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Delusions of grandeur and Hypocrisy

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I don't wish to offend anyone this is only an observation. But I do find it confusing that there are some on this site for some unknown reason seem to think they are far superior to others!! Especially ones that demand a certain type when they're no where near that type themselves!! Like I only meet gym fit people even though I'm far from gym fit myself and possibly 10 stone over weight!! Or I'm 35 but in reality I'm 55 but I look good for my age!! Sometimes this whole site loses all sense of reality!! I know we all look at ourselves differently in the mirror!!! But some people's mirrors are so full of shit!! It just amazes me how some people can put themselves so high up on a pedestal. wondering what others think??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a big girl, not.massive, but big. And I only to meet average to athletic men.

This is not an idea of grandeur, it's want I'm attracted to. Thankfully there's enough guys out there who like fatties.

You may as well say that black people should only be attracted to black people, or bald people should only be attracted to bald people.

Why is it bothering you OP? You have your tastes and so does everyone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To find a certain type attractive you don't need to be that type yourself OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Diggers I think you have dug a very big hole from which to climb from!

You have to accept that FAB is a recreational sex site where people can express their preferences without any influence from convention or the norm. Its just a fact of this corner of the web that those who want (maybe) the unobtainable in the vanilla world could ad do indulge in those preferences.

Whist there is the supply to satisfy the demand then there is no hypocrisy. You are one of over 100,000 single guys that are in a long line.

Life is a series of challenges to be met with vigour and hope!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't wish to offend anyone this is only an observation. But I do find it confusing that there are some on this site for some unknown reason seem to think they are far superior to others!! Especially ones that demand a certain type when they're no where near that type themselves!! Like I only meet gym fit people even though I'm far from gym fit myself and possibly 10 stone over weight!! Or I'm 35 but in reality I'm 55 but I look good for my age!! Sometimes this whole site loses all sense of reality!! I know we all look at ourselves differently in the mirror!!! But some people's mirrors are so full of shit!! It just amazes me how some people can put themselves so high up on a pedestal. wondering what others think??

"

I have no issues with people wanting what they want as its up to them what they like and the type of person

we all have preference,

example: some days i want a strong coffee black and sometimes i want a cup of tea instead

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Diggers I think you have dug a very big hole from which to climb from!

You have to accept that FAB is a recreational sex site

"

Its a swinging site not a sex site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a big girl, not.massive, but big. And I only to meet average to athletic men.

This is not an idea of grandeur, it's want I'm attracted to. Thankfully there's enough guys out there who like fatties.

You may as well say that black people should only be attracted to black people, or bald people should only be attracted to bald people.

Why is it bothering you OP? You have your tastes and so does everyone else.

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see what the OP is saying and in the non fab world its pretty much true.

However its totally different in fab whereby people will meet different types for great sex, ive met fems and cpls on fab that id never meet up with in my regular life as in size, age and backgrounds, but had great fun

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Diggers I think you have dug a very big hole from which to climb from!

You have to accept that FAB is a recreational sex site where people can express their preferences without any influence from convention or the norm. Its just a fact of this corner of the web that those who want (maybe) the unobtainable in the vanilla world could ad do indulge in those preferences.

Whist there is the supply to satisfy the demand then there is no hypocrisy. You are one of over 100,000 single guys that are in a long line.

Life is a series of challenges to be met with vigour and hope!"

I understand attraction is vital for some! But there are a lot of profiles on this site that are quite blunt with the wording of what and who they want!! I'm completely open minded on who I meet because as I have learnt people can be completely different in reality compare to there profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So you are saying that people should only meet the type of person that is the same physical build as them? Does preference not play a part at all?

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"Diggers I think you have dug a very big hole from which to climb from!

You have to accept that FAB is a recreational sex site

Its a swinging site not a sex site "

A swinging site can also be used as a sex site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To find a certain type attractive you don't need to be that type yourself OP "

Bingo!

Blimey that hits the spot. Well said

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

There's nothing wrong with expressing a preference for the type of person you wish to have sex with. The site is a tool allowing us to fulfil a fantasy, yet there is no guarantee that those fantasies will be fulfilled.

Why bother getting het up about people who you'll never meet? Concentrate on the people who you find attractive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Diggers I think you have dug a very big hole from which to climb from!

You have to accept that FAB is a recreational sex site

Its a swinging site not a sex site "

Please explain the difference?

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By *unforus1965Couple
over a year ago

MIDLANDS


"I don't wish to offend anyone this is only an observation. But I do find it confusing that there are some on this site for some unknown reason seem to think they are far superior to others!! Especially ones that demand a certain type when they're no where near that type themselves!! Like I only meet gym fit people even though I'm far from gym fit myself and possibly 10 stone over weight!! Or I'm 35 but in reality I'm 55 but I look good for my age!! Sometimes this whole site loses all sense of reality!! I know we all look at ourselves differently in the mirror!!! But some people's mirrors are so full of shit!! It just amazes me how some people can put themselves so high up on a pedestal. wondering what others think??

I have no issues with people wanting what they want as its up to them what they like and the type of person

we all have preference,

example: some days i want a strong coffee black and sometimes i want a cup of tea instead

"

Exactly what our thoughts were when we read this post.

A little bit out of order to say people cannot choose what type they want to meet, although we appreciate that this probably wasn't posted with bad intentions by the OP.

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By *unforus1965Couple
over a year ago

MIDLANDS


"Diggers I think you have dug a very big hole from which to climb from!

You have to accept that FAB is a recreational sex site

Its a swinging site not a sex site

Please explain the difference?"

A lot of single guys ask that question.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I see what the OP is saying and in the non fab world its pretty much true.

However its totally different in fab whereby people will meet different types for great sex, ive met fems and cpls on fab that id never meet up with in my regular life as in size, age and backgrounds, but had great fun "

It's not true in the non Fab world, my present and all my previous partners have all been slim. The people I'm attracted to doesn't change between worlds

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't wish to offend anyone this is only an observation. But I do find it confusing that there are some on this site for some unknown reason seem to think they are far superior to others!! Especially ones that demand a certain type when they're no where near that type themselves!! Like I only meet gym fit people even though I'm far from gym fit myself and possibly 10 stone over weight!! Or I'm 35 but in reality I'm 55 but I look good for my age!! Sometimes this whole site loses all sense of reality!! I know we all look at ourselves differently in the mirror!!! But some people's mirrors are so full of shit!! It just amazes me how some people can put themselves so high up on a pedestal. wondering what others think??

