FabSwingers.com forum: too fat?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I am a size 24 and i get really worried when guys show interest, that they are going to not want to fuck me when they find out i am a bit big... any suggestions? and should i slim down even if i am happy with my size? xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if you're happy as you are, why are you asking?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't slim for othhers do it for you.

And knowing you're a size 24 would make me want to fuck you more xx

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By *obblybitsCouple
over a year ago

huddersfield

like hell you should slim down if you are are happy. do not change for people there is enough men and couples on hear who like all sorts of people. be who you are, a lot of time it is the confidence that attracts a man rather than size..

good look

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Should you slim down to get meets on here?...

If you do decide to slim down surely it should be:

1.. You want to for you

2.. Possible health benefits

And far down the list... If at all, to attract guys on here.

Good luck with whatever you decide xxx

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

I really don't get this....you are personally happy with your size but you are asking if you should slim down to suit others?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well your face pics are gorgeous and many of us love a pretty fuller-figured woman. If your personality as as attractive as that smile of yours, you will have no problems.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There was a guy in the forum earlier who would love you. Rated larger women as THE best.

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By *nnie2009Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool

if ur happy the way you are then dont worry bout other people. last time i lost weight i was sooooooo miserable xx

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By *weetieCouple
over a year ago

hayes, middx

Do not doubt yourself, people on here all have some hangup - too big, too skinny, tall, bald, big bum. You name it it gets brought up in forums. Thing to remember is that everyone is unique and will attract someone. I am certainly bigger than you, some like it some don't but Id rather be myself, confident and enjoying myself than being paranoid about what others think.

Stay as you are babe - long live chocolate !

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By *irtyduoCouple
over a year ago

nr stirling

if your happy as you are then who cares wot others think, some people like big some dont, some people like slim, bald,hairy, etc etc some dont!! each to their own, we cant please every1 nor do we aim to, so stick your fingers up to them who dont like and have fun with the ones who do like lol

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

"I am a size 24 and i get really worried when guys show interest, that they are going to not want to fuck me when they find out i am a bit big... any suggestions? and should i slim down even if i am happy with my size? xx

ok, breaking my own rule bout advice to strangers over the net...

Never ever ever change yourself to please others or auntie jem will come there and give u a severe talking too!

i have seen your profile, u are beautiful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You dont seem to be doing to bad hence meets so carry on doing what you do best. and dont swaet the small stuff

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By *inkycouple8178Couple
over a year ago

Plymouth

If people don't like you as you are...then it is their loss!!

Like other posters have said...don't change yourself for others...do it for you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Please don't slim down!

had a cheeky peek at your profile and you're gorgeous.

Please tell me you have an uncontrollable weakness for short guys! lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no way, you should never change who you are or how you look for anyone.

I just looked at your profile and i must say you are stunning. Xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you are happy in yourself, then no, if you want to change for you, and you only, then do so, dont so it for anyone else.

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By *havenangel1Couple
over a year ago

Worcester

Well i am a bigger girl and i used to have the same question as you. The answer is if you are happy with you then who cares what others think.

If men are contacting you they like what they see , those that don't like won't contact that simple.

I love me i don't care what others think and thats the way you should be you are happy with you, you're beautiful end of

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Confidence and good self-esteem are both attractive personality traits.

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

Swinging wise...not necessary. Healthwise...maybe. nowt to do with me...but you did ask.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well i am a bigger girl and i used to have the same question as you. The answer is if you are happy with you then who cares what others think.

If men are contacting you they like what they see , those that don't like won't contact that simple.

I love me i don't care what others think and thats the way you should be you are happy with you, you're beautiful end of

you're lovely xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jessica, Im a size 24 too and am also happy and confident in myself and my size..... I used to worry what people thought but what they think is THEIR problem not MINE, enjoy the attention and trust your instincts, your a very attractive young woman and deserve all the attention you get x

chin up, boobs out, big smile x

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By *ornwall-maleMan
over a year ago

newquay

you just be yourself. slim if you want to do i for you! people here like allsorts from skinny peeps to big peeps! i personally thinki your very sexy. just be yourself. as long s peeps know your size then there shouldnt be a problem. your lovely xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if you're happy with your size, why are you asking the question?

