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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm mixed on my views about verifications, and what the benifits of me showing them are. but one thing strikes me as odd.

If I choose to hide my account, I'm then not able to view another persons profile. I think that's fair.

So if I choose to hide my verifications, should I be privileged to be able to read others peoples?

Isn't there an argument to turn off others veris if I've turned mine off?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met someone a while ago and his verifications were all lies or they were told what to put .As I met him he was nothing like his profile or pics or verifications .so verifications are other persons opinion and we are all different .So take some verifications with a pinch of salt .

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester


"As we have said previously.

Isn't a verification just that??

You are verifying that the person on that profile is who they say that they are??

If there are loads then it's an instant "No thanks" from us, even more so if they are graphic, yakkkkkk.

Just don't see the need tbh "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As we have said previously.

Isn't a verification just that??

You are verifying that the person on that profile is who they say that they are??

If there are loads then it's an instant "No thanks" from us, even more so if they are graphic, yakkkkkk.

Just don't see the need tbh "

Hate to see graphic ones it's really off putting

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

Sorry MisterBee

Yes agree with you that if you hide stuff on your profile then you should not have access to others.

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By *ooskiMan
over a year ago

south coast


"Sorry MisterBee

Yes agree with you that if you hide stuff on your profile then you should not have access to others. "

Have to agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If verifications are in detail I don't show mine as they are personal too me .

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By *eforfuncplCouple
over a year ago

Morecambe

Not played with all our veris

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex


"Not played with all our veris "

Same here ... sometimes people judge you on how many veris you have without reading them (I wouldn't expect them to read all mine) but mine are mainly bumping into people at clubs that ask me to verify them after chatting and then return one back. In reality the actual playing ones are few and far between.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I must admit if we're looking to meet someone whether it be couples or single men/women and they are not showing their verifications then it does tend to put us off.

The reason for this is local to us there is a single female who has 504 verifications and has only been here for 7 months and is always offering bare back fun.

There is no way on earth that we would meet anyone that has been anywhere near her as we would be amazed if she hasn't caught anything and spreading it like it's a common cold!

We often find ourselves flicking through her verifications just to try and make sure that anyone we are chatting to with a view to meet hasn't been there which probably sounds like we're a bit paranoid but with so many local men sticking their dick in her we feel we can't be too careful

Mr

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

Judgemental thread number twelfthy million lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My veris are simply a indication I show and play on cam, I only do it on here and I don’t do it by request so I guess in truth I don’t even need veris but it’s always nice to know someone enjoyed watching me enough to leave one

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester


"Judgemental thread number twelfthy million lol"

Why judgemental??

It's each to their own, just not for us

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By *lan157Man
over a year ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex

I see my "verifications" as personally addressed to me . I don't need to share them with every lurker on the site. If someone who meets my criteria wants to read them before arranging a meeting then of course they can. I glance at published verifications but only to confirm its a genuine person. I would be happy with just the confirmation box.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I must admit if we're looking to meet someone whether it be couples or single men/women and they are not showing their verifications then it does tend to put us off.

The reason for this is local to us there is a single female who has 504 verifications and has only been here for 7 months and is always offering bare back fun.

There is no way on earth that we would meet anyone that has been anywhere near her as we would be amazed if she hasn't caught anything and spreading it like it's a common cold!

We often find ourselves flicking through her verifications just to try and make sure that anyone we are chatting to with a view to meet hasn't been there which probably sounds like we're a bit paranoid but with so many local men sticking their dick in her we feel we can't be too careful

Mr"
Cool, I like this idea, I'm going to start using it.

Thanks for the tip,

Paul (a long distance admirer)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know some want you to be verified before they will talk meet or anything I don't have non so not many interested

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By *rightonCheekyMan
over a year ago

Brighton


"I must admit if we're looking to meet someone whether it be couples or single men/women and they are not showing their verifications then it does tend to put us off.

The reason for this is local to us there is a single female who has 504 verifications and has only been here for 7 months and is always offering bare back fun.

There is no way on earth that we would meet anyone that has been anywhere near her as we would be amazed if she hasn't caught anything and spreading it like it's a common cold!