"

So everyone ignored you last night, and you thought you'd come on here for a moan?

Probably not your best move

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do think its how they word their likes sometimes you do read a profile expecting the person to be stunning but when you get to the pics they are nothing of the sort.

No prob with people wanting certain types .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Diggers I think you have dug a very big hole from which to climb from!

You have to accept that FAB is a recreational sex site

Its a swinging site not a sex site

Please explain the difference?

A lot of single guys ask that question."

I am genuinely interested to know the difference?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't wish to offend anyone this is only an observation. But I do find it confusing that there are some on this site for some unknown reason seem to think they are far superior to others!! Especially ones that demand a certain type when they're no where near that type themselves!! Like I only meet gym fit people even though I'm far from gym fit myself and possibly 10 stone over weight!! Or I'm 35 but in reality I'm 55 but I look good for my age!! Sometimes this whole site loses all sense of reality!! I know we all look at ourselves differently in the mirror!!! But some people's mirrors are so full of shit!! It just amazes me how some people can put themselves so high up on a pedestal. wondering what others think??

So everyone ignored you last night, and you thought you'd come on here for a moan?

Probably not your best move"
............another one!

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London

You only realise that now OP?

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By *unforus1965Couple
over a year ago

MIDLANDS


"Diggers I think you have dug a very big hole from which to climb from!

You have to accept that FAB is a recreational sex site

Its a swinging site not a sex site

Please explain the difference?

A lot of single guys ask that question.

I am genuinely interested to know the difference?"

Over time you will find out.

Or maybe start a new thread of your own asking that same question.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend not to bat above my station, and usually play with men who I would be perfectly capable of dating in vanilla life. However if I particularly wanted a young gym-fit stud, who I wouldn't stand a chance with in vanilla life, I would probably get that via Fab. Well actually I have done on a few occasions, although it's more been circumstancial rather than deliberate. But I don't think it would be hypocritical of me consistently pursue men with a better body than myself. If I failed to achieve that, then it would arguably be more sensible to set more realistic expectations. But hypocritical no.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I also find it funny that you start it off as an observation and it turns into a full on rant, with a lot of exclamation marks and double question marks .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Diggers I think you have dug a very big hole from which to climb from!

You have to accept that FAB is a recreational sex site

Its a swinging site not a sex site

Please explain the difference?

A lot of single guys ask that question."

Yes they do

Begs the question....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I see what the OP is saying and in the non fab world its pretty much true.

However its totally different in fab whereby people will meet different types for great sex, ive met fems and cpls on fab that id never meet up with in my regular life as in size, age and backgrounds, but had great fun

It's not true in the non Fab world, my present and all my previous partners have all been slim. The people I'm attracted to doesn't change between worlds"

Totally respect that and im just talking from my experience, my outside of fab partners have been a lot different to the people for fab meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Diggers I think you have dug a very big hole from which to climb from!

You have to accept that FAB is a recreational sex site

Its a swinging site not a sex site

Please explain the difference?"

swinging to me is meeting like minded people who like to socialise and share experiences with other people and couples

(not just one on one)

a sex site is pretty much pof now so im told

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Diggers I think you have dug a very big hole from which to climb from!

You have to accept that FAB is a recreational sex site

Its a swinging site not a sex site

Please explain the difference?

A lot of single guys ask that question.

I am genuinely interested to know the difference?

Over time you will find out.

Or maybe start a new thread of your own asking that same question."
I am happy in this thread thanks. If there is a difference in swinging and recreational sex I would be truly interested to know?

My view for what its worth is that recreational sex is like minded adults meeting socially and in a hedonistic environment for sex that is, fro the most part, non committal?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So what you're essentially saying is that only those deemed to be attractive should be allowed to have and state preferences? Everyone else should put up with what they can get and be grateful? Yeah. Good one op.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"Diggers I think you have dug a very big hole from which to climb from!

You have to accept that FAB is a recreational sex site where people can express their preferences without any influence from convention or the norm. Its just a fact of this corner of the web that those who want (maybe) the unobtainable in the vanilla world could ad do indulge in those preferences.

Whist there is the supply to satisfy the demand then there is no hypocrisy. You are one of over 100,000 single guys that are in a long line.

Life is a series of challenges to be met with vigour and hope!

I understand attraction is vital for some! But there are a lot of profiles on this site that are quite blunt with the wording of what and who they want!! I'm completely open minded on who I meet because as I have learnt people can be completely different in reality compare to there profile."

Other things being equal, the vast majority of us, men and women, prefer to have sex with people who are conventionally attractive. For men that means slim, toned, nice head of hair and for women, slim, curves, firm breast. It's the evolutionary imperative.

However, given that far more men are into non relationship sex than women, the former vastly out number the latter on here. Hence the women can make all sorts of demands and still get the hot men, even when they don't meet conventional hotness standards themselves. . Men, on the other hand, cannot be so choosy.

Until such time as there are as many wimen on here as men that isn't going to change.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Diggers I think you have dug a very big hole from which to climb from!

You have to accept that FAB is a recreational sex site

Its a swinging site not a sex site

Please explain the difference?

swinging to me is meeting like minded people who like to socialise and share experiences with other people and couples

(not just one on one)

a sex site is pretty much pof now so im told "

There is an awful lot of 121 stuff going on in this part of the web?

Should all singles who meet from this site not be classed as swingers?

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By *unforus1965Couple
over a year ago

MIDLANDS


"Diggers I think you have dug a very big hole from which to climb from!

You have to accept that FAB is a recreational sex site

Its a swinging site not a sex site

Please explain the difference?

A lot of single guys ask that question.

I am genuinely interested to know the difference?

Over time you will find out.

Or maybe start a new thread of your own asking that same question. I am happy in this thread thanks. If there is a difference in swinging and recreational sex I would be truly interested to know?

My view for what its worth is that recreational sex is like minded adults meeting socially and in a hedonistic environment for sex that is, fro the most part, non committal?"

Just a pointer.

An unwritten rule on here is don't take over someone else's thread with your own agenda, just start your own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally.....

