FabSwingers.com forum: Verifications OMG!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi all.. Been on the site around 2 weeks or so now and finding problems.. People wont message me back as im not verified in person although photo verified. I cant help no verification as im new here so how are you supposed to get them if people are not even prepared to reply to you as your not verified? Seems like a vicious circle and one I cant get not of! Any help appreciated.. Thanks folk in advance x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

try some local social events...lunches, drinks, nights out...........best way to meet peeps

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

Sound like you need patience perhaps? A full 2 weeks eh?

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

Try a social, get yourself known in chat and on the forms, it may bring you the verification you need.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you will find some people wont message back even if you get verified so if i was you i would just keep trying i tend to send a wink first to say im interested then will message if i get a wink back but good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There may be many reasons they don't reply, not just verificationless.

Do you read their profile to be sure you may fit what they seek, have a profile worthy enough to attract attention (decent pictures, well typed etc), do you send a quality message, and so on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

being honest

i wouldn't message you as your profile is all in capitals which isn't a good start

that would make me think no thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"being honest

i wouldn't message you as your profile is all in capitals which isn't a good start

that would make me think no thanks"

Yeah I just took a look, you have one cock pic, capitals which is considered aggressive via type, very little about you other than you seek sex.

you say you've been here before and met people then, why not get re-verified by those people?

I don't think your problem is simply lack of verification.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"being honest

i wouldn't message you as your profile is all in capitals which isn't a good start

that would make me think no thanks"

Nice tit.

Haha

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By *rummiePartyManMan
over a year ago

birmingham

"you will find some people wont message back even if you get verified "

Too right, some people take the attitude that if you are verified that you are some kind of "tart" and don't want anything to do with "spoilt goods".

As they say, "anything you do can get you shot, including doing nothing"!

Top advice about getting yourself down to some socials and getting known. After that, when verifications come your way you get a choice of whether to display it or not...and that's down to you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"being honest

i wouldn't message you as your profile is all in capitals which isn't a good start

that would make me think no thanks

Nice tit.

Haha"

LOl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"you will find some people wont message back even if you get verified

Too right, some people take the attitude that if you are verified that you are some kind of "tart" and don't want anything to do with "spoilt goods".

As they say, "anything you do can get you shot, including doing nothing"!

Top advice about getting yourself down to some socials and getting known. After that, when verifications come your way you get a choice of whether to display it or not...and that's down to you. "

and if you do attend socials make sure you go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's very easy to blame lack of verifications (others) than to look to yourself. Your profile says nothing about you, capitals throughout and a cock pic.

When I was meeting I always read the profile before reading a message: sorry, I'd have deleted your message unread.

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

Great advice totally ignored! Crap profile may be the reason why people don't reply how the heck do you know it's because of you not having verifications? Z

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

" how the heck do you know it's because of you not having verifications? Z"

Be fair, Zoe, he's given it two weeks now. Why else would 396 people ignore the same message?

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By *icboyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Think you profile need a more than a little work. Remove the caps, change your main picture to a more subtle one.

Maybe it can help, and do not be in such a rush. I can take a while before anyone will return a massage.

Get yourself to a social or two, use chat or the forums. And be respectful of all others.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

if you have been round before, then you should know more than most is giving it 2 weeks this time round really time enough???

the problem with "CAPITAL PROFILES" is they do stand out.. but not really in a positive way! I think they can actually be harder to read and can come across as pretty agressive...

I say to everyone to same thing... Time,Patience,Common sense... the rest is for you to figure out!

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By *riseeTV/TS
over a year ago

MacKay

Have you actually MET anyone yet?

With my former couples profile, we never got a verification despite meeting with dozens of verified couples and having a great time.

When I started my single profile (which now is a fact as my partner of 16 years is now my ex by her own silly choices) it was only a week or two before I was verified and I gain verifications for most meets.

I did post a message in the London forum about verifications asking why people don't return the verification when you provide one. I've has this happen a few times and now I'm reluctant to verify anyone unless I get a verification first.

