FabSwingers.com mobile

Join us FREE, we're FREE to use

Web's largest swingers site since 2006.

Already registered?
Login here

Back to forum list
Back to Swingers Chat

Meeting when parents

Jump to newest
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How do people arrange meets when they have new borns. We certainly wouldnt want a child left unatended or crying whilst we were in another room having a meet. But then on the otherhand is it any different to having sex together with a baby in the other room. How do people both feel about this and how do you arrange meets?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just my thoughts, but I wouldn't be wanting to have a meet whilst my kid is in the same house, regardless of age. I would prefer grandparents to take them for the evening. Is that a possibility for you?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just my thoughts, but I wouldn't be wanting to have a meet whilst my kid is in the same house, regardless of age. I would prefer grandparents to take them for the evening. Is that a possibility for you? "

Surely that's only for a first meet if you're not sure you can trust them yet? If the meet is with someone you can trust, I don't see how it's any different to having normal sex with children in the house. You wouldn't expect a "normal" couple to send the kids off to their grandparents just so they can have sex, would you?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We would never have met anyone at home while our children were in the house. Parents are often groomed as a way of getting to the children. It's not a risk worth taking in my opinion.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

stranger in the house whilst children are there is a massive no no .

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

The only suggestion I can make is to arrange trusted baby sitters and meet in clubs or at other people's homes.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We would never have met anyone at home while our children were in the house. Parents are often groomed as a way of getting to the children. It's not a risk worth taking in my opinion."

Completely agree

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The only suggestion I can make is to arrange trusted baby sitters and meet in clubs or at other people's homes."

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex

I have never met at my home with a fab meet whether the kids are home or not. This is their home and a place they should feel safe and I couldn't guarantee that if a relative stranger knew my address. I have had a few weirdos stalk me down on fb etc but I can lock down that, as well as a few that have even tried to find out where I live to come tell my children I'm a swinger !! Wtf that about !

I know there are lots that entertain from home and yes there are some that do whilst the children are there but it's not for me.

Clubs / hotels less personal and I'm happy with that

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My daughter is 20 and still at home so unless she's out...no meets at home.

And from the other point of view....we've been to a couples house whilst the young child is crying upstairs needless to say it stayed just a social and things never moved on.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"Just my thoughts, but I wouldn't be wanting to have a meet whilst my kid is in the same house, regardless of age. I would prefer grandparents to take them for the evening. Is that a possibility for you?

Surely that's only for a first meet if you're not sure you can trust them yet? If the meet is with someone you can trust, I don't see how it's any different to having normal sex with children in the house. You wouldn't expect a "normal" couple to send the kids off to their grandparents just so they can have sex, would you?"

Well said! I have nothing more to add sorry hehe

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *arciocialWoman
over a year ago

Leicester


"Just my thoughts, but I wouldn't be wanting to have a meet whilst my kid is in the same house, regardless of age. I would prefer grandparents to take them for the evening. Is that a possibility for you?

Surely that's only for a first meet if you're not sure you can trust them yet? If the meet is with someone you can trust, I don't see how it's any different to having normal sex with children in the house. You wouldn't expect a "normal" couple to send the kids off to their grandparents just so they can have sex, would you?

Well said! I have nothing more to add sorry hehe"

As you're not just talking of babies here, what about the possibility of the child waking up and walking in... Just not right.

I wouldn't be willing to meet anyone that thought it was acceptable for me to go round whilst their child was there. I'm not someone that will be permanently in their life or there for some period of time, and that's what I believe children need, not someone they'll possibly see now and again leaving them asking questions.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only person I have had sex with in my house when my daughter with special needs is in bed, was my former FWB. I had been seeing him for 2 and a half years before I asked him to stay overnight. Before that he came in the day when nobody was home. My daughter sleeps downstairs. I don't host at all anymore.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never with kids around its just wrong

we only plan meets if grandparents ask to have the children for weekends..the odd occasion with plenty of notice of a good party with friends we have them looked after, our family life governs our play time not vice versa

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I've removed threads.

Just a reminder discussing any kind of sexual activity under the age of 18 is against forum rules.

However if anyone tries to discuss things like that with you privately always, always report.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ipi2001Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham

You can hire a babysitter for 2/3 hours... It's what we do we don't have grandparents.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We would just like to point out that we do not have children and this was purely about our own curiosity as to what people do

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never, ever, ever would I host with anyone else in the house. Let alone my kids!! I've been a single parent and I just meet socially then met at theirs. I would ALSO NEVER have a first meet at my house. There are some great people on here but some very very sick ones too sadly

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we once spent a wasted sunday afternoon where for some reason, all the people we were talking to wanted us to come to theirs after 9.30 after their kids were in bed...apart from it being a massive no from us anyway, 9.30 o a sunday night is just really inconvenient...

we also had someone who wanted a first social in a park while they took their kids there...just no

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

We wouldn't do it, and wouldn't meet at someones home while their kids were in.

Babysitter and a club or a meet at the other peoples house is the answer.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We agreed from the outset that our home life would be kept entirely separate from swinging so we choose not to accommodate, we stick to club meets for a number of reasons so don't expect other couples to accommodate either.

Ginger

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have never met at my home with a fab meet whether the kids are home or not. This is their home and a place they should feel safe and I couldn't guarantee that if a relative stranger knew my address. I have had a few weirdos stalk me down on fb etc but I can lock down that, as well as a few that have even tried to find out where I live to come tell my children I'm a swinger !! Wtf that about !

I know there are lots that entertain from home and yes there are some that do whilst the children are there but it's not for me.

Clubs / hotels less personal and I'm happy with that

"
I totally agree I'm a single dad and this is my daughters home you can't guarantee some nutjob isn't going to come back when she's here alone

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We would never have met anyone at home while our children were in the house. Parents are often groomed as a way of getting to the children. It's not a risk worth taking in my opinion."

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do people arrange meets when they have new borns. We certainly wouldnt want a child left unatended or crying whilst we were in another room having a meet. But then on the otherhand is it any different to having sex together with a baby in the other room. How do people both feel about this and how do you arrange meets?"

We won't meet at home. it's not fair on the kids, likewise we won't meet at somebodies house.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
Post new Message to Thread
back to top