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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Compromise and Expand they're expectations/searches in order to achieve meets on here? Or do the majority find exactly what they're after?

I'll chat to anyone and I'm always game for a laugh, but I've not had any meets yet and I'm starting to wonder if it because I'm being too specific in my searches? Just curious!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I think a lot of men need to adjust their expectations but I'm not sure what you mean by searches. Do you mean distance or meet criteria?

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By *aelawMan
over a year ago

Paisley

There is a specific "meets section " where those looking to meet can post it up and you simply reply and see if they would like to.

Social meets I believe are the best way and I plan on attending a local one :D

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Sorry this wasn't supposed to come across as 'moany', if it has I apologise!

By searches, I mean for someone they would be willing to meet. Obviously I'm looking for people within a certain bracket, do most men find they need to 'expand' that, in order to get meets?

Without wanting to sound like a dick, I'm sure I could get a meet fairly quickly going through the correct forum etc, but would I have to make compromises on what I'm looking for, in order to get that meet. And that's a full circle back to my original question

I'm not trying to prove a point or anything with this post, I'm genuinely just asking a question to the majority men on here who have had meets!

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By *typical guyMan
over a year ago

wigan


"Compromise and Expand they're expectations/searches in order to achieve meets on here? Or do the majority find exactly what they're after?

I'll chat to anyone and I'm always game for a laugh, but I've not had any meets yet and I'm starting to wonder if it because I'm being too specific in my searches? Just curious! "

I guess it depends how specific your search is? If you are searching for a porn star that can accommodate daytimes and lives close to work so you can nip over on your lunch break, then I think you may be better broadening your horizons.

But if you are thinking of lowering your standards or pretending to be into things you aren`t, just to get a shag all I can say is - don't be that guy. No harm in expanding your search to include other things that do interest you or people further away though.

I have been here a while and haven't found exactly what I am after, (it probably doesn't help I don't really know what I am looking for ) but I am willing to wait to find it. I would rather have a meet to remember rather than one to forget lol

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By *aelawMan
over a year ago

Paisley


"Compromise and Expand they're expectations/searches in order to achieve meets on here? Or do the majority find exactly what they're after?

I'll chat to anyone and I'm always game for a laugh, but I've not had any meets yet and I'm starting to wonder if it because I'm being too specific in my searches? Just curious!

I guess it depends how specific your search is? If you are searching for a porn star that can accommodate daytimes and lives close to work so you can nip over on your lunch break, then I think you may be better broadening your horizons.

But if you are thinking of lowering your standards or pretending to be into things you aren`t, just to get a shag all I can say is - don't be that guy. No harm in expanding your search to include other things that do interest you or people further away though.

I have been here a while and haven't found exactly what I am after, (it probably doesn't help I don't really know what I am looking for ) but I am willing to wait to find it. I would rather have a meet to remember rather than one to forget lol"

Brilliant approach sir *salutes*

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By *typical guyMan
over a year ago

wigan


"Compromise and Expand they're expectations/searches in order to achieve meets on here? Or do the majority find exactly what they're after?

I'll chat to anyone and I'm always game for a laugh, but I've not had any meets yet and I'm starting to wonder if it because I'm being too specific in my searches? Just curious!

I guess it depends how specific your search is? If you are searching for a porn star that can accommodate daytimes and lives close to work so you can nip over on your lunch break, then I think you may be better broadening your horizons.

But if you are thinking of lowering your standards or pretending to be into things you aren`t, just to get a shag all I can say is - don't be that guy. No harm in expanding your search to include other things that do interest you or people further away though.

I have been here a while and haven't found exactly what I am after, (it probably doesn't help I don't really know what I am looking for ) but I am willing to wait to find it. I would rather have a meet to remember rather than one to forget lol

Brilliant approach sir *salutes*"

Thanks. It works for me. (well it hasn't actually worked as such, but I'm happy with it haha)

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By *aelawMan
over a year ago

Paisley


"Compromise and Expand they're expectations/searches in order to achieve meets on here? Or do the majority find exactly what they're after?

I'll chat to anyone and I'm always game for a laugh, but I've not had any meets yet and I'm starting to wonder if it because I'm being too specific in my searches? Just curious!

I guess it depends how specific your search is? If you are searching for a porn star that can accommodate daytimes and lives close to work so you can nip over on your lunch break, then I think you may be better broadening your horizons.

But if you are thinking of lowering your standards or pretending to be into things you aren`t, just to get a shag all I can say is - don't be that guy. No harm in expanding your search to include other things that do interest you or people further away though.

