FabSwingers.com forum: Why can't we find anyone normal!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hey good morning you sexy fabbers. Some advice please. We have had 3 or 4 meets now, and we are needing some help. Only one of the 4 people we met agreed to verify. The others we verified but they said we had to meet them again to get a varfication from them.

I feel like I'm being pressured to make me and Mr meet with people we don't enjoy just so we get verified to meet more appropriate people ?

What's everyone else's take on this ? .

Thanks the Mrs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have one veri.. block and move on from pushy eegits x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just stay true to yourself. Don't make the veris your focus. Just carry on meeting who YOU like, it'll all fall into place.

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By *inkySlinkyCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Definitely don't meet them again. There is no guarantee they would give you a verification after a second meet.

Sally

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Don't do anything you're not happy with. Nobody else should want you to do anything you're not happy with either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even though I'm not verified you shouldn't meet them again. Just block them and forget about it. Meet you you like and feel comfortable with. It should be fun not an obligation.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

"Just stay true to yourself. Don't make the veris your focus. Just carry on meeting who YOU like, it'll all fall into place. "

Exactly this .

The one veri you have isn't displayed anyway , so who cares ?

The fun one has in this lifestyle isn't about getting veris , it's about having fun !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with all replies so far...forget them..never be pressured by anyone to do anything you do want to do...this site is for mutual enjoyment. And it seems like whoever it is you met with are only there for themselves...they have no respect for you so don't give them the time of day...im sure with time you will find nice people you click with....a small amount of good is better than a large amount of crap...be true to yourselves. Good luck with it all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate veris. Meet for fun, not to get a veri. Leave them to it, trying to sound all superior saying meet again and we'll give you one (a veri that is!) Sod off!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I agree with all replies so far...forget them..never be pressured by anyone to do anything you do want to do...this site is for mutual enjoyment. And it seems like whoever it is you met with are only there for themselves...they have no respect for you so don't give them the time of day...im sure with time you will find nice people you click with....a small amount of good is better than a large amount of crap...be true to yourselves. Good luck with it all. "

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By *xtrafun4youMan
over a year ago

Dunstable

"I hate veris. Meet for fun, not to get a veri. Leave them to it, trying to sound all superior saying meet again and we'll give you one (a veri that is!) Sod off!

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yes perfect answer. Never be pushed into things.

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By *oredShitlessxxxCouple
over a year ago

luton

We had this... some idiots about unfortunately and those are the ones that ruin it for normal/nice guys who struggle to get any meets.

Just block and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

maybe they are normal and you arent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"maybe they are normal and you arent"

Sorry mate how can they be normal? If you meet someone you verify them when you can. You don't request or demand a second meet.

Sort of black*mail to me. Either you meet me again or I don't verify you. Doesn't sound very normal to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"maybe they are normal and you arent

Sorry mate how can they be normal? If you meet someone you verify them when you can. You don't request or demand a second meet.

Sort of black*mail to me. Either you meet me again or I don't verify you. Doesn't sound very normal to me"

i was replying to the title

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not about the veri, it's about the experience.

I had a couple trying to get me to do stuff I didn't want to last week. They said they were a sort after couple and their veri would help me out. What a cheek.

For me a veri is just to prove you are genuine, it doesn't matter if you have one or 90, you can't get more genuine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do you need a verification from someone you had sex with? I meet for the sex, not for a glowing report afterwards. I wouldn't blame anyone for using your desire for verifications as leverage; although it isn't something I would do (unless he was super hot and an amazing fuck

Did you enjoy the sex with the person asking to meet again? Is there a reason you didn't meet them again? If so, why do you want a verification from them?

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

"You have one veri.. block and move on from pushy eegits x "

Definately. Sounds like they are trying to trap you into meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I might ask the question "Is it normal for people to want to have sex with me for the verification?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You have one veri.. block and move on from pushy eegits x

Definately. Sounds like they are trying to trap you into meets."

Trap? They're only asking for a verification.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"You have one veri.. block and move on from pushy eegits x "

Yeah I agree with this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Forget it move on , wife doesn't like many veris as some make you feel like an ebay transaction

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By *oredShitlessxxxCouple
over a year ago

luton

"You have one veri.. block and move on from pushy eegits x

Definately. Sounds like they are trying to trap you into meets.

