FabSwingers.com forum: Not looking for single guys...!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

You know how it goes...a new profile pops up, you read it. Read it again. Then think, would this person/couple like to hear from me? I seem to match their requirements. Craft a polite introduction, attach a face pic and....

...profile reads "Not looking for single guys!"

I really feel for people who are forced to do this as they're bombarded with "Hi, wot u up 2?" Wanna fuck?" "Let's meet now!" messages.

It buggers it up completely for those of us polite enough to take our time...

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By *aelawMan
over a year ago

Paisley

"You know how it goes...a new profile pops up, you read it. Read it again. Then think, would this person/couple like to hear from me? I seem to match their requirements. Craft a polite introduction, attach a face pic and....

...profile reads "Not looking for single guys!"

I really feel for people who are forced to do this as they're bombarded with "Hi, wot u up 2?" Wanna fuck?" "Let's meet now!" messages.

It buggers it up completely for those of us polite enough to take our time...

It is what is it. Maybe they weren't actually looking for Single Guys :O

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By *all-Eddies QosCouple
over a year ago

wirral

How??... If someone doesn't want messages from single men then they don't want them...it's.now about how well crafted the message is, or the picture being great....

They don't want single men... The end

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By *unforus1965Couple
over a year ago

MIDLANDS

...profile reads "Not looking for single guys!"

I really feel for people who are forced to do this as they're bombarded with "Hi, wot u up 2?" Wanna fuck?" "Let's meet now!" messages.

It buggers it up completely for those of us polite enough to take our time...

Thing is, polite or not we still wouldn't be looking for single guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It just gives women/couples control over which single guys they interact with. I know it's annoying when you see it on a profile you think looks well matched to you, but nothing can be done about it. Just Fab their pics and hope they notice!

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By *razycoupleniCouple
over a year ago

belfast

We don't want to meet single guys. Currently we aren't looking single and have no thoughts too either. Should we allow single guys to message us even though they have no chance? Should we open it up for the good ones? Better being honest we think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are currently not looking for single guys, we do at times like to meet a single guy for MfM fun.

However we get sooooooo many messages from single guys that we put that at the top of our profile in capitals just to make it clear, so the single guys don't waste their time messaging us.

When we are looking for single guys we remove the statement on our profile and sift through the rubbish messages first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

...profile reads "Not looking for single guys!"

I really feel for people who are forced to do this as they're bombarded with "Hi, wot u up 2?" Wanna fuck?" "Let's meet now!" messages.

It buggers it up completely for those of us polite enough to take our time...

no it doesn't. they don't want to meet guys for a whole raft of reasons. and you haven't read their profile as it's very clearly placed on a profile with guts blocked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really wouldn't worry about it. If you're not having any luck get yourself to a local social or club and get networking

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By *ilent.KnightMan
over a year ago

Swindon

1 see someone you like

2 click to send message

If blocked fab pics

If not, go back and read profile to see if they're more than a pretty face/pair of boobs/bum

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By *rightonCheekyMan
over a year ago

Brighton

It buggers it up completely for those of us polite enough to take our time...

If only I had a quid for every time I heard this. It's lame and it's wrong. It's impossible for somebody else to bugger it up for you on here. You make your own luck just as in life in general.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm looking for single guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't see the problem myself. People are looking for what they are looking for. Some are not looking for females, some not couples, some not males, some not Bi, some not over 50 ect ect. So what?

Just look for those who are looking for single guys OP. Nobody is buggering it up for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm looking for single guys.

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you'll find plenty of them on here lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How??... If someone doesn't want messages from single men then they don't want them...it's.now about how well crafted the message is, or the picture being great....

They don't want single men... The end"

The mind boggles!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you read the profile,then read it again,and the profile says no single males,why as a single male would you even contemplate sending a well crafted message?

Or do you think they mean every single male except you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm looking for single guys.

you'll find plenty of them on here lol

Ha thanks but I think they're a little shy atm keep looking but hardly message me.

Not giving up yet it's early days.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you read the profile,then read it again,and the profile says no single males,why as a single male would you even contemplate sending a well crafted message?

Or do you think they mean every single male except you?

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clearly that what he means

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By *aelawMan
over a year ago

Paisley

"I'm looking for single guys.

*fist bump*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to have "not looking for single men" on my profile but it was only because I had blocked them from messaging me. I wanted to and still want to meet single guys but I do the searching and messaging myself.

