actually going.

Without trying to be unduly rude, grow a pair! What is the point of being on here if you aren't prepared to take a risk - for us meeting outside of clubs is harder as the dynamic is wrong, especially if you meet and aren't interested. The thing about clubs is you are in a sweety shop, not all of the sweets are available, not all of them are to your taste, but they are sweets and they are real!

People at clubs are great, just go, talk, smile , don't assume you will have sex, just treat it as a social. Don't get us started on it costs too much as a single guy - we travel to clubs, often stay in hotels and usually buy new outfits for Beth, so we spend much more than the delta between single guys and couple prices!

There are many people that don't want to try clubs, fair enough, but there is no point complaining about not getting meets when you aren't veri'd - it is perfectly aesy to solve - potentially harder if you are in Shannon or St Kilda of course.

M has been to clubs on his own, had a great time. Maybe we one day B might "

I don't want to go to a club, I prefer the intimacy of a private meet and I'm perfectly confident in what I do and what I want.

To suggest someone grows a pair is rude and that's exactly what you were, without trying.

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield


"

They're a daunting place to think about visiting on your own, never mind actually going.

Without trying to be unduly rude, grow a pair! What is the point of being on here if you aren't prepared to take a risk - for us meeting outside of clubs is harder as the dynamic is wrong, especially if you meet and aren't interested. The thing about clubs is you are in a sweety shop, not all of the sweets are available, not all of them are to your taste, but they are sweets and they are real!

People at clubs are great, just go, talk, smile , don't assume you will have sex, just treat it as a social. Don't get us started on it costs too much as a single guy - we travel to clubs, often stay in hotels and usually buy new outfits for Beth, so we spend much more than the delta between single guys and couple prices!

There are many people that don't want to try clubs, fair enough, but there is no point complaining about not getting meets when you aren't veri'd - it is perfectly aesy to solve - potentially harder if you are in Shannon or St Kilda of course.

M has been to clubs on his own, had a great time. Maybe we one day B might "

nail on the head.

We've played with quiet guys at clubs. One of the ladies we play with was shy and went on her own first time. If they can do it, why cant anyone else?

At some point people have to step up, this, like many things in life is entitely under your own control.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

They're a daunting place to think about visiting on your own, never mind actually going.

Without trying to be unduly rude, grow a pair! What is the point of being on here if you aren't prepared to take a risk - for us meeting outside of clubs is harder as the dynamic is wrong, especially if you meet and aren't interested. The thing about clubs is you are in a sweety shop, not all of the sweets are available, not all of them are to your taste, but they are sweets and they are real!

People at clubs are great, just go, talk, smile , don't assume you will have sex, just treat it as a social. Don't get us started on it costs too much as a single guy - we travel to clubs, often stay in hotels and usually buy new outfits for Beth, so we spend much more than the delta between single guys and couple prices!

There are many people that don't want to try clubs, fair enough, but there is no point complaining about not getting meets when you aren't veri'd - it is perfectly aesy to solve - potentially harder if you are in Shannon or St Kilda of course.

M has been to clubs on his own, had a great time. Maybe we one day B might

nail on the head.

We've played with quiet guys at clubs. One of the ladies we play with was shy and went on her own first time. If they can do it, why cant anyone else?

At some point people have to step up, this, like many things in life is entitely under your own control."

I'll leave it thanks If clubs are frequented by ppl who use the 'man up' mantra.

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff


"

They're a daunting place to think about visiting on your own, never mind actually going.

Without trying to be unduly rude, grow a pair! What is the point of being on here if you aren't prepared to take a risk - for us meeting outside of clubs is harder as the dynamic is wrong, especially if you meet and aren't interested. The thing about clubs is you are in a sweety shop, not all of the sweets are available, not all of them are to your taste, but they are sweets and they are real!

People at clubs are great, just go, talk, smile , don't assume you will have sex, just treat it as a social. Don't get us started on it costs too much as a single guy - we travel to clubs, often stay in hotels and usually buy new outfits for Beth, so we spend much more than the delta between single guys and couple prices!

