FabSwingers.com forum: Facebook

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Me and hubs are on here obviously. He isn't on Facebook I am. Recently I have been getting messages from random guys commenting about fab and our profile. How the hell do they find time to trawl through Facebook finding people! My Facebook block list resembles our block list on here! M x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is your phone number linked to your Fb by any chance?

If they have your number you will pop up on their 'who you might know' list.

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By *a Fee VerteWoman
over a year ago

Limbo

Are your non sexual photos on Facebook perhaps? Maybe they've done a reverse image search on them and found them that way if you've not restricted who can see them?

But I agree it's sad anyone's bothered to search you out. Perhaps you need to lock down your FB account to friends only.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Is your phone number linked to your Fb by any chance?

If they have your number you will pop up on their 'who you might know' list."

No it's not. One thing I've never done x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Are your non sexual photos on Facebook perhaps? Maybe they've done a reverse image search on them and found them that way if you've not restricted who can see them?

But I agree it's sad anyone's bothered to search you out. Perhaps you need to lock down your FB account to friends only.

Not the non sexual ones on here no.

My Facebook is already locked down as tight as it can be to friends only.

Shall have a look see if there is anything else I can do on there. Or just delete It, as I hardly use it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup. Have similar experience.

I have a blank Facebook account that I use cos a couple of local groups I'm involved in use it to communicate - football team etc.

I have no 'friends' on it and never post.

Yet it regularly suggests people I know to be on the scene locally. I can only assume it's making a connection between some Fab friends I have mobile numbers for and their wider network.

Forget big brother and Government spying on you. The real issue is fellow swingers. Lol

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By *essyMan
over a year ago

Hereford

I just tried... I like a challenge lol . Found you on Facebook in less than a minute . I if you don't want to be found you need to lie more on your profile I am afraid as there some nosey people on here

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

" I just tried... I like a challenge lol . Found you on Facebook in less than a minute . I if you don't want to be found you need to lie more on your profile I am afraid as there some nosey people on here "

Shall see what I can do lol.

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By *essyMan
over a year ago

Hereford

I can't pm you . If you on me I will tell you where your going wrong . As not sure should write on here

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I can't pm you . If you on me I will tell you where your going wrong . As not sure should write on here "

Thank you I will pm you when I've done the school run.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This will become more of a problem with the new iPhones facial recognition software. It will recognise faces in photos you comment on, store that information and then use that information to make a suggestion. The age of having private profiles is coming to an end.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I found you on Facebook really easily too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I found you on Facebook really easily too."

Shall change pics and that on there and see what I can do.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What’s wrong with people that they think they can just add you on Facebook. I believe that this side of my life is private and I want it to stay that way for as long as possible. I often see a lady in Tesco who is on this site. I have never approached her and spoken about it.

There should be an etiquette to this.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"What’s wrong with people that they think they can just add you on Facebook. I believe that this side of my life is private and I want it to stay that way for as long as possible. I often see a lady in Tesco who is on this site. I have never approached her and spoken about it.

There should be an etiquette to this. "

There is with most people I would hope.

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

I've not had it happen on here, but I was on a dating site a long time ago, and regularly got random friends request on FB from people who'd 'liked' me on there.

Kinda scary, when you've got personal stuff, family photos etc on there.

Hope you sort your issue out xx

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"I can't pm you . If you on me I will tell you where your going wrong . As not sure should write on here "

Can you give us a general idea of where people may be going wrong?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can't pm you . If you on me I will tell you where your going wrong . As not sure should write on here

Can you give us a general idea of where people may be going wrong?"

Using real first names on here is not a good idea.

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By *essyMan
over a year ago

Hereford

Main thing was real name on here . Linked with city on Facebook and all of a sudden you have a very small list of people. Unfortunately for op she was top of this list as well. Pictures weren't as locked down as well as op probably thought they were. So even with just a few pics on show a nutter could soon be sure it's you. Especially if some pics are the same as fab open pics . Remember Them finding your profile on Facebook ain't a massive problem it what they find after that effect friends relatives work etc

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By *sThunderThighsWoman
over a year ago

Toy Land

"I can't pm you . If you on me I will tell you where your going wrong . As not sure should write on here "

Once the op has changed the things that make it easy for you to find her, could you let us all know what they were . I would really like to make sure I'm not making the same mistakes! Thanks Hx

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By *essyMan
over a year ago

Hereford

Also phone numbers are a big rhibg. Not only do people come up in the likely friends list you can put a phone number in Facebook search and if the person hasn't hidden their number then their profile will pop up

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By *sThunderThighsWoman
over a year ago

Toy Land

"I can't pm you . If you on me I will tell you where your going wrong . As not sure should write on here

Once the op has changed the things that make it easy for you to find her, could you let us all know what they were . I would really like to make sure I'm not making the same mistakes! Thanks Hx"

Oops you already have ! Doh! Lol thanks x

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By *essyMan
over a year ago

Hereford

Also another mistake I see a bit is same username as more vanilla profiles like on POF where they are then more open about who they are

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By *essyMan
over a year ago

Hereford

Just had a quick look at ops amended profile and looks safe to me now. I wouldn't be able to find them but I am far from a computer wiz .

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By *onnie and JohnCouple
over a year ago

WILTSHIRE

"Can you give us a general idea of where people may be going wrong?

Using real first names on here is not a good idea."

lets make a keep me safe list.

photos only used on fab.

use a pay as you go fab phone.

not your real name.

not your real age.

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By *essyMan
over a year ago

Hereford

"Can you give us a general idea of where people may be going wrong?

Using real first names on here is not a good idea.

lets make a keep me safe list.

photos only used on fab.

use a pay as you go fab phone.

not your real name.

not your real age.

Different profile name to others sites

Slightly different details to other sites

Look at Facebook settings too make sure as much as possible is private

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By *essyMan
over a year ago

Hereford

"Can you give us a general idea of where people may be going wrong?

Using real first names on here is not a good idea.

lets make a keep me safe list.

photos only used on fab.

use a pay as you go fab phone.

not your real name.

not your real age.

Different profile name to others sites

Slightly different details to other sites

Look at Facebook settings too make sure as much as possible is private

And remember the the smaller the location you have on fab the more careful you need to be . Eg if your location is London then it will be very hard for them to find your but if your location is a small town with small population then it's alot easier

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A new career as an online security consultant awaits Shire1! Lol.

Joking aside - good sensible advice. Thanks.

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By *essyMan
over a year ago

Hereford

No worries chap getting my new CV written up now lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No worries chap getting my new CV written up now lol "

Thank you. Will tinker with Facebook a bit more later and definitely make sure it can't be used this way. M x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can you give us a general idea of where people may be going wrong?

Using real first names on here is not a good idea.

lets make a keep me safe list.

photos only used on fab.

use a pay as you go fab phone.

not your real name.

not your real age.

Use pics from the internet rather than of yourself

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By *iss foxieWoman
over a year ago

Rawcliffe

Image search app is very good. For checking people out. You put photos on here then they'll find you one way or another. Best bet is not to pics on. I've learnt my lesson believe me

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By *landfordfabbersCouple
over a year ago

Blandford ish

This is quite worrying!! Lol

Any of the folk who found the original postie could they look for us and let us know on pm please

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By *essyMan
over a year ago

Hereford

the op has since changed their profile so i dont think i could find them now. assuming your names are fake and your details are out a little eg age and height you should be ok.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Another simple thing is just don't have face pics in your public profile, we don't even have them in private photos. Will send in a message but use the delete after

recipient views photo feature you can do when you send one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Useful info thanks

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