We often find ourselves flicking through her verifications just to try and make sure that anyone we are chatting to with a view to meet hasn't been there which probably sounds like we're a bit paranoid but with so many local men sticking their dick in her we feel we can't be too careful

Mr"

But that doesn't work does it ? Because you don't have to display all your verifications. For example I just display a selection. No agenda. You can also choose to display or not your verification summary. Which if displayed may confirm that you are not displaying all your verifications. Or it may confirm that some of your verifications are now UNLOS. Or a bit of both.....

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Generally, for someone we don't know, hidden veris and summary is just the same as no veris.

Obviously it's the users right to not show them, but other people will read into that what they will.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never said it was a fool proof way of finding out who's met who but we have had 3 men contact us that have met the said woman and we only found out as they had left her verifications. Had we of met any of them I'd probably be sat here scratching my dick as I type!

The whole swinging thing is a bit of a minefield and you just have to make an educated guess if the people you meet are desperate enough to fuck a walking sperm bank which sometimes becomes apparent after chatting and or meeting socially.

Don't get me wrong we don't just meet people based on verifications but it can at times sway a decision

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I must admit if we're looking to meet someone whether it be couples or single men/women and they are not showing their verifications then it does tend to put us off.

The reason for this is local to us there is a single female who has 504 verifications and has only been here for 7 months and is always offering bare back fun.

There is no way on earth that we would meet anyone that has been anywhere near her as we would be amazed if she hasn't caught anything and spreading it like it's a common cold!

We often find ourselves flicking through her verifications just to try and make sure that anyone we are chatting to with a view to meet hasn't been there which probably sounds like we're a bit paranoid but with so many local men sticking their dick in her we feel we can't be too careful

Mr"
Out of the 504 verifications, try counting up the ones that have been social, cam or repeat meets before being judgemental!Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East


"Judgemental thread number twelfthy million lol

Why judgemental??

It's each to their own, just not for us "

Absolutely each to their own. You judge people with too many veris as a definate no. Thats being judgemental. Thats your right to do so. Its neither right nor wrong . My comment was more here we go again at the thread in general.

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East


"I must admit if we're looking to meet someone whether it be couples or single men/women and they are not showing their verifications then it does tend to put us off.

The reason for this is local to us there is a single female who has 504 verifications and has only been here for 7 months and is always offering bare back fun.

There is no way on earth that we would meet anyone that has been anywhere near her as we would be amazed if she hasn't caught anything and spreading it like it's a common cold!

We often find ourselves flicking through her verifications just to try and make sure that anyone we are chatting to with a view to meet hasn't been there which probably sounds like we're a bit paranoid but with so many local men sticking their dick in her we feel we can't be too careful

MrOut of the 504 verifications, try counting up the ones that have been social, cam or repeat meets before being judgemental!Mrs"

I actually read through some when i was bored once. They seemed quite tame compared to others ive read in the past! I find veris entertaining.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I must admit if we're looking to meet someone whether it be couples or single men/women and they are not showing their verifications then it does tend to put us off.

The reason for this is local to us there is a single female who has 504 verifications and has only been here for 7 months and is always offering bare back fun.

There is no way on earth that we would meet anyone that has been anywhere near her as we would be amazed if she hasn't caught anything and spreading it like it's a common cold!

We often find ourselves flicking through her verifications just to try and make sure that anyone we are chatting to with a view to meet hasn't been there which probably sounds like we're a bit paranoid but with so many local men sticking their dick in her we feel we can't be too careful

MrOut of the 504 verifications, try counting up the ones that have been social, cam or repeat meets before being judgemental!Mrs"

Sorry you're right I will stand corrected it was only 474 different people with just 454 being actual meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My verifications are hidden, for the simple reason,swinging is not my life.. it's something I do when I get the chance...

I do not wearing verifications like a badge of honour or where I fit in the swinging hierarchy.

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex


"I must admit if we're looking to meet someone whether it be couples or single men/women and they are not showing their verifications then it does tend to put us off.

The reason for this is local to us there is a single female who has 504 verifications and has only been here for 7 months and is always offering bare back fun.

There is no way on earth that we would meet anyone that has been anywhere near her as we would be amazed if she hasn't caught anything and spreading it like it's a common cold!