I have been here a while and haven't found exactly what I am after, (it probably doesn't help I don't really know what I am looking for ) but I am willing to wait to find it. I would rather have a meet to remember rather than one to forget lol

Brilliant approach sir *salutes*

Thanks. It works for me. (well it hasn't actually worked as such, but I'm happy with it haha)"

It's a genuine approach mate and just get those messages sent to those that fit and you'll find it just don't be like me and send rambling messages and waffle on!

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By *typical guyMan
over a year ago

wigan


"Compromise and Expand they're expectations/searches in order to achieve meets on here? Or do the majority find exactly what they're after?

I'll chat to anyone and I'm always game for a laugh, but I've not had any meets yet and I'm starting to wonder if it because I'm being too specific in my searches? Just curious!

I guess it depends how specific your search is? If you are searching for a porn star that can accommodate daytimes and lives close to work so you can nip over on your lunch break, then I think you may be better broadening your horizons.

But if you are thinking of lowering your standards or pretending to be into things you aren`t, just to get a shag all I can say is - don't be that guy. No harm in expanding your search to include other things that do interest you or people further away though.

I have been here a while and haven't found exactly what I am after, (it probably doesn't help I don't really know what I am looking for ) but I am willing to wait to find it. I would rather have a meet to remember rather than one to forget lol

Brilliant approach sir *salutes*

Thanks. It works for me. (well it hasn't actually worked as such, but I'm happy with it haha)

It's a genuine approach mate and just get those messages sent to those that fit and you'll find it just don't be like me and send rambling messages and waffle on! "

I`m not worried about it mate, good things come to those who wait.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Sorry this wasn't supposed to come across as 'moany', if it has I apologise!

By searches, I mean for someone they would be willing to meet. Obviously I'm looking for people within a certain bracket, do most men find they need to 'expand' that, in order to get meets?

Without wanting to sound like a dick, I'm sure I could get a meet fairly quickly going through the correct forum etc, but would I have to make compromises on what I'm looking for, in order to get that meet. And that's a full circle back to my original question

I'm not trying to prove a point or anything with this post, I'm genuinely just asking a question to the majority men on here who have had meets! "

I'm not a man so you'll have to compromise on who's answering your post already .

You don't have to do anything and the question you're asking is impossible to answer. You might post a meet request and the exact type of woman you're looking for might be looking for someone like you at the exact same time. However speaking from experience this is unlikely. So you will either need to compromise on type, area or requirements (putting it baldly) or wait until exactly what you're after comes along.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men just need to be patient and keep at it. Don't compromise yourself, just up your game

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

It's not just single guys who may need to expand their meet criteria .

When we first joined some six years ago we only wanted to meet bi females , or bi female couples . And only within a certain age group , no more than 20 miles from us and only a certain body type . Need less to say this limited options , so we started going to clubs instead as we quickly became very active swingers , preferring one off meets .

As time passed we realised there were lots more horny options , we started seeing single guys , dogging etc..... and now we have a wider age limit and meet tv/ ts too . So much more fun since we altered our outlook

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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago

swingers clubs

This site is great as a compliment to the swinging lifestyle.

A lot of people think they can just come on the site and get sex, then complain when they don't.

This is the Internet. It's drummed in to every one of us is full of crazies and never believe what sometime says they are.

Paranoia fuels the online world - so much so that is so difficult to get a meet because people don't want to take the first step, or don't trust who is messaging, or scared of meeting.

You've also got your fantasists and those who just want to sit behind their keyboard and wank.

All in all, the site can be fairly slow to get a genuine meet. Or at least they tend to come few and far between.

My advice - if you're serious about swinging - grow some balls, get out to a club or organised social, introduce yourself, chat, show people you are genuine and the fact you're there shows you'll get off your arse and meet.

However, the site is awesome for the forums and getting to know more about the lifestyle and places to go, and staying in touch with fab friends.

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

It depends how badly you want a meet really.

Some men start off looking for a porn star but are so desperate for a shag they will eventually message everyone within a 100 mile radius regardless of whether they would normally be attracted to them.

Others are clear in what they are looking for and don't want to compromise. They know it will take time to meet the right person/people and they are happy to wait.

I always think it's best to stick to your standards and be patient.

As a single female I could probably have a couple of dozen meets every day if I wanted to but I know what I'm looking for and I'm prepared to be patient until the right meet comes along. Men should do the same in my opinion. Just because they are in the majority doesn't mean they can't have preferences and standards.

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