As a single male, you will need to radically change your approach to how you engage with people. I'd offer to teach you but ... there are issues with me offering to teach people how to enhance their experiences at present.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Cheers for all the messages and your all bang on I reckon.. The profile in capitals does look crap and this will be changed.. And more about me as a person needs to be added too.. The five people I met on here with my last profile dont appear to be on here anymore or else I would have contacted them straight away as I still feel verifications do prove your serious and not one of the many fake profiles etc.. I guess it just needs more work as a whole.. I never cut and paste messages and always read someones profile in full before sending any message and ALWAYS take time to make it personal to the individual im messaging. So it has to be down to profile pic or crap profile I reckon.. Or maybe the fact they just think im an ugly tool lol.. Will keep plugging away and will also try some socials too if I can find any local to me. Thanks again for the advice. Its been noted!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Profile now changed.. Hope this reads a little better now ? Thanks again for all your input. Appreciated

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By *ibrosMan
over a year ago

harrow

"Profile now changed.. Hope this reads a little better now ? Thanks again for all your input. Appreciated

A face or body pic would help. An earlier post reads that she checks the profile before opening a message, something I hadn't considered.

I'll endorse what has been said time and again. Get to socials. My first meets and verifications came about through meeting people at socials.

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By *rSteve6Man
over a year ago

Bolton and Pattaya,Thailand

As the OP's locations are mainly around the North West,why not visit one of the local swingers clubs and chat and maybe play with people there? I'm sure they would then verify,providing that your not an idiot or too pushy with them.

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside

"Profile now changed.. Hope this reads a little better now ? Thanks again for all your input. Appreciated

Your age range is either 17

to 91 or 18 to 99 depending on which part of your profile you look at!

Is this really your upper and lower age limits ?

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By *umbrian GuyMan
over a year ago

Cumbria

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

We have met unverifieds and would again. Its not everything.

Mistress x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi all.. Been on the site around 2 weeks or so now and finding problems.. People wont message me back as im not verified in person although photo verified. I cant help no verification as im new here so how are you supposed to get them if people are not even prepared to reply to you as your not verified? Seems like a vicious circle and one I cant get not of! Any help appreciated.. Thanks folk in advance x "

A little tear creeped out after reading that. It was like 'Water Ship Down' all over again

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By *riseeTV/TS
over a year ago

MacKay

and if you do attend socials make sure you go

isn't that an oxymoron? If they attend, haven't then they gone?

sorry

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

"Profile now changed.. Hope this reads a little better now ? Thanks again for all your input. Appreciated

Your age range is either 17

to 91 or 18 to 99 depending on which part of your profile you look at!

Is this really your upper and lower age limits ?

Well he is moaning after 2 weeks,so yes, he's desperate!

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By *riseeTV/TS
over a year ago

MacKay

Jjst wanted to add, verifications don't mean much. A girl I met had quite a few, she spent 2 days and nights with me twice and closed her profile. We talked for hours every day and she realised that most men were just using her and hammering her cause she was available and looking for something.

She did verify me too, but deleting her profile means the sweet verification is lost forever.

But she said she's never experienced days of such sweetness and focus on her, usually it's all about the guy and his penis.

There ya go.

Verifications just mean people are getting what they are use to.

I understand something about myself now too as I watch my ex whinging that men are not giving her what she wants ... which is what she had for 16 years ...

anyway ...

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By *ohjaneCouple
over a year ago

south staffs

Hi Sam

I have just tried to read your re-done profile and went cross-eyed after two lines. Maybe try some paragraphs, split it up somehow. As it is now, all in a block, it is very difficult to read. ( or maybe I should have gone to spec savers ??)

Jane x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no photo is probs the main reason,

no public photo = something to hide, plenty of people who dont hide so you loose points.

simple

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By *uss PussWoman
over a year ago

east cheshire

Just want to say to the OP well done for replying and taking on board what people have said, so often these threads are started then the advise ignored, which then turns into a bitch fight and cliques are blamed.

Cut the guy some slack people xxx

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

staffs

To the OP you say you've been here before and had success so what have you done differently this time?

all of the advice is well meant and for the most part sound. if however you are not getting replies I fail to see how you will be invited to socials and visiting a club as a single male isn't really going to happen either.

Chat rooms here can be just a difficult here for single guys as I'm sure you're aware from your previous incarnation here.

