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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

For some reason this week guys seem to be against me..for being rejected lol told a guy Im not into what he wants, got told to F off boring txxt. Another called me fat waste of space cos I said Sorry not for me.

None of this bothers me, it's just no wonder guys get a bad name for themselves when they name females and couples when they rejected.

Why do they do it is beyond me.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Part of it I think is they like to feel like they're in control so they don't like it when you reject them.

If I say no to someone and get a shitty response I see that as a lucky escape!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Part of it I think is they like to feel like they're in control so they don't like it when you reject them.

If I say no to someone and get a shitty response I see that as a lucky escape!!

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"For some reason this week guys seem to be against me..for being rejected lol told a guy Im not into what he wants, got told to F off boring txxt. Another called me fat waste of space cos I said Sorry not for me.

None of this bothers me, it's just no wonder guys get a bad name for themselves when they name females and couples when they rejected.

Why do they do it is beyond me."

Appreciate what you're saying but please don't tar us with the same brush as we're not all twats

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By *ilent.KnightMan
over a year ago

Swindon

For the record, I am a twat.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I don't reply to men I have no intention of meeting. Not only does that reduce the risk of abuse, but it prevents them from circumventing filters when I choose to apply them.

By the way, report all abusive messages. Its against site rules.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For the record, I am a twat.

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Seemingly we all are are we not?

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By *ilent.KnightMan
over a year ago

Swindon

"For the record, I am a twat.

Seemingly we all are are we not?"

I'm reclaiming the word.

(I have no idea what I'm talking about. As you were)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Have done

I delete a lot of messages that I have no intention of meeting. Or ones with essays. Still get a message back lol

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By *r on the EdgeMan
over a year ago

accrington

Those kind of guys/replies certainly dont help guys like me who struggle to even get a reply let alone anything else. It really infuriates me that guys just csnt accept they aren't for them but it tends to give us all a bad name and makes women more cautious

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By *arciocialWoman
over a year ago

Leicester

This is when women get in a catch 22 situation... You have men saying we're rude if we don't reply, then on the other hand we reply and get abuse. Thankfully the abuse isn't too high, but if it's not abuse it's continuous messaging asking why. But the being rude for not replying is seen frequently, not everyone on here has thick skin. Me, I'm quite happy to block them but if I'm caught in the right mood I'll play their game right back

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"This is when women get in a catch 22 situation... You have men saying we're rude if we don't reply, then on the other hand we reply and get abuse. Thankfully the abuse isn't too high, but if it's not abuse it's continuous messaging asking why. But the being rude for not replying is seen frequently, not everyone on here has thick skin. Me, I'm quite happy to block them but if I'm caught in the right mood I'll play their game right back

That's it lol can't win

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None of this bothers me, it's just no wonder guys get a bad name for themselves when they name females and couples when they rejected.

Why do they do it is beyond me."

If any of you ladies would like to skip the first bit and send me a rejection message as if I had messaged you I will be extremely courteous and polite in defeat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None of this bothers me, it's just no wonder guys get a bad name for themselves when they name females and couples when they rejected.

Why do they do it is beyond me."

if all guys get a bad name for action of few, then I am very happy those women/couples would potentially reject me for that reason, because I don't want to meet people, who tar everyone with the same brush

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

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I think reading the FAQ section should be mandatory on joining

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If i get a rejection message back (sometimes happens) then I follow up with a simple 'thanks for the polite decline, hope you find what your looking for' and then block... saves messaging again if I forgot their reply last time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For the record, I am a twat.

Haha!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None of this bothers me, it's just no wonder guys get a bad name for themselves when they name females and couples when they rejected.

Why do they do it is beyond me."

The majority of men that I decline thank me for a nice response and wish me well. Then I block to save a repeat performance

I've had a couple get stroppy and I just block them x

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I used to reply with much the same and got abuse messages back.

Now I reply politely then immediately block. I do this so they can't message me again and if in the future they forget and message then they can't.

Let the block button be your friend, it's certainly my bff on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a sad state of affairs when they react like this. You can't be all things to all people so I just accept and move on.

Could you imagine the same people getting told they hadn't got the job they wanted. Would they turn around and say "it's a shit job and I didn't want it anyway "

Fair play to you though to not let it get to you.

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By *eneral HysteriaMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

"...

If I say no to someone and get a shitty response I see that as a lucky escape!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plain and simple if a lady says not interested or don't respond with a follow up message then that should be it full stop...No means No. Simples

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Every single testosterone filled guy joins this site thinking they will be shagging until their eyes pop out.

When reality sinks in that there is someone out there that would dare to say no then some, some, turn into dickheads.

Just chalk it up to experience, and move on. He certainly has.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Human nature means that we often remember the negative stuff and forget about the positive side. Without knowing it we subconsciously make choices down the line with the back of this in our mind.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Because the amygadala suppresses the

Neocortex. That or the super ego is that weak that the i.d overpowers it...

Or.... sex is a need not fun.