I put my age range up now which stops the messages but doesn't say "not looking for single men" on my profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do you not look at the looking for section before wasting your time reading the rest of it?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

My point is they were looking in the first instance but the number of messages received is overwhelming. The not looking bit is added later.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My point is they were looking in the first instance but the number of messages received is overwhelming. The not looking bit is added later. "

It is what it is, just their way of running their profile in a way that suits them. Still plenty of others you can message.

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By *rightonCheekyMan
over a year ago

Brighton

"My point is they were looking in the first instance but the number of messages received is overwhelming. The not looking bit is added later. "

So you think they shouldn't be allowed to change their profile to not looking for single guys? Blimey

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d you ‘read it and read it again’, how do you miss the bit that says ‘not looking for single guys’?

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"I’d you ‘read it and read it again’, how do you miss the bit that says ‘not looking for single guys’? "
selective reading....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you ‘read it and read it again’, how do you miss the bit that says ‘not looking for single guys’? selective reading...."

Indeed!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Not at all! Its obviously to filter out those who instantly send messages that leave people with 600+ messages to wade thru. You'd have thought single guys would have got the message by now! Just my frustration coming out!

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By *rightonCheekyMan
over a year ago

Brighton

"Not at all! Its obviously to filter out those who instantly send messages that leave people with 600+ messages to wade thru. You'd have thought single guys would have got the message by now! Just my frustration coming out!"

Yep but you're one of the 600. It's really not difficult to understand!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ours says no single guys as the very first line of text and then we repeat it a few lubes later but we still get messages winks and random friend invites

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Don't really get the point of the original post to be honest if the OP had read the profile he wouldn't be sending a carefully crafted message in the first place surely?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really CBA any more...

It's simple if they're not looking for single guys then whining about your writing skills changes nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't really get the point of the original post to be honest if the OP had read the profile he wouldn't be sending a carefully crafted message in the first place surely?!

Me neither but if they're not looking for single guy's this means they're blocked from messaging surely so how has he crafted a well thought out message anyway?

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By *rightonCheekyMan
over a year ago

Brighton

"Don't really get the point of the original post to be honest if the OP had read the profile he wouldn't be sending a carefully crafted message in the first place surely?!

Me neither but if they're not looking for single guy's this means they're blocked from messaging surely so how has he crafted a well thought out message anyway?"

I think he's moaning about a new profile who hadn't finished with their settings and had blocked single guys after he messaged. He feels entitled and how dare there change their preferences ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't really get the point of the original post to be honest if the OP had read the profile he wouldn't be sending a carefully crafted message in the first place surely?!

Me neither but if they're not looking for single guy's this means they're blocked from messaging surely so how has he crafted a well thought out message anyway?

I think he's moaning about a new profile who hadn't finished with their settings and had blocked single guys after he messaged. He feels entitled and how dare there change their preferences ..."

Blimey is that all?! Shit happens, I'm sure you'll live OP!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi...what you up to?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My point is they were looking in the first instance but the number of messages received is overwhelming. The not looking bit is added later. "

how do you know the number of messages they received? maybe they found what they were looking for and subsequently blocked single guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you're a single guy and you haven't got the message...its like someone in a traffic jam complaining about the level of traffic while not realising tgat they're traffic too...you're one of the 600...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just turn bisexual instead, you'll no longer have to rely on women not being fussy!!!

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"Ours says no single guys as the very first line of text and then we repeat it a few lubes later but we still get messages winks and random friend invites

Auto correct hilarity right there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ours says no single guys as the very first line of text and then we repeat it a few lubes later but we still get messages winks and random friend invites

Auto correct hilarity right there

Single, male, anticipating all the lube, friend request sent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The Mrs has and will meet single guys but we gave up and put the single guys message filter back on. The reason being, she doesn't want to meet guys from the same county, Cumbria. So we made it clear and specified on our profile that the guy must be from outside of Cumbria but stopping in a hotel local to us.

The winks and messages started from guys who live 5 to 10 miles away.

So we just scrapped the idea.

We also don't wish to meet bi guys, even if the guy is single or as a couple, still doesn't stop winks and friend requests coming through off couples with bi guys.

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley

We're looking for a single guy - a guy who matches what's in our profile and feels we can offer what he's looking for. Yes there are loads of guys here but not loads who match what we're looking for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We're looking for a single guy - a guy who matches what's in our profile and feels we can offer what he's looking for. Yes there are loads of guys here but not loads who match what we're looking for. "

Put on your kevlar helmet and body armour......

