FabSwingers.com forum: Deleted messages

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Is it just me or is it rude when you send a message just to have it deleted with not even a sorry but no. Especially when they have looked at your profile multiple times over a few weeks

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

You may take it personally as rude but it us acceptable under FAB rules..

As for unread..

Maybe get didn't like the preview.or read it and marked it as unread to come back to (Then you got deleted I a mass inbox clear up)

Who knows!

But don't focus on that just move on...

Oh and the best tip...

Send your messages then delete all your sent - that way you have no way to "check " if it's read or not....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn't bother me plenty more ladies out there.

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By *DontExistWoman
over a year ago

•+• Silicon valley. •+•

yeah it's rude but sometimes people cannot be polite or don't want to be.

please refer to the sites faq for why or just search the bazillion other topics moaning about this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only thing rude is people moaning about it!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You may take it personally as rude but it us acceptable under FAB rules..

As for unread..

Maybe get didn't like the preview.or read it and marked it as unread to come back to (Then you got deleted I a mass inbox clear up)

Who knows!

But don't focus on that just move on...

Oh and the best tip...

Send your messages then delete all your sent - that way you have no way to "check " if it's read or not...."

Thanks for the advice. Btw you look very attractive in your pics. If you ever fancy chatting please message me x

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

OP you only replied to one person in this thread. To not be rude, you should reply to all the posters, surely?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Delete the contents of your outbox and forget the messages once they're sent. A reply then becomes a nice surprise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No it isn't rude at all. XXX

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By *kyblue1878Couple
over a year ago

Southport

We aren't looking for single guys, it says so on our profile but we still get messages. It would easy to instantly delete but we will still read them. Obviously those that read 'how ya doin ' do get deleted with no reply but if someone has taken the trouble to write a considered message that is courteous and inoffensive then we'll show similar courtesy with a reply, even if it a reminder that we're not really looking for single guys.

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By *oanne_MacTV/TS
over a year ago

Perth

most messages that get deleted without reply is because the sender has completely ignored or not read the recipients profile, yet messaged anyway.

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

"Is it just me or is it rude when you send a message just to have it deleted with not even a sorry but no. Especially when they have looked at your profile multiple times over a few weeks "

Not rude at all.

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By *adyGardenWoman
over a year ago

LONDON (se)

I delete messages without reading them because sometimes from that first line I can tell they havent read my profile.

I used to reply with polite declines but got sick of the abuse thrown back at me so stopped doing that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is an inbox full of written rejection so important to you?

If so on behalf of all women you have messaged past, present and future... no thanks

There you go

By the way.. when you get junk mail through your letterbox.. do you contact each company to say no thanks?

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By *adyGardenWoman
over a year ago

LONDON (se)

"Is an inbox full of written rejection so important to you?

If so on behalf of all women you have messaged past, present and future... no thanks

There you go

By the way.. when you get junk mail through your letterbox.. do you contact each company to say no thanks?"

Perfectly put

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"OP you only replied to one person in this thread. To not be rude, you should reply to all the posters, surely?"
this and read FAQ section which clearly states no response no interest it's not considered rude at all

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By *uriousTwosomeCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

Us couples get deleted too, lots! Bemuses us sometimes. It's a downer, but that's fickle Fab for you!

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By *ampant Lion34Man
over a year ago

East Midlands

I always reply. If someone has taken the time to message me least I can do is send one back. You just never know where it may lead

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By *eadonistCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Ashton under Lyne

"Is it just me or is it rude when you send a message just to have it deleted with not even a sorry but no. Especially when they have looked at your profile multiple times over a few weeks "

Just move on.. . Really not worth getring emotional at all about it.

Just go with the flow..

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By *eadonistCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Ashton under Lyne

"Us couples get deleted too, lots! Bemuses us sometimes. It's a downer, but that's fickle Fab for you!"

Us too.. Just move on. It's fab, not the hunger games or anything

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

You have to be realistic. It's a casual sex site. No one owes anyone anything. If you get upset if people don't reply to messages, then this lifestyle is probably not for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You may take it personally as rude but it us acceptable under FAB rules..

As for unread..

Maybe get didn't like the preview.or read it and marked it as unread to come back to (Then you got deleted I a mass inbox clear up)

Who knows!

But don't focus on that just move on...

Oh and the best tip...

Send your messages then delete all your sent - that way you have no way to "check " if it's read or not...."

This

Advice to any newbie would be:

1. Delete messages as soon as you send them

2. Never take Fab personally

3. If you don't like rejection think twice before clicking send

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't see it as rude. you just think they probably have hundreds of messages to go though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is an inbox full of written rejection so important to you?

If so on behalf of all women you have messaged past, present and future... no thanks

There you go

By the way.. when you get junk mail through your letterbox.. do you contact each company to say no thanks?"

Hahaha, I love this response!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is an inbox full of written rejection so important to you?

If so on behalf of all women you have messaged past, present and future... no thanks

There you go

By the way.. when you get junk mail through your letterbox.. do you contact each company to say no thanks?"

Genius

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!

"You may take it personally as rude but it us acceptable under FAB rules..

As for unread..

Maybe get didn't like the preview.or read it and marked it as unread to come back to (Then you got deleted I a mass inbox clear up)

Who knows!

But don't focus on that just move on...

Oh and the best tip...

Send your messages then delete all your sent - that way you have no way to "check " if it's read or not....

Thanks for the advice. Btw you look very attractive in your pics. If you ever fancy chatting please message me x"

Not having a go at the op specifically but...

Is it just me that cringes in this situation? Why not just go direct and send a pm? Is the profile now hidden due to the (I'm guessing) sharp spike in attention that the respondent is probably receiving now?

Or maybe I'm just over thinking this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"most messages that get deleted without reply is because the sender has completely ignored or not read the recipients profile, yet messaged anyway. "

Purely an anecdotal answer. How can you possibly know this without the figures?

Any I've had deleted after I've sent them have been to local women who have shown interest first with either a 'hi' message or at least a wink (and are looking for men, I'd know because I read profiles) only to delete a polite well written message without dick pics - as they should be.

Yes I understand fully why people do this when the message is rude or profile ignored, but to say this is the reason is wrong. In some cases (not all, not even most) it's time wasting & rudeness to move on from.

There are more case scenarios to consider here

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By *londieddWoman
over a year ago

fife

"Is it just me or is it rude when you send a message just to have it deleted with not even a sorry but no. Especially when they have looked at your profile multiple times over a few weeks "

you're also married that will put lots off!

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"OP you only replied to one person in this thread. To not be rude, you should reply to all the posters, surely?"

Exactly this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We aren't looking for single guys, it says so on our profile but we still get messages. It would easy to instantly delete but we will still read them. Obviously those that read 'how ya doin ' do get deleted with no reply but if someone has taken the trouble to write a considered message that is courteous and inoffensive then we'll show similar courtesy with a reply, even if it a reminder that we're not really looking for single guys."

Thats what we do

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