FabSwingers.com forum: Is it worth winking?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do ladies and couples ever check winks.

Sometimes I write long messages only to have them left un read.

Does a wink even get acknowledged?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you don't have face pics that are public on your profile and the profile you send a wink to specifically asks for a face pic, then no, winks are pretty pointless (well to me they are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do ladies and couples ever check winks.

Sometimes I write long messages only to have them left un read.

Does a wink even get acknowledged? "

We use Winks - you're right, it saves typing a message for a no read or response. If they wink back then or message then great, if not then you just move on anyway!

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I have sent the odd wink...! It's not something I do often though.

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By *outh Wales HotwifeCouple
over a year ago

Hobbiton

We check and use winks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We check winks regularly, but always send a nice message if we like someone, rather than just send a wink. Everyone's different of course, but we tend to see it as a bit lazy if someone just winks, but doesn't message. Can appear they're not all that interested if it's too much trouble to put a decent message together - if it's an interesting one rather than a one-liner it tends to get our attention and gives an indication of the type of people they are too. We all have our own thought processes on this of course and everyone will see this differently. To be fair we don't send out mass messages either, so doesn't take a lot of time. No approach is right or wrong really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wink

It's a quick easy way of saying I like your pictures and do you like what you see so far of me?

It's like the first initial eye contact that lasts long enough to know someone is interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

never take any notice...any time ive looked at them,90% are from the other end of the country so i dont really see the point of them

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

"I wink

It's a quick easy way of saying I like your pictures and do you like what you see so far of me?

It's like the first initial eye contact that lasts long enough to know someone is interested "

Has it been successful?

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By *r. Pepper...Man
over a year ago

liverpool

I prefer to send a wink first, then message if they wink back

Got fed up typing long, unique messages only to see them deleted without even being read half the time. Even though you fit all their criteria, it seems if you're not part of their click, you've got no chance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some do. Some don’t. If in doubt, wink. They may notice you.

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight

We have on our profile ww don't always respond to winks as tbh we like the chase. Anybody willing to put a message together that show some effort gets a reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wink

It's a quick easy way of saying I like your pictures and do you like what you see so far of me?

It's like the first initial eye contact that lasts long enough to know someone is interested

Has it been successful?"

Yes and no

Sometimes a follow up message is needed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I send out messages (far more then a one liner) include a face pic and don't get much response.

It's frustrating when you see it unread and the person is online. So I send them a wink. If I still don't get a reply I chalk it down to their loss and move on.

I did get a wink and I winked back and the couple messaged me.

I think it does depend on the recipient and you shouldn't be hung up on whether it's a good or bad thing to do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend not to look at winks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aww I like a wink but no one sends them

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By *ounce-N-BoomCouple
over a year ago

London

We look at who's winked us... We mostly message people, maybe wink if it says so in their profile, sometimes even wink at the same time as a message. Not sure there is a right thing really but we're more likely to respond to a message. Random friend requests generally block though, that's just odd.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like a good

and find them interesting.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I like a good

and find them interesting."

I have winked you, wink back if you want me to message you x

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

I think if you would like to really meet someone you need to message,I rarely look at winks.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

I think winks can be useful, but we would just delete any, where we are not interested in the winkers!

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

We never look at our winks. We just bulk delete them, every now and again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I've just sent a wink, not often I do but thought I'd give it a try.

ps. It's a profile on this thread

MrsJ

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By *r. Pepper...Man
over a year ago

liverpool

"Well I've just sent a wink, not often I do but thought I'd give it a try.

ps. It's a profile on this thread

MrsJ "

Everyone's just shot back their home screen

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"Well I've just sent a wink, not often I do but thought I'd give it a try.

ps. It's a profile on this thread

MrsJ

Everyone's just shot back their home screen

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By *r. Pepper...Man
over a year ago

liverpool

And returned disappointed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Two winks have led to fun meets. Once I was the winker, once the winkee.

Those were ever so worthwhile

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"And returned disappointed

Me too, who does that leave.....

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By *r. Pepper...Man
over a year ago

liverpool

"And returned disappointed

Me too, who does that leave.....

Janeysmith88 would be my guess

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"And returned disappointed

Me too, who does that leave.....

Janeysmith88 would be my guess

Hmmm...think you could be right.

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By *ounce-N-BoomCouple
over a year ago

London

"And returned disappointed

Me too, who does that leave.....

Janeysmith88 would be my guess

Hmmm...think you could be right.

She does like a wink.

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By *ecretpassion100Couple
over a year ago

Walsall

We acknowledge winks as a starting point tbh .. this way if we both wink there must be a starting point . Although messages get our attention better xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And returned disappointed

Me too, who does that leave.....

Janeysmith88 would be my guess

Hmmm...think you could be right.

Sorry but you're wrong. It is a couple's profile and obviously doesn't check winks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We used to use winks. And we used to reply to any wink we had.

But we started to notice that we'd reply to a wink, good or bad, with a polite message and get nothing.

Seemed we were the ones putting in the hard work for others, so now we don't bother with them at all.

We respect a polite message more, and prefer to put the effort in of a message when approaching someone.

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By *knick45Man
over a year ago

Bristol

U use winks. As has been said before us single guys write an essay and still no reaction ( ok it's cuz I'm a munter) so send a wink to say hiya mates please

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

I see a wink as away of saying I like your profile.

Also as a massive time saver, it saves me time writing a message that won't get read, also it saves them time of deleting the unread message that I might have sent.

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By *ounce-N-BoomCouple
over a year ago

London

"And returned disappointed

Me too, who does that leave.....