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By *ornwall-maleMan
over a year ago

newquay

if you're happy with your size, why are you asking the question?"

the answer is in her question. worried that guys wont want to fuck her when they find out her size. its not a question of her being happy with her size

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if you're happy with your size, why are you asking the question?

the answer is in her question. worried that guys wont want to fuck her when they find out her size. its not a question of her being happy with her size

Is it really?

If someone is happy with their appearance and happy in themselves they don't care about others finding out how they look.

it's like me saying I'm happy to be black, but then saying in the next sentence that I'm worried that women won't want sex with me when they find out I'm black. Don't you see the contradiction?

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By *ornwall-maleMan
over a year ago

newquay

no its not cos you cant change being black. she is worried that as she is she wont get sex even tho she is happy in herself. is that so hard to understand?. im happy with myself but i worry about certain things too. look at it from her point of _iew mate thats al. its hard sometimes for lots of people here who have personal issues. so best we can do is help them and make them see that they are fine as there are.

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By *ngieandMrManCouple
over a year ago

hereford

OP... Hate to say but its true, your weight/size could well stop some guys from fancying you... you'll be too small for some of them

you just can't win in this game some times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well you certainly dont seem a size 24 in your profile pix but you should defo not change unless you were not happy. il be honest and say im a fan of people keeping fit but being fit doesnt mean being thin so as long as your healthy and happy then thumbs up and keep it up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will say this for a real confidence boost get yourself to one of bouncys bbw parties they are awesome.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I will say this for a real confidence boost get yourself to one of bouncys bbw parties they are awesome."

hmmmmm lol if she goes ill be there lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

jessica you are what u are ,dont change for any guy in here,if they dont like it thats there problem x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

also ur worrying about men who are bothered about size ,same goes for us women we bother about the size of men lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"also ur worrying about men who are bothered about size ,same goes for us women we bother about the size of men lol"

lol i like that one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ignore shallow people , be happy in your skin xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we have been swinging for around 8 years, when we started out i was around a size 26 i made it upto a size 30 by last year until my back got so bad it was crying for me to lose a bit which i gave in to and lost a bit and am now a size 24 and in that 8 years with my fluctuating size have i got any more or less attention from guys?

well simply no, i recieved just as much attention as a 30 as i do now as a 24

in life there are peeps that find many various factors attractive so you can be certain that there will be a good percentage that will find you attractive and also a high percentage that won't but lets face it if they all did then how would you find the time to fuck them all anyhoo

just learn to be confident in the skin you are in as the sexiest trait in anyone is most definately confidence

never EVER lose weight to please anyone it should only ever be done to please yourself otherwise you will just make yourself miserable doing so, personally i will only ever lose weight to improve my health and never to please someone because i am who i am and i like who i am and anyone who doesn't can just move along and find someone they do like

sorry i do tend to babble lol

happy swinging hunny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

dont change for anyone people should accept you for who you are. personally speaking your very pretty why change.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If your happy with your size who cares what anyone else says.I just looked at your pics on profile and you are a very beautiful looking woman.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you had no meets, then could see the point of this thread. But as you have had loads of meets, you clearly no this isn't a problem. Looks like another "look at me thread"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

DO NOT DO IT! ive seen your pics and ive seen you on cam (not stalking promise lol) your gorgeous, great figure and cute. for every guy that things your fat there are a 1000 that think the opposite. If you want a man to noice you, be yourself. As much as i hate to say it, women have the power, both in here and in life and it will serve you well in life to remember that.

p.s dont use your powers against me lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

even if u wear it well theres nothin wrong with dropping afew dress sizes. give it a go and see how u feel personally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well, as they say looks aren't everything, but lets face it, you're a stunner! As long as you are happy with how you are, all is good. Everyone has who and what body type they are attracted to, so as long as you are honest (and why wouldnt you be) hows he going to be surprised and change his mind?