There are many people that don't want to try clubs, fair enough, but there is no point complaining about not getting meets when you aren't veri'd - it is perfectly aesy to solve - potentially harder if you are in Shannon or St Kilda of course.

M has been to clubs on his own, had a great time. Maybe we one day B might

nail on the head.

We've played with quiet guys at clubs. One of the ladies we play with was shy and went on her own first time. If they can do it, why cant anyone else?

At some point people have to step up, this, like many things in life is entitely under your own control.

I'll leave it thanks If clubs are frequented by ppl who use the 'man up' mantra."

It is entirely your choice of course

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

They're a daunting place to think about visiting on your own, never mind actually going.

Without trying to be unduly rude, grow a pair! What is the point of being on here if you aren't prepared to take a risk - for us meeting outside of clubs is harder as the dynamic is wrong, especially if you meet and aren't interested. The thing about clubs is you are in a sweety shop, not all of the sweets are available, not all of them are to your taste, but they are sweets and they are real!

People at clubs are great, just go, talk, smile , don't assume you will have sex, just treat it as a social. Don't get us started on it costs too much as a single guy - we travel to clubs, often stay in hotels and usually buy new outfits for Beth, so we spend much more than the delta between single guys and couple prices!

There are many people that don't want to try clubs, fair enough, but there is no point complaining about not getting meets when you aren't veri'd - it is perfectly aesy to solve - potentially harder if you are in Shannon or St Kilda of course.

M has been to clubs on his own, had a great time. Maybe we one day B might

nail on the head.

We've played with quiet guys at clubs. One of the ladies we play with was shy and went on her own first time. If they can do it, why cant anyone else?

At some point people have to step up, this, like many things in life is entitely under your own control.

I'll leave it thanks If clubs are frequented by ppl who use the 'man up' mantra.

It is entirely your choice of course"

It is, if a cpl asked to meet at one I'd gladly go, but flying solo, not my bag, doesn't make me a wimp though as was suggested.

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff


"

They're a daunting place to think about visiting on your own, never mind actually going.

Without trying to be unduly rude, grow a pair! What is the point of being on here if you aren't prepared to take a risk - for us meeting outside of clubs is harder as the dynamic is wrong, especially if you meet and aren't interested. The thing about clubs is you are in a sweety shop, not all of the sweets are available, not all of them are to your taste, but they are sweets and they are real!

People at clubs are great, just go, talk, smile , don't assume you will have sex, just treat it as a social. Don't get us started on it costs too much as a single guy - we travel to clubs, often stay in hotels and usually buy new outfits for Beth, so we spend much more than the delta between single guys and couple prices!

There are many people that don't want to try clubs, fair enough, but there is no point complaining about not getting meets when you aren't veri'd - it is perfectly aesy to solve - potentially harder if you are in Shannon or St Kilda of course.

M has been to clubs on his own, had a great time. Maybe we one day B might

nail on the head.

We've played with quiet guys at clubs. One of the ladies we play with was shy and went on her own first time. If they can do it, why cant anyone else?

At some point people have to step up, this, like many things in life is entitely under your own control.

I'll leave it thanks If clubs are frequented by ppl who use the 'man up' mantra.

It is entirely your choice of course

It is, if a cpl asked to meet at one I'd gladly go, but flying solo, not my bag, doesn't make me a wimp though as was suggested."

you suggested they were daunting and yes they can be, but most of the hood things in lige are to start with. it is all your choice, but for those that want to be veri'd and believe they are in a catch 22 situation - it is a perfectly reasonable option & you vould go just the once!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

They're a daunting place to think about visiting on your own, never mind actually going.

Without trying to be unduly rude, grow a pair! What is the point of being on here if you aren't prepared to take a risk - for us meeting outside of clubs is harder as the dynamic is wrong, especially if you meet and aren't interested. The thing about clubs is you are in a sweety shop, not all of the sweets are available, not all of them are to your taste, but they are sweets and they are real!

People at clubs are great, just go, talk, smile , don't assume you will have sex, just treat it as a social. Don't get us started on it costs too much as a single guy - we travel to clubs, often stay in hotels and usually buy new outfits for Beth, so we spend much more than the delta between single guys and couple prices!