We often find ourselves flicking through her verifications just to try and make sure that anyone we are chatting to with a view to meet hasn't been there which probably sounds like we're a bit paranoid but with so many local men sticking their dick in her we feel we can't be too careful

MrOut of the 504 verifications, try counting up the ones that have been social, cam or repeat meets before being judgemental!Mrs"

I agree as I said before about most accounts being mainly social but tbf I think I know the profile in discussion and the veris are actually all play meets

It's been discussed on the forums many times where people have said the same thing x

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield


"My verifications are hidden, for the simple reason,swinging is not my life.. it's something I do when I get the chance...

I do not wearing verifications like a badge of honour or where I fit in the swinging hierarchy.

"

I don't think most people show veris for that reason. Some probably do.

But when there are so many fakes about, they are the best single online tool for establishing if someone is genuine, and when they are hidden, there's no way to know if it was a webcam veri from one guy in 1972 or nice veris from other genuine people recently.

Obviously not showing them is a choice anybody is free to make too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's not the same profile in mind I've seen similar and I wouldn't meet anyone who had met them either. People can swing however they want but I have no desire to expose us to certain levels of risk so think ruling out their previous meets is perfectly reasonable.

Back to what I think was the initial question, I do sometimes think that people who've hidden their profile shouldn't be able to do certain things, seems reasonable but with veris would you stop them seeing others veris if they hid all of theirs and the summary, or if they choose to hide just some/Just the summary? Could get a bit complicated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree as I said before about most accounts being mainly social but tbf I think I know the profile in discussion and the veris are actually all play meets

It's been discussed on the forums many times where people have said the same thing x "

Phew I'm glad it's not just us..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As we have said previously.

Isn't a verification just that??

You are verifying that the person on that profile is who they say that they are??

If there are loads then it's an instant "No thanks" from us, even more so if they are graphic, yakkkkkk.

Just don't see the need tbh

Hate to see graphic ones it's really off putting "

I'm always more interested in what the person I'm chatting to has written rather than those that have left verifications for them.

A lot of guys (and girls) seem to use it almost as a rating system, divulging details of intimate encounters, more often than not the person in question is

"The best xyz I've ever had"

I think it's a little repulsive.

I also used to think many verifications meant one thing, however after going to a social and receiving 5-6 over the space of the evening I realise numbers can be misleading. In more ways than one.

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows


"I must admit if we're looking to meet someone whether it be couples or single men/women and they are not showing their verifications then it does tend to put us off.

The reason for this is local to us there is a single female who has 504 verifications and has only been here for 7 months and is always offering bare back fun.

There is no way on earth that we would meet anyone that has been anywhere near her as we would be amazed if she hasn't caught anything and spreading it like it's a common cold!

We often find ourselves flicking through her verifications just to try and make sure that anyone we are chatting to with a view to meet hasn't been there which probably sounds like we're a bit paranoid but with so many local men sticking their dick in her we feel we can't be too careful

MrOut of the 504 verifications, try counting up the ones that have been social, cam or repeat meets before being judgemental!Mrs

I agree as I said before about most accounts being mainly social but tbf I think I know the profile in discussion and the veris are actually all play meets

It's been discussed on the forums many times where people have said the same thing x "

I have more veris, from social meets & events than I actual 1:1 meets.

I've chosen not to display all of them as some where all from the same night & just show I chatted to people at an event, and a couple of others are quite personal.

I do check other peoples veris, for the same reason you gave.

There is someone I have met before, and now will not meet again, having seen 1 from somebody, rather like you describe.

I think veris are a great way to not a only see a parson is genuine, but also cover you own back, health & safety wise.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If verifications are in detail I don't show mine as they are personal too me . "

So do you think you should have access to anyone else's? Those that do choose to share who they meet?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't take much notice of verifications apart from checking people who are known barebackers or played with people who are known barebackers then its AVOID & BLOCK

Many people, we are sure avoid us due to the amount we have and that's good with us as we'd rather avoid people who are judgemental, we enjoy giving and receiving verifications and know it winds up people when we get new ones

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex


"We don't take much notice of verifications apart from checking people who are known barebackers or played with people who are known barebackers then its AVOID & BLOCK

Many people, we are sure avoid us due to the amount we have and that's good with us as we'd rather avoid people who are judgemental, we enjoy giving and receiving verifications and know it winds up people when we get new ones"

... loving the 'winds people up' - I always have a little smile about that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting thread.

I was on here previously and had 3 veri's. One from a lovely couple I saw and two from single ladies, one being a social.

I came off and joined again. So evidently lost my veri's which were shall we say positive.