Janeysmith88 would be my guess

Hmmm...think you could be right.

Sorry but you're wrong. It is a couple's profile and obviously doesn't check winks

Ooh, it's us! Do we win a prize?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I enjoy a good wink

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

I send winks, mostly to people I will geographically never be able to meet, so it's like a nod of appreciation, or "I would if I could"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't even look at who has winked at me. There's generally to many

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It let's you know someone it intrested and checking out out ,, it all good attention x

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

In general men send them and women ignore them.

Women don't send them but men get excited when they get one

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"I send winks, mostly to people I will geographically never be able to meet, so it's like a nod of appreciation, or "I would if I could"

Ohhh, because it comes across as an idiot from miles away who really should have looked at the profile first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't even look at who has winked at me. There's generally to many

here's one more lol x

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"In general men send them and women ignore them.

Women don't send them but men get excited when they get one

Lmao! Yep, women have enough buttons to press in here; 'block' and 'bulk delete', without trying to find time in the day for 'wink' aswell

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I send winks, mostly to people I will geographically never be able to meet, so it's like a nod of appreciation, or "I would if I could"

Ohhh, because it comes across as an idiot from miles away who really should have looked at the profile first

Yeah, got to agree with that, suggest you change your tactics there...

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"I send winks, mostly to people I will geographically never be able to meet, so it's like a nod of appreciation, or "I would if I could"

Ohhh, because it comes across as an idiot from miles away who really should have looked at the profile first

As previously stated; women ignore them anyway

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"I send winks, mostly to people I will geographically never be able to meet, so it's like a nod of appreciation, or "I would if I could"

Ohhh, because it comes across as an idiot from miles away who really should have looked at the profile first

Yeah, got to agree with that, suggest you change your tactics there..."

Thank you, I'm feeling enlightened....

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By *rchie_pMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

If U get something in your eye then yes ...

I believe winking is necessary

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And returned disappointed

Me too, who does that leave.....

Janeysmith88 would be my guess

Hmmm...think you could be right.

Sorry but you're wrong. It is a couple's profile and obviously doesn't check winks

Ooh, it's us! Do we win a prize?"

Well we've not got one in return so I guess not.

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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?

"Do ladies and couples ever check

Does a wink even get acknowledged? "

Some do.

Use as you see fit

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante

"Do ladies and couples ever check winks.

Sometimes I write long messages only to have them left un read.

Does a wink even get acknowledged? "

We just bulk delete them and it says this in our profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wink if I find a woman's picture/profile appealing, I'd rather there was a smile option instead as you in reality would smile at someone rather than wink.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do ladies and couples ever check winks.

Sometimes I write long messages only to have them left un read.

Does a wink even get acknowledged? "

Love a winker

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"Do ladies and couples ever check winks.

Sometimes I write long messages only to have them left un read.

Does a wink even get acknowledged? "

Always worth it unless profile says don't wink and that shows you haven't read the profile

What's the worse thing that can happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We wink most of the it's just easier to break the ice. We know we aren't everybodies cup of tea so a wink usually lets us know if someone might be interested or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I bulk delete all winks, I think its lazy and if someone is genuinely interested they would message.

I also block anyone who sends a friend request, this isn't Facebook and I don't like the pervy photo collectors. Random friend requests are extremely annoying.

If I want them to see anything from my collection I'll attach it to a message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know winks get ignored a lot.

However i have sent them and then received a message back, not often but on occasion.

I have stated on my profile the reason why i would send a wink and not a message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do ladies and couples ever check winks.

Sometimes I write long messages only to have them left un read.

Does a wink even get acknowledged?

Love a winker

Went to wink you but it says single guys are blocked, your profile states.....Not looking for single guys. Men aged 34 to 54 only. I'm confused because you're definitely worth a wink.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't bother looking. Just delete them.

~Mia

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By *ounce-N-BoomCouple
over a year ago

London

Tried and tested. Winks work. Well... Maybe not really a scientific test but the small amount of sample tests we conducted provided a positive result!

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By *loppsyWoman
over a year ago

marlow

I look then delete. Never respond

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By *rightonCheekyMan
over a year ago

Brighton

I love a damn good winking session. Many a time I've cum from a vigorous winking ....

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By *ounce-N-BoomCouple
over a year ago

London

"I love a damn good winking session. Many a time I've cum from a vigorous winking ...."

Watch out, too much makes you go blind so we've heard.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't check them on my single profile but do on the joint profile I have, as finding compatible couples is hard so I see a wink as them showing they are interested

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By *rightonCheekyMan
over a year ago

Brighton

"I love a damn good winking session. Many a time I've cum from a vigorous winking ....

Watch out, too much makes you go blind so we've heard."

I chuckled when that was read out to me

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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

Have never and would never respond to a wink. If someone really wants to have sex with us then a few minutes effort typing a nice hello email isn't much to ask for now really is it!

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I don't purely due to volume. I can't remember the last time I looked

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By *ounce-N-BoomCouple
over a year ago

London

Perhaps it only works for couples looking for couples then, guess the single men winks are quite plentiful if a profile allows it. We kinda agree with the previous poster in that a message really isn't that much effort when making 1st contact and is a bit more personal. This is why we are more likely to respond to a message even if it's a no thanks and ordinarily we would initialy send a well written message rather than just wink if we thought there could be potential.

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By *wisted2000Woman
over a year ago

under my rock cleethorpes

I use winks and check the ones I get too, if I get wink from someone I like then I'll wink back, personally I think it's a good way to say I like what I see without bombarding someone with messages they may not want, just my opinion tho

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