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By *inkyLondonpair OP   Couple
over a year ago

London

What's pissing us off at the moment. You message someone, it's all going well and you suggest arranging a date to meet. They then all go very vague and say they are busy for a while, will have to talk to their partner etc. . Ok talk to her and maybe set a date a few weeks ahead. Too busy at the moment to even talk to my partner etc etc.

Do loads use this place just as a wanking aid?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We think you're right

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

Maybe some do, probably a lot. But also people have busy lives. We genuinely couldn't say when we are free to meet next due to work and family.

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By *erdyCoupleCouple
over a year ago

telford

Unfortunately there are a lot of fakes here just for some wank bank material.

Or those that chicken out last minute, go quiet when you come to finalising things on the day, etc.

It's a case of ing through the chaff to get to the good few.

H & G x

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By *inkyLondonpair OP   Couple
over a year ago

London


"Maybe some do, probably a lot. But also people have busy lives. We genuinely couldn't say when we are free to meet next due to work and family. "

Genuine question. How do you plan meets?

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville


"Maybe some do, probably a lot. But also people have busy lives. We genuinely couldn't say when we are free to meet next due to work and family.

Genuine question. How do you plan meets? "

With great difficulty. We are stuck in the hands of the teenage gods a lot of the time, so at short notice mostly.

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By *inkyLondonpair OP   Couple
over a year ago

London


"Maybe some do, probably a lot. But also people have busy lives. We genuinely couldn't say when we are free to meet next due to work and family.

Genuine question. How do you plan meets?

With great difficulty. We are stuck in the hands of the teenage gods a lot of the time, so at short notice mostly. "

Fair enough. We have the opposite problem. Work and babysitters means we have to plan well in advance. We have an issue with people who just say vague stuff about being "busy", as if we all aren't!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you could be right but if they have kids it can be a pain to organize baby sitters,even i you start chatting to someone they suddenly start talking horny it turns the mrs right off,and why men dont have profile pics god only knows,what are they hiding??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

teenagers are a pain in the backside,one minute they are not going out next minute they are

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville


"Maybe some do, probably a lot. But also people have busy lives. We genuinely couldn't say when we are free to meet next due to work and family.

Genuine question. How do you plan meets?

With great difficulty. We are stuck in the hands of the teenage gods a lot of the time, so at short notice mostly.

Fair enough. We have the opposite problem. Work and babysitters means we have to plan well in advance. We have an issue with people who just say vague stuff about being "busy", as if we all aren't! "

We are at the stage where teenager decides when they are here or when they are at their dads. It's a sadly unavoidable situation we find ourselves in, but we understand that vagueness does not work too well with Fab meets. Saying that, we are starting to play with a select group of guys now who understand our situation.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville


"teenagers are a pain in the backside,one minute they are not going out next minute they are "

lol. Ours is more a case of they don't always have a great relationship with my ex / their father. So the very other weekend routine I used to enjoy, had become more of a - they go to see him when they can tolerate him.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

^ and to that end fab meets have to take second place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to plan weeks ahead for a night out at the cinema lol

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By *G CoupleCouple
over a year ago

kent

We don't treat this as a fantasy but find it very difficult to plan meets.

Last minute plans never go well for us either so we choose dogging which has done us ok for the last decade,

Recently been attending clubs and parties which have worked very well for us.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Whilst there are some that are indeed fantasists just here for the kicks and others that run scared when it comes to actually meeting for one reason or another, they're generally easy to out.

I have limited time to meet and as a result tend to try and use that time constructively by getting to know people through chatting via messages etc so that I have a good idea that not only are they serious about meeting, but that there's a connection and chemistry there too - so far it's worked fairly well for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are genuine however work commitment and having a son with additional needs we have to make sure we have care provision for him.

Yes there are fakes out there.