The reaction you get, in my experience, is very different with and without. Some profiles treat you as if you're some sort of reject. I do understand why people depend upon them considering the fact I had 4 hours of my time wasted a couple of weekends past where the apparent lady didn't turn up.

For the serious and honest ones, me included, it does get a little frustrating. It's a bit like, 'you don't have enough experience for a job. How do you get experience for a job if I can't get a job?' I do have a full time job by the way.

It could be that or I'm just not tickingbpeoples boxes of course! Probably that tbh.

Hey ho. Patience is a virtue.

Laters Fabbers xx

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"We don't take much notice of verifications apart from checking people who are known barebackers or played with people who are known barebackers then its AVOID & BLOCK

Many people, we are sure avoid us due to the amount we have and that's good with us as we'd rather avoid people who are judgemental, we enjoy giving and receiving verifications and know it winds up people when we get new ones"

Same here , love to wind up the haters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only have 33 verifications on each of my 18 profiles. All verifications are hidden. I have another 53 profiles on other websites but they are a secret.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm mixed on my views about verifications, and what the benifits of me showing them are. but one thing strikes me as odd.

If I choose to hide my account, I'm then not able to view another persons profile. I think that's fair.

So if I choose to hide my verifications, should I be privileged to be able to read others peoples?

Isn't there an argument to turn off others veris if I've turned mine off? "

I'd prefer no verification system at all.

I don't think it should be 'you show me yours and I'll show you mine'. People should be able to choose what they do and don't show. They may have met 500 people at clubs but only 2 people off this site so only have 2 veri's.

Some people are private. Some people like graphic veri's. It's all fair.

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By *nSeeNMan
over a year ago

Z'ha'dum

Verification have kind of turned into another yardstick to hit people over the head with.

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield


"Verification have kind of turned into another yardstick to hit people over the head with.

"

The vast majority of people use them to gauge whether someone is genuine and has compatible type meets.

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By *ptimusDMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Verifications are useful for proving that the people behind the profiles are real and they actually meet.

As for showing whether they're a great shag or not.., it isn't very reliable in itself. I don't know about you guys but I've never seen a verification that says the person is a rubbish shag or a minger.

Having said that if you're capable of reading between the lines, you can tell in some cases what the meet was like, based on how the verification was written.

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By *nSeeNMan
over a year ago

Z'ha'dum


"Verification have kind of turned into another yardstick to hit people over the head with.

The vast majority of people use them to gauge whether someone is genuine and has compatible type meets."

I see your point if the they happen to know the person that's doing the verification. But how do the vast majority come to the conclusion that's someone is genuine or not by reading some total stranger (who might or might not be genuine them self's) verifying another total stranger.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We don't take much notice of verifications apart from checking people who are known barebackers or played with people who are known barebackers then its AVOID & BLOCK

Many people, we are sure avoid us due to the amount we have and that's good with us as we'd rather avoid people who are judgemental, we enjoy giving and receiving verifications and know it winds up people when we get new ones

Same here , love to wind up the haters "

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"Sorry MisterBee

Yes agree with you that if you hide stuff on your profile then you should not have access to others. "

Why though?. He's chosen to hide his for what ever reason and others have chosen not to hide there's for what ever reason.

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester


"Sorry MisterBee

Yes agree with you that if you hide stuff on your profile then you should not have access to others.

Why though?. He's chosen to hide his for what ever reason and others have chosen not to hide there's for what ever reason. "

Why not ban the option of hiding them all together, at least that way we would get to see the real person / people and how they like to play.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

I leave them for one or two week then hide, marketing n the past is not a good thing in my world.

Badges of honour mmmm doesn't do discretion in my world,

Also I always discuss verifications and are they open or private.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"Sorry MisterBee

Yes agree with you that if you hide stuff on your profile then you should not have access to others.

Why though?. He's chosen to hide his for what ever reason and others have chosen not to hide there's for what ever reason.

Why not ban the option of hiding them all together, at least that way we would get to see the real person / people and how they like to play. "

Because white simply anyone can say anything they like in a veri , and even verify people without even meeting them .