Trap? They're only asking for a verification. "

This does happen on here, trying to manipulate into meeting again on their terms.

We had one guy do the same. Ie not got time to veri us but had plenty of time asking to meet us on our own and happy to video/picture the meet to send back to the Mrs or Mr.

Deliberately withholding a veri to try and gain other meets on his terms

We dont meet alone and dont do bb, but people do push their luck and its not respectful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, forget about these people, if we verified someone and they didnt verify us, we block and move on, just do that

As for there being normal people on here, what's normal?

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

I don't get the correlation of wanting to meet normal people and the thread actually being about wanting verifications.

People verify or don't verify for all host of reasons. We verified our last meet, the gentleman didn't verify us back; his choice we aren't offended and now planning meet 2 with him.

However meeting to get verified is a bit grim

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By *oping for funMan
over a year ago

Newport - Shropshire

"Don't do anything you're not happy with. Nobody else should want you to do anything you're not happy with either. "

So "veri" true .... sorry about the pun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's people like that, that ruin this site! Once you've met once you know 100% your true and no fake! Delete them and move onto bigger and better things!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To tell you the truth why would you want a verification off anyone who you didn't enjoy being with? ?????

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It's not about wanting verification. I was more asking why people use this as leverage for a 2nd meet. None of the people got a 2nd meet because saying that made us uncomfortable. Where as I have spoken to other people who say they will only meet if your verified. It's not about wanting to be verified for sex I personally just don't understand why normal adult people would use this to pressure for more sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a meet with a "bi" male at the weekend. Afterwards he changed his profile to "straight" and refused to verify me.

Just move on and ignore the dinlos

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"maybe they are normal and you arent

Sorry mate how can they be normal? If you meet someone you verify them when you can. You don't request or demand a second meet.

Sort of black*mail to me. Either you meet me again or I don't verify you. Doesn't sound very normal to me"
it's not

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By *icky_tvLondonTV/TS
over a year ago

london

"jojorit said: Why can't we find anyone normal!"

Don't you feel physically violated, now that you know you have allowed a non-'normal' person sexual intimacy with you. Better vetting maybe? Maybe even a thorough reassessment of your motives for sex with, essentially speaking, strangers?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not leverage unless you're so desperate for a verification you'd have sex with someone you didn't want to meet again. Which begs the question, why would you want a verification from someone you don't want to meet again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I met with a couple, verified them, they proudly displayed my verification but didn't write one for me. This was back when I actually wanted verifications so I asked if they would reciprocate... nothing. So I removed my verification by blocking them .... after fucking her one more time

I accept that some people don't want others to know who they met with and they may not know how to tell you that you're one of those that they don't want other people to know about.

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By *icky_tvLondonTV/TS
over a year ago

london

"Forest Gatteau said: Yeah I met with a couple, verified them, they proudly displayed my verification but didn't write one for me. This was back when I actually wanted verifications so I asked if they would reciprocate... nothing. So I removed my verification by blocking them

.... after fucking her one more time"

How grim.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

.... after fucking her one more time

How grim.

I kind of agree. If I send a veri I don't ever expect one in return, I couldn't care less to be honest, I don't display them anyway but blocking them because they didn't return the favour makes you sound a tad bitter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What are these 'verifications' you're all speaking of ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

.... after fucking her one more time

How grim.

Because he fucked her again? Or the blocking? Why do people ask for verifications but don't reciprocate I wonder.

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By *icky_tvLondonTV/TS
over a year ago

london

.... after fucking her one more time

How grim.

Because he fucked her again? Or the blocking? Why do people ask for verifications but don't reciprocate I wonder."

The retaliatory sex.

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By *axandbooCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

We have had a few meets that have not verified us... Its up to them really but they wont get one from us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

.... after fucking her one more time

How grim.

