FabSwingers.com forum: Why do most couples who want females..

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Insist on having no pics of the male half of the couple on their profile.

Is this something strategic or is it just a fantasy? Or bad sales technique?

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By *wo4FemCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Can't speak for everyone but we are looking for a lady to join us, and have pics of both of us on our profile.

Mr2

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

You are the exception to the rule on here. Decent pics and a good mix too.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"Insist on having no pics of the male half of the couple on their profile.

Is this something strategic or is it just a fantasy? Or bad sales technique?"

We have pictures of us both admittedly more of me as am the bi female.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I firmly believe that everyone should run their profile as they wish. However if you want to meet women or couples and the guy will be involved I think you should have pbotos of the guy available.

We won't interact with profiles where there are no pictures of the man.

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By *wo4FemCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

"You are the exception to the rule on here. Decent pics and a good mix too."

Thank you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

" we have pictures of us both admittedly more of me as am the bi female. "

Way more of you than him. Makes me think there must be something wrong with him if a couple profile doesnt show both fairly equally.

Obv if u arent wanting the man involved with the meet it doesn't matter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have pics of both but mostly mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have pictures of both of us. We feel that those that don't show the guy are generally hiding something ... Usually it's that the guy doesn't look after himself

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By *r C Miss CCouple
over a year ago

llanelli

we are not actively seeking single people, Male or female. But there is still more pictures of the mrs as she a little hottie. I think my pic would scare more people than anything lol. In all seriousness though.

Im very heavily tattooed and i dont want every tom dick and harry knowing who i am.

We are happy to send out clean and naughty pictures of us both though privately. Once we are happy the people we are talking to are who they say they are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get confused by this too. A lot of couples who message me tend to have their profiles geared towards the single guys, even if they are only looking for other women/couples. Only pictures of the female is more of a selling point towards the single male. It puts me off if I don't see the males properly too. I get that people are entitled to conduct their profiles how they see fit, but it just seems odd that couples who are looking for bi fems do this... perhaps it's just me though

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"We have pictures of both of us. We feel that those that don't show the guy are generally hiding something ... Usually it's that the guy doesn't look after himself "

The only times we've met couples who haven't had pictures of the man on their profile it's become clear that he's reluctant to join in or only wants to watch. Common sense tells us that this doesn't apply to all such profiles but we're not likely to take a chance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with the OP. I have noticed this a lot and had that exact same thought recently,

Is it because the women want interaction with another woman and don't want their bloke going near her? I have seen quite a few profiles where the wording goes along those lines.

If I am going to meet a couple I would probably want equal play with both of them.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

" I agree with the OP. I have noticed this a lot and had that exact same thought recently,

Is it because the women want interaction with another woman and don't want their bloke going near her? I have seen quite a few profiles where the wording goes along those lines.

If I am going to meet a couple I would probably want equal play with both of them. "

From a single guy POV if I am meeting a couple yes I want to see the lady, but I would want to see the guy as well not because I liked guys; more to do if they are some muscular rugby type guy, I am not that

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By *mm and HerCouple
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

We're also looking for females to join us - and for better or worse, there are pics of us both.

We think pics definitely help but it's not a guaranteed fix. Goodness knows, it wouldn't be possible to get fewer messages whether there were pics of Hmm (me) or not than we do now!

But I wonder (thinking out loud) if it's two things-

1) that the woman is considered the more attractive of the two (true in my opinion in our case) and 2) that cpls think they need to persuade a woman more with what more they might offer? Not true in our case, but certainly seen profiles where the female gets, er, star billing shall we say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get confused by this too. A lot of couples who message me tend to have their profiles geared towards the single guys, even if they are only looking for other women/couples. Only pictures of the female is more of a selling point towards the single male. It puts me off if I don't see the males properly too. I get that people are entitled to conduct their profiles how they see fit, but it just seems odd that couples who are looking for bi fems do this... perhaps it's just me though

How would ours fair in your humble opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our pics are certainly more skewed towards Naughty, but we do have pics of me, Waxing, too.

