FabSwingers.com forum: Bi guys pretending to be straight

By *ekyllandHyde OP Couple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Why is there an increasing number of bi guys on here pretending to be straight. Nothing against bi guys but I don't meet them personally. Then you find out someone hasn't been honest on their profile.

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By *ussexcouple40Couple
over a year ago

Sussex

That's a pet hate of ours as well

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By *ekyllandHyde OP Couple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Yes why can't people just be honest on here xx

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By *ocbigMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

...gets you nowhere...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm too bloody honest sometimes!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me and my girlfriend visited a club recently. I am totally straight, cringe at the thought of another guy touching me. Only my girlfriend gets to touch me.

This guy in the place, she told me said he couldnt take his eyes off my arse, and didnt bat an eyelid at her even though we were both near naked in the bar area. Bleurr i said to her. When we checked him out on fab a day later, his profile said he was straight.

Its not only profiles where they are lying bastards!

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead

"Why is there an increasing number of bi guys on here pretending to be straight. Nothing against bi guys but I don't meet them personally. Then you find out someone hasn't been honest on their profile."

One question why don't you meet them.

Bi doesn't mean you can't keep your hands off men and there arse isn't safe lol.

Prob 4 out of my 5 meets with couples are with straight guys and I have no interest in touching them.

1 in 5 there may be some bi play if the guy or mrs wants it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its mainly straight guys that pretend to be bi that we find an issue with so they can get to fuck the female and when we say sorry dont meet straight guys or guys with straight on there profile we wait for the " dont put bi on my profile as it puts women or couples off" or " dont put bi on my profile because i have mates on here",

How about couples or straight women who dont want to meet guys that have been with a guy isnt that deceit and decieving, trust is a big factor for us when meeting someone off here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cant everyone feel free to put on his or her own profile what they choose? They might not want the world to know there Bi/gay? If your unsure, message privately and ask them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bi guys are treated like we are diseased! Its any wonder many choose to hide it.... i only play with the select few that i know i always play safe and i get myself tested and keep the no clear text. I certainly don't want to shag everyone. But i am judged anyways. Plus most single women are not interested in bi guys. Even if they are bi themselves.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

They do it because they think it'll increase their chances of getting a meet is the main reason given - what they don't realise is that by not declaring as bi they're closing the door on just as many people who will meet bi guys as those that won't meet them.

Personally I've never seen the need to hide my bisexuality - if people choose not to meet me because of it then it's likely I wouldn't have wanted to meet them anyway.

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By *overman1983Man
over a year ago

hull

There is more guy out there are bi than you thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They do it because they think it'll increase their chances of getting a meet is the main reason given - what they don't realise is that by not declaring as bi they're closing the door on just as many people who will meet bi guys as those that won't meet them.

Personally I've never seen the need to hide my bisexuality - if people choose not to meet me because of it then it's likely I wouldn't have wanted to meet them anyway."

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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

I personally know (and have played with) a lot of bi guys. I agree, I hate the fact that they hide it and claim to be str8

However, having spoken to a number of them at length, I do understand (to some extent) where they're coming from. As someone said, they're treated like lepers. Just because a bloke is bisexual doesn't mean he's diseased OR would force his bi tastes on others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I personally know (and have played with) a lot of bi guys. I agree, I hate the fact that they hide it and claim to be str8

I don't get why it matters what gender someone has played with before, bi men are capable of respecting boundaries too and aren't looking to jump every male they meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can think of some who will be happy with bi in an mmf scenario, but dont want 121 guy meets, so they put straight on their profile otherwise they get an inbox full of mails from guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bi guys are treated like we are diseased! Its any wonder many choose to hide it.... i only play with the select few that i know i always play safe and i get myself tested and keep the no clear text. I certainly don't want to shag everyone. But i am judged anyways. Plus most single women are not interested in bi guys. Even if they are bi themselves. "

We get annoyed with the other end of the spectrum. Straight guys who pretend to be bi. They want a ride on Mrs N so will allow Mr N a quick suck and then they think that's what we wanted.