There are many people that don't want to try clubs, fair enough, but there is no point complaining about not getting meets when you aren't veri'd - it is perfectly aesy to solve - potentially harder if you are in Shannon or St Kilda of course.

M has been to clubs on his own, had a great time. Maybe we one day B might

nail on the head.

We've played with quiet guys at clubs. One of the ladies we play with was shy and went on her own first time. If they can do it, why cant anyone else?

At some point people have to step up, this, like many things in life is entitely under your own control.

I'll leave it thanks If clubs are frequented by ppl who use the 'man up' mantra.

It is entirely your choice of course

It is, if a cpl asked to meet at one I'd gladly go, but flying solo, not my bag, doesn't make me a wimp though as was suggested.

you suggested they were daunting and yes they can be, but most of the hood things in lige are to start with. it is all your choice, but for those that want to be veri'd and believe they are in a catch 22 situation - it is a perfectly reasonable option & you vould go just the once! "

If I'd been once to meet someone then it's likely I'd go back alone, if I enjoyed it of course, but alone for the first time, no chance, there's scenarios I'd not want to get into and I'd just not feel comfortable at all. I understand doing things outside of your comfort zone, but I also understand not doing things you really don't want to do.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Yes.

We're perfectly capable of making up our own mind about somebody.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope

It's a safety thing for me when I meet alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, no veris on here or a photo.

Wasn't until we started messaging for a bit then seen her, ended up meeting her 3 times and one of the nicest people I have ever met off Fab.

Taught me to forget about Veris and profile pics at the beginning.

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By *lorious hole bs16Man
over a year ago

Bristol

Fot sure..i have had as many timewasters from verified users as non verified..

This is how those without a veri gather one..

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

The beauty of only playing with others at the club is that verifications don’t come into it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no verifications but would meet a select few.

Oh, do you mean the other way round?

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East


"We would be highly unlikely to meet someone without a number of veris. For private meets we really prefer a man who's very experienced with meeting couples, so we use veris to ascertain that. Sure it's possible that a man might be experienced but his profile is new to Fab, so we could be missing out. But we hardly ever meet new guys anyway as we have enough to be getting on with, so in that sense no real need to meet a guy with no veris. I will say that we have never had a no show, so our selection process must count for something. We do use word of mouth too.

Mrs

99% of that is reasonable. But word of mouth? Read that as Gossip or tittle tattle.

If a friend on the swing scene says that someone is reliable that's not gossip."

I guess so. I just imagined all sorts of pms going on saying don't touch them with a barge pole lol

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By *appy876Man
over a year ago

glasgow

I have been on here 3 weeks no one met me hardly and woman want to chat I no I am new bur be nice to have some chats so and woman fancy a chat I am a decent genuine guy with a gsoh

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East


"Nope

It's a safety thing for me when I meet alone "

I really hope you dont believe a veri ensures safety.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would.

After exchanging a couple of messages etc.

But if they were not photo verified it would definitely be in a public place first.

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over a year ago

I would but because I've been on here for over a year as playing as single but attached and my age all goes against me meeting in first place then if you add the fact I have no veries myself I seem to be fucked without the pleasure lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope

It's a safety thing for me when I meet alone

I really hope you dont believe a veri ensures safety."
of course not...but i look at the veri trail see who they have met and what give they give off

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By *dores blackmenWoman
over a year ago

incognito mode ;-)

I've met lots that are unverified at clubs and parties,then they become verified

If they no show its not a problem as always others there,even verified do no shows,so doesn't make a difference green tick or not,depends on the individual

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would have been great to have been able to bring my verifications from another site I used to use.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we was all unverified once

i follow my gut, if i get a good feeling ill meet them if not i wont meet or continue conversing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course. I'd have to spend getting

To know them, and exchanging 'live pics' like on Kik, tbh I do this with most of my meets anyways.

I met an unverified guy a few weeks back, we had been talking for quite a while. He ended up being one

Of my best meets.