We like to meet all sorts, men, women and couples, despite our profile currently saying no single guys, and so we try to have something that appeals to everyone, and when it comes to messaging people, we have a selection of pics of me that we can share with the select few that aren't for the general viewing of everyone.

When we want to meet couples, Naughty wants to know what the male half looks like in equal measure to the female.

It's something that does bug us that more couples don't have more pics of the male half, it would make things a fair bit easier to see if you like the look of a couple physically as well as what they've said about themselves.

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By *r mrs pCouple
over a year ago

taunton

"Insist on having no pics of the male half of the couple on their profile.

Is this something strategic or is it just a fantasy? Or bad sales technique?"

We dont have public pics of Mr P as he is sooooo bloody handsome our inbox would go crazy with offers from hot nubile young bi ladies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How would ours fair in your humble opinion

Very nice!! Pictures of both of you. Sexy too. Just the type of profile I like

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley

Can't speak for anyone else but we don't have pics of Mr Flirty because he doesn't really get involved. Mrs Flirty wants a lover not him. There's a lot of guys here who're pretending to be couples and use old pics of their ex partners (or others) to try to lure people into believing that. When it comes to meetings, they usually then try to make a last minute excuse that the female is ill or away but they've been given permission to play alone blah blah blah. It's all very predictable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is totally one of our gripes too! We want to see everyone we're playing with. Everyone gets involved when we play, no spectators lol

Actually ours is rare in that there are more pics of Tim than me. Then again, he is a rampant exhibitionist lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How would ours fair in your humble opinion

Very nice!! Pictures of both of you. Sexy too. Just the type of profile I like

Thank you!

Sarah is far hotter than I am but it's only fair to put pics of us both up.

Your profile is very classy! Like I presume you to be

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

I get it if the couple are only looking for men to meet.

However when they are looking for couples,but only have pics of the lady ,its a delete from us.

We have lots of Jack on our profile .

Miss

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

" we have pictures of us both admittedly more of me as am the bi female.

Way more of you than him. Makes me think there must be something wrong with him if a couple profile doesnt show both fairly equally.

Obv if u arent wanting the man involved with the meet it doesn't matter."

He has to be careful with work but it is more about the female action.

There's nothing wrong with Dick, he's better looking than I am, fitter and younger with a big cock.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Insist on having no pics of the male half of the couple on their profile.

Is this something strategic or is it just a fantasy? Or bad sales technique?"

Most couples in general don't have pics of the male half in my experience, or very few. It's particularly frustrating when part of a straight couple looking to meet another.

We found that a lot of the time the male half doesn't turn out to be much to look at so can only presume they keep their pics off the profile so as to keep it more appealing.

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By *kultraCouple
over a year ago

chesterfield

"Can't speak for everyone but we are looking for a lady to join us, and have pics of both of us on our profile.

Mr2"

Same here. We have pics of both of us although there are more of me because he doesn't like having his photo taken

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By *oredShitlessxxxCouple
over a year ago

luton

"You are the exception to the rule on here. Decent pics and a good mix too."

We do the same, as we are also an open honest couple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm no expert on this subject but maybe there's more pictures of the female half of the couple because she's what most people (men and other women) want. Kind of like window shopping. I know it doesn't apply to everyone but just my thought on the issue.

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By *kultraCouple
over a year ago

chesterfield

" we have pictures of us both admittedly more of me as am the bi female.

Way more of you than him. Makes me think there must be something wrong with him if a couple profile doesnt show both fairly equally.

Obv if u arent wanting the man involved with the meet it doesn't matter."

I'm not sure how you come to that conclusion. My husband doesn't particularly like having photos taken so there are more of me. It's as simple as that. It's not that he doesn't want to be involved in the play or that there is anything wrong with him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Must because thats what the guy wants and wont let another guy go near his mrs or he is insecure ,lets be honest most woman love cock we meet single woman ,single men and couples we see thats only fair ,bit one sided only meeting just woman x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Insist on having no pics of the male half of the couple on their profile.

Is this something strategic or is it just a fantasy? Or bad sales technique?"