We ONLY meet bi people.

More and more difficult to find them.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"I can think of some who will be happy with bi in an mmf scenario, but dont want 121 guy meets, so they put straight on their profile otherwise they get an inbox full of mails from guys."

That's easily solved by setting preferences to block messages from single guys and appropriate profile wording

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One question why don't you meet them.

Bi doesn't mean you can't keep your hands off men and there arse isn't safe lol.

Prob 4 out of my 5 meets with couples are with straight guys and I have no interest in touching them.

1 in 5 there may be some bi play if the guy or mrs wants it.

Well said. I've had both Bi and straight and my profile. Damned if I do, damned if I don't. Bi doesn't mean I can't have a hands off session with a straight couple but so many have a notion that all I want is cock which couldn't be further from the truth.

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By *ekyllandHyde OP Couple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

But why not be honest in first place xx

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By *ekyllandHyde OP Couple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Honesty is the best policy xx

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"Cant everyone feel free to put on his or her own profile what they choose? They might not want the world to know there Bi/gay? If your unsure, message privately and ask them."

Lol lol lol

And deceiving people to get a shag is ooooh so attractive. Thankfully we don't have to put up with this. Any "straight" guys mailing us get binned off very quickly.

Give me ONE good reason why people shouldn't be honest, because as stated above, we only see guys lying to increase their chances of getting laid. No respect for themselves or others

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

One question why don't you meet them.

Bi doesn't mean you can't keep your hands off men and there arse isn't safe lol.

Prob 4 out of my 5 meets with couples are with straight guys and I have no interest in touching them.

1 in 5 there may be some bi play if the guy or mrs wants it.

But you're still bi. I'm a bi fem. rarely get the opportunity to play as a bi fem, but I'm still a bi fem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But why not be honest in first place xx"

Isnt it personal choice to come out as bi/gay too the world? As its personal choice to meet bi/gay people? Just try privately messaging and ask them to be honest, hope there telling the truth and then decide?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Honesty is the best policy xx"

I agree... just sad that when people finally do get the courage to be honest they often get judged completely without justification. Way of the world I guess.

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By *ekyllandHyde OP Couple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

"Cant everyone feel free to put on his or her own profile what they choose? They might not want the world to know there Bi/gay? If your unsure, message privately and ask them.

Lol lol lol

And deceiving people to get a shag is ooooh so attractive. Thankfully we don't have to put up with this. Any "straight" guys mailing us get binned off very quickly.

Give me ONE good reason why people shouldn't be honest, because as stated above, we only see guys lying to increase their chances of getting laid. No respect for themselves or others

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By *ekyllandHyde OP Couple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

"Cant everyone feel free to put on his or her own profile what they choose? They might not want the world to know there Bi/gay? If your unsure, message privately and ask them.

Lol lol lol

And deceiving people to get a shag is ooooh so attractive. Thankfully we don't have to put up with this. Any "straight" guys mailing us get binned off very quickly.

Give me ONE good reason why people shouldn't be honest, because as stated above, we only see guys lying to increase their chances of getting laid. No respect for themselves or others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Cant everyone feel free to put on his or her own profile what they choose? They might not want the world to know there Bi/gay? If your unsure, message privately and ask them.

Lol lol lol

And deceiving people to get a shag is ooooh so attractive. Thankfully we don't have to put up with this. Any "straight" guys mailing us get binned off very quickly.

Give me ONE good reason why people shouldn't be honest, because as stated above, we only see guys lying to increase their chances of getting laid. No respect for themselves or others

Iv just give you a reason in my opinion why they might not tell the world their bi/gay? They might know people on the site who dont know there Bi/gay? If you message privately and ask them and they tell you they are Bi/gay isnt that enough?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Honesty is the best policy xx

I agree... just sad that when people finally do get the courage to be honest they often get judged completely without justification. Way of the world I guess. "
its not being judged. Just people exercising their right to preferences... people should be honest. And I know that in my circle of female friends.. I am in the minority for not wanting or caring if a guy is bi and by that I mean I am not sure any of my female friends are fussed and most prefer them

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

The people most to blame for the non-acceptance of bi men, is the men who refuse to say they are.