This could be abused big time .......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We find verifications not only helpful, but essential. My view might be different if I were single, but as a couple who seeks single men to join us, it is important that we find a man who enjoys playing with an MF couple understands the dynamic and has experience of such. Guys say what they want in their profiles, and guys might bullshit to us that they want to play with a couple. But if they have verifications of successful play meets with other couples, then we KNOW that this is a guy who plays with couples. For example we would be unlikely to meet a guy who is only verified by single ladies. They might be a great guy, but probably of no use for what we are looking for. If it weren't for the verification system we would not have been able to pin point and home in on the guys who understand swinging, hense would have wasted a lot of time. I know, because we wasted a lot of time with Craig's List.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm mixed on my views about verifications, and what the benifits of me showing them are. but one thing strikes me as odd.

If I choose to hide my account, I'm then not able to view another persons profile. I think that's fair.

So if I choose to hide my verifications, should I be privileged to be able to read others peoples?

Isn't there an argument to turn off others veris if I've turned mine off? "

If we extrapolate that, those with silhouette profile pics, or no photo galleries, should they be unable to see avatars or other people's pics?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm mixed on my views about verifications, and what the benifits of me showing them are. but one thing strikes me as odd.

If I choose to hide my account, I'm then not able to view another persons profile. I think that's fair.

So if I choose to hide my verifications, should I be privileged to be able to read others peoples?

Isn't there an argument to turn off others veris if I've turned mine off?

If we extrapolate that, those with silhouette profile pics, or no photo galleries, should they be unable to see avatars or other people's pics? "

What do you think? Do you think you should? Do you think not showing a photo would make you form an opinion about them as much as reading a graphic verification?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I only have 33 verifications on each of my 18 profiles. All verifications are hidden. I have another 53 profiles on other websites but they are a secret. "

I wonder how many people believe this is true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We find verifications not only helpful, but essential. My view might be different if I were single, but as a couple who seeks single men to join us, it is important that we find a man who enjoys playing with an MF couple understands the dynamic and has experience of such. Guys say what they want in their profiles, and guys might bullshit to us that they want to play with a couple. But if they have verifications of successful play meets with other couples, then we KNOW that this is a guy who plays with couples. For example we would be unlikely to meet a guy who is only verified by single ladies. They might be a great guy, but probably of no use for what we are looking for. If it weren't for the verification system we would not have been able to pin point and home in on the guys who understand swinging, hense would have wasted a lot of time. I know, because we wasted a lot of time with Craig's List.

Mrs "

He might have only met women on here because couples won't reply to him. You might be missing out on a fantastic guy.

Hence why I think the verification system does more harm than good.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I only have 33 verifications on each of my 18 profiles. All verifications are hidden. I have another 53 profiles on other websites but they are a secret.

I wonder how many people believe this is true. "

I believe everything I read.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We find verifications not only helpful, but essential. My view might be different if I were single, but as a couple who seeks single men to join us, it is important that we find a man who enjoys playing with an MF couple understands the dynamic and has experience of such. Guys say what they want in their profiles, and guys might bullshit to us that they want to play with a couple. But if they have verifications of successful play meets with other couples, then we KNOW that this is a guy who plays with couples. For example we would be unlikely to meet a guy who is only verified by single ladies. They might be a great guy, but probably of no use for what we are looking for. If it weren't for the verification system we would not have been able to pin point and home in on the guys who understand swinging, hense would have wasted a lot of time. I know, because we wasted a lot of time with Craig's List.

Mrs

He might have only met women on here because couples won't reply to him. You might be missing out on a fantastic guy.

Hence why I think the verification system does more harm than good. "

Possibly, but that's a risk we have to take given our limited time. There are very few guys who genuinely understand and actively seek couple play, so rather than hoping for the best with a man I might choose if I were single, as a couple we would rather go for the guys who are known to couples. So far that's a formula that has worked and we've never been without. But when we used Craig's List where there was no verification system we rarely had any success.

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By *D835Man
over a year ago

London


"We find verifications not only helpful, but essential. My view might be different if I were single, but as a couple who seeks single men to join us, it is important that we find a man who enjoys playing with an MF couple understands the dynamic and has experience of such. Guys say what they want in their profiles, and guys might bullshit to us that they want to play with a couple. But if they have verifications of successful play meets with other couples, then we KNOW that this is a guy who plays with couples. For example we would be unlikely to meet a guy who is only verified by single ladies. They might be a great guy, but probably of no use for what we are looking for. If it weren't for the verification system we would not have been able to pin point and home in on the guys who understand swinging, hense would have wasted a lot of time. I know, because we wasted a lot of time with Craig's List.