I think I'm amazing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My profile is very blunt and quite specific about what I am looking for. For that I make no apologies. Why? Well quite simply I look after myself, hit the gym regularly and know I look good for my age. Some would say that makes me up my own arse, but that really says more about their insecurities than about me having positive self estem and valuing my own worth.

Now if I was to hit the town on a Fri night and fancied a one night stand with a single guy then that's totally doable. However I am on a swinging site and here for MY fantasies. Why would I compromise and go for something that isnt going to meet my needs? Yep I'm not. So if that offends or upsets others thats their issue, not mine.

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

I know exactly what you mean OP, completely agree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

There is an awful lot of 121 stuff going on in this part of the web?

Should all singles who meet from this site not be classed as swingers?"

People use this site how the deem they wish to and thats up to them and their choice

I use this site how i wish to and i am not bothered about labels or the stereotypical view, im not here for drama,

if i want to meet a couple or a single i do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But if gym type hotties don't mind and/or like meeting average or curvy or bbw then that's up to them.

I've seen very fit men in fact sharing their preference for bbw for instance.

No ones more superior here. Although lots n lots think they are. We've had this chat....remember? Hehe.

I'd love a group meet of the fittest men I can find in the southwest! But I'm not the fittest girl....sooo...

But I'm still going to do it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Diggers I think you have dug a very big hole from which to climb from!

You have to accept that FAB is a recreational sex site

Its a swinging site not a sex site

Please explain the difference?

A lot of single guys ask that question.

I am genuinely interested to know the difference?

Over time you will find out.

Or maybe start a new thread of your own asking that same question. I am happy in this thread thanks. If there is a difference in swinging and recreational sex I would be truly interested to know?

My view for what its worth is that recreational sex is like minded adults meeting socially and in a hedonistic environment for sex that is, fro the most part, non committal?

Just a pointer.

An unwritten rule on here is don't take over someone else's thread with your own agenda, just start your own.

"
Point taken but I didn't start this sub thread I responded to a reply to my post.

As far as unwritten rules go I have never been a fan.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My profile is very blunt and quite specific about what I am looking for. For that I make no apologies. Why? Well quite simply I look after myself, hit the gym regularly and know I look good for my age. Some would say that makes me up my own arse, but that really says more about their insecurities than about me having positive self estem and valuing my own worth.

Now if I was to hit the town on a Fri night and fancied a one night stand with a single guy then that's totally doable. However I am on a swinging site and here for MY fantasies. Why would I compromise and go for something that isnt going to meet my needs? Yep I'm not. So if that offends or upsets others thats their issue, not mine."

This wholeheartedly agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't wish to offend anyone this is only an observation. But I do find it confusing that there are some on this site for some unknown reason seem to think they are far superior to others!! Especially ones that demand a certain type when they're no where near that type themselves!! Like I only meet gym fit people even though I'm far from gym fit myself and possibly 10 stone over weight!! Or I'm 35 but in reality I'm 55 but I look good for my age!! Sometimes this whole site loses all sense of reality!! I know we all look at ourselves differently in the mirror!!! But some people's mirrors are so full of shit!! It just amazes me how some people can put themselves so high up on a pedestal. wondering what others think??

"

I like 6ft tall men but I am not 6ft myself. It's all about preferences, people can ask for whatever they want,it doesn't mean they will get it though. To be honest though the only members I have seen asking for gym fit ect are members who are gym fit themselves. Stop sulking coz you didn't get any cam fun XXX

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"So what you're essentially saying is that only those deemed to be attractive should be allowed to have and state preferences? Everyone else should put up with what they can get and be grateful? Yeah. Good one op.

"

Anyone can state their preference but you have to be realistic. An overweight 65 year old bloke may have a preference for slim 25 year old women but his chances of satisfying that preference is virtually nil. Hence, if he has any sense, he will adjust his preferences, always assuming he prefers to meet someone rather than no one.

The sliver of truth in the original post is that women can pretty much hold out for their first preferences on here, given supply and demand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't wish to offend anyone this is only an observation. But I do find it confusing that there are some on this site for some unknown reason seem to think they are far superior to others!! Especially ones that demand a certain type when they're no where near that type themselves!! Like I only meet gym fit people even though I'm far from gym fit myself and possibly 10 stone over weight!! Or I'm 35 but in reality I'm 55 but I look good for my age!! Sometimes this whole site loses all sense of reality!! I know we all look at ourselves differently in the mirror!!! But some people's mirrors are so full of shit!! It just amazes me how some people can put themselves so high up on a pedestal. wondering what others think??

So everyone ignored you last night, and you thought you'd come on here for a moan?

Probably not your best move"

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Why does it matter?

People can use the site however they want and meet the people they fancy .

Even bigger people and older people are allowed a preference you know.

It obviously doesnt bother the people they are meeting,so why lwt it bother you.

Miss

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

and it is a sex site. If it was a swinging site it would operate like the other swinging site that insists all xxx pics are kept private and to join you must have a clear face pic with a completed bio. That's forces people to chat and get to know each other before the swinging starts. Here it's get your tackle out and lets get fucking after one message yaayyyyyy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So what you're essentially saying is that only those deemed to be attractive should be allowed to have and state preferences? Everyone else should put up with what they can get and be grateful? Yeah. Good one op.

Anyone can state their preference but you have to be realistic. An overweight 65 year old bloke may have a preference for slim 25 year old women but his chances of satisfying that preference is virtually nil. Hence, if he has any sense, he will adjust his preferences, always assuming he prefers to meet someone rather than no one.

The sliver of truth in the original post is that women can pretty much hold out for their first preferences on here, given supply and demand. "

But so what if people want to be unrealistic in their preferences? I don't understand why others get irritated by that? If I don't like someone's demands I ignore their profile.

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over a year ago

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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

Sorry but everyone owns sir own bodies and fantasies and should have the freedom to explore what they want. Just because someone else doesn't like it doesn't matter.

If someone only wants to meet someone younger/older/thinner/fatter/different colour etc etc etc then that is their prerogative.

It doesn't necessarily mean they will satisfy their desires or achieve their fantasy...but they have a right to seek it.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"So what you're essentially saying is that only those deemed to be attractive should be allowed to have and state preferences? Everyone else should put up with what they can get and be grateful? Yeah. Good one op.

Anyone can state their preference but you have to be realistic. An overweight 65 year old bloke may have a preference for slim 25 year old women but his chances of satisfying that preference is virtually nil. Hence, if he has any sense, he will adjust his preferences, always assuming he prefers to meet someone rather than no one.