We have been pretty lucky up

To now. Thankfully

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep plenty of fantasists on fab

Just ask outright, if the answers vague, just move on, if they really want to play they will make the time, can spare a few hours one evening in the next month? Of course they can if they want to meet

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"We think you're right"

So do we

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

We don't get into a conversation in the first place if we're not meeting.

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

The same answer applies here that gets said on tons of threads. People use this site for different reasons. Some are here to fantasise and wank. Have to judge for yourself who will meet and who wont.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's pissing us off at the moment. You message someone, it's all going well and you suggest arranging a date to meet. They then all go very vague and say they are busy for a while, will have to talk to their partner etc. . Ok talk to her and maybe set a date a few weeks ahead. Too busy at the moment to even talk to my partner etc etc.

Do loads use this place just as a wanking aid?"
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100% this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's pissing us off at the moment. You message someone, it's all going well and you suggest arranging a date to meet. They then all go very vague and say they are busy for a while, will have to talk to their partner etc. . Ok talk to her and maybe set a date a few weeks ahead. Too busy at the moment to even talk to my partner etc etc.

Do loads use this place just as a wanking aid? "

If you're really struggling with finding genuine people and you both know your schedules, have you considered meeting people at clubs?

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By *r on the EdgeMan
over a year ago

accrington

I seem to get the same, more so from alleged sgl ladies even sometimes they suggest a meet first and then go all quiet?

The mind boggles

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville


"Yep plenty of fantasists on fab

Just ask outright, if the answers vague, just move on, if they really want to play they will make the time, can spare a few hours one evening in the next month? Of course they can if they want to meet "

But as I and others have quoted, that's actually not the case. Often our meets will be along the lines of

- yes we think we are free on x day, which might be two weeks before

- then yes we are looking good for x day a week before

- and finally pretty certain 99% we are free on x day a day before

But if my teenager then plans to be home and needs me, you can be 100% sure I'm stopping home. It's never happened yet that I've had to cancel a meet like this, but this is as good as it gets and I don't apologise for wanting to be a mother first. I make our situation very clear from the outset. If that's not acceptable to others that's their prerogative.

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By *inkyLondonpair OP   Couple
over a year ago

London


"Yep plenty of fantasists on fab

Just ask outright, if the answers vague, just move on, if they really want to play they will make the time, can spare a few hours one evening in the next month? Of course they can if they want to meet

But as I and others have quoted, that's actually not the case. Often our meets will be along the lines of

- yes we think we are free on x day, which might be two weeks before

- then yes we are looking good for x day a week before

- and finally pretty certain 99% we are free on x day a day before

But if my teenager then plans to be home and needs me, you can be 100% sure I'm stopping home. It's never happened yet that I've had to cancel a meet like this, but this is as good as it gets and I don't apologise for wanting to be a mother first. I make our situation very clear from the outset. If that's not acceptable to others that's their prerogative.

"

Again genuine question. If your kids are teenagers, I assume they are old enough to be home alone. Absent some major crisis like illness why does them being at home stop you meeting?

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville


"Yep plenty of fantasists on fab

Just ask outright, if the answers vague, just move on, if they really want to play they will make the time, can spare a few hours one evening in the next month? Of course they can if they want to meet

But as I and others have quoted, that's actually not the case. Often our meets will be along the lines of

- yes we think we are free on x day, which might be two weeks before

- then yes we are looking good for x day a week before

- and finally pretty certain 99% we are free on x day a day before

But if my teenager then plans to be home and needs me, you can be 100% sure I'm stopping home. It's never happened yet that I've had to cancel a meet like this, but this is as good as it gets and I don't apologise for wanting to be a mother first. I make our situation very clear from the outset. If that's not acceptable to others that's their prerogative.

Again genuine question. If your kids are teenagers, I assume they are old enough to be home alone. Absent some major crisis like illness why does them being at home stop you meeting? "

We live in the middle of no where, no neighbours. They don't want to be left alone. When I say they - it's one girl. If someone knocked on our door while we were out at night, she'd be frightened, so it doesn't happen.

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