FabSwingers.com forum: Giving out.your mobile number to a potential meet

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I get asked a lot for this before a.meet and after one bad experience a year ago I decided not to. However I have been accused of being a fake/not interested enough for refusing to give a contact number from a few guys. What do others tend to do?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get asked a lot for this before a.meet and after one bad experience a year ago I decided not to. However I have been accused of being a fake/not interested enough for refusing to give a contact number from a few guys. What do others tend to do?"

I would never give out my number before meeting. I'd give KIK or they could message on here. I wouldn't care what they thought. People can video call on KIK to see who someone is. I'd only give my number to someone I'd met, wanted to see again and had a level of trust with. When people ask for WhatsApp I'm always surprised they expect I'd give them my phone number.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having a phone number of a potential meet is no guarantee of them turning up or being not fake, however I've found it does tend to reduce the risk and tend to ask to chat via phone before wasting my time waiting for someone that never turns up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its kik all the way.

It's fast and convenient, along with the ability to block or delete.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Since we ask all new potential meets for a phone chat to prove genuine, we seem to find everyone backs off.... our loss maybe? But at least we are finding the dreamers from the genuine people this way.

Happy to give our number out to show we are a real couple, and if we get annoying calls we just block number.... simples!

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By *rs Myvanwy Scarlet-BlackTV/TS
over a year ago

hot wife

I have a separate phone my fuck phone which is only on when I'm meeting and only after I've built trust with that person I then give out my personal number they don't cost much xx

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By *ransGuyTV/TS
over a year ago

Cardiff

I never give my number out anymore. I don't need messaging on Whatsapp and then messaging via text messages to tell me that they have messaged me on Whatsapp, or stupid messages or phone calls late at night. Or having to worry about settings being changed by Facebook etc.

I've had no problems meeting guys without swapping mobile numbers.

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By *ransGuyTV/TS
over a year ago

Cardiff

"Its kik all the way.

It's fast and convenient, along with the ability to block or delete."

I agree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

depending on the meet

if its a good rapture i will give my number to someone before a meet.

sometimes kik or messages on here surface just as well, its not like you cant check messages when out and about like old times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never give out my number. Often your phone number will be connected to Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, email address, real address, etc without you realising.

That’s way too much personal info to allow someone to access that I haven’t even met yet.

Kik is wank too. I just tell people to talk to me on here, there’s no need for anyone to message me outside of this platform.

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By *est Wales WifeCouple
over a year ago

Near Carmarthen

Cheap PAYG mobile solves the problem - £4.99 from Argos

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its kik all the way.

It's fast and convenient, along with the ability to block or delete."

You can do that on most phones too though?

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By *xtrafun4youMan
over a year ago

Dunstable

I am quite happy to give out my number, the thing is o one wants it hehe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to be able to hide my account and switch off from fab when i want... if people have my number then its far more difficult

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Used too, don't no more. Too many guys pretending to be girls, and too many people unhappy with their own shitty lives thinking one of us is going to ditch the other to improve their life.

Use kik as it allows me to block the user with no second thought, if a guy or couple want a number prior to a meet they get hubbys not mine.

Ive had a stalker from here, friends requests on my fb, been followed on Instagram - its all a tad creepy especially when ive not spoken to them in the first instance. I have a family, job and life off here and some idiots have no boundaries so I treat everyone the same and err on the side of caution these days.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no problem giving my number out to guys i'm chatting with. I don't have to reply to texts or answer calls and it's easy to block people. I'm perhaps lucky that i've never had any one 'stalk' me as such though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I give my number out if meeting as like to talk make sure the person really then

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By *onkeyandBonesCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

We don't give numbers out until we have had a meet!

If they think you a fake then it will be their loss!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont give mine out, no interest in kik etc either...if i am planning on meeting somemeone, they can give me theirs and i'll call them with my number witheld just to confirm, have a chat. Not been a problem so far, the only people who do think its a problem are usually men who are asking for pics etc in there 1st or 2nd message anyway..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no problem at all giving my number out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I give my number when I feel comfortable enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Use the app onoff for a temporary number that you use exclusively for your meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never give out my anymore

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By *oyeurs DelightCouple
over a year ago

london

We use a phone specifically for playing. We've had some iffy experiences in the past with giving our phone number out so it's play phone only now and it works.

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By *iscean MaleMan
over a year ago

Darlaston

I wouldnt meet without phone number swap and at least chatting on the phone.

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I don't give out my number or use kik, all communication is done on fab as I find the messaging system more than adequate.