The sliver of truth in the original post is that women can pretty much hold out for their first preferences on here, given supply and demand.

But so what if people want to be unrealistic in their preferences? I don't understand why others get irritated by that? If I don't like someone's demands I ignore their profile. "

I was responding to your point that people should not just put up with what they can get. Some people have to if they want any sex life at all.

I agree there's no point getting upset about it. I am fifty and spend a lot of time in the gym to make myself as attractive as I can. I Flatter myself I am rather above average, attractiveness wise, for my age. I am still going to get far fewer offers on here than a below average 25 year old woman.

That's the nature of the beast.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't wish to offend anyone this is only an observation. But I do find it confusing that there are some on this site for some unknown reason seem to think they are far superior to others!! Especially ones that demand a certain type when they're no where near that type themselves!! Like I only meet gym fit people even though I'm far from gym fit myself and possibly 10 stone over weight!! Or I'm 35 but in reality I'm 55 but I look good for my age!! Sometimes this whole site loses all sense of reality!! I know we all look at ourselves differently in the mirror!!! But some people's mirrors are so full of shit!! It just amazes me how some people can put themselves so high up on a pedestal. wondering what others think??

"
. we find it best just to be ourselves - real life, real relationship, real interest in sexual experiences, sometimes we fancy physical contact with others, sometimes we like social, often we like both !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry but everyone owns sir own bodies and fantasies and should have the freedom to explore what they want. Just because someone else doesn't like it doesn't matter.

If someone only wants to meet someone younger/older/thinner/fatter/different colour etc etc etc then that is their prerogative.

It doesn't necessarily mean they will satisfy their desires or achieve their fantasy...but they have a right to seek it."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't wish to offend anyone this is only an observation. But I do find it confusing that there are some on this site for some unknown reason seem to think they are far superior to others!! Especially ones that demand a certain type when they're no where near that type themselves!! Like I only meet gym fit people even though I'm far from gym fit myself and possibly 10 stone over weight!! Or I'm 35 but in reality I'm 55 but I look good for my age!! Sometimes this whole site loses all sense of reality!! I know we all look at ourselves differently in the mirror!!! But some people's mirrors are so full of shit!! It just amazes me how some people can put themselves so high up on a pedestal. wondering what others think??

. we find it best just to be ourselves - real life, real relationship, real interest in sexual experiences, sometimes we fancy physical contact with others, sometimes we like social, often we like both ! "
Well said that lady or Gent

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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago

Brighton


"Sorry but everyone owns sir own bodies and fantasies and should have the freedom to explore what they want. Just because someone else doesn't like it doesn't matter.

If someone only wants to meet someone younger/older/thinner/fatter/different colour etc etc etc then that is their prerogative.

It doesn't necessarily mean they will satisfy their desires or achieve their fantasy...but they have a right to seek it."

Bloody autocorrect...

I will add that we specify that we are not interested in arrogant people who think they are God's gift. I bet some people probably think that describes us!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My profile is very blunt and quite specific about what I am looking for. For that I make no apologies. Why? Well quite simply I look after myself, hit the gym regularly and know I look good for my age. Some would say that makes me up my own arse, but that really says more about their insecurities than about me having positive self estem and valuing my own worth.

Now if I was to hit the town on a Fri night and fancied a one night stand with a single guy then that's totally doable. However I am on a swinging site and here for MY fantasies. Why would I compromise and go for something that isnt going to meet my needs? Yep I'm not. So if that offends or upsets others thats their issue, not mine."

Brilliantly said. Couldn't agree more! I think exactly the same

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By *rightonCheekyMan
over a year ago

Brighton

This thread is an oxymoron OP....

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By *infulSandyCouple
over a year ago

London


"I don't wish to offend anyone this is only an observation. But I do find it confusing that there are some on this site for some unknown reason seem to think they are far superior to others!! Especially ones that demand a certain type when they're no where near that type themselves!! Like I only meet gym fit people even though I'm far from gym fit myself and possibly 10 stone over weight!! Or I'm 35 but in reality I'm 55 but I look good for my age!! Sometimes this whole site loses all sense of reality!! I know we all look at ourselves differently in the mirror!!! But some people's mirrors are so full of shit!! It just amazes me how some people can put themselves so high up on a pedestal. wondering what others think??

"

Lemme get the popcorn, because as the kids says this thread is gonna be "bare jokes"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This thread is an oxymoron OP...."

Well spotted!!

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By *ransGuyTV/TS
over a year ago

Cardiff

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone can choose how specific they want to be in what they are looking for or not and it shouldn't really bother anyone else, if you have a very specific type that you only want to meet then go for it.

Equally if like me you consider people who are very specific a little narrow minded and a bit of a turn off then you don't have to have anything to do with them.

That's the great thing about free choice, nobody is forced to do anything they don't want to, just try and live and let live.

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By *ransGuyTV/TS
over a year ago

Cardiff

I prefer taller, bulkier guys, with bigger cocks than mine.

Does that mean that I have to put on weight and go to the gym (as by bulkier I don't mind if it's muscle or fat or a mix), I have to find some way of making myself taller, and I need to go back to the surgeon to make my cock bigger?

But then I also don't mind shorter or slimmer than myself! Oh no! What do I do?!

What a load of bollocks.

Whether people will admit it or not the majority of people (granted not all but) come on this site to find others to have sex with. Now if they are going to go through all that effort why not go for people they find attractive?

Now, not everyone is attracted to their own body type.

I know! Isn't that just, wow! I know! It's just so absurd

They also don't want to be wasting time turning away people who don't attract them, and what's the easiest way to do this?

Clearly state on their profile what body type they find attractive.

Now, just like them, you have come on this site to find people you find attractive, and just like them, you can put on your profile what sort of person you find attractive, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Just the same as there is absolutely nothing wrong with being attracted to a body type that is different from your own.

I'm not going to turn away guys I find attractive just because they haven't got the same body type as me, that's just ridiculous!

I would suggest that you carry on doing what the majority of other people on this site are doing - searching for people who you find attractive and passing by those who don't. But don't moan at others just because they aren't like you and only find their own body type attractive.