To be honest, only change if you want to OP, and not for anyone else. The golden rule is to live your life for yourself... if you change for other people is it really your decision on things...

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

no way you look a size 24 from the pics i see .. you look lovely such a pretty face .. dont let it worry you you are what you are young and beautiful. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You look great.. no you shoulden't loose weight for other people. The only reason as I see it is health....same as I should stop smoking for health reasons.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well it is worrying you in one aspect so consider ways to loose a bit gradually maybe. replace _weeties with fruit and increase your activities routine maybe. I dropped 4 dress sizes over 2 years by simply adjusting my lifestyle. Went down to a 12 but now a steady 14, fit and happy.

Your choice but carrying a lot of weight does put a strain on your general health and energy levels.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For women there seems to be a lot of admirers of the curvier figure - I am one of them - shame there are not so many who like a curvy guy hehe

Or maybe there are and its just my face that does the damage

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"no its not cos you cant change being black. she is worried that as she is she wont get sex even tho she is happy in herself. is that so hard to understand?. im happy with myself but i worry about certain things too. look at it from her point of _iew mate thats al. its hard sometimes for lots of people here who have personal issues. so best we can do is help them and make them see that they are fine as there are."

'hard to understand'.....yes a little.

All adults know that some people are gonna fancy them and some are not, if your genuinely happy with yourself, then you don't dwell or worry about the people who don't fancy you, you try and focus on the people who do.

'Fear of rejection' doesn't disappear with a reducing dress size, you just look for other things to blame instead of size.

Reading the posts on this thread, it is clear the Op is attracting people and having sex!

It won't be a popular _iew, but if the Op is, as she says, genuinely happy with herself and meeting people, why would she question whether she should change? Some would see this as a 'look at me thread'. I think that would possibly be the reaction if it had been a single guy.

(ps. There's nothing wrong with look at me threads, and long may they continue, but it does surprise me how different the reaction is to them depending on who the Op is).

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

'hard to understand'.....yes a little.

'Fear of rejection' doesn't disappear with a reducing dress size, you just look for other things to blame instead of size.

Reading the posts on this thread, it is clear the Op is attracting people and having sex!

(ps. There's nothing wrong with look at me threads, and long may they continue, but it does surprise me how different the reaction is to them depending on who the Op is). "

Nods in agreement

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also nods in agreement

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

I love Blackspice's posts and nods also.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my take on this ........just enjoy being who you are as long as you are healthy and happy and comfortable in your skin ....ive been a size 10 ive been a 22...actually at size 10 i looked and felt the worst i have ever felt and even tho i was 40 i looked 10 years older than i do now ...so beleive me u can be too thin !!! i decided 7 years ago to eat when i was hungry and not deny myself a little of what i fancied and my weight has miraculously stayed the same give or take a few pounds . Im happy at a size 16/18,and the guys i meet are happy too ......definately dont lose weight for someone else do it because YOU want to .......

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I do find it slightly disconcerting when people seek acceptance or reassurance of any kind from virtual strangers on the internet.. surely the first point of call should be family, friends and/or medical professionals.

Then 'lifes' context can be considered to fully understand what has shaped ones life to this point.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

ps... not saying people can't ask tho..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a 14 and I feel exactly the same. I feel like my picture is really misleading....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

'hard to understand'.....yes a little.

'Fear of rejection' doesn't disappear with a reducing dress size, you just look for other things to blame instead of size.

Reading the posts on this thread, it is clear the Op is attracting people and having sex!

(ps. There's nothing wrong with look at me threads, and long may they continue, but it does surprise me how different the reaction is to them depending on who the Op is). "

But I have a fat arse, so what do I know lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a 14 and I feel exactly the same. I feel like my picture is really misleading....

what an ass!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am a big girl and if im 100% honest im not entirely happy with my shape. If a miracle worker said to me Feebs do you want a flat tummy and get rid of that overhang, Id say shit yeah, thanks.

