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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

This evening I had a message from a single male. Having had a bad experience with someone who had a very jealous fwb I messaged him saying thanks but no thanks, I don't meet anyone with a fwb. He replied with a load of abuse. Is it now acceptable on here to send abuse if someone says no?

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Of course it isn't. Report, block, move on

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Of course it isn't. Report, block, move on "

Thank you, I have done x

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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago

In a sleepy little village

Sadly it's fairly common. If you block after saying no there's no drama then

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

It's best to block before they can reply as abuse seems the norm on here for some people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I get a lot of them. Calling me monkey or don't want monkey spunk mostly racist. I just bloke them they don't deserve a response.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuck no it's not OK, freekin keyboard wanker, why on earth do they think because it's online they can send whatever they want!!

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By *ornstudMan
over a year ago

alnwick

Give him abuse back i would

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah I get a lot of them. Calling me monkey or don't want monkey spunk mostly racist. I just bloke them they don't deserve a response. "

Probably jealous!

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By *he Secret Tea PartyCouple
over a year ago

London

It's not right and should be reported. But blocking as you say no does reduce it.

On the flip side it probably increases the number of 'Blocked for no reason' threads in here

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By *he Secret Tea PartyCouple
over a year ago

London


"Give him abuse back i would "

Why? So they know they've upset you? It's not worth the emotional energy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Give him abuse back i would

Why? So they know they've upset you? It's not worth the emotional energy "

Exactly they don't deserve it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shame does seem to be getting more common on fab nowadays. No one should have to be subjected to these sort of messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its all too common now report n block and wait for them to rejoin under a different name and then they get nasty again as there really is no way of stopping them

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I just ask the to say that to a woman in a pub and see how long it takes her to slap him lol, oh and I block before they can respond

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had a lot of abuse from single men, even an r threat, apparently I can't say the word on here. That's why I have a block on single men but here's the thing, I sometimes get abuse from couples too. Had a female of a couple bitching to me a couple of nights ago. Yes I blocked her but before I did I gave her as good as I got and I don't normally do that but she really riled me. That block button is my best friend x

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I've seen these messages. Some people are vile.

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By *layfulcoupleCouple
over a year ago

a kinky mood

We had the same yesterday when a single male asked for face pics. We said no and then called us everything under the sun and then blocked us. We just wish we could name him

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By *illingtopleaseMan
over a year ago

Doncaster

Guys like that really get my blood boiling , they will never get anywhere like that and it's makes it ten times harder for genuine single guys like myself and loads of others on here , he is obviously not serious about the scene and should get reported and kicked of the site .

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

I love it when they send abuse but don't block, it means I get a right to reply and then block them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have had a lot of abuse from single men, even an r threat, apparently I can't say the word on here."

if someone was stupid enough to even say that word to me from a threatening point of view then i would report to the police after all the law is the law website or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah I get a lot of them. Calling me monkey or don't want monkey spunk mostly racist. I just bloke them they don't deserve a response. "

That's fucked up mate

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"I have had a lot of abuse from single men, even an r threat, apparently I can't say the word on here.

if someone was stupid enough to even say that word to me from a threatening point of view then i would report to the police after all the law is the law website or not "

Exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't reply if I'm not interested. No abuse received here. Ever.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

see this now opens the debate for charging people to join and i totally dont condone anyone sex age or race abuse but all they do is close 1 profile and open another mins later the site needs to Act more as this is a regular occurrence

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yeah I get a lot of them. Calling me monkey or don't want monkey spunk mostly racist. I just bloke them they don't deserve a response. "

I find it shocking that this sort of abuse still happens. Just for the record its such a shame you're not closer

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By *layfulcoupleCouple
over a year ago

a kinky mood

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for all the messages, I have reported and blocked him xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah I get a lot of them. Calling me monkey or don't want monkey spunk mostly racist. I just bloke them they don't deserve a response. "

That's fucking insane. No one should have to put up with that shit anywhere, much less on a site like this one that is supposed to be about making connections.

Just fuck their ignorance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The amount of guys that mail me demading sex without saying hi is scarily high they think because ur on the site that you automatically will sleep with anyone. I know my profile says im a slut but that dont mean ill sleep with anyone. These are so detached from reality its unreal and also their profiles mostly say straight . But i agree its unacceptable block and report and enjoy the time with people who show respect

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"Give him abuse back i would

Why? So they know they've upset you? It's not worth the emotional energy "

Probably not,but sometimes just has to be done. Only I can be far more vile depending on the time of month

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By *landfordfabbersCouple
over a year ago

Blandford ish

I did this and got warned by fab!!? He was a total douchebucket i had a go back and blocked him and he reported my message

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By *uzz And WoodyCouple
over a year ago

Maidstone

Those people frighten me, as they're the ones with the potential to commit a sexually aggravated crime in the future. Whether through extortion or physical abuse. Just a shame that the reporting of these people doesn't end up as a list of potential nutters on a database for the police for future reference. Some people seem to think intimidation through fear is the answer to their sexual frustration. My fantasy solution would be to arrange a meet in a wood one night and introduce them to my baseball bat. Unfortunately the law frowns upon this, so report, block and move on is the only real and safest solution.

