FabSwingers.com forum: To be a swinger you have to go to clubs...

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

...is this right? I'm sure private parties count too, but if two people just meet up is that still classed as swinging? I'm new in the scene so genuinely don't know if you separate the definitions...

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By *DontExistWoman
over a year ago

•+• Silicon valley. •+•

two people hooking up for sex isn't swinging really. i don't class myself as a swinger.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Every person on here has their own definitions of swinging. I have mine, but last time I expounded on it I offended someone so won't be saying it on here now.

Having said that, I don't think you can only call yourself a swinger if you go to clubs, or parties, or chuck your car keys in a bowl, or you go dogging, or any number of activities that are part of a sexually free lifestyle. As long as you're having fun, who cares?

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

People will soon start talking about labels blah de blah.

For me, I don't think clubs is a necessity to be a 'swinger', but some form of group play or swapping (if couples) would get close to what swinging is, I suppose.

Obviously there are loads of singles on here. Some might only want 1:1 private meets. Others will want to play at clubs and parties or with couples.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Every person on here has their own definitions of swinging. I have mine, but last time I expounded on it I offended someone so won't be saying it on here now.

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By *layful Couple For YouCouple
over a year ago

Lust

Although we suppose that 'swinging' is essentially couples swapping partners, our belief is that it's more of a mindset that allows for 'sexual sharing' between consenting adults, regardless of their relationship status.

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

"two people hooking up for sex isn't swinging really. i don't class myself as a swinger."

If two single people having sex together counted as swinging, everyone in the world would be a swinger!

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

I've been to clubs, had group sex and I'm even into some occasional kinky stuff but I still don't class myself as a swinger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who needs a label and who bleddy cares

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Who needs a label and who bleddy cares"

Well this site is called Fab Swingers... that's why I was curious as to what people thought about it!

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By *icassolifelikeMan
over a year ago

Luton

Depends on the context. If I went to the park and used a swing am I not also a swinger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't hold much with the "you're only a proper swinger if a, b, c, etc" and it slightly rankles when I see it.

On the subject of clubs however, one thing I will always say is that if you are interested in exploring the many and varied aspects of the funny little world we find ourselves in on here, it's a darn sight simpler to interact and connect with real people face to face than from behind a keyboard.

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

"I don't hold much with the "you're only a proper swinger if a, b, c, etc" and it slightly rankles when I see it.

Babe you have got amazing natural boobs, will you like to meet xx

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By *p4funCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

Names boxes lables who cares ?

Its fun ....go enjoy x

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By *atdancerCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I'd fully agree with this, although I do appreciate that going to a club for the first time can be a bit daunting.

Hat

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By *dam_TinaCouple
over a year ago

Hampshire

Babe you have got amazing natural boobs, will you like to meet xx"

Hilarious

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By *reokinkMan
over a year ago

London

"Although we suppose that 'swinging' is essentially couples swapping partners, our belief is that it's more of a mindset that allows for 'sexual sharing' between consenting adults, regardless of their relationship status."

Yes very good point. I think you may be on to something. Although I don't quite agree that you need to be part of a couple to be a swinger. I do agree that the sharing mindset is key.

If ones thoughts and instincts lean too far into the realms of jealousy and possessiveness, I wouldn't class that person as a swinger. Not necessarily a bad thing. Its simply a case that swinging just isn't for that person/couple.

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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

I'm not a couple. I enjoy sex with multiple partners with no strings. I enjoy sex 1:1 as well as in groups. I also enjoy sex with women. Am I

A. A swinger?

B. A promiscuous woman?

C. A slut?

D. All of the above?

E. None of the above?

Who cares!

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By *atdancerCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"I'm not a couple. I enjoy sex with multiple partners with no strings. I enjoy sex 1:1 as well as in groups. I also enjoy sex with women. Am I

A. A swinger?

B. A promiscuous woman?

C. A slut?

D. All of the above?

E. None of the above?

Who cares!"

Can you add a letter for "who cares!" please? I'd like to choose it. Also, where do I return my form to be counted?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Babe you have got amazing natural boobs, will you like to meet xx

Hilarious

Well I'm now wearing my morning cup of tea

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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

"I'm not a couple. I enjoy sex with multiple partners with no strings. I enjoy sex 1:1 as well as in groups. I also enjoy sex with women. Am I

A. A swinger?

B. A promiscuous woman?

C. A slut?

D. All of the above?

E. None of the above?

Who cares!

Can you add a letter for "who cares!" please? I'd like to choose it. Also, where do I return my form to be counted?

LOL

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Ooooo, I like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why should there be any obligation for us to fit in with a description?

The description should be fluid enough to encompass what we ourselves choose to do!

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Ooooo, I like that. "

Yes it is good. There are singles who 'get it' and some (guys predominately, sorry) who just want to fuck somebody. That mindset and understanding is probably the most important thing.

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By *iggles and BeardyCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

"...is this right? I'm sure private parties count too, but if two people just meet up is that still classed as swinging? I'm new in the scene so genuinely don't know if you separate the definitions..."

There are so many variations on what folk consider a "swinger" that simply none matter.

Are you a couple, who love playing together and enjoy joining other couples= swinger.

Are you a couple who only play with singles = swinger

Are you single, but love joining others for group fun = swinger

Are you a single, but only seek other singles for no strings fun, but enjoy the scene = swinger

Are you any of the above, but cant understand how a couple can watch eachother have fun and share their sex live, yet still love eachother = you are probably in wrong place.

Are you a judgmental twat who thinks couples only swing as guy cant satisfy his wife and no fucking way would you ever share yours (if you had one) = you probably missed the whole point and miss clicked on site.

Clubs, parties, meets.. all are fun, but its your attitude and mind that makes you a swinger.

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By *DontExistWoman
over a year ago

•+• Silicon valley. •+•

"two people hooking up for sex isn't swinging really. i don't class myself as a swinger.

If two single people having sex together counted as swinging, everyone in the world would be a swinger! "

lol, true.

and i have been to swingers club and had a 3sum there but i still don't class myself as a swinger.

for me the sharing of a partner is the definition of swinging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Babe you have got amazing natural boobs, will you like to meet xx"

You can't actually believe that would work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Babe you have got amazing natural boobs, will you like to meet xx

Hilarious

Well I'm now wearing my morning cup of tea

Yeah, I'm thinking of claiming the cost of a new carpet from Fab

The amount of times I spit

It's just not funny anymore

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would call myself a player. XXX

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

Hello again..... You know I've been on the scene many years and used clubs for less than half of that time. Couldn't be without them now though

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Babe you have got amazing natural boobs, will you like to meet xx

Hilarious

Well I'm now wearing my morning cup of tea

Yeah, I'm thinking of claiming the cost of a new carpet from Fab

The amount of times I spit

It's just not funny anymore"

Gotta be done if it's week old splodge, spunk like cottage cheese ain't my bag baby yeah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"two people hooking up for sex isn't swinging really. i don't class myself as a swinger."

Me either...seems bizarre to thing that 2 single having sex is swinging. If u met in the pub u wouldn't say that would u

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wiggle and Beardy, 100%! i love your post xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you asking as a journalist or swinger?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Are you asking as a journalist or swinger?"

Both. In fact, just an inquisitive citizen. That okay with you STALKER?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Are you asking as a journalist or swinger?

Both. In fact, just an inquisitive citizen. That okay with you STALKER?"

The irony of a journalist calling someone else a stalker is almost too much to bear.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"...is this right? "

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"'sexual sharing' between consenting adults, regardless of their relationship status."

That is a perfect definition

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