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By *bcsecret OP Man
over a year ago
manchester |
I’m becoming more convinced that we weren’t meant for monogamy, if you look at every other living thing on the planet except for some birds, they don’t find one mate and settle. Lions have a pride; the lion protects, governs and fucks the lionesses within his pride. Same with chimps they live in a ‘community’, gorillas they have a 'troop’ and so on. Human beings are scorned and put down for 'cheating’ but I’m starting to feel like it’s just man trying to fight a primal need/instinct that we’ve been told is bad in order to try separate ourselves from the 'animals’. Men do it because their the lion women do it because their the lionesses and their needs aren’t being met with the need for more then just protection governing and sex/breeding but I guess that’s where their 'higher consciousness’ or maybe even programming come into it. When you are told (and oppressed in the very beginning) something so much into you it’s hard to know, believe or comprehend anything else. Britain according to daily mail has the highest divorce rate in the EU, 2.8 per 1000 people, and that’s Britain alone. I’m not saying it’s impossible to be monogamous but I just don’t feel it’s as bad as it’s made to be if you choose a polyamorous life or essentially just embrace and return the love you get. My pieces 'love and lust’ & 'cheating’ talk more again on my views here. And the only reason I keep writing on the subject is because it gets brought up in conversation/debate and it leaves my mind on overtime. And again I’m not condoning cheating, if you choose to accept to enter those realms of agreement and expectations then you should adhere to those, but I’m simple saying look outside the box.
?Love knows no quantity no rules or limits, so why should you be made to feel bad if you do love more then one person. I don’t believe in 'the right one’ because you can fall in love with someone for different reasons other then your compatibility in personality; a shared event, some one saving you from yourself or even a life or death moment, down to them purely showing you a level of unconditional niceness you’ve never experienced.
?'Love is a form of prejudice. You love what you need, you love what makes you feel good, you love what is convenient. How can you say you love one person when there are ten thousand people in the world that you would love more if you ever met them? But you’ll never meet them’ - Charles Bukowski
?If I was to abide by my own thought path, she would have the same stance as myself, equal playing field. I wouldn’t ask about outside of us and I wouldn’t need or want to be told either. Just that when we spend time together, that she’s 100% there with me in the moment what ever we’re doing. And I truly don’t believe in this right one theory, you have bad women and good women, those that have a good woman 'settled down’ for the good woman they got but it doesn’t mean to say given the chance that they couldn’t find another or better in what ever way they feel they are better. And the same with men, Good men and bad men, I regard myself as a good man but there is better then me out there for numerous reasons to the individual, finding unwavering comfort in monogamy being one.
?I try change to adhere to the mentality of the reality I’m in less I go without the feel of love, even if it is only for a time because anyone I’ve been involved with has the monogamy mind set but I find relationships so uncomfortable, fuck knows why, I’m just making theories to try make sense of my own shit but it is what it is. I feel I do my best to be a good guy to who ever I come in contact with, which in some cases has made me the very bad guy I don’t want to be seen as. 'But if you really loved someone…’ stop, don’t try tell me how to love. Just because someone doesn’t love the way you do or how you expect to be loved, doesn’t mean they love you any less. It’s the same if you hurt somebody, you don’t get to tell them you didn’t because their hurt at the end of the day, so why should you get to tell someone they don’t know love. We’re bombarded with memes that sound so justifying in telling us how to love someone, but again your being TOLD how to do what really you should know what feels right or wrong to yourself just on intuition. We rely so heavily on what; people, religion, the internet, our families and even our parents say that we hesitate to trust our own opinions on the matter of self and love. I’m not saying that these things are always wrong or right for that matter but just because one thing is for one it doesn’t mean it’ll work for person two and three, four five six may be fortunate and find it works for them beyond their expectation but then what are two and three to do. To accept the notion that they are broken and flawed because they aren’t the same as the rest.
?'No matter what people call you, you are just who you are. Keep to this truth. You must ask yourself how is it you want to live your life. We live and we die, this is the truth that we can only face alone. No one can help us, not even the Buddha. So consider carefully, what prevents you from living the way you want to live your life?’ - Dalai Lama |