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By *ransGuyTV/TS
over a year ago

Cardiff

That probably reads as a rant, it's really not, I'm having quite a chilled morning actually

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone needs to get over themselves

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By *infulSandyCouple
over a year ago

London


"That probably reads as a rant, it's really not, I'm having quite a chilled morning actually "

I think you hit the nail in the head perfectly and offered good advice.

Without trying to sound rude OP comes off as someone who is upset because he is not getting what he wants while others do.

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By *igerlilycubWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

Everyone is entitled to their own personal preferences. Variety is what makes this place work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't see having a type or preferences as hypocrisy or putting themselves on a pedestal. Why shouldn't people be clear about what they want from the site and their meets? They may not get what they want but if they aren't willing to compromise fair play to them. We've met guys who are younger, way fitter and I'd say out of my league but they weren't complaining. Just because you think they are batting above their league doesn't mean others agree. Maybe be grateful you can see clearly they aren't for you and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"......,Especially ones that demand a certain type when they're no where near that type themselves!! .....

"

I like to fuck people who are cleverer than me and the occasional black guy. I'd be interested in the OPs suggestions on how to make myself more clever and more black...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"......,Especially ones that demand a certain type when they're no where near that type themselves!! .....

I like to fuck people who are cleverer than me and the occasional black guy. I'd be interested in the OPs suggestions on how to make myself more clever and more black..."

I would like to make myself occasional!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a big girl, not.massive, but big. And I only to meet average to athletic men.

This is not an idea of grandeur, it's want I'm attracted to. Thankfully there's enough guys out there who like fatties.

You may as well say that black people should only be attracted to black people, or bald people should only be attracted to bald people.

Why is it bothering you OP? You have your tastes and so does everyone else.

"

I think what he's saying is that there are a lot of 5's on this site who demand 10's, which is fine in and of itself as clearly 10's are attractive.

However, this often make other 5's feel like there's no point if they can only get 1's who they don't find attractive.

Its annoyingly just due to some a sense of entitlement "I'm at least a 5,surely im in her league" kind of attitude.

I've even said similar things out of frustration before before, mostly because most people don't have the balls to try this type of behaviour in the real world when it's ten to three in the morning and they're after a bit.

Fab isn't real life though, it's a way for horny people to meet. No one's desperate on fab, as there's no timer on when you need to have decided by, you simply be patient and wait for the right person to come along.

In short, it's a buyer's market. Women will continue to be picky if it's not causing them to lose out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a big girl, not.massive, but big. And I only to meet average to athletic men.

This is not an idea of grandeur, it's want I'm attracted to. Thankfully there's enough guys out there who like fatties.

You may as well say that black people should only be attracted to black people, or bald people should only be attracted to bald people.

Why is it bothering you OP? You have your tastes and so does everyone else.

I think what he's saying is that there are a lot of 5's on this site who demand 10's, which is fine in and of itself as clearly 10's are attractive.

However, this often make other 5's feel like there's no point if they can only get 1's who they don't find attractive.

Its annoyingly just due to some a sense of entitlement "I'm at least a 5,surely im in her league" kind of attitude.

I've even said similar things out of frustration before before, mostly because most people don't have the balls to try this type of behaviour in the real world when it's ten to three in the morning and they're after a bit.

Fab isn't real life though, it's a way for horny people to meet. No one's desperate on fab, as there's no timer on when you need to have decided by, you simply be patient and wait for the right person to come along.

In short, it's a buyer's market. Women will continue to be picky if it's not causing them to lose out.

"

Is FAB a market place where supply and demand come into play and those in that "market" are subject to internal forces?

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By *rightonCheekyMan
over a year ago

Brighton


"I'm a big girl, not.massive, but big. And I only to meet average to athletic men.

This is not an idea of grandeur, it's want I'm attracted to. Thankfully there's enough guys out there who like fatties.

You may as well say that black people should only be attracted to black people, or bald people should only be attracted to bald people.

Why is it bothering you OP? You have your tastes and so does everyone else.

I think what he's saying is that there are a lot of 5's on this site who demand 10's, which is fine in and of itself as clearly 10's are attractive.

However, this often make other 5's feel like there's no point if they can only get 1's who they don't find attractive.

Its annoyingly just due to some a sense of entitlement "I'm at least a 5,surely im in her league" kind of attitude.

I've even said similar things out of frustration before before, mostly because most people don't have the balls to try this type of behaviour in the real world when it's ten to three in the morning and they're after a bit.

Fab isn't real life though, it's a way for horny people to meet. No one's desperate on fab, as there's no timer on when you need to have decided by, you simply be patient and wait for the right person to come along.

In short, it's a buyer's market. Women will continue to be picky if it's not causing them to lose out.

"

Oh I dunno I'm always punching above my weight it's fine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't force anyone to message me. They have a choice, as do we all.

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London


"I don't force anyone to message me. They have a choice, as do we all."

Exactly...thus it doesn't matter at all what other wrote or demand in their profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"......,Especially ones that demand a certain type when they're no where near that type themselves!! .....

I like to fuck people who are cleverer than me and the occasional black guy. I'd be interested in the OPs suggestions on how to make myself more clever and more black...

I would like to make myself occasional!"

No regular is definitely better..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone's got the right to put on their profile what they want and who they want to meet.

I know who I want to meet and seek that. Is that wrong of me?? Or shall I say yes to everyone that messages me?

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

...

I thought this was going to be about the self entitled up themself people who think that they deserve a reply within a specific time period.

Some people seem to think they are really rather special.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I thought this was going to be about the self entitled up themself people who think that they deserve a reply within a specific time period.

Some people seem to think they are really rather special. "

I know I'm rather special

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

...


"I thought this was going to be about the self entitled up themself people who think that they deserve a reply within a specific time period.

Some people seem to think they are really rather special.

I know I'm rather special "

Do you need a tissue dear?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I thought this was going to be about the self entitled up themself people who think that they deserve a reply within a specific time period.

Some people seem to think they are really rather special.

I know I'm rather special

Do you need a tissue dear? "

No thanks. The dribble dries after a while.

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By *onnie And Clyde9070Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"I don't wish to offend anyone this is only an observation. But I do find it confusing that there are some on this site for some unknown reason seem to think they are far superior to others!! Especially ones that demand a certain type when they're no where near that type themselves!! Like I only meet gym fit people even though I'm far from gym fit myself and possibly 10 stone over weight!! Or I'm 35 but in reality I'm 55 but I look good for my age!! Sometimes this whole site loses all sense of reality!! I know we all look at ourselves differently in the mirror!!! But some people's mirrors are so full of shit!! It just amazes me how some people can put themselves so high up on a pedestal. wondering what others think??