If so many men are bi, as singles or couples, surely if they were all honest, it would make getting satisfying meets easier.

Bi isn't a dirty word. Hiding it just propagates the problem.

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By *ekyllandHyde OP Couple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

"The people most to blame for the non-acceptance of bi men, is the men who refuse to say they are.

If so many men are bi, as singles or couples, surely if they were all honest, it would make getting satisfying meets easier.

Bi isn't a dirty word. Hiding it just propagates the problem."

Hit the nail on the head well said xx

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

"The people most to blame for the non-acceptance of bi men, is the men who refuse to say they are.

If so many men are bi, as singles or couples, surely if they were all honest, it would make getting satisfying meets easier.

Bi isn't a dirty word. Hiding it just propagates the problem.

Hit the nail on the head well said xx"

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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?

I'm straight, I have no bi curious thoughts, I have Gay males friends and one I believe is Bi these are guys I trust. I've visited gay bars with them and felt completely at ease as I am not daft enough to think that every / any male would want to have me (or ladies just to clarify) .

Saying that I wouldn't be comfortable to be in a naked playing situation with a MF couple, but that is with a straight or bi man.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"Cant everyone feel free to put on his or her own profile what they choose? They might not want the world to know there Bi/gay? If your unsure, message privately and ask them.

Lol lol lol

And deceiving people to get a shag is ooooh so attractive. Thankfully we don't have to put up with this. Any "straight" guys mailing us get binned off very quickly.

Give me ONE good reason why people shouldn't be honest, because as stated above, we only see guys lying to increase their chances of getting laid. No respect for themselves or others

Not for me it's not - if they're hiding/lying about their sexuality what else are they hiding/lying about?

And to be honest your 'reason' doesn't hold much truck with me either - if someone is open and honest enough with their friends for them to know they're on a site like this surely it's not that big a deal for their friends to also know their sexual preferences.

Being open to meeting bisexual guys I certainly don't want to be messaging random 'straight' guys on the off chance they might actually be bi and would imagine if I did 99% of the time I'd get abuse for asking.

As others have said there's no shame in being bisexual nor is it a dirty word as some seem to suggest. I fully embrace that side of my sexuality and openly declare it here and would prefer to meet others that are just as open and honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Honesty is the best policy xx

I agree... just sad that when people finally do get the courage to be honest they often get judged completely without justification. Way of the world I guess. its not being judged. Just people exercising their right to preferences... people should be honest. And I know that in my circle of female friends.. I am in the minority for not wanting or caring if a guy is bi and by that I mean I am not sure any of my female friends are fussed and most prefer them "

I'm with you! But sometimes it IS about being judged. I am totally fine if people don't want to play with bi guys...that's not a problem at all. It's more the ones who assume that because I'm bi it means I like to cross dress, won't be able to control myself around a husband/boyfriend and want to take cock up my ass. Seriously so many people make those assumptions. Personally I still prefer the term 'sexual' for everyone... and then everyone can really discuss preferences properly without assumptions.

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By *ekyllandHyde OP Couple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

"Cant everyone feel free to put on his or her own profile what they choose? They might not want the world to know there Bi/gay? If your unsure, message privately and ask them.

Lol lol lol

And deceiving people to get a shag is ooooh so attractive. Thankfully we don't have to put up with this. Any "straight" guys mailing us get binned off very quickly.