You're reading way too deeply into it, it's not that heartfelt. But aside from that let's explore your sentiment a little bit as I'm interested.. What is the fault of someone who feels bitter after being asked to give a verification but the favour isn't reciprocated? Is all offence and severing of ties to selfish people reducible to mere "bitterness"?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

.... after fucking her one more time

How grim.

Because he fucked her again? Or the blocking? Why do people ask for verifications but don't reciprocate I wonder.

The retaliatory sex.

Sex isn't retaliatory, it's mutually satisfying and consensual. Blocking is retaliatory. But honestly, get a sense of humour people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why is the majority of people obsessed with little green ticks?

We've had meet were our verification wasn't returned but so be it, and as for blocking to remove yours from their profile jesus that's some toy's out of the pram move.

Verification is so easy to come by via the chat rooms if that is all your worried about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why is the majority of people obsessed with little green ticks?

We've had meet were our verification wasn't returned but so be it, and as for blocking to remove yours from their profile jesus that's some toy's out of the pram move.

Verification is so easy to come by via the chat rooms if that is all your worried about "

Did you specifically ask for it to be returned after mutually agreeing to reciprocate then were ignored?

Speaking of toys out of the pram, why are so many out to prove their maturity yet lack a basic sense of adult humour? Or are you a tad bitter about someone removing their verification at their own perogative?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why is the majority of people obsessed with little green ticks?

We've had meet were our verification wasn't returned but so be it, and as for blocking to remove yours from their profile jesus that's some toy's out of the pram move.

Verification is so easy to come by via the chat rooms if that is all your worried about

Did you specifically ask for it to be returned after mutually agreeing to reciprocate then were ignored?

Not bitter thanks and I wouldn't ask, have an excellent sense of humour also. Not really bothered about others opinions of me, but you I'm not one for bitchin on the forums and spitting dummies out after a declaration of a conquest.

It's a bit like some other posts where it's all about you, you have to love the little green arrows

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi guys. Sorry if we caused offence.

Just to clarify a few things said on here:

No we don't have sex just for verification

We would have met the people again if not for the fact they made us feel uncomfortable about the use of verification

We're not that bothered about them

Only reason I wondered is because it has been presented to us as a way to get more sex

There are a lot of people on here who say they will only meet / chat with verified people

I wanted to know why adults needed to bargain for something like sex when I'm only in it for the fun.

The use of "normal " in this case was not meant to be bad. I was just trying to understand why adults needed to be pushy on meets.

Unlike some posters in this thread I don't think you should ever ever use verifications against people

We are not "grim " " desperate"

We don't feel "violated " and we are aware this website is full of kinky people. The negative reaction to the word normal seemed to be way out of proportion.

Thank you for all the constructive help. We will not ask in future x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why is the majority of people obsessed with little green ticks?

We've had meet were our verification wasn't returned but so be it, and as for blocking to remove yours from their profile jesus that's some toy's out of the pram move.

Verification is so easy to come by via the chat rooms if that is all your worried about

Did you specifically ask for it to be returned after mutually agreeing to reciprocate then were ignored?

It's a bit like some other posts where it's all about you, you have to love the little green arrows

The little green arrow is not for little green faced people who think any reference to it is a leverage of power over other users. Why is your only method of empowering yourself to try to disempower others? What's with all this aggression and bitterness? I only click on the arrows of people I find remotely interesting. You'll therefore understand why I can't reciprocate your infantile lack of restraint

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Getting verified will not help you meet appropriate people.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Getting verified will not help you meet appropriate people. "

Hi it seems whatever I wrote you will continue to be negative towards us. If you don't like us or what we stand for don't post. Just don't say things us respond then keep arguing your point

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you for everyone that has helped and been constructive. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi guys. Sorry if we caused offence.

Just to clarify a few things said on here:

No we don't have sex just for verification

We would have met the people again if not for the fact they made us feel uncomfortable about the use of verification

We're not that bothered about them

Only reason I wondered is because it has been presented to us as a way to get more sex

There are a lot of people on here who say they will only meet / chat with verified people

I wanted to know why adults needed to bargain for something like sex when I'm only in it for the fun.

The use of "normal " in this case was not meant to be bad. I was just trying to understand why adults needed to be pushy on meets.