Mrs

He might have only met women on here because couples won't reply to him. You might be missing out on a fantastic guy.

Hence why I think the verification system does more harm than good.

Possibly, but that's a risk we have to take given our limited time. There are very few guys who genuinely understand and actively seek couple play, so rather than hoping for the best with a man I might choose if I were single, as a couple we would rather go for the guys who are known to couples. So far that's a formula that has worked and we've never been without. But when we used Craig's List where there was no verification system we rarely had any success. "

Nice one

I always like the logic and reasoning in your comments.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We find verifications not only helpful, but essential. My view might be different if I were single, but as a couple who seeks single men to join us, it is important that we find a man who enjoys playing with an MF couple understands the dynamic and has experience of such. Guys say what they want in their profiles, and guys might bullshit to us that they want to play with a couple. But if they have verifications of successful play meets with other couples, then we KNOW that this is a guy who plays with couples. For example we would be unlikely to meet a guy who is only verified by single ladies. They might be a great guy, but probably of no use for what we are looking for. If it weren't for the verification system we would not have been able to pin point and home in on the guys who understand swinging, hense would have wasted a lot of time. I know, because we wasted a lot of time with Craig's List.

Mrs

He might have only met women on here because couples won't reply to him. You might be missing out on a fantastic guy.

Hence why I think the verification system does more harm than good.

Possibly, but that's a risk we have to take given our limited time. There are very few guys who genuinely understand and actively seek couple play, so rather than hoping for the best with a man I might choose if I were single, as a couple we would rather go for the guys who are known to couples. So far that's a formula that has worked and we've never been without. But when we used Craig's List where there was no verification system we rarely had any success. "

Maybe a case of we don't have time to find out for ourselves, go for socials etc in the hope of finding the right guy. We want to get it right the first time, therefore we are reliant on the additional information that veris provide to compliment what they say about themselves. Through Fab we have never got it wrong. But when we met guys without using a verification system we got it wrong many times.

Mrs

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire


"I'm mixed on my views about verifications, and what the benifits of me showing them are. but one thing strikes me as odd.

If I choose to hide my account, I'm then not able to view another persons profile. I think that's fair.

So if I choose to hide my verifications, should I be privileged to be able to read others peoples?

Isn't there an argument to turn off others veris if I've turned mine off? "

My profile is nearly always hidden.... yet I look at others ??

So I'm not sure in the point you make..

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By *rightonCheekyMan
over a year ago

Brighton

This is getting complicated. Verifications give you something extra to go on. What the verifications say may make you more or less interested in the profile. With no verification system you are pissing in the wind more not less. Job done.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm mixed on my views about verifications, and what the benifits of me showing them are. but one thing strikes me as odd.

If I choose to hide my account, I'm then not able to view another persons profile. I think that's fair.

So if I choose to hide my verifications, should I be privileged to be able to read others peoples?

Isn't there an argument to turn off others veris if I've turned mine off?

My profile is nearly always hidden.... yet I look at others ??

So I'm not sure in the point you make.."

Simply put. If we can't see your stuff, why should you see all our stuff?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This is getting complicated. Verifications give you something extra to go on. What the verifications say may make you more or less interested in the profile. With no verification system you are pissing in the wind more not less. Job done. "

But I can hide it anyway. So you still know little about me. But I know all about you because you choose to be open, so do you think that's fair?

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By *rightonCheekyMan
over a year ago

Brighton


"This is getting complicated. Verifications give you something extra to go on. What the verifications say may make you more or less interested in the profile. With no verification system you are pissing in the wind more not less. Job done.

But I can hide it anyway. So you still know little about me. But I know all about you because you choose to be open, so do you think that's fair? "

It's not a question of fair. It's a question of how you choose to run your own profile knowing always it will appeal to some and not others.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This is getting complicated. Verifications give you something extra to go on. What the verifications say may make you more or less interested in the profile. With no verification system you are pissing in the wind more not less. Job done.

But I can hide it anyway. So you still know little about me. But I know all about you because you choose to be open, so do you think that's fair?

It's not a question of fair. It's a question of how you choose to run your own profile knowing always it will appeal to some and not others. "

Okay. If it's not about fair, if I hide my profile, why do you think the website designers chose to remove the ability for me to view your profile?