That or they are just dickheads, humans are odd things, especially ladies...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have feelings yer know

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By *aelawMan
over a year ago

Paisley

You get this throughout the online community. There are no rules to say you need to reply to messages or even read them if the person is of no interest. Alas, a butt hurt chap can lead to tantrums and toys being thrust and not in the direction they would like!

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By *heSassyOneWoman
over a year ago

SE Michigan

I can relate, that was me a couple weeks ago, 2 decided to bash me to a friend of mine. Grow up people!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've worked out that the reason I don't get this kind of response is because I have shitty pics and they aren't that put out that I declined.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to get this.

Now I'm the one who gets to hurl abuse if I'm rejected

Joking of course

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

We aren't all like that you know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We aren't all like that you know"

Most women are aware of this. The only problem being, we can never guess which ones will be abusive, until we send the 'no thank you'....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At my age . If I get rejected I put it down to menopause

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

Anybody who gets rejected is going to be butt hurt. Its not an ego thing. Its just human nature. Just do your thing. Reply with a no thanks or dont bother. Block or dont. Whatever it is just crack on but stop with the man bashing. Some are twats clearly but I am seeing as much moaning about that on here lately as profile help or cant get meet threads. I get it must be tiresome having to deal with it of course.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have had a guy message us a few times today,

His status states that

'are there any real women on here or are they all just shallow'

On our profile we clearly state that we do the messages together in the evening.

I do the actual typing and my husband is always next to me ( or making me a cup of tea)

He asks if we have a nice weekend, I reply 'yes we have thank you'

He then asked me if I would like to meet or call him, I told him 'sorry we don't do calls and if I did it would be both of us and not just me'

I then was asked if 'I was alone and would like to meet him without my husband'

I replied 'no, and asked him to leave us alone'

He replied by calling me 'arrogant and the fact we had 60 we should meet because I was easy'

Then he blocked us

Never had that before on Fab, it's a shame that some guys can't take no for an answer

I am not saying all guys are like that, we have meet some really nice ones as well

Thought I would share that

Can you imagine what it would have been like if you'd met in person? Ugh...

I always imagine tiddly little cocks, unable to get an erection and 10 mins of frantic pumping before a weird cum face and forgettable climax. Hurried redressing and off. That's how people like that have sex. Guaranteed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I get a no thank you ( which happens very rarely) I always follow up with a thanks for replying and have fun. Then just don't message again. Sadly most of the dicks that are like that are just frustrated little arses that can't take no for an answer and give the rest of us a bad name and make it even harder to have fun

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"When I get a no thank you ( which happens very rarely) I always follow up with a thanks for replying and have fun. Then just don't message again. Sadly most of the dicks that are like that are just frustrated little arses that can't take no for an answer and give the rest of us a bad name and make it even harder to have fun"

There's lots of little dicks on here.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just my opinion but everyone who behaves like that should be banned from the site. That way everyone would have much more fun

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Just my opinion but everyone who behaves like that should be banned from the site. That way everyone would have much more fun"

I agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it would make a much more enjoyable experience for everyone. Sadly it doesn't go further than an opinion.

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By *appy squirrelWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

I honestly think that I wouldn't be on fab as a guy. not saying they are right to be abusive but it must be really really frustrating when all or most you get is rejection because of how you look or act.

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By *aelawMan
over a year ago

Paisley

"I think it would make a much more enjoyable experience for everyone. Sadly it doesn't go further than an opinion. "

I agree also. It's borderline harassment. I suppose that is what the block button is for and this will always be the answer in these situations. Probably why there are no direct consequences.....at the moment.

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

"I honestly think that I wouldn't be on fab as a guy. not saying they are right to be abusive but it must be really really frustrating when all or most you get is rejection because of how you look or act. "

It's not really that bad, we manage ok

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By *aelawMan
over a year ago

Paisley

It's not really that bad, we manage ok

*points to himself* Even us fugly chubby chaps get attention :D

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

How you look you cant do too much about of course aside from making sure your well dressed or groomed. How you act is a whole different ball game. Personally never had a meet social or otherwise on here off the back of messaging some one. The few meets i have had have been off the back of my forum interaction. So i guess im doing something right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

oh no someone on the internet called you a boring twat...

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By *emptedoncemoreMan
over a year ago

perth

None of this bothers me, it's just no wonder guys get a bad name for themselves when they name females and couples when they rejected.

Why do they do it is beyond me."
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It's up to you who you meet a guy shouldmsay thanks for the response and a shame

I'm not what you want but thanks again for mail it is rare ladies respond so I always say thanks and move on least I know where I stand

Just my thoughts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I used to reply with much the same and got abuse messages back.

Now I reply politely then immediately block. I do this so they can't message me again and if in the future they forget and message then they can't.

Let the block button be your friend, it's certainly my bff on here. "

Yes this is exactly what I do, polite reply and block, because if the reply doesn't get abuse, it opens dialogue...

For example

Sorry you're too far away ..gets . I can come to you..(I don't host)

You're not for me....gets..why not ect.

Block button is my best friend also. XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that anyone who sends messages that are abusive, are probably keyboard warriors!

They can vent anger, whilst at the same time remaining anonymous.. Get a grip blokes (some of you) and stop being dicks! *le sigh*

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