X

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"I've never met anyone without one and tbh i don't think i would. There's a lot more fakes out there wven than when i joins not even 2 years ago

So there are no profiles here with fake veries then?

Or you can't make your own desicions unless someone else tells you what to think about another person...ie we are people not profiles...renember that strange concept??

And when you joined fab did you come pre-verified ..or did someone take a chance meet and verify you???

Do you think others should be given the same opportunity..

FFS... what happened to simple logic???

Yes I realise someone verified us the first time. Should we give a chance to someone else because gave a chance to us? Like everybody, we are here for our own selfish reasons, and that includes meeting the people we want to meet, as opposed to meeting people to give a 'step up'. Fab is not a charity. We don't have a strict rule that we won't meet unverified people, but we feel more comfortable with men who are established on the swing scene and are experienced with meeting couples privately. Verifications that reflect this save a huge amount of time in finding out this information. We find it works in finding what we want.

Mrs"

Exactly this!

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By *londie8399Couple
over a year ago

blackpool

Would meet non verified the only two let downs we have had is from couples that have been verified

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

They're a daunting place to think about visiting on your own, never mind actually going.

Without trying to be unduly rude, grow a pair! What is the point of being on here if you aren't prepared to take a risk - for us meeting outside of clubs is harder as the dynamic is wrong, especially if you meet and aren't interested. The thing about clubs is you are in a sweety shop, not all of the sweets are available, not all of them are to your taste, but they are sweets and they are real!

People at clubs are great, just go, talk, smile , don't assume you will have sex, just treat it as a social. Don't get us started on it costs too much as a single guy - we travel to clubs, often stay in hotels and usually buy new outfits for Beth, so we spend much more than the delta between single guys and couple prices!

There are many people that don't want to try clubs, fair enough, but there is no point complaining about not getting meets when you aren't veri'd - it is perfectly aesy to solve - potentially harder if you are in Shannon or St Kilda of course.

M has been to clubs on his own, had a great time. Maybe we one day B might

nail on the head.

We've played with quiet guys at clubs. One of the ladies we play with was shy and went on her own first time. If they can do it, why cant anyone else?

At some point people have to step up, this, like many things in life is entitely under your own control.

I'll leave it thanks If clubs are frequented by ppl who use the 'man up' mantra.

It is entirely your choice of course

It is, if a cpl asked to meet at one I'd gladly go, but flying solo, not my bag, doesn't make me a wimp though as was suggested.

you suggested they were daunting and yes they can be, but most of the hood things in lige are to start with. it is all your choice, but for those that want to be veri'd and believe they are in a catch 22 situation - it is a perfectly reasonable option & you vould go just the once!

If I'd been once to meet someone then it's likely I'd go back alone, if I enjoyed it of course, but alone for the first time, no chance, there's scenarios I'd not want to get into and I'd just not feel comfortable at all. I understand doing things outside of your comfort zone, but I also understand not doing things you really don't want to do."

I don't think you should go to a club if that's not your cup of tea. Totally get that the more intimate private scenarios is what you are looking for. What you should bare in mind though is that Fab can be difficult if used on its own (even if you are not male and are verified) and especially hard if you are a non-verified male. And even if you do get verified, it might only improve marginally. But if you use Fab as a catalyst to various social situations within the swing scene, then you can get to know lots of people who might introduce you to more people. If you create that social network for yourself options are maximised. But if you rely totally on Fab you might get the occasional meet with a person or a couple who you or may not connect with.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah in public for a coffee or beer (social meet only)

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Yes but it would be for a social only as a first meet and there would be other checks such as a phone call required before we would even think about venturing out to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

They're a daunting place to think about visiting on your own, never mind actually going.

Without trying to be unduly rude, grow a pair! What is the point of being on here if you aren't prepared to take a risk - for us meeting outside of clubs is harder as the dynamic is wrong, especially if you meet and aren't interested. The thing about clubs is you are in a sweety shop, not all of the sweets are available, not all of them are to your taste, but they are sweets and they are real!