"

We think it's called freedom of choice. What's being superior of hypocritical of that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't wish to offend anyone this is only an observation. But I do find it confusing that there are some on this site for some unknown reason seem to think they are far superior to others!! Especially ones that demand a certain type when they're no where near that type themselves!! Like I only meet gym fit people even though I'm far from gym fit myself and possibly 10 stone over weight!! Or I'm 35 but in reality I'm 55 but I look good for my age!! Sometimes this whole site loses all sense of reality!! I know we all look at ourselves differently in the mirror!!! But some people's mirrors are so full of shit!! It just amazes me how some people can put themselves so high up on a pedestal. wondering what others think??

We think it's called freedom of choice. What's being superior of hypocritical of that?"

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

It's bleeding obvious and has been said a million times before on various threads but the fact that men outnumber women on here by about fifteen to one means that most women on here will be punching way above their weight attractiveness wise and men way under. Hence women can post profiles with a massive list of desiderata and still get meets whereas men can be "up for anything" and still won't get meets.

The problem is that there are far far more men in the world who want NSA sex than there are women. Ditto with non vanilla sex.

To use the crude numbering system mentioned above, a woman who might be physically a 5, if she is up for Pervy stuff and doesn't expect sex to lead to a relationship automatically becomes a 9 and can thus pull men who are physically 9.

Until such time as male and female attitudes to casual sex are the same, that's always going to be the case. There's no point moaning about it.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

...


"I thought this was going to be about the self entitled up themself people who think that they deserve a reply within a specific time period.

Some people seem to think they are really rather special.

I know I'm rather special

Do you need a tissue dear?

No thanks. The dribble dries after a while. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a biggish lass and I've had hundreds of messages from gym fit guys with bulging biceps and washboard abs.

Should I tell them all to do one as I'm not as body beautiful as them? I think not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't wish to offend anyone this is only an observation. But I do find it confusing that there are some on this site for some unknown reason seem to think they are far superior to others!! Especially ones that demand a certain type when they're no where near that type themselves!! Like I only meet gym fit people even though I'm far from gym fit myself and possibly 10 stone over weight!! Or I'm 35 but in reality I'm 55 but I look good for my age!! Sometimes this whole site loses all sense of reality!! I know we all look at ourselves differently in the mirror!!! But some people's mirrors are so full of shit!! It just amazes me how some people can put themselves so high up on a pedestal. wondering what others think??

"

Why should it bother you if it doesnt affect you personally. I have Black as my preference because its what I like. This is our fairyland our make believe wishes can come true. Who cares what people ask for. Just accept it and get along and have fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a biggish lass and I've had hundreds of messages from gym fit guys with bulging biceps and washboard abs.

Should I tell them all to do one as I'm not as body beautiful as them? I think not."
You are a hotty Ms V. I am sure its not only biceps you set a bulging!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a biggish lass and I've had hundreds of messages from gym fit guys with bulging biceps and washboard abs.

Should I tell them all to do one as I'm not as body beautiful as them? I think not."

Stunning lady. Why should you. Enjoy yourself. They would be fortunate to meet you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's ok to state your type an what you're looking for.

Even if you arnt that type of person yourself.

What bugs me is when they say they are 35 an infact they are actually 55. Just to get younger people. I have walked away from two meets because of this. It's a total waste of time. Especially when they're so many women who want older men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I believe there are even some men on this site who want to meet women.... despite not being one themselves!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is the OP just stamping his feet a little maybe??

His status currently says...."Not a great night on cam when everyone just ignores you!!! This site has had it's day for me!!".

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By *iredhandMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"Diggers I think you have dug a very big hole from which to climb from!

You have to accept that FAB is a recreational sex site

Its a swinging site not a sex site "

Fab is both, as imo swinging would involve more than 2 people, and there are plenty on here that are simply after 1 on 1 fun. So unless you are a couple looking for one or more to join you or are single and looking for a couple or more to join you, it isn't swinging.

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By *infulSandyCouple
over a year ago

London


"Is the OP just stamping his feet a little maybe??

His status currently says...."Not a great night on cam when everyone just ignores you!!! This site has had it's day for me!!"."

Yeah, not looking good. If he thought that this post would bring about some enlightening revelation that would lead to greater success with meets then I think he may be disappointed.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I wasn't being gender specific when I put up the post! I actually prefer bbw's and most of me meets have been with bbw!! It was just an example of how some people can be deluded with reality!! Like most posts it tends to go off subject in a way!! It's was mainly meant to be about ego's and self righteousness!! But I expect if I was a woman and I'd posted something similar maybe it would of got a completely different reaction!!

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By *umboyyMan
over a year ago

dublin, kildare


"I wasn't being gender specific when I put up the post! I actually prefer bbw's and most of me meets have been with bbw!! It was just an example of how some people can be deluded with reality!! Like most posts it tends to go off subject in a way!! It's was mainly meant to be about ego's and self righteousness!! But I expect if I was a woman and I'd posted something similar maybe it would of got a completely different reaction!!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wasn't being gender specific when I put up the post! I actually prefer bbw's and most of me meets have been with bbw!! It was just an example of how some people can be deluded with reality!! Like most posts it tends to go off subject in a way!! It's was mainly meant to be about ego's and self righteousness!! But I expect if I was a woman and I'd posted something similar maybe it would of got a completely different reaction!!"

WTF? Now you're totally contradicting yourself. Do you only open your mouth to change feet?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wasn't being gender specific when I put up the post! I actually prefer bbw's and most of me meets have been with bbw!! It was just an example of how some people can be deluded with reality!! Like most posts it tends to go off subject in a way!! It's was mainly meant to be about ego's and self righteousness!! But I expect if I was a woman and I'd posted something similar maybe it would of got a completely different reaction!!"

I don't really understand your argument. Surely they are only deluded with reality if they can't meet the type of person they are aiming to meet? If that were the case, then maybe they are deluded. But I'm not sure how you could tell that unless they were publicly moaning about it. Again though, so what if they are deluded?

