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Whst do you think it REALLY means when people set their age limits on here?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm listening...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I refer you to my answer on the huge age range thread

Wanders back to man cave...for coffee..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That they're looking for someone within that range?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For us, it means Mrs N prefers the sexual company of people nearer to her own age. Pretty self explanatory really.

What's your theory? What do YOU think it really means?

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By *reman6976Man
over a year ago

Deeping St James

Either that they are adamant that those are their limits or that they just don't want to receive messages from people outside of the range.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"For us, it means Mrs N prefers the sexual company of people nearer to her own age. Pretty self explanatory really.

What's your theory? What do YOU think it really means? "

Look first and foremost I obviously respect what each individual wants. My theory is that it limits one's experiences to meeting incredible people. I'm an optimist. The amount of remarks by people who are 1 year out of an age range is quite sad to read. It could be that person who you could have an incredible connection with. So yeah, for me having limited self beliefs will limit ones experiences. You just will never know. I hope I've explained myself a bit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it any more complicated than it seems? I set mine to indicate my primary preferences and to reduce messages. It's that simple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm listening..."

I refer to my answer earlier on another thread of same topic

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity


"For us, it means Mrs N prefers the sexual company of people nearer to her own age. Pretty self explanatory really.

What's your theory? What do YOU think it really means?

Look first and foremost I obviously respect what each individual wants. My theory is that it limits one's experiences to meeting incredible people. I'm an optimist. The amount of remarks by people who are 1 year out of an age range is quite sad to read. It could be that person who you could have an incredible connection with. So yeah, for me having limited self beliefs will limit ones experiences. You just will never know. I hope I've explained myself a bit.

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That's a wonderful outlook to have . I absolutely agree with that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's why people are amazing, we all like different stuff.

We don't feel as though we're 'limiting' ourselves, or 'missing out' because of age filters.

It's usually the ones excluded by said filters who do the most complaining.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For us, it means Mrs N prefers the sexual company of people nearer to her own age. Pretty self explanatory really.

What's your theory? What do YOU think it really means?

Look first and foremost I obviously respect what each individual wants. My theory is that it limits one's experiences to meeting incredible people. I'm an optimist. The amount of remarks by people who are 1 year out of an age range is quite sad to read. It could be that person who you could have an incredible connection with. So yeah, for me having limited self beliefs will limit ones experiences. You just will never know. I hope I've explained myself a bit.

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I agree with this hence haven't set filters regarding age, I'm happy to receive messages outside of my range and take it from there. In regards to those that have set filters, yea, I suppose they could be missing out. But that's their choice really.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is it any more complicated than it seems? I set mine to indicate my primary preferences and to reduce messages. It's that simple. "

It's all about simplicity...whatever makes sense for us.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"For us, it means Mrs N prefers the sexual company of people nearer to her own age. Pretty self explanatory really.

What's your theory? What do YOU think it really means?

Look first and foremost I obviously respect what each individual wants. My theory is that it limits one's experiences to meeting incredible people. I'm an optimist. The amount of remarks by people who are 1 year out of an age range is quite sad to read. It could be that person who you could have an incredible connection with. So yeah, for me having limited self beliefs will limit ones experiences. You just will never know. I hope I've explained myself a bit.

I agree with this hence haven't set filters regarding age, I'm happy to receive messages outside of my range and take it from there. In regards to those that have set filters, yea, I suppose they could be missing out. But that's their choice really."

Absolutely. I was merely explaining my train of thought x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've set ours as they are because outside of that range we think is unlikely we'll find certain things we are looking for. Not impossible but less likely, and with plenty of great people falling within our range and not enough time it helps narrow the field. Maybe we're missing some great people but if we don't know about them we aren't going to worry about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've set age ranges as a guideline rather than a hard n fast rule. We get messages from people outside the ranges and take each person on their own merits. I wouldn't say no to a 21 year old or a 50 year old if they floated my boat, and quite often say no to 35 year olds who I don't really fancy!

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley

The reason we set age limits (and state a lot of preferences) is to filter out those who we're unlikely to be compatible or comfortable with. It's not a science and nice people come in all ages, shapes and sizes but here we've decided what we want so have set our limits and preferences accordingly. There's no point in much younger or older guys messaging us however nice they are because we're not going to meet them and having to explain that all the time just gets very annoying. We accept that a lot of people might not like what we do or want to meet us either and that's equally fine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That they're looking for someone within that range?"

I don't understand how OP can think it's anything else?

A x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I understand what the OP means. To most people, age limits are carved in stone, but to us that's not necessarily the case. To us age limits means we are trying to reduce mail from people of an age group that we are less likely to be interested in. It doesn't mean people outside that range are out of the question. But we barely have time to meet new people as it is, so no point in encouraging any more mail. We have played with people outside our age range in a club situation, and we have also played with a lady to later discover we were outside her range. There will always be exceptions to our preferences. But it's easier to set our profile to be more restrictive.

Mrs

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

It means it's their preference

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

My age limits are simple.

No one born in the same decade as my eldest son, the thought creeps me out.

No one old enough to be my dad, that creeps me out too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have set my age range to 10 years either side of my age as a guide.

I do not set filters as those who wish to message me for whatever reason can do.

I would only meet with compatible people, but wouldn't dismiss anyone outside of the guidelines as I could be missing a treat. However, would I want to meet a 99 year old? Unlikely. Would I be approached by an 18 year old? Also unlikely.

If a bloke sets the range 18-99, it can be perceived as desperate. I'm not!

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Personal prefernces.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"I have set my age range to 10 years either side of my age as a guide.

I do not set filters as those who wish to message me for whatever reason can do.

I would only meet with compatible people, but wouldn't dismiss anyone outside of the guidelines as I could be missing a treat. However, would I want to meet a 99 year old? Unlikely. Would I be approached by an 18 year old? Also unlikely.

If a bloke sets the range 18-99, it can be perceived as desperate. I'm not!"
or perhaps lazy as they can't be bothered to change it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have set my age range to 10 years either side of my age as a guide.

I do not set filters as those who wish to message me for whatever reason can do.

I would only meet with compatible people, but wouldn't dismiss anyone outside of the guidelines as I could be missing a treat. However, would I want to meet a 99 year old? Unlikely. Would I be approached by an 18 year old? Also unlikely.

If a bloke sets the range 18-99, it can be perceived as desperate. I'm not!or perhaps lazy as they can't be bothered to change it"

true...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read another thread recently, which criticized anyone who didn't change their age range from the default 18-99. Lazy, desperate, un-fussy, etc

You'll never please everyone. Hell, this is fab - you'll probably never please anyone!

The solution is simple - Stick to profiles which ARE looking for your age and accept that everyone else has their own valid reasons for not wanting to meet you.

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