We'd love a single lady to join us in FFM however as I'm not Bi this seems to be a little difficult

MrsK

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nice to see both partners on a profile to make that initial assessment to wether one wants to take things further, can be difficult to get a matching pair at times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Blimey, we're surprised at the pessimistic assumptions.

We're very well aware of pic hunters and for us, we consider discretion important.

It's very likely people only post pics where they look good and what's written on profile pages has no tonality and doesn't convey personality.

So we just prefer to meet them socially in a pub.

Each to their own.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"Blimey, we're surprised at the pessimistic assumptions.

We're very well aware of pic hunters and for us, we consider discretion important.

It's very likely people only post pics where they look good and what's written on profile pages has no tonality and doesn't convey personality.

So we just prefer to meet them socially in a pub.

Each to their own."

We too have a social first to see if there is a mutual attractions.

We have met people that don't look like their photos

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Chudleigh

It is one of our bug bears as well! So we have gone with 11 Beth, 5 Melv and 3 both. It is so much easier to have an idea about a couple or single guys if the guys picture is also shown. It doesn't have to be face pic's, so the excuses from the guys doesn't stand - show us ladies your bodies and give us something else to look at!

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Lack of photos of the guy is one of my pet peeves.

If you intend to play as a couple you should have both on your profile. Regardless of who who are looking for. We do, and even have face photos of us together in private.

Nita

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By *edoriartyCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough

"Lack of photos of the guy is one of my pet peeves.

If you intend to play as a couple you should have both on your profile. Regardless of who who are looking for. We do, and even have face photos of us together in private.

Nita"

It's one of my pet peeves too. So many profiles I look at only have pics of the women.

Red

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I assume that a couple's profile,with a bi female, that has no photos of the man, want a woman for the female and the man watches. If they aren't advertising both of them they aren't both on offer.

If I wanted a meeting with a woman I would look on single female profiles.

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Chudleigh

"Lack of photos of the guy is one of my pet peeves.

If you intend to play as a couple you should have both on your profile. Regardless of who who are looking for. We do, and even have face photos of us together in private.

Nita

It's one of my pet peeves too. So many profiles I look at only have pics of the women.

Red"

Great pic's of both of you!

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By *imjohnCouple
over a year ago

Clacton on sea, Essex

"Insist on having no pics of the male half of the couple on their profile.

Is this something strategic or is it just a fantasy? Or bad sales technique?"

We display pics of both of us & meet singles ladies with no problems, if you seriously want to meet people you do need to have pics on your profile or be able to send them privately.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have pictures of us on public and private

Master

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By *lan157Man
over a year ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex

I would think that many couples feel that photos of the male detract from their profile not enhance it. It might make them as undesirable as a single male profile to other couples or single ladies!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I would think that many couples feel that photos of the male detract from their profile not enhance it. It might make them as undesirable as a single male profile to other couples or single ladies! "

No pictures of the male makes them less desirable to us and we won't respond to messages from them. As the female of the couple I find it a bit disrespectful that they expect me to go on a blind date.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have mostly picture of Rebecca on ours because she likes taking pictures... I don't. But nothing wrong with me happy to send pictures if needed esp now with the direct pictures

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Insist on having no pics of the male half of the couple on their profile.

Is this something strategic or is it just a fantasy? Or bad sales technique?"

I'd say it's definitely a bad sales technique because it puts me off! Single men profiles that display more of a female in their pics than they do of themselves or have an action pic as their profile pic is another thing that just puts me off!

#rantover

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

I think they some how forget that the fems they're looking for are Bi and therefore like men and women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think they some how forget that the fems they're looking for are Bi and therefore like men and women"

Yeah very few fems on here are lesbian, I would say the majority are straight or bi so like the OP has pointed out its odd not to have many pics of male in a couple profile x

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Blimey, we're surprised at the pessimistic assumptions.

We're very well aware of pic hunters and for us, we consider discretion important.

It's very likely people only post pics where they look good and what's written on profile pages has no tonality and doesn't convey personality.

So we just prefer to meet them socially in a pub.

Each to their own."

For us its an assumption born of experience. The times we've met couples who've not shown pictures of the man and had a social followed by a play meet its transpired that they're voyeurs only. As a straight woman who isn't a voyeur this leaves me out on a limb. So now unless a clear picture of the man comes with a first message we decline.

