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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Always xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definately for us too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Cool I like to meet and chat then play x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ditto

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks first for swinging. Sorry if that sounds shallow, but that's the way it is.

Might surprise a lot of people, but good looking people can have nice personalities too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both xxx i like both .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I hope people think I'm nice and good looking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lol i got no looks , so rely on personality xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well I'm knackered on both accounts so I'll take what comes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It has to be a bit of both. I have to like the look of someone a bit, and i have to like him as a person just a bit too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well as I choose to carry on chatting or not from a face photo.. I go for looks first...

although they cant have a bad attitude.. lol

Cali

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Every1 is equal in my eyes x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have some great friends who have both, so both is best.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wet blankets don't get a look in for certain!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nah got to be honest i go for looks first

but if they have a shit personality i will loose interest

has to be a 50/50% mix of look and personality but i go for looks first

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What about me ? Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looks first for swinging. Sorry if that sounds shallow, but that's the way it is.

Might surprise a lot of people, but good looking people can have nice personalities too "

Stop talking about yourself Jack

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By *issbehaveCouple
over a year ago

wrexham

Funnily enough, we've been asked to meet a couple, but they havnt got any pics of any sort to send, even tho they want to see ours, and cos of that we won't meet, even for a social. Even if we didn't put looks over personality (which for us is 50/50 also) we wouldn't know who the hell we were meeting!!! Is that just us??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aye xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Funnily enough, we've been asked to meet a couple, but they havnt got any pics of any sort to send, even tho they want to see ours, and cos of that we won't meet, even for a social. Even if we didn't put looks over personality (which for us is 50/50 also) we wouldn't know who the hell we were meeting!!! Is that just us??"

Nope, that's understandable, surely there has to be an element of attraction even if personality comes first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Funnily enough, we've been asked to meet a couple, but they havnt got any pics of any sort to send, even tho they want to see ours, and cos of that we won't meet, even for a social. Even if we didn't put looks over personality (which for us is 50/50 also) we wouldn't know who the hell we were meeting!!! Is that just us??"

i wont meet without seeing people first simpy because as a working single mum my time to meet is very limited so when i do meet i wanat to know that theres at least some chance i will like them

I dont want to use a free night to go on a blind meet only to be back home a hour later because they dont take my fancy

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By *issbehaveCouple
over a year ago

wrexham

Our thoughts exactly, maybe they were just pic hunters, who knows? Who are we to judge? But it always makes us a bit sus when they won't send any pics at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

what jack said.

this isnt a dating site. both are important but looks more so for no strings sex

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By *r ManxMan
over a year ago

NeverWhere

Looks are important but their has to be a good personalitywith some sort of spark.

If not you might as well go and look at a porn site and pleasure your self.

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

personality and the ability to chat ..

definitely

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

Looks have to be first for me...shallow fucker i know...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like deep fuckers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

normally its the fanny i check for first...then I have to taste it...maybe after that I'll think about the personality

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

Has to be the whole package for us

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

depends on context, i really dont get how many ppl here only swing under such strict rules.

me i fuck ppl i'm attracted too, i can meet them on site, in clubs, on the street, what attracts me depends on where i am and what i am looking for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"depends on context, i really dont get how many ppl here only swing under such strict rules.

me i fuck ppl i'm attracted too, i can meet them on site, in clubs, on the street, what attracts me depends on where i am and what i am looking for"

street wino here...offering free drink...u know how to get it tho...ziiiiiip

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely both but poor attitude and bad manmers can make the sexiest person look UGLEE!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"normally its the fanny i check for first...then I have to taste it...maybe after that I'll think about the personality"

*of the person i meant...i know fannys dont have personalities ffs!

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

I prefer a good looking person with a comical but understanding personality Joe , but I have to live with my missus and she is sooooooo sexy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

personality wins for us everytime that is if i could spell it lol x

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

If I look at their photo and find myself reaching for a bucket, I am hardly likely to hang around chatting long enough to find what sort of personality they have.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

there has to be a degree of both I suppose!