Unlike some posters in this thread I don't think you should ever ever use verifications against people

We are not "grim " " desperate"

We don't feel "violated " and we are aware this website is full of kinky people. The negative reaction to the word normal seemed to be way out of proportion.

Thank you for all the constructive help. We will not ask in future x"

Your post is fine. I certainly saw the lighthearted nature of it.

Don't worry about anything. You have to just have fun with the critics and play along sometimes. They just want attention like everyone else. You'll find that to the most antagonistic, the forum is a chessboard for their validation. Every OP is an opponent to them. It's their unique way of connecting.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hi guys. Sorry if we caused offence.

Just to clarify a few things said on here:

No we don't have sex just for verification

We would have met the people again if not for the fact they made us feel uncomfortable about the use of verification

We're not that bothered about them

Only reason I wondered is because it has been presented to us as a way to get more sex

There are a lot of people on here who say they will only meet / chat with verified people

I wanted to know why adults needed to bargain for something like sex when I'm only in it for the fun.

The use of "normal " in this case was not meant to be bad. I was just trying to understand why adults needed to be pushy on meets.

Unlike some posters in this thread I don't think you should ever ever use verifications against people

We are not "grim " " desperate"

We don't feel "violated " and we are aware this website is full of kinky people. The negative reaction to the word normal seemed to be way out of proportion.

Thank you for all the constructive help. We will not ask in future x

Your post is fine. I certainly saw the lighthearted nature of it.

Thank you

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By *icplshropsCouple
over a year ago

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By *icplshropsCouple
over a year ago

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"Hey good morning you sexy fabbers. Some advice please. We have had 3 or 4 meets now, and we are needing some help. Only one of the 4 people we met agreed to verify. The others we verified but they said we had to meet them again to get a varfication from them.

I feel like I'm being pressured to make me and Mr meet with people we don't enjoy just so we get verified to meet more appropriate people ?

What's everyone else's take on this ? .

Thanks the Mrs. "

We've never been pressured like this, but we don't concentrate on always getting veries from every social and meets we've had. You've done the right thing walking away from such pressure. There are nice people on here that don't pressure like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you should take one for the team for a veri

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just stay true to yourself. Don't make the veris your focus. Just carry on meeting who YOU like, it'll all fall into place.

Exactly this .

The one veri you have isn't displayed anyway , so who cares ?

The fun one has in this lifestyle isn't about getting veris , it's about having fun !

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By *dores blackmenWoman
over a year ago

incognito mode ;-)

Verifications are a whole lot of drama,I gave up displaying play/social ones long time ago

I just have a few party verifications up

Some write them for every meet

Some only write for paticular meets

Some don't write them at all

Some just write when recieve (who first though both could wait a while)

You have one lovely social verification,you don't need anymore to prove your real,so ignore being asked to meet again to recieve a verification,only meet if you want to

As for blocking them to get rid of one you wrote,seems petty to me,just move on

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi I don't block people unless they really upset me / or are inappropriate so don't worry about that I'm not petty. X thank you

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By *dores blackmenWoman
over a year ago

incognito mode ;-)

"Hi I don't block people unless they really upset me / or are inappropriate so don't worry about that I'm not petty. X thank you "

That's ok then

Was just reading what alot were saying to block

Like I say verifications can be drama at times

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

I feel like I'm being pressured to make me and Mr meet with people we don't enjoy just so we get verified to meet more appropriate people ?

What's everyone else's take on this ? .

Thanks the Mrs. "

I wouldn't worry! I've got veris coming out of my feckin ears and I'm still not 'appropriate ' or normal!

Just have fun with people you like - the rest isn't worth worrying about!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I feel like I'm being pressured to make me and Mr meet with people we don't enjoy just so we get verified to meet more appropriate people ?

What's everyone else's take on this ? .

Thanks the Mrs.

I wouldn't worry! I've got veris coming out of my feckin ears and I'm still not 'appropriate ' or normal!

Just have fun with people you like - the rest isn't worth worrying about!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Verification black-mail? Now I've heard it all.

decent people won't mind about the lack of verifications. Horrible people will hold them over you like a curse. Meet the decent ones.

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