I'm not a violent guy but these people really do need educating. Rant over x

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Those people frighten me, as they're the ones with the potential to commit a sexually aggravated crime in the future. Whether through extortion or physical abuse. Just a shame that the reporting of these people doesn't end up as a list of potential nutters on a database for the police for future reference. Some people seem to think intimidation through fear is the answer to their sexual frustration. My fantasy solution would be to arrange a meet in a wood one night and introduce them to my baseball bat. Unfortunately the law frowns upon this, so report, block and move on is the only real and safest solution.

I'm not a violent guy but these people really do need educating. Rant over x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And yet you get people posting on the forums every day asking why they don't get responses to messages. - that's why.

You get abuse so it's better to just ignore

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

Some of the messages I get make me so bloody angry, but also at the same time slightly amused.

There's not a cat in hells chance those idiots would speak to me like that in real life, face to face.

The report & block button is fast becoming my best friend, while I secretly plan ways I'd inflict pain upon them if we ever did meet.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

I've had abuse from someone I disagreed with on a forum thread, he pm'd me to say how fake my profile was and blah blah blah.

I later saw him post in a thread similar to this one about how sending abusive messages was totally unacceptable

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"I've had abuse from someone I disagreed with on a forum thread, he pm'd me to say how fake my profile was and blah blah blah.

I later saw him post in a thread similar to this one about how sending abusive messages was totally unacceptable "
and did you call him out on it?

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By *ezmanyorksMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

Unfortunately, it is knobheads like that, that makes meeting new people all the more difficult for single males like myself, it is not acceptable in any walk of life to behave in that manner, be it on this site or in real life, just goes to show how some people are just pure Jeremy Kyle fodder these days :/

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a guy who I've met a few times turn on me last night because he didn't like that I spoke the truth to him. Cut a long story short it ended with him say going cry to someone who cares but then you can't because your a sad lonely old fat cow

When I sent a sarcastic reply back his reply was oh no you go running to the fridge for comfort

I didn't retaliate just blocked him on my phone

So even guys who you meet and trust can turn abusive not just random strangers

May I add he isn't on fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Unfortunately, it is knobheads like that, that makes meeting new people all the more difficult for single males like myself, it is not acceptable in any walk of life to behave in that manner, be it on this site or in real life, just goes to show how some people are just pure Jeremy Kyle fodder these days :/"

how does it make it more difficult for you?

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By *ezmanyorksMan
over a year ago

Wakefield


"Unfortunately, it is knobheads like that, that makes meeting new people all the more difficult for single males like myself, it is not acceptable in any walk of life to behave in that manner, be it on this site or in real life, just goes to show how some people are just pure Jeremy Kyle fodder these days :/

how does it make it more difficult for you?"

Because the more it happens to women/couples, the less likely they are to want to talk to single guys to begin with incase it happens again, let alone anything else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Unfortunately, it is knobheads like that, that makes meeting new people all the more difficult for single males like myself, it is not acceptable in any walk of life to behave in that manner, be it on this site or in real life, just goes to show how some people are just pure Jeremy Kyle fodder these days :/

how does it make it more difficult for you?

Because the more it happens to women/couples, the less likely they are to want to talk to single guys to begin with incase it happens again, let alone anything else "

i think thats nonsense...couples are very capable, as are some women, of giving abuse..i take each person on thwir own merits, as i imagine most do or they wouldnt be on here...if people dont want to talk to single men they would block them...but this constant whine of ' other people spoil it for the rest' is rubbish!

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

hahahahaha

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By *ameuserCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Arrange meet.... cut dick off

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"I've had abuse from someone I disagreed with on a forum thread, he pm'd me to say how fake my profile was and blah blah blah.

I later saw him post in a thread similar to this one about how sending abusive messages was totally unacceptable and did you call him out on it? "

I didn't name him but I did comment that certain posts in the thread were rather ironic. He didn't bite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Unfortunately, it is knobheads like that, that makes meeting new people all the more difficult for single males like myself, it is not acceptable in any walk of life to behave in that manner, be it on this site or in real life, just goes to show how some people are just pure Jeremy Kyle fodder these days :/

how does it make it more difficult for you?

Because the more it happens to women/couples, the less likely they are to want to talk to single guys to begin with incase it happens again, let alone anything else

i think thats nonsense...couples are very capable, as are some women, of giving abuse..i take each person on thwir own merits, as i imagine most do or they wouldnt be on here...if people dont want to talk to single men they would block them...but this constant whine of ' other people spoil it for the rest' is rubbish!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The amount of guys that mail me demading sex without saying hi is scarily high they think because ur on the site that you automatically will sleep with anyone. I know my profile says im a slut but that dont mean ill sleep with anyone. These are so detached from reality its unreal and also their profiles mostly say straight . But i agree its unacceptable block and report and enjoy the time with people who show respect "

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

No op its totally unacceptable

Teddy out of pram reaction unfortunately,if you have blocked and reported,just forget him

I have read that many block after saying no thanks,for this very reason.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Give him abuse back i would "

Most people will not stoop to the level of these morons, that makes you as bad as them!

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