Give me ONE good reason why people shouldn't be honest, because as stated above, we only see guys lying to increase their chances of getting laid. No respect for themselves or others

Not for me it's not - if they're hiding/lying about their sexuality what else are they hiding/lying about?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure there are many surprised ladies, having signed off on the marriage certificate, later discover their husband is bi!similarly, folks lying about their single status..or anything else for that matter. Such are the dynamics both inside and outside fab, I personally feel its my responsibility to be honest with myself, and in turn with others here. Give people the right to make up their own mind, with all relevant information..

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By *ekyllandHyde OP Couple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

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By *radleywigginsMan
over a year ago

northwest

How about, straight guy meets a guy, profile automatically changed to bi?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One question why don't you meet them.

Bi doesn't mean you can't keep your hands off men and there arse isn't safe lol.

Prob 4 out of my 5 meets with couples are with straight guys and I have no interest in touching them.

1 in 5 there may be some bi play if the guy or mrs wants it.

This^^^^

A lot of it is the straight guys who don't like the bi guys playing as a mmf are more worried they may enjoy a bit of male touching

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One question why don't you meet them.

Bi doesn't mean you can't keep your hands off men and there arse isn't safe lol.

Prob 4 out of my 5 meets with couples are with straight guys and I have no interest in touching them.

1 in 5 there may be some bi play if the guy or mrs wants it.

This^^^^

A lot of it is the straight guys who don't like the bi guys playing as a mmf are more worried they may enjoy a bit of male touching

Am i missing something? Before a meet with a couple or lady dont people set boundaries????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

what drives me nuts is Gay guys coming on to me even though my profile says I am straight. What the fuck is that about?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why is there an increasing number of bi guys on here pretending to be straight. Nothing against bi guys but I don't meet them personally. "

kinda answered your own question there didn't you champ?

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By *ilent.KnightMan
over a year ago

Swindon

"what drives me nuts is Gay guys coming on to me even though my profile says I am straight. What the fuck is that about?"

Because "straight" men message guys all the time, it starts to lose its meaning.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"what drives me nuts is Gay guys coming on to me even though my profile says I am straight. What the fuck is that about?"

but youve blocked single guys...how are they comming on to you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One question why don't you meet them.

Bi doesn't mean you can't keep your hands off men and there arse isn't safe lol.

We always find it amusing that a lot of bi guys assume it's me that won't let us meet them in case he likes my arse but for us, it's Shaz that don't want to meet bi guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"what drives me nuts is Gay guys coming on to me even though my profile says I am straight. What the fuck is that about?

but youve blocked single guys...how are they comming on to you?"

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

I had to pick the reason out! So in your opinion it's because they don't want the world to know. Well, "the world" isnt on Fab. I bizarrely thought this was a site for open minded, sexually liberated people. All too sadly others seem to think encouraging bi / gay openness is a bad thing. I wonder what the gentlemen in years gone by would think of this. Guys that were beaten and even killed for the choice of sexuality.

Meanwhile back in 2017 and on a swingers site like Fab, bi and gay gents will be welcomed. Liars will always be vilified

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The rampant homophobia towards bimales is one reason. Whether it's the main one, who knows.

I'd hazard an extremely large bet that there is a 'bi' woman (as the male partner gets off on it) for every bi male pretending to be straight.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"The rampant homophobia towards bimales is one reason. Whether it's the main one, who knows.

I'd hazard an extremely large bet that there is a 'bi' woman (as the male partner gets off on it) for every bi male pretending to be straight."

What rampant homophobia? In over ten years on here, mostly as partner to a bi man, i met one openly minded bigot in a small club in Lincs. Otherwise I've come across lying little bastards on here daily ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why on earth would a couple say "we don't meet bi Men"?

Especially when female is listed as bi?

Number one for Me, don't believe for an instant because we are bi, we are just going to start grabbing your crotch and start kissing you. Or we might slip something in your drink and bum you whilst you are asleep.If a guy is straight, then most of us would respect this.

What does it matter if I guy is bi, and can do a good fuck for your missus.

Get over yourselves fellas

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why on earth would a couple say "we don't meet bi Men"?