And for the record, I would challenge the flaws in the comments of anyone regardless of gender

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By *ingleman2020Man
over a year ago

UK

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. As long as they both find each other sexy who cares!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Although circumstance has led to zero meets to date, I am chatting with stunning women.

To say I am punching well above my weight implies that both I am not worthy of the attention of insanely attractive women, and that the ladies in question have low standards.

That is not true on either score.

The only person you are competing with on here is yourself...

Some people may appear to have more success than others, but it depends on your interpretation of success.

I chat with a lady who rarely meets. I rarely meet. Chances of us meeting are virtually zero, but we are chatting away like friends who have known each other for years. I would rate that as a success in my book.

As someone has already mentioned "buyers market", I'll point out that If you ain't the customer, you are the product.

People are people, not conquests. You make your own luck on here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does the comment when your in a hole stop digging resonate with anyone OP

Since when did mutual attraction become a case of looking in a mirror and then looking for whoever you perceive matches your reflection..

Off back to the man cave shaking head with resignation.

Why do I bother...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh yawn!

This is just another moan thread that should be titled " Why won't any of you fat bitches shag me "

We should know our place and be flattered that a God like yourself asks how we are!

The cheek of it!

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By *itvclaireTV/TS
over a year ago

Birmingham


"So you are saying that people should only meet the type of person that is the same physical build as them? Does preference not play a part at all? "

All the 6ft ladies please form a queue for me.

XX

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

We simply bypass those who will not be interested.

Life's too short to fret / complain about things that you have no control over, or don't effect you.

Nita

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By *unforus1965Couple
over a year ago

MIDLANDS


"Oh yawn!

This is just another moan thread that should be titled " Why won't any of you fat bitches shag me "

We should know our place and be flattered that a God like yourself asks how we are!

The cheek of it!

"

We did think that there was a touch or arrogance in the original posting.

Just our opinion.

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By *infulSandyCouple
over a year ago

London

From your profile OP

"I believe myself to be an easy going guy with a fun sense of humour and an open mind."

Surely you can see how your posts are at odds with the way you described yourself.

Genuinely not trying to start a fight or anger you , I just think you should have a think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Diggers I think you have dug a very big hole from which to climb from!

You have to accept that FAB is a recreational sex site

Its a swinging site not a sex site

Please explain the difference?

A lot of single guys ask that question.

I am genuinely interested to know the difference?

Over time you will find out.

Or maybe start a new thread of your own asking that same question. I am happy in this thread thanks. If there is a difference in swinging and recreational sex I would be truly interested to know?

My view for what its worth is that recreational sex is like minded adults meeting socially and in a hedonistic environment for sex that is, fro the most part, non committal?"

It's just shagging around. Some people need to call it Swinging so they don't feel bad about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't wish to offend anyone this is only an observation. But I do find it confusing that there are some on this site for some unknown reason seem to think they are far superior to others!! Especially ones that demand a certain type when they're no where near that type themselves!! Like I only meet gym fit people even though I'm far from gym fit myself and possibly 10 stone over weight!! Or I'm 35 but in reality I'm 55 but I look good for my age!! Sometimes this whole site loses all sense of reality!! I know we all look at ourselves differently in the mirror!!! But some people's mirrors are so full of shit!! It just amazes me how some people can put themselves so high up on a pedestal. wondering what others think??

"

I'm a big girl, am I only allowed to meet big men? My preference is young and fit....many seem to like me too. In conclusion we can meet who we want, thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So what you're essentially saying is that only those deemed to be attractive should be allowed to have and state preferences? Everyone else should put up with what they can get and be grateful? Yeah. Good one op.

Anyone can state their preference but you have to be realistic. An overweight 65 year old bloke may have a preference for slim 25 year old women but his chances of satisfying that preference is virtually nil. Hence, if he has any sense, he will adjust his preferences, always assuming he prefers to meet someone rather than no one.

The sliver of truth in the original post is that women can pretty much hold out for their first preferences on here, given supply and demand.

But so what if people want to be unrealistic in their preferences? I don't understand why others get irritated by that? If I don't like someone's demands I ignore their profile. "

I have very specific preferences. It makes it very unlikely I'll find someone that matches them. I won't change them just for a crap fuck with someone I'm not compatible with.

Funny how it's always men cry wanking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've admired and fabbed some of your pics before OP, I do hope you're not implying that I'm not entitled to do so as my body isn't as gym fit as yours?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have found those really hung up on finding people who exactly meet there physical requirements are not great play meets, they are not looking for a mental click just a physical attraction and the play doesn't benefit.

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By *onnie And Clyde9070Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"From your profile OP

"I believe myself to be an easy going guy with a fun sense of humour and an open mind."

Surely you can see how your posts are at odds with the way you described yourself.

Genuinely not trying to start a fight or anger you , I just think you should have a think."

His profile text is an advert for himself with a view to getting laid. His posts on this thread a true representation of himself, his views, his outlook and his opinion of other people.

Not having a go at the OP. Far from it. But that's how it appears to come across.

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By *unforus1965Couple
over a year ago

MIDLANDS


"From your profile OP

"I believe myself to be an easy going guy with a fun sense of humour and an open mind."

Surely you can see how your posts are at odds with the way you described yourself.

Genuinely not trying to start a fight or anger you , I just think you should have a think.

His profile text is an advert for himself with a view to getting laid. His posts on this thread a true representation of himself, his views, his outlook and his opinion of other people.

Not having a go at the OP. Far from it. But that's how it appears to come across. "

Very well put.

Agree totally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't wish to offend anyone this is only an observation. But I do find it confusing that there are some on this site for some unknown reason seem to think they are far superior to others!! Especially ones that demand a certain type when they're no where near that type themselves!! Like I only meet gym fit people even though I'm far from gym fit myself and possibly 10 stone over weight!! Or I'm 35 but in reality I'm 55 but I look good for my age!! Sometimes this whole site loses all sense of reality!! I know we all look at ourselves differently in the mirror!!! But some people's mirrors are so full of shit!! It just amazes me how some people can put themselves so high up on a pedestal. wondering what others think??

"

I think that anyone can ask for anything they want. Whether they get it or not is another matter. What difference it could possibly make to you and your experience here, escapes me as you have the choice that if you don't find people attractive, don't message them. Here endeth the lesson...

