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By *aelaw OP   Man
over a year ago

Paisley

Hello all *waves*

Merry evening!

I am sitting her jumping between fab and Fetlife as i normally do. It always interests me about how kick integrates with swinging. I have a number of kinks and still discovering more as I explore. Problem is I can't initially see me bringing my kinks into meets. Maybe this is due to my current focus on my sexuality.

The question is though, do you look to integrate your kinks into meets? Do you then loom for those with similar kinks?

Probably just a nosy bastard *chuckles*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We tend to keep what we consider our kinks between ourselves, I imagine as a general rule kinks require a higher level of trust and familiarity between all play partners so this is not likely to be achieved during a more casual hook up.

But that said we are hardly hardened kinksters so could be entirely wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's frustrating..

F l is proper kinky, but not like Fab.. not so easy to chat and meet people.

This site is just full of horny single guys, and then couples with the obligatory bi curious female, with straight Mr (mostly because although he doesn't admit it openly is hung up about bi guys), finally single women.

There should be a kink, fetish site like Fab

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By *ocks99Man
over a year ago

Reading


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The question is though, do you look to integrate your kinks into meets? Do you then loom for those with similar kinks?

Probably just a nosy bastard *chuckles*"

Would be ideal. My profile makes no secret of my kink side, but swingers and kinksters don't always gel well together. Some events manage it, but some have been a bit of a trainwreck. Open mindedness and a willingness to dismiss assumptions helps....

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By *DontExistWoman
over a year ago

•+• Silicon valley. •+•

NSA sex is a lot easier for me than kink, so i've mostly been doing that.

would love to find myself a kinky guy who gives me the time to get to know him and then also be able to trust him but unfortunately in NSA world men like this are rare, or possibly non-existent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello all *waves*

Merry evening!

I am sitting her jumping between fab and Fetlife as i normally do. It always interests me about how kick integrates with swinging. I have a number of kinks and still discovering more as I explore. Problem is I can't initially see me bringing my kinks into meets. Maybe this is due to my current focus on my sexuality.

The question is though, do you look to integrate your kinks into meets? Do you then loom for those with similar kinks?

Probably just a nosy bastard *chuckles*"

Just to say I picked up a forum ban for 24 hours for mentioning F life....careful lol

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

I think this site is good, I've had fun, kink fun, found and lost a stunning sub, just wish there was a forum side that was moderated.

To me there is, through experience, a cross over.

Hey, that is just my perception though.

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By *aelaw OP   Man
over a year ago

Paisley


"NSA sex is a lot easier for me than kink, so i've mostly been doing that.

would love to find myself a kinky guy who gives me the time to get to know him and then also be able to trust him but unfortunately in NSA world men like this are rare, or possibly non-existent."

I Don't think that is hard to find here. I have seen a lot of posts around from people that give me the impressions that this is where they ultimately want to go. I suppose it's all about fitting each other's kinks and sexual interests etc.......ok, it is hard!

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By *DontExistWoman
over a year ago

•+• Silicon valley. •+•


"NSA sex is a lot easier for me than kink, so i've mostly been doing that.

would love to find myself a kinky guy who gives me the time to get to know him and then also be able to trust him but unfortunately in NSA world men like this are rare, or possibly non-existent.

I Don't think that is hard to find here. I have seen a lot of posts around from people that give me the impressions that this is where they ultimately want to go. I suppose it's all about fitting each other's kinks and sexual interests etc.......ok, it is hard! "

impossible to find for me.

i'm not fussed too much, i won't be rushing anything.

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By *aelaw OP   Man
over a year ago

Paisley


"NSA sex is a lot easier for me than kink, so i've mostly been doing that.

would love to find myself a kinky guy who gives me the time to get to know him and then also be able to trust him but unfortunately in NSA world men like this are rare, or possibly non-existent.

I Don't think that is hard to find here. I have seen a lot of posts around from people that give me the impressions that this is where they ultimately want to go. I suppose it's all about fitting each other's kinks and sexual interests etc.......ok, it is hard!

impossible to find for me.

i'm not fussed too much, i won't be rushing anything."