People at clubs are great, just go, talk, smile , don't assume you will have sex, just treat it as a social. Don't get us started on it costs too much as a single guy - we travel to clubs, often stay in hotels and usually buy new outfits for Beth, so we spend much more than the delta between single guys and couple prices!

There are many people that don't want to try clubs, fair enough, but there is no point complaining about not getting meets when you aren't veri'd - it is perfectly aesy to solve - potentially harder if you are in Shannon or St Kilda of course.

M has been to clubs on his own, had a great time. Maybe we one day B might

nail on the head.

We've played with quiet guys at clubs. One of the ladies we play with was shy and went on her own first time. If they can do it, why cant anyone else?

At some point people have to step up, this, like many things in life is entitely under your own control.

I'll leave it thanks If clubs are frequented by ppl who use the 'man up' mantra.

It is entirely your choice of course

It is, if a cpl asked to meet at one I'd gladly go, but flying solo, not my bag, doesn't make me a wimp though as was suggested.

you suggested they were daunting and yes they can be, but most of the hood things in lige are to start with. it is all your choice, but for those that want to be veri'd and believe they are in a catch 22 situation - it is a perfectly reasonable option & you vould go just the once!

If I'd been once to meet someone then it's likely I'd go back alone, if I enjoyed it of course, but alone for the first time, no chance, there's scenarios I'd not want to get into and I'd just not feel comfortable at all. I understand doing things outside of your comfort zone, but I also understand not doing things you really don't want to do.

I don't think you should go to a club if that's not your cup of tea. Totally get that the more intimate private scenarios is what you are looking for. What you should bare in mind though is that Fab can be difficult if used on its own (even if you are not male and are verified) and especially hard if you are a non-verified male. And even if you do get verified, it might only improve marginally. But if you use Fab as a catalyst to various social situations within the swing scene, then you can get to know lots of people who might introduce you to more people. If you create that social network for yourself options are maximised. But if you rely totally on Fab you might get the occasional meet with a person or a couple who you or may not connect with.

Mrs"

Yeh, I get that and I'm not ruling out going to a club, if a cpl asked to meet there then I'd be more than happy to go.

Saying that, I'm quite happy to bide my time, I'm probably choosier than most ppl on here so am fully aware that things will be slow.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just because someone does not have a veri it does not mean there is something wrong with them.It just means that they have not "sold" themselves to their target audience.I do not think people on here are open minded enough.A social meet costs nothing apart from your time and you may be pleasantly surprised.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"? Why does anyone have to have a "badge" to be worth meeting.

Perhaps if you follow your own judgement rather than rely on others opinions, who may not accord with your view of the world anyway, to make decisions for you then if a person has veries or not is wholly irrelevant..

m

We don't find our own judgement is sufficient. We used to look for guys on Craig's List where there is no verification system. We got messed about, so obviously our own judgement was crap. Since we started using Fab and sticking to guys who were well verified we haven't got it wrong.

Mrs"

Think that may have more to do with Craig's list than veries.

Probably not your judgement that was crap more the quality of those who basically advertise there.

And I'm a great believer in the if it works for you then why change what you do.

But veries are no indication of how you will interact with someone just thst others have in whstever way

I may be cynical but have you ever seen anyone here lost a bad veri on their profile?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just because someone does not have a veri it does not mean there is something wrong with them.It just means that they have not "sold" themselves to their target audience.I do not think people on here are open minded enough.A social meet costs nothing apart from your time and you may be pleasantly surprised."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes and I have met someone without a veri.His profile could have appeared to be that of a time waster, no veris, over a year on site and no public pics.His first message got my attention and me wet."

FTFY

Fuzz

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's quite amusing that so many have confused verification with review

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

yeh, prefer to meet someone with none or a small amount than those with hundreds.

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield


"Just because someone does not have a veri it does not mean there is something wrong with them.It just means that they have not "sold" themselves to their target audience.I do not think people on here are open minded enough.A social meet costs nothing apart from your time and you may be pleasantly surprised."

That's right it costs time. There are so many unverified people who just wouldn't turn up. That's time messaging and a wasted afternoon or evening. That's crap for the unverified people too.

Why do that when there are so many verified people?

