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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I realise it's a long shot....or is it...1 in 4 women carry it, but most are unaware.

I'm aware I carry it (HSV 2), but this doesn't make me anymore contagious - I would never play during an outbreak. Which I have only had one of many months ago.

I'm looking for regular fun with a female or couple who don't find this a problem. I'm otherwise clean.

The chances of passing it on with safe sex are tiny, even less with anti virals.

Just an honest guy who doesn't want the unfortune of knowing I carry this, spoil my fun

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

No one? I find that hard to believe

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon


"No one? I find that hard to believe "

Really?

I think that post was tongue in cheek, if not, I think you are being very naïve!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No one? I find that hard to believe "

I don't

Good luck OP and great job on the honesty. A female friend of mine (not on the scene) is in the same situation and managed very well during her single years!

Hope you find what you're looking for

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By *sThunderThighsWoman
over a year ago

Toy Land

Wow not sure if you are very brave or stupid! But you deserve some respect for your honesty! X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

That's good to know

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ooops, I didn't make this clear in my OP but I'm mostly expecting others in the same situation as myself to come forward....privately x

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By *sThunderThighsWoman
over a year ago

Toy Land


"Ooops, I didn't make this clear in my OP but I'm mostly expecting others in the same situation as myself to come forward....privately x"

Ahhhh I see all is clear now!! Well good luck X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I may be a bit naive about this subject. Is what you have any more dangerous than any other STI?

We always have protected sex with other people, to the extent that oral sex with others is off-limits too. They could have all kinds of STIs but we feel that protected sex reduces those risks

Just trying to understand; why is your STI something you feel is somehow more contagious?

- Mrs. J -

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I may be a bit naive about this subject. Is what you have any more dangerous than any other STI?

We always have protected sex with other people, to the extent that oral sex with others is off-limits too. They could have all kinds of STIs but we feel that protected sex reduces those risks

Just trying to understand; why is your STI something you feel is somehow more contagious?

- Mrs. J -"

It's not more dangerous, I'm not sure what made you think I was suggesting that? Intact it's less dangerous in that it doesn't cause any long term health issues such as HIV or Hepatitis for example. Also, in most people they will never even know they even have it. Others, like me will get a sore once and might never again, depending on immune system strength. Statistically, unless you've had less than a handful of partners most people will have already had sex with someone who carries the herpes virus.

However, you have it for life so not something you can get rid of like many others.

But you're right, there's the same risk with any other STD when using protection combined with anti virals to lower the viral load. I guess the only difference is I know I carry it and have a conscience.

Sorry if that seems like a lecture but not sure how much you know about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I may be a bit naive about this subject. Is what you have any more dangerous than any other STI?

We always have protected sex with other people, to the extent that oral sex with others is off-limits too. They could have all kinds of STIs but we feel that protected sex reduces those risks

Just trying to understand; why is your STI something you feel is somehow more contagious?

- Mrs. J -

It's not more dangerous, I'm not sure what made you think I was suggesting that? Intact it's less dangerous in that it doesn't cause any long term health issues such as HIV or Hepatitis for example. Also, in most people they will never even know they even have it. Others, like me will get a sore once and might never again, depending on immune system strength. Statistically, unless you've had less than a handful of partners most people will have already had sex with someone who carries the herpes virus.

However, you have it for life so not something you can get rid of like many others.

But you're right, there's the same risk with any other STD when using protection combined with anti virals to lower the viral load. I guess the only difference is I know I carry it and have a conscience.

Sorry if that seems like a lecture but not sure how much you know about it

"

I don't know much about STIs except that we don't wish to catch any of those, hence our reluctance to even engage in oral sex with others

Thank you for your honesty. It is a rare treat over here

If we wanted to meet with single men then we would have no problems in meeting a guy like you

- Mrs. J -

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you. Nice of you to say so

There's a lot of stigma but when you look at the facts there really shouldn't be.

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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

You don't actually carry it for life - it often naturally disappears from your system like any other virus. They say it can take up to ten years to go, but your body will eventually beat it in the long run. Fingers crossed for you! It's not an issue as long as you practice safe sex until your test results come back clean!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You don't actually carry it for life - it often naturally disappears from your system like any other virus. They say it can take up to ten years to go, but your body will eventually beat it in the long run. Fingers crossed for you! It's not an issue as long as you practice safe sex until your test results come back clean! "

Interesting, thank you. I knew that as time goes on you're less likely to get sores. But never realised the virus left your body completely.