The way I look at it now is that looks can sometimes get your foot in the door so to speak.... but personality will always keep it there!!!

signed...

Ugly Fecker of Tyneside....

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By *unlovers2009Couple
over a year ago

chester

If we dont know the people then looks always come first. We would never arrange a meet with people we didnt fancy. We dont really do the meet once for drinks first and then play another time, we can generally tell within an hour or two if we like them as people so are happy to play on the first meet so therefore we have to fancy the person.

Sometimes we get to know people through socials/parties etc who at first we would have said no to but their personality grows on you and we start to fancy them.

Some people kinda grow on you!!

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Good looks will get our attention but it's a nice personality that keeps it! So a mixture of both for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bit of both.... There has to be a spark I think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bit of both.... There has to be a spark I think "

agreed there has to be some attraction for me to get to know them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yip i agree,,there need to be some sort of an attraction ?

all very good he/she having a great personality

but remember,,the yorkshire ripper and fred west were both marrried so they had some sort of personality,,ok all be it twisted lol

looks ..then if he can make me laugh,,,hes half way there lol xx

auds xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yip i agree,,there need to be some sort of an attraction ?

all very good he/she having a great personality

but remember,,the yorkshire ripper and fred west were both marrried so they had some sort of personality,,ok all be it twisted lol

looks ..then if he can make me laugh,,,hes half way there lol xx

auds xx "

tickles auds armpits with a feather...Oh dear shes just pished herself....literally!-and she never even cracked a laugh tho.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

looks like the general consensus is personality before looks...... looks like there is hope after all lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looks first for swinging. Sorry if that sounds shallow, but that's the way it is.

Might surprise a lot of people, but good looking people can have nice personalities too "

Yep, same here.

Lets face it, if looks weren't important we'd all have silhouettes for avatars and no pics on our profiles.

Its looks that grab our attention, nice personality is a bonus.

However, we wouldn't have sex with someone with a terrible personality, no matter how good they looked.

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yip i agree,,there need to be some sort of an attraction ?

all very good he/she having a great personality

but remember,,the yorkshire ripper and fred west were both marrried so they had some sort of personality,,ok all be it twisted lol

looks ..then if he can make me laugh,,,hes half way there lol xx

auds xx

tickles auds armpits with a feather...Oh dear shes just pished herself....literally!-and she never even cracked a laugh tho....."
well you did say you wanted me wet?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looks first for swinging. Sorry if that sounds shallow, but that's the way it is.

Might surprise a lot of people, butt good looking people can have nice personalities too "

Nods in agreement. I never understand why it has to be either or!

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By *riseeTV/TS
over a year ago

MacKay

Totally agree. This is why most guys and some women fall short for me.

If you read the emails I got, even the pm's in chat ... you'd know what I was talking about. I'm sure many girls do.

Strangely though I'll write a nice three paragraph email responding to a person or couples profile and simply be ignored, message deleted and in some cases totally blocked.

In a couple of cases I got abusive emails back totally off the subject and personality, and in trying to reply, blocked. Why bother writing?

So I can tell you lots of below the personality standard expected profiles. No shortage of them.

What's really sad is, you can never really know someone till you meet them and as so many people who have met me will say - I'm well worth meeting Socially and otherwise!

xox

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has to be a bit of both....Would like to be able to hold a conversation but when we get down to business would like to be able to look up or down at them without getting sick at my stomach...lol

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By *he tactile technicianMan
over a year ago

the good lands, the bad lands, the any where you may want me lands

Looks all the time for me! If I can't look you in your eyes and see your hidden beauty it just ain't going to do anything for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mmm would I play with someone I found physically unattractive? Of course not. Do I want to spend time rolling about with a monosyllabic jerk? No. Of course there needs to be a combination and the same applies in reverse, otherwise the sex is boring, there's no mutuality and the guy might as well stay at home with a fleshlight

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