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire


"I'm mixed on my views about verifications, and what the benifits of me showing them are. but one thing strikes me as odd.

If I choose to hide my account, I'm then not able to view another persons profile. I think that's fair.

So if I choose to hide my verifications, should I be privileged to be able to read others peoples?

Isn't there an argument to turn off others veris if I've turned mine off?

My profile is nearly always hidden.... yet I look at others ??

So I'm not sure in the point you make..

Simply put. If we can't see your stuff, why should you see all our stuff? "

"If I choose to hide my account, I'm then not able to view another persons profile. I think that's fair. "

I what you put.

I'm just saying that isn't true( in my case) as I can see profiles...

If you can't is that a supporter thing!?

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By *rightonCheekyMan
over a year ago

Brighton


"This is getting complicated. Verifications give you something extra to go on. What the verifications say may make you more or less interested in the profile. With no verification system you are pissing in the wind more not less. Job done.

But I can hide it anyway. So you still know little about me. But I know all about you because you choose to be open, so do you think that's fair?

It's not a question of fair. It's a question of how you choose to run your own profile knowing always it will appeal to some and not others.

Okay. If it's not about fair, if I hide my profile, why do you think the website designers chose to remove the ability for me to view your profile? "

I didn't know they did and frankly it doesn't really matter does it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is getting complicated. Verifications give you something extra to go on. What the verifications say may make you more or less interested in the profile. With no verification system you are pissing in the wind more not less. Job done.

But I can hide it anyway. So you still know little about me. But I know all about you because you choose to be open, so do you think that's fair? "

It's a good point, but how many veris should one hide before the right to see other people veris is removed? For example we hide about half ours but there are still about 30 that we do display. Would it be ok to hide all our veris except for 1? Ie keep that one veri just to maintain our right to look at other people veris?

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By *rightonCheekyMan
over a year ago

Brighton


"This is getting complicated. Verifications give you something extra to go on. What the verifications say may make you more or less interested in the profile. With no verification system you are pissing in the wind more not less. Job done.

But I can hide it anyway. So you still know little about me. But I know all about you because you choose to be open, so do you think that's fair?

It's a good point, but how many veris should one hide before the right to see other people veris is removed? For example we hide about half ours but there are still about 30 that we do display. Would it be ok to hide all our veris except for 1? Ie keep that one veri just to maintain our right to look at other people veris?"

I'm the same I display about half mine (some are UNLOS anyway) In my opinion the answer is still that it's up to you how you run your profile it will appeal to some and not others regardless of how you choose to run it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This is getting complicated. Verifications give you something extra to go on. What the verifications say may make you more or less interested in the profile. With no verification system you are pissing in the wind more not less. Job done.

But I can hide it anyway. So you still know little about me. But I know all about you because you choose to be open, so do you think that's fair?

It's a good point, but how many veris should one hide before the right to see other people veris is removed? For example we hide about half ours but there are still about 30 that we do display. Would it be ok to hide all our veris except for 1? Ie keep that one veri just to maintain our right to look at other people veris?"

That's a fair point. But in a way that's what we already do isn't it? I choose which to show.

So if you choose to show any, shouldn't it just show them all. I'm signing up to share info and be open, but how open is still subjective. That's not very open.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This is getting complicated. Verifications give you something extra to go on. What the verifications say may make you more or less interested in the profile. With no verification system you are pissing in the wind more not less. Job done.

But I can hide it anyway. So you still know little about me. But I know all about you because you choose to be open, so do you think that's fair?

It's not a question of fair. It's a question of how you choose to run your own profile knowing always it will appeal to some and not others.

Okay. If it's not about fair, if I hide my profile, why do you think the website designers chose to remove the ability for me to view your profile?

I didn't know they did and frankly it doesn't really matter does it? "

Now you know.

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield


"Verification have kind of turned into another yardstick to hit people over the head with.

The vast majority of people use them to gauge whether someone is genuine and has compatible type meets.

I see your point if the they happen to know the person that's doing the verification. But how do the vast majority come to the conclusion that's someone is genuine or not by reading some total stranger (who might or might not be genuine them self's) verifying another total stranger.

"

The genuine part - has the person been verified by other well verified people? Not foolproof, but is very difficult to fake.

Compatibility - e.g have they meets with clear barebackers, only men, only social, etc.