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By *DontExistWoman
over a year ago

•+• Silicon valley. •+•

i'm worth a lot more than what is offered to me on here.

if other people don't think so then fair enough, but what i think i am and what i think i deserve are the only things that matter.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"i'm worth a lot more than what is offered to me on here.

if other people don't think so then fair enough, but what i think i am and what i think i deserve are the only things that matter."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont tend to look at a lengthy profile if its full of must haves and dos and donts - im obviously never going to be special enough for their super high standards -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This place is for fulfilling peoples' fantasies.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville


"This place is for fulfilling peoples' fantasies. "

Yes such as people turning up when they say they will

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Not read the whole thread but I'm old and fat. I like young and fit guys.

I'm not up my own arse, that's who I'm attracted to. And I meet some lovely ones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am fussy about a certain type but not necessarily handsome in a conventional way. I do like a gym fit body and height however. Bank balance ormjob status are.irrelevant as its.not like I'm hoping to marry him! But I do like a classy, articulate, educated man yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I right royally don't give a shit! What people are looking for on here is up to them and I wish them luck in finding it. What they do doesn't affect or bother me at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know quite a lot of fat, bald men who are married to slim, attractive women..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not read the whole thread but I'm old and fat. I like young and fit guys.

I'm not up my own arse, that's who I'm attracted to. And I meet some lovely ones "

I meet and keep meeting them. Some evening walk around in public with me

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Not read the whole thread but I'm old and fat. I like young and fit guys.

I'm not up my own arse, that's who I'm attracted to. And I meet some lovely ones

I meet and keep meeting them. Some evening walk around in public with me "

And so they should

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By *infulSandyCouple
over a year ago

London


"From your profile OP

"I believe myself to be an easy going guy with a fun sense of humour and an open mind."

Surely you can see how your posts are at odds with the way you described yourself.

Genuinely not trying to start a fight or anger you , I just think you should have a think.

His profile text is an advert for himself with a view to getting laid. His posts on this thread a true representation of himself, his views, his outlook and his opinion of other people.

Not having a go at the OP. Far from it. But that's how it appears to come across. "

I agree, I am just not sure OP was aware of that.

Had he figured that out on his own it could have been an enlightening self realisation.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"I know quite a lot of fat, bald men who are married to slim, attractive women.."

Isn't that quite a lot to do with the formers large.....wallet?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't wish to offend anyone this is only an observation. But I do find it confusing that there are some on this site for some unknown reason seem to think they are far superior to others!! Especially ones that demand a certain type when they're no where near that type themselves!! Like I only meet gym fit people even though I'm far from gym fit myself and possibly 10 stone over weight!! Or I'm 35 but in reality I'm 55 but I look good for my age!! Sometimes this whole site loses all sense of reality!! I know we all look at ourselves differently in the mirror!!! But some people's mirrors are so full of shit!! It just amazes me how some people can put themselves so high up on a pedestal. wondering what others think??

"

I didn't realise until recently that i had a type...whilst I'm not "gym fit" as far as NSA sex goes my tastes lean towards "fit" guys with dark hair and tattoos perhaps I should wind my neck in then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Diggers I think you have dug a very big hole from which to climb from!

You have to accept that FAB is a recreational sex site where people can express their preferences without any influence from convention or the norm. Its just a fact of this corner of the web that those who want (maybe) the unobtainable in the vanilla world could ad do indulge in those preferences.

Whist there is the supply to satisfy the demand then there is no hypocrisy. You are one of over 100,000 single guys that are in a long line.

Life is a series of challenges to be met with vigour and hope!

I understand attraction is vital for some! But there are a lot of profiles on this site that are quite blunt with the wording of what and who they want!! I'm completely open minded on who I meet because as I have learnt people can be completely different in reality compare to there profile.

Other things being equal, the vast majority of us, men and women, prefer to have sex with people who are conventionally attractive. For men that means slim, toned, nice head of hair and for women, slim, curves, firm breast. It's the evolutionary imperative.

However, given that far more men are into non relationship sex than women, the former vastly out number the latter on here. Hence the women can make all sorts of demands and still get the hot men, even when they don't meet conventional hotness standards themselves. . Men, on the other hand, cannot be so choosy.

Until such time as there are as many wimen on here as men that isn't going to change.

"

Pretty much.

Also, could have sworn OP has made this exact same thread before. People need to stop taking rejection so personally :laugh:

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also being tall/big cock/BBC/gym fit is not the be all and end all. You can have PLENTY of success on here by actively attending socials/club nights instead of being just another socially awkward horny dude looking to satisfy his Friday night horniness.

I would say understanding the social nature of swinging goes a long way further than simply having a look. I have found meeting people to be a lot more stressful these days as:

1. People often end up feeling intimidated by someone of my stature/look. Of all the last five flakes I have had, every single one messaged me first and yet still bottled it. Many have veri's.

2. I'm a dick. Being patient and polite matters on here. Whether you like it or not you're going to have to do a lot of hoop jumping. The average girl gets about 50-100 messages a day on here. That facilitates a lot of poor concentration. Then add the fact that with couples you're often have to negotiate a liaison with both a man and woman...two decision makers pretty much means double the amount of objections to handle. If you're laid back and polite it will work in your favor but if you're abrasive/arrogant/intolerant like myself then its going to end up in a lot of wasted effort.

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By *ransGuyTV/TS
over a year ago

Cardiff


"I wasn't being gender specific when I put up the post! I actually prefer bbw's and most of me meets have been with bbw!! It was just an example of how some people can be deluded with reality!! Like most posts it tends to go off subject in a way!! It's was mainly meant to be about ego's and self righteousness!! But I expect if I was a woman and I'd posted something similar maybe it would of got a completely different reaction!!"

So it's ok for those bbw to meet people who aren't the same body type as them, as long as they are meeting you..?

People having preferences and being attracted to and so looking for specific body types is not them being "deluded" or "self-righteous", and that's the reality of it.

According to you those bbw should have turned you down because you're rather muscular and fit and they aren't so they are obvious deluded to even think to try to meet someone so much fitter than themselves

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By *imetoexplore69Couple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Guys are far more likely to drop their standards for a discreet fuck on a sex site and with far more guys than girls the woman who wouldint score with said guys in "real life" situations get to be complimented on and fucked by guys the wouldint normally stand a chance with.you can't blame them and I'm sure you wouldint be bothered if it was the other way round lol.

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