BUT it's so easy to get meet verified at a club or one of the many organised socials, I personally doubt the real commitment of people who can't or won't get one.

MrB

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By *imonP23Man
over a year ago

Shepton Mallet

I have been to clubs 4 times now, and asked numerous people to verify me. They keep promising to, but so far nobody has.

I don't know why not, but I suspect that people heavily involved in the club scene just don't understand how important veris are to those of us who are trying to get meets online.

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield


"I have been to clubs 4 times now, and asked numerous people to verify me. They keep promising to, but so far nobody has.

I don't know why not, but I suspect that people heavily involved in the club scene just don't understand how important veris are to those of us who are trying to get meets online.

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Were you chatting to them or just asked? Have you asked the bar staff?

We've seen loads of club veris like that.

Organised socials too, loads in the forums.

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By *imonP23Man
over a year ago

Shepton Mallet

Yes, I chatted to them first. And yes, I asked the bar staff. What keeps happening is that the bar staff take the slip of paper with my Fab ID on it, stash it under the bar, and then forget about it.

Maybe part of the problem is that I haven't gotten their Fab ID, so I can't then remind/nag them about it. But after my most recent failed attempt, I have a Fab ID, a mobile number, and an email address. A campaign of relentless nagging has just begun, that will either get me verified or get me barred...

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield


"Yes, I chatted to them first. And yes, I asked the bar staff. What keeps happening is that the bar staff take the slip of paper with my Fab ID on it, stash it under the bar, and then forget about it.

Maybe part of the problem is that I haven't gotten their Fab ID, so I can't then remind/nag them about it. But after my most recent failed attempt, I have a Fab ID, a mobile number, and an email address. A campaign of relentless nagging has just begun, that will either get me verified or get me barred...

"

Don't nag. Go in the club, have a good chat at the bar, swap fab Id's. Message next day thanking them and do a club review on the forum section. Just ask, straight after, no good doing days after, they'll have forgot.

Same with other people in the club, most people will verify someody after chatting a while.

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Yes, I chatted to them first. And yes, I asked the bar staff. What keeps happening is that the bar staff take the slip of paper with my Fab ID on it, stash it under the bar, and then forget about it.

Maybe part of the problem is that I haven't gotten their Fab ID, so I can't then remind/nag them about it. But after my most recent failed attempt, I have a Fab ID, a mobile number, and an email address. A campaign of relentless nagging has just begun, that will either get me verified or get me barred...

Don't nag. Go in the club, have a good chat at the bar, swap fab Id's. Message next day thanking them and do a club review on the forum section. Just ask, straight after, no good doing days after, they'll have forgot.

Same with other people in the club, most people will verify someody after chatting a while."

Totally agree with you, it is not hard to do this

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By *imonP23Man
over a year ago

Shepton Mallet

I get the impression that ALL aspects of swinging are much more difficult for "single males", even getting club-verified. We are widely regarded as pests, after all! Not that I misbehaved or anything, I was polite.

But in this most recent case, I asked for a veri before I went, so I will hold them to that promise. And I will need to pay a membership fee on my second visit, and I won't do that until they verify me. It's only been a few days (I went on Tuesday), so I haven't given up yet. Maybe this club will finally deliver!

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By *heekyglintMan
over a year ago

chester

Not for me - I wouldn't concider it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably as I know how hard it is for me to get verified

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By *s_bettyboopWoman
over a year ago

-3

I have done in the past but I only meet in clubs now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love being the 1st to meet up and taking their Fab cherry

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By *imonP23Man
over a year ago

Shepton Mallet

...Well, that didn't require "nagging" after all, just a gentle reminder. I have just been verified!

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield


"...Well, that didn't require "nagging" after all, just a gentle reminder. I have just been verified!

"

Well done! That will help a lot. Still hard for single guys, I know. Display it too. A club veri is good, shows you're serious about it.

Have fun

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By *ap d agde coupleCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs

We meet couple in gran canaria and they had 40 veryfied we had none at the time was a lovely meet and we still see them everyone has to start with o veryfied on here just be genuine in wanting to meet

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