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Just wonder what are the semantics around swinging for a couple and those for a single male?

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By *unforus1965Couple
over a year ago

MIDLANDS

...profile reads "Not looking for single guys!"

I really feel for people who are forced to do this as they're bombarded with "Hi, wot u up 2?" Wanna fuck?" "Let's meet now!" messages.

It buggers it up completely for those of us polite enough to take our time...

Aaahhh.

Hidden profile now.

Why??

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

I only meet single men but I prefer to do the first approach myself. so I use 'not looking for single men' as a filter to keep messages at a minimum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The last 5 people to view my profile are all couples, not looking for single guys. I'm not going to message them. But it is confusing me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The last 5 people to view my profile are all couples, not looking for single guys. I'm not going to message them. But it is confusing me?"

They like to search themselves rather than get lots of messages from unsuitable guys?

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

...profile reads "Not looking for single guys!"

I really feel for people who are forced to do this as they're bombarded with "Hi, wot u up 2?" Wanna fuck?" "Let's meet now!" messages.

It buggers it up completely for those of us polite enough to take our time...

From the tone in your Post, it sounds as if you'd ignore the message and contact anyway!

If that's correct, you let yourself fall into the category of Single Males who just blindly message galore without reading profiles!

If a profile says No Single Males, it means just that! How us it you assume they'd ignore their own request and happily receive a message from YOU?

Profiles are simple, read what they say and behave accordingly. Read and learn!

I see your profile is now hidden; does the proverb "if you can't stand the heat get out of the Kitchen?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

...profile reads "Not looking for single guys!"

I really feel for people who are forced to do this as they're bombarded with "Hi, wot u up 2?" Wanna fuck?" "Let's meet now!" messages.

It buggers it up completely for those of us polite enough to take our time...

Mostly everyone is blocked to save the drivel and I do my own searches

Occasionally I unblock the men to see what pops up x

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By *avedigger40Man
over a year ago

Harrietsham

Just use the Advanced Search option and look for ones that Are meeting single sausages dude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's a profile at the moment that says it's looking for men 18-99, but they've blocked all men. I wouldn't worry. My vanilla life is still ahead in terms of meeting sexy people. These sites just amplify people's quirks sometimes and very little else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's a profile at the moment that says it's looking for men 18-99, but they've blocked all men. I wouldn't worry. My vanilla life is still ahead in terms of meeting sexy people. These sites just amplify people's quirks sometimes and very little else. "

Perhaps they've just missed that bit when setting up there profile? Easy done.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The last 5 people to view my profile are all couples, not looking for single guys. I'm not going to message them. But it is confusing me?

They like to search themselves rather than get lots of messages from unsuitable guys?"

who even looks at who's viewed them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont meet single guys - dont take it personal

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

Could be a number of reasons most mentioned then other one could be that replying but looking for singles guys was a polite way to say I'm not interested in you personally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can mean they are looking to meet men but have them blocked from mailing as they go looking themselves. 'Not looking for single men' shows up when men are blocked from mailing.

Sometimes women and couples are looking for men but don't have them on their 'Looking for' list as it takes them off the searches and stops them being bombarded with mail from men. Simple.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

Are you really single op ?

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By *unforus1965Couple
over a year ago

MIDLANDS

"Are you really single op ? "

Great question!

A single guy contacted us the other day even though we clearly say no single guys, saying he couldn't accommodate because of teenage kids at home.

Funny thing he admitted to in the end was that his teenage kids also had a mother at home.

His wife.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"1 see someone you like

2 click to send message

If blocked fab pics

If not, go back and read profile to see if they're more than a pretty face/pair of boobs/bum

We suggest reading the profile before clicking send message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry can't see how this buggers it for you o/p?. Surely you just search people that want to meet single guys. Everyone has a choice some couples like to meet single guys others don't simple really. You don't meet single guys so in a sense maybe if your saying these couples should be meeting you then maybe you should meet single guys. Joking aside just use the advanced search and look for people actually meeting single guys save you a lot of time in the end

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I absolutely believe that honesty is the best policy. I would much rather know straight away if I have no chance with someone, rather than sending a message that is just going to get deleted.

Big-up yaself the 'no single men'gang.. at least you're being honest.

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