Only 2 guys on fab have my phone number and they are people I trust who I have met a few times and bow consider to be friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no problem giving out my number to potential meets because I have a second phone, my fab phone

I'm not daft enough now to give out my own personal number. I did when I first joined fab but soon learned quickly that was a bad choice

My second phone gets switched on in the morning and by early evening it's switched off as so no one can bother me if I'm out, with family and friends or sleeping

Only people on fab who has my person number are those who've become good friends with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Since we ask all new potential meets for a phone chat to prove genuine, we seem to find everyone backs off.... our loss maybe? But at least we are finding the dreamers from the genuine people this way.

Happy to give our number out to show we are a real couple, and if we get annoying calls we just block number.... simples! "

If gave you my number but you never ring ... lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have a cheap pay as you go phone.

We only turn it on when we're arranging a meet ect. As we find it easy to keep in touch in the final hours of a meet just incase of last minute cancellation

Anyone can ring it as often as they like and send any pics they like. But we won't get anything until it's turned on and we just delete what we're not interested in and we don't use it for any other purpose so no acidental calls messages to friends and family

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I have a separate fab phone with a throwaway SIM.

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By *radleywigginsMan
over a year ago

northwest

It's absolutely essential. For a start it's the quickest way of ensuring that the person you're talking to is the person in the profile.

You can find out so much more about people simply by talking. I find messaging via this website unbelievably tedious and clumsy. 10 mins of real chat is worth a month of messages.

I understand that some people are unhappy with the idea of actually talking. Texting has become the normal method of communicating for many. I'm sorry, you're missing out.

The excuses and the perceived security/vulnerability concerns are completely unfounded however, and it's this which leads to the impression that a refusal to exchange numbers increases the potential of a 'fake'. You can simply block, ignore, or avert that they want to phone from a withheld number..

A chat on the phone puts everyone's mind at ease, let's you know whether 'you get on' and is likely to lead to a much more relaxed and therefore better meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't arrange a meet or chat for too long without swapping numbers as i had a few experiences were i chatted for a few weeks and then arranged a meet to be only let down then blocked... it helps prove im actually speaking to a woman or a real mf couple. Not everyones way but thats mine

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By *illnatMan
over a year ago

wherever i need to be

I tend to use Kik and will only really either give my number out to people I know I can trust. But you really have to be careful as it links to your social media so I have that pretty much locked down as much as it is possible without deleting it!

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By *layfulcoupleCouple
over a year ago

a kinky mood

"Its kik all the way.

It's fast and convenient, along with the ability to block or delete.

I agree."

Again totally agree. You can kik cam if they are genuinely interested. So many have asked for numbers or face pics. We have said no and when checked the following day they have left the site

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I have no problem giving my regular number to people I am planning on meeting - although will usually do so once a date has been agreed and that doesn't happen with me until I am as sure as I can be that I can trust the person(s) concerned - think there are less than five people that have (or had) my number via this profile and it's not caused a single problem.

At the end of the day we all do what's best to safeguard ourselves according to our own circumstances.

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By *itmanAndHerrCouple
over a year ago

st helens

Kik serves the purpose well. We can group chat, video verify, camera photo verify and all without giving away any real personal information or phone number. Its the perfect tool for what we do.

It is reassuring to get a phone number and speak to someone before you go booking hotels and paying babysitters but we don't expect it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kik for me too, I don't like to cross-pollinate my contacts list with my fab side!

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By *heeriskingMan
over a year ago

Stockport

Kik or after a few messages and to arrange the details of a meet more than happy to send me number. Have done both kik and number with success.

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley

Let them get on with it. If not get a PAYG SIM just and cheap phone just for arranging meetings etc. That way of things go wrong you can just get another SIM.

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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago

In a sleepy little village

Nope I don't give my number out after a bad experience which ended with the police being involved.

Happy to cam on kik but that's all

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Use Kik

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I haven't given out my no for ages since I had some issues with a man on here!

I use kik and if they're not happy with that they can do one (grrrrr)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't give our numbers out anymore, it's not so much the potential calls and texts leading to wanting to block, it's that the number is potentially linked to other social media which would give away more info than we want to.

Neither of us are big fans of chatting on the phone full stop, we don't want another phone as we've got 4 between us already. We feel a bit like we're open to providing pic or other things if our chats and veris aren't enough but don't like demands like insisting on a phone call.

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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago

village life, closest main town inverness

"We don't give numbers out until we have had a meet!

If they think you a fake then it will be their loss!"