Excellent approach. Always hard to align kinks etc but certainly not impossible. There is hope for us all, or maybe we are fucked :O

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By *DontExistWoman
over a year ago

•+• Silicon valley. •+•


"NSA sex is a lot easier for me than kink, so i've mostly been doing that.

would love to find myself a kinky guy who gives me the time to get to know him and then also be able to trust him but unfortunately in NSA world men like this are rare, or possibly non-existent.

I Don't think that is hard to find here. I have seen a lot of posts around from people that give me the impressions that this is where they ultimately want to go. I suppose it's all about fitting each other's kinks and sexual interests etc.......ok, it is hard!

impossible to find for me.

i'm not fussed too much, i won't be rushing anything.

Excellent approach. Always hard to align kinks etc but certainly not impossible. There is hope for us all, or maybe we are fucked :O "

i'm finding other places better than here so kinda hopeful.

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By *aelaw OP   Man
over a year ago

Paisley


"NSA sex is a lot easier for me than kink, so i've mostly been doing that.

would love to find myself a kinky guy who gives me the time to get to know him and then also be able to trust him but unfortunately in NSA world men like this are rare, or possibly non-existent.

I Don't think that is hard to find here. I have seen a lot of posts around from people that give me the impressions that this is where they ultimately want to go. I suppose it's all about fitting each other's kinks and sexual interests etc.......ok, it is hard!

impossible to find for me.

i'm not fussed too much, i won't be rushing anything.

Excellent approach. Always hard to align kinks etc but certainly not impossible. There is hope for us all, or maybe we are fucked :O

i'm finding other places better than here so kinda hopeful. "

There are other places? :O

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By *DontExistWoman
over a year ago

•+• Silicon valley. •+•


"NSA sex is a lot easier for me than kink, so i've mostly been doing that.

would love to find myself a kinky guy who gives me the time to get to know him and then also be able to trust him but unfortunately in NSA world men like this are rare, or possibly non-existent.

I Don't think that is hard to find here. I have seen a lot of posts around from people that give me the impressions that this is where they ultimately want to go. I suppose it's all about fitting each other's kinks and sexual interests etc.......ok, it is hard!

impossible to find for me.

i'm not fussed too much, i won't be rushing anything.

Excellent approach. Always hard to align kinks etc but certainly not impossible. There is hope for us all, or maybe we are fucked :O

i'm finding other places better than here so kinda hopeful.

There are other places? :O "

yeah there is. and none of them are here on fab or fetlife.

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By *miler6969696969Man
over a year ago

Doncaster/Sheffield

I include my kink of sensory and denial play with a little restraining too. I find it goes down a treat.

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By *aelaw OP   Man
over a year ago

Paisley


"NSA sex is a lot easier for me than kink, so i've mostly been doing that.

would love to find myself a kinky guy who gives me the time to get to know him and then also be able to trust him but unfortunately in NSA world men like this are rare, or possibly non-existent.

I Don't think that is hard to find here. I have seen a lot of posts around from people that give me the impressions that this is where they ultimately want to go. I suppose it's all about fitting each other's kinks and sexual interests etc.......ok, it is hard!

impossible to find for me.

i'm not fussed too much, i won't be rushing anything.

Excellent approach. Always hard to align kinks etc but certainly not impossible. There is hope for us all, or maybe we are fucked :O

i'm finding other places better than here so kinda hopeful.

There are other places? :O

yeah there is. and none of them are here on fab or fetlife. "

:O not jealous at all *jealous face*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The thread raises a number of points of which I would suggest these are a few:

Is there much crossover between kink and swinging? Some and increasing. Four years few of the swinging clubs were serious about kink whereas now most are holding fetish nights and the best have non gendered pricing.

Should kink be introduced to meets? Not without a proper negotiation and discussion. But otherwise no reason why not, when I was swinging I would take my floggers to Kestrels just in case, more times than not they got used. There are people who are interested in experiencing kink and public place is generally a safe environment.

Should swing and kink events be combined? Not without it being clear that swinging will be occurring. The issue being that swinging is generally based on access to women and sex and hence gendered pricing which leads to people with the wrong attitude. Fetish is about fetish, from latex wearing, cross dressing, to impact or being wrapped in rope. It is generally non gendered therefore the focus is different. But I accept there are people whose kink includes sex with random strangers or public masturbation. The following sums up my concerns. A friend performed a rope suspension on a naked woman at a day fetish event (but the club was still open to swingers) when finished he turned around to see a line of naked wanking men. Not appropriate.

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