As you say, each to their own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Blimey, we're surprised at the pessimistic assumptions.

We're very well aware of pic hunters and for us, we consider discretion important.

It's very likely people only post pics where they look good and what's written on profile pages has no tonality and doesn't convey personality.

So we just prefer to meet them socially in a pub.

Each to their own.

As you say, each to their own."

Your experience has been different to ours, maybe we select meets differently. We're both in our pics but just partially. She takes pics of herself and sends them to me, our main profile pic is such a one.

We just prefer to meet socially and take it from there. Works for us.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Blimey, we're surprised at the pessimistic assumptions.

We're very well aware of pic hunters and for us, we consider discretion important.

It's very likely people only post pics where they look good and what's written on profile pages has no tonality and doesn't convey personality.

So we just prefer to meet them socially in a pub.

Each to their own.

As you say, each to their own.

We just prefer to meet socially and take it from there. Works for us.

Great. Our way works for us. As we both said, each to their own, that's the bottom line when it comes to this.

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By *lan157Man
over a year ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex

I am always suprised when I see selfie like photos using mirrors etc in couples profiles. Did they not think to take each other's photo or does it say something else...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am always suprised when I see selfie like photos using mirrors etc in couples profiles. Did they not think to take each other's photo or does it say something else... "

Yes, we just don't pics. We have meets and forgot to take photos. Pic hunters put us off, so we left 6 on and deleted the rest off.

What people need to realise it that some people are camera orientated, others are just not.

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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago

swingers clubs

Even as a couple rather than a single female we won't entertain profiles with no pics of the male or twice as many of the female, and to that end have taken couples off our 'looking for'. If we met in a club then we can get a feel for the couple there.

We don't buy into the argument that because the female in the couple is bi they should have more/ most of their pics of the female. Unless of course she is the only one playing with the single lady joining them.

Same for "but the female half is hotter"!!

Of course, people can conduct their profile on which ever manner they like but unless they trade feedback they could be missing out on meets.

FWIW our profile is set up for singles (mainly guys) but when we're looking for females we hide XX's pics and those of MFM and gangbang nature since they're be irrelevant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And you've probably met and played with a couple in a club and had a brilliant time, yet their Fab profile had no pics or veris, lol

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

If a profile and picture balance works for the couple who have posted it that's all that matters. If someone doesn't like their profile it's too bad - just look for another that you do like.

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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago

swingers clubs

"And you've probably met and played with a couple in a club and had a brilliant time, yet their Fab profile had no pics or veris, lol"

We probably have tbf. However, in the club you are talking to the couple you have met, not a profile on the Internet.

A profile is there to showcase the people. If it doesn't do it very well, we move on.

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By *onkeyandBonesCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

We probably fall into the above, although Mrs does love being in front of the camera

For Mr, if we are honest we find it hard to know what pictures for him to pose for! Does that makes sense lol?

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By *edoriartyCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough

"Lack of photos of the guy is one of my pet peeves.

If you intend to play as a couple you should have both on your profile. Regardless of who who are looking for. We do, and even have face photos of us together in private.

Nita

It's one of my pet peeves too. So many profiles I look at only have pics of the women.

Red

Great pic's of both of you!

Thanks

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By *edoriartyCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough

"Even as a couple rather than a single female we won't entertain profiles with no pics of the male or twice as many of the female, and to that end have taken couples off our 'looking for'. If we met in a club then we can get a feel for the couple there.

Same for "but the female half is hotter"!!

Of course, people can conduct their profile on which ever manner they like but unless they trade feedback they could be missing out on meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have an even spread, just need more photos overall maybe. Weve never found a woman on here though, weve found them away from here.

So hi any ladies who are looking, we travel, we host, we'd like to get to know you and make sure you to have a great time and not use you as a plaything. Fabswingers reputation is on the line and its down to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would think that many couples feel that photos of the male detract from their profile not enhance it. It might make them as undesirable as a single male profile to other couples or single ladies!

Same.

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