Especially when female is listed as bi?

What does it matter if I guy is bi, and can do a good fuck for your missus.

Get over yourselves fellas"

they may reguarly donate blood.

they cannot do this for a year if they sleep with a bi man.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why on earth would a couple say "we don't meet bi Men"?

Especially when female is listed as bi?

What does it matter if I guy is bi, and can do a good fuck for your missus.

Get over yourselves fellas"

also theres the widespread interpretation that a bi male is less masculine (nothing wrong with this, no differnt to many men thinking a woman with a large number of sexual partners is a negative) which you gotta admit is likley to be the number 1 issue you personally will face.

I've found that 90% of the time the person who has the problem with a guy being no is the female not the male

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By *.gerri.xTV/TS
over a year ago

North west visiting bpool

I posted a poem about this the other night , so think it's apt to share here ...

By _.gerri.x OP Find posts by _.gerri.x TV/TS

1 day ago

southport

It was early in the morning and the clock turned to two.

Out from the darkness crawled the terrible few.

You're fit , you're horny , I want to cum In your eye.

But your straight, it states you're clearly not bi.

Looking for women so you can smash that pussy.

Am I to presume you've turned cos of lil old me.

Or perhaps dear friends who now stand in my dock.

Your all just blaggers who like a bit of the cock.

It's sad if on a site with so many kinks.

You lie on your profile and send me the winks.

Be honest , open that closet door , lift up the latch.

Wave goodbye to aslan ,be fair to the woman you're hoping to catch.

Straight is not straight if your orally bi.

And hiding it from them women is still a lie.

I know you probably wouldn't touch mine.

And cos you close your eyes you're still straight , it's fine.

But to tell you the truth being your last desperate roll of the dice.

Doesn't do it for me

I'd probably catch lice.

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex

Don't worry about it mate , people are judged on here for all sorts of reasons .. not verified , too many veris , no pics , too much showing in pics

If you are bi and play safe and tested then tbh there are plenty of straight guys on here that don't and aren't !

And as we all know ... straight guys on here are not necessarily straight anyway lol

Makes no difference to me if a guy is straight or bi - if I fancy them I fancy them !

I'm bi and no one even questions it and I do have a mighty fine penis ... all be it tucked away in the drawer pmsl

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"Why on earth would a couple say "we don't meet bi Men"?

Especially when female is listed as bi?

What does it matter if I guy is bi, and can do a good fuck for your missus.

Get over yourselves fellas"

Because they have a right to a choice

Never such a flawed comment as the "bi women are hypocrites not wanting to sexually engage in bi men!" - like hilarious, really???

In that case the same should follow:

- gay men should want to fuck gay women

- straight women should want to fuck straight men - I can assure you there's a lot of ladies in the forums with a preference for bi!!

So that assumption is most deeply flawed. If only people concentrated on people that would like to meet them, instead of bitching about those that don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because they are liars. And Lord only knows what else they lie about

- Mrs. J -

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By *inkycouplespainCouple
over a year ago

Malaga Spain but sometimes Manchester and

Is this a real problem on here ? Always thought it was the other way round but then we don't see single guys.

Well done to have problem worth creating a post about.

Lol

D&K

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By *ightboy69Man
over a year ago

Torquay

All the men who lie about their profile are just pricks and need to get a grip

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have the opposite problem, loads of messages from straight guys pretending to be bi. To be honest the site needs more filters and these timewasters could be stopped as we could stop them from messaging us. If we wanted to play straight we could still do so with a bi guy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have the opposite problem, loads of messages from straight guys pretending to be bi. To be honest the site needs more filters and these timewasters could be stopped as we could stop them from messaging us. If we wanted to play straight we could still do so with a bi guy."

We agree with you totally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is this a real problem on here ? Always thought it was the other way round but then we don't see single guys.

Well done to have problem worth creating a post about.

Lol

D&K"

Yes, it is a real problem on here

- Mrs. J -

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