Both are good gauges. Not set in stone foolproof methods, but very helpful. It's worked well for us and people we know to find meets that work well.

It's not the be-all and end-all, we meet ad-hoc at clubs, which also works well.

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East


"We find verifications not only helpful, but essential. My view might be different if I were single, but as a couple who seeks single men to join us, it is important that we find a man who enjoys playing with an MF couple understands the dynamic and has experience of such. Guys say what they want in their profiles, and guys might bullshit to us that they want to play with a couple. But if they have verifications of successful play meets with other couples, then we KNOW that this is a guy who plays with couples. For example we would be unlikely to meet a guy who is only verified by single ladies. They might be a great guy, but probably of no use for what we are looking for. If it weren't for the verification system we would not have been able to pin point and home in on the guys who understand swinging, hense would have wasted a lot of time. I know, because we wasted a lot of time with Craig's List.

Mrs

He might have only met women on here because couples won't reply to him. You might be missing out on a fantastic guy.

Hence why I think the verification system does more harm than good. "

On another site that shall remain nameless which I used before here I got chatty with a couple before I had met anybody else. Got to the point were we had arranged a meet. Couple of days before I sent them my mobile number to make things easier. I never heard fron them again. I sent another message on tge site on the morning of the scheduled meet. And another message a week later asking if everything was ok. A month later they left the site. They were verified i was not. Moral of story. Verifications really can count for nothing. It shouldn't have but it put me off meeting couples.

I subsequently arranged a social meet off here with a verified single lady. She turned up very late and looked nothing like the pics I had seen of her.

On the flip side i have spoken to a single lady off here who was not verified. We have met about 5 times socially over the last 2 years and chat tons.

Verifications are not a guarantee of anything.

People will go about their business as they see fit of course but verifications aint all that.

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield


"

Verifications are not a guarantee of anything.

People will go about their business as they see fit of course but verifications aint all that."

No they aren't a guarantee.

But let's do this challenge. You arrange meets with 10 unverified accounts, and I'll arrange meets with 10 meet verifed accounts.

We'll compare no-shows, pull outs etc.

£50 forfit per no show. Up for it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it doesn't matter how many of them have fucked her 5 in 7 months how many days do we have in 7 months? seen lots of women offering bareback on gangbang in a van dogging hotel roams n it's sad to see some irresponsibble middleage woman's n I wouldn't get near them in million years well done to them they found the wayeah how to spot the desperate once

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East


"

Verifications are not a guarantee of anything.

People will go about their business as they see fit of course but verifications aint all that.

No they aren't a guarantee.

But let's do this challenge. You arrange meets with 10 unverified accounts, and I'll arrange meets with 10 meet verifed accounts.

We'll compare no-shows, pull outs etc.

£50 forfit per no show. Up for it? "

Yeah granted the odds are you'll be richer and I will be poorer lol.

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By *iggles and BeardyCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

We rarely get verifications anymore, some go on profile some don't.

They don't realy bother us

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Verification have kind of turned into another yardstick to hit people over the head with.

The vast majority of people use them to gauge whether someone is genuine and has compatible type meets.

I see your point if the they happen to know the person that's doing the verification. But how do the vast majority come to the conclusion that's someone is genuine or not by reading some total stranger (who might or might not be genuine them self's) verifying another total stranger.

The genuine part - has the person been verified by other well verified people? Not foolproof, but is very difficult to fake.

Compatibility - e.g have they meets with clear barebackers, only men, only social, etc.

Both are good gauges. Not set in stone foolproof methods, but very helpful. It's worked well for us and people we know to find meets that work well.

It's not the be-all and end-all, we meet ad-hoc at clubs, which also works well."

I've had a few from steamer's as well just wish it wasn't so far, we need a club in Cornwall lol

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"Sorry MisterBee

Yes agree with you that if you hide stuff on your profile then you should not have access to others.

Why though?. He's chosen to hide his for what ever reason and others have chosen not to hide there's for what ever reason.

Why not ban the option of hiding them all together, at least that way we would get to see the real person / people and how they like to play. "

No I don't believe taking that option away would work. I should be able to do what i like with my own profile. But i get where you're coming from though. People display what they believe their intended audience want to see,but you can never please everyone all the time. So you can never win. I've really thought much about mine apart from when i'm going to a club then i tend to switch then up to show some socialising ones and club meets.

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