So I think the best advice you've received is to get your profile in order, sort out pics and then be patient.

Strange that all 5 of your previous veris have left but I suppose it happens... perhaps they've changed their profile names? Hope it wasn't after meeting you!

I'm sure it wasn't! lol

Good luck

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"Just want to say to the OP well done for replying and taking on board what people have said, so often these threads are started then the advise ignored, which then turns into a bitch fight and cliques are blamed.

Cut the guy some slack people xxx"

* nods *

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

staffs

Cut the guy some slack people xxx

* nods *"

Seems to me the OP has asked for advice and as far as have read he's taking it on board.

So why does he need to be cut some slack?

Also it's not as if he's a complete newbie is it...

Not that that should make a difference either

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

Cut the guy some slack people xxx

* nods *

Seems to me the OP has asked for advice and as far as have read he's taking it on board.

So why does he need to be cut some slack?

Also it's not as if he's a complete newbie is it...

Not that that should make a difference either "

Can I ask why you asked me and not the person I quoted?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Cut the guy some slack people xxx

* nods *

Seems to me the OP has asked for advice and as far as have read he's taking it on board.

So why does he need to be cut some slack?

Also it's not as if he's a complete newbie is it...

Not that that should make a difference either

Can I ask why you asked me and not the person I quoted?"

Cheers people.. Firstly the reason its all block at the moment is cant do paragraphs on the phone for some reason. Will sort it out when laptop back from repairers.. The thread was a general question and as it happens turned out to be great advice recieved, as now have two great meets for next week and been talking to one insatiable lady for hours and hours the last two night.. As for all the "im desperate" comments, no

Not at all. You could say we all must be to be on a sex site etc, but im sure the majority of people dont and arnt desperate but just having the fun we all love! The only reason I was getting nowty in the original post was because the previous profile had results within hours literally. Basically just offer advice and dont bicker on a forum, as that is pretty sad really . The upshot is the profile is now delivering the desired results thanks to you nice people pointing out the obvious.. Guess sometimes you cant see the wood for the trees! Cheers again and wish you all the fun in the world! X

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

staffs

Cut the guy some slack people xxx

* nods *

Seems to me the OP has asked for advice and as far as have read he's taking it on board.

So why does he need to be cut some slack?

Also it's not as if he's a complete newbie is it...

Not that that should make a difference either

Can I ask why you asked me and not the person I quoted?"

Simples! Not going to cut and paste both and you were in agreement so really it's for both as the original statement was included and not just a reply to your nod

I don't feel that after reading all of the advice and statements given it warranted an agreement.

So my statement comment was a shake of the head to your nod.

I take it I'm allowed to disagree with what I felt was a statement without fact at that time.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

I take it you can type without sounding defensive or provocative? It just looks childish as we are mean tto be adults.

In answer to your question...

I nodded for two things, that the man had listened to peoples advice and commented again on the thread.

The other was to where she said give the man a break, as I too thought a couple of answers were harsh...plus being called desperate for having an age range different than someone else...plus being told that he had been on before he should know the answers.

Hopefully Fuss will answer too.

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

staffs

I have now taken time to read through your profile and it's great to see the advice that you've taken on board; and I would imagine it's now similar to your first time on fab.

What mobile are you using that stops you from forming paragraphs?

That definitely they next stage.

One other area your age range which has been mentioned suggests your happy to meet 17 year olds; which is against site rules as the minimum age is 18. Your maximum is 91!

You may want to review this part as well

Glad to here that this forum has had the effect of getting you some meets

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

I don't care what they say about Thursdays.....I Luvs 'em

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

"To the OP you say you've been here before and had success so what have you done differently this time?

Chat rooms here can be just a difficult here for single guys as I'm sure you're aware from your previous incarnation here.

So I think the best advice you've received is to get your profile in order, sort out pics and then be patient.

Strange that all 5 of your previous veris have left but I suppose it happens... perhaps they've changed their profile names? Hope it wasn't after meeting you!

I'm sure it wasn't! lol

Good luck"

Just in case any newbie single men read this, you rarely "get invited" to socials,you just put your name down like anyone else

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