I always practice safe sex. It's a must. I'm not sure what you mean about test results....I've already tested positive for HSV2?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You don't actually carry it for life - it often naturally disappears from your system like any other virus. They say it can take up to ten years to go, but your body will eventually beat it in the long run. Fingers crossed for you! It's not an issue as long as you practice safe sex until your test results come back clean! "

I was told herpes can be passed on even with safe sex. Do you not agree?

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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"You don't actually carry it for life - it often naturally disappears from your system like any other virus. They say it can take up to ten years to go, but your body will eventually beat it in the long run. Fingers crossed for you! It's not an issue as long as you practice safe sex until your test results come back clean!

I was told herpes can be passed on even with safe sex. Do you not agree?

"

It can, though, as you said, a quarter of the population has it and don't even know. It can be passed on from the genital area touching, so if you both like to keep the gardens shaved, and there's small nicks in the skin etc, it can be passed when they're pressed against each other.

And with the test results - I get myself tested every other month, regardless of whether I've had a meet or not as some things take a wee while to come through. It makes sense and gives myself and potential partners peace of mind. I'd always advocate regular testing! Besides, free condoms, WOOP!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You don't actually carry it for life - it often naturally disappears from your system like any other virus. They say it can take up to ten years to go, but your body will eventually beat it in the long run. Fingers crossed for you! It's not an issue as long as you practice safe sex until your test results come back clean!

I was told herpes can be passed on even with safe sex. Do you not agree?

It can, though, as you said, a quarter of the population has it and don't even know. It can be passed on from the genital area touching, so if you both like to keep the gardens shaved, and there's small nicks in the skin etc, it can be passed when they're pressed against each other.

And with the test results - I get myself tested every other month, regardless of whether I've had a meet or not as some things take a wee while to come through. It makes sense and gives myself and potential partners peace of mind. I'd always advocate regular testing! Besides, free condoms, WOOP!"

Yeah, I agree, so many people have it and don't realise. But I'm very honest and open as I expect people to be the same with me, especially when it comes to the sex habits and testing etc.

Yes, absolutely. I get regular tests too, soon after a new partner/meet and then again a few months later for that very reason. I've always been very cautious and like i say, always play safe, so it's ironic in a way that I have herpes. Or at least that I'm unfortunate enough to know about it.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"I may be a bit naive about this subject. Is what you have any more dangerous than any other STI?

We always have protected sex with other people, to the extent that oral sex with others is off-limits too. They could have all kinds of STIs but we feel that protected sex reduces those risks

Just trying to understand; why is your STI something you feel is somehow more contagious?

- Mrs. J -

It's not more dangerous, I'm not sure what made you think I was suggesting that? Intact it's less dangerous in that it doesn't cause any long term health issues such as HIV or Hepatitis for example. Also, in most people they will never even know they even have it. Others, like me will get a sore once and might never again, depending on immune system strength. Statistically, unless you've had less than a handful of partners most people will have already had sex with someone who carries the herpes virus.

However, you have it for life so not something you can get rid of like many others.

But you're right, there's the same risk with any other STD when using protection combined with anti virals to lower the viral load. I guess the only difference is I know I carry it and have a conscience.

Sorry if that seems like a lecture but not sure how much you know about it

I don't know much about STIs except that we don't wish to catch any of those, hence our reluctance to even engage in oral sex with others

Thank you for your honesty. It is a rare treat over here

If we wanted to meet with single men then we would have no problems in meeting a guy like you

- Mrs. J -

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Perhaps it would be a good idea to learn a bit more about sti's .

The virus the op has will be transferred with the use of condoms , so you saying if you met single guys you would meet him seems pretty naive .

Plenty of guys in couples are just as likely to harbour the same virus , so playing safe ( even with oral ) offers little or no protection from it .

Once the immune system recognises the virus it will be in a position to keep outbreaks to a minimum . But when you're run down or stressed there is a high chance of an outbreak , and this is the case for the rest of ones life .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even more reason not to fuck bare xx

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