Great question Tracey as we've been wondering about this too

We've tended to agree with the answer above

However we're going to a fab social soon and the question has raised it's head again lol

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By *ncandiladoCouple
over a year ago

Dundee

Don't ever give out our phone number.

Even reluctant to message on kik.

We use fab and a social meet before taking things further

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Somewhat easier for a couple i know

But we only give out males number

Cos if someone wants to try and cause any aggro on that number they will find out why he is called grumpy

Other than that

Buy a cheap ass phone with a pay as you go sim and jusy give out that number

Any aggro

Throw the sim and buy a new one for a quid

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By *amesYork17Man
over a year ago

York

Get a cheap second phone with a pay and go Sim?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i guess you dont really need a phone number to have or arrange a meet.

as stated an option is a cheap pay as you go phone , you can buy one without giving i.d or your name , if you are asked just give any old address

a couple once told me they had phone contact all the way driving to a meet untill they knocked on a strangers front door who didnt have a clue who they were or why they were knocking .

is phone contact necessary .........no not at all i say

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By *ocks99Man
over a year ago

Reading

"I have a separate phone my fuck phone which is only on when I'm meeting and only after I've built trust with that person I then give out my personal number they don't cost much xx"

Have a burner phone for the munch meetup, can lose the number if necessary but not needed to yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know a guy who gave his number out to meets. One of those people was fake and tried to then black-mail him or bombard his phone with texts

Long story, short, his phone number was then put on a gay forum as an advert, and he then got a shit load of messages, and had to change his number.

So don't assume you only need to block the one number if it goes pear shaped.

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

I will always insist we exchange numbers if we plan a meet. I will not meet without it.

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By *urreyguy34Man
over a year ago

Weybridge

I'm happy to give my number out after a few messages, you can normally tell if they are genuine or not

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By *ex LutherMan
over a year ago

Closer than you think

Kik always for me, I've met some people regularly and have never had the need to swap numbers

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

I don't and won't give out my phone number.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

If I have got to the point where I am meeting someone for a social, it means I have also done my due diligence so I have no problem giving it in case something happens on the day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't and won't give out my phone number. "

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By *teve261970Man
over a year ago

Gateshead

Stick to your way,

Steve xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have a separate phone my fuck phone which is only on when I'm meeting and only after I've built trust with that person I then give out my personal number they don't cost much xx"

Me too.. My naughty phone

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By *arciocialWoman
over a year ago

Leicester

Tell them that going on fab and checking their messages is just as easy as I can't be bothered to have two phones, one is enough. No loss of they're not happy with sticking to fab.

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

Just use Kik after chatting on here first.

There's no need to give out your number and you can use their "Face to Face" calling now if you want to see the other person.

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By *icegentglosMan
over a year ago

Gloucester

Nope wouldn't give it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer to swap numbers before meeting. If they turn out to be a fruitcake it's not difficult for me to ignore any communication

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I prefer to swap numbers before meeting. If they turn out to be a fruitcake it's not difficult for me to ignore any communication "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I prefer to swap numbers before meeting. If they turn out to be a fruitcake it's not difficult for me to ignore any communication "

Same here

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By *ohnaronMan
over a year ago

london

Get a cheap fuck phone. Never meet without talking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just go and buy a second hand small phone for £10 and get a SIM for £2

Best thing we ever done

Would never give our daily phone number out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have given - and exchanged - with one man only and luckily hasn't been a problem but it is NOT something I usually do or will do going forward

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just go and buy a second hand small phone for £10 and get a SIM for £2

Best thing we ever done

Would never give our daily phone number out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I swap numbers whenever possible - I'm not an arsehole so it shouldn't be an issue. If you want to meet me, I'll happily swap numbers. If down the line you decide you don't want to meet me, simply say so and I'll delete your number.

Most people are trustworthy.

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

I never ask for a number, if it's given, then great, if not, then I message through fab - had no problems so far

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Its kik all the way.

It's fast and convenient, along with the ability to block or delete."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We believe in treating potential playmates like friends, and expect the same in return. So this would include exchanging mobile numbers. We would be very reluctant to meet someone without knowing their mobile number. I understand why people do - maybe safer to keep that certain distance. Our experience of being a bit more open through is that people treat us with more loyalty, and are less likely to mess us about.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only meet at socials or clubs as safer for me I don’t give out my number anymore

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd b happy to give my number out if I feel there genuine

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

I'd never give my number out to a meet. They can talk to me on here

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By *o and peepCouple
over a year ago

falkirk

I don’t see the need to dish out numbers as said can talk on here

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