I am happy with certain aspects of me. Im happy with my boobs, even though they droop and im happy with my waist and hips cos they give me a curvy shape. Im ok with my backside apart from the cellulite dimples, legs are ok from the knee downwards, thighs could crack walnuts and I have an extra fat bit right at the top. But im obviously not bothered enough for it to stop me meeting men or asking their advice on my shape.

Most of us have problems with our bodies, which is why pictures tend to hide the worst parts of us with various lingerie items etc, or strategically placed items, like a sheet across our tummies or a tight corset to pull us in or make us look slimmer.

Most of us will put our slimmest looking pictures up, but noone is perfect and thats what you have to hold onto.

This obviously is a look at me thread because if a person truly was worried about their body size they wouldnt advertise that fact. You dont get anorexics coming on here saying, oo look at my body and tell me if I look ok? But I dont mind the look at me threads because it shows a person is being proactive on the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am a big girl and if im 100% honest im not entirely happy with my shape. If a miracle worker said to me Feebs do you want a flat tummy and get rid of that overhang, Id say shit yeah, thanks.

Most of us will put our slimmest looking pictures up, but noone is perfect and thats what you have to hold onto.

uve got a lovely bodyshape

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

'hard to understand'.....yes a little.

All adults know that some people are gonna fancy them and some are not, if your genuinely happy with yourself, then you don't dwell or worrty about the people who don't fancy you, you try and focus on the people who do.

'Fear of rejection' doesn't disappear with a reducing dress size, you just look for other things to blame instead of size.

Reading the posts on this thread, it is cleayr the Op is attracting people and having sex!

It won't be a popular _iew, but if the Op is, as she says, genuinely happy with herself andy meeting people, why would she question whether she should change? Some wouldyy see this as a 'look at me thread'. I think that would possibly be the reaction if it had been a single guy.

(ps. There's nothing wrong with look at me threads, and long may they continue, but it does surprise me how different the reaction is to them depending on who the Op is). "

I couldn't agree with you more. I trust the op has had her ego sufficiently massaged. It doesn't matter what size etc you are you're never going to appeal to everyone. Not every man thinks Angelina is the hottest woman on two legs.

I have a feeling the op knows this, if not she has a problem as she'll be forever changing to please others.

I'm a size 24 and need to lose weight. My daughter is getting married and I want to wear Vivien Westwood. If her clothes looked good on a size 24 I wouldn't bother!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do find it slightly disconcerting when people seek acceptance or reassurance of any kind from virtual strangers on the internet.. surely the first point of call should be family, friends and/or medicpal professionals.

Then 'lifes' context can be considered to fully understand what has shaped ones life to this point.

Indeed!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

dont worry about your size.if blokes complain about your size they are not worth the hassle.im a bigger lady (size 22) and i cant stand picky men.

some men love a bigger lady (they say more to get hold of)

good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

are you gonna feel comfy in vivienne tho sassy ??? her clothes fit a very certain type of figure and weddings arn't the place to experiment !!! just a bit of advice from one who knows !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bring back the bondage trousers I say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a 14 and I feel exactly the same. I feel like my picture is really misleading....

Mmmmm mislead me! lol

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"I'm a size 24 and need to lose weight. My daughter is getting married and I want to wear Vivien Westwood. If her clothes looked good on a size 24 I wouldn't bother!

The only size Vivianne Westwood looks good on is a size 0. We have one of her shops in York and the assistants are all emaciated. And the clohes are ridiculously overpriced.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"are you gonna feel comfy in vivienne tho sassy ??? her clothes fit a very certain type of figure and weddings arn't the place to experiment !!! just a bit of advice from one who knows !!

Oh I know! Didn't rate her as a designer but saw a lovely dress in a magazine. I was surprised it was by her, tasteful and gorgeous!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"are you gonna feel comfy in vivienne tho sassy ??? her clothes fit a very certain type of figure and weddings arn't the place to experiment !!! just a bit of advice from one who knows !!

Oh I know! Didn't rate her as a designer but saw a lovely dress in a magazine. I was surprised it was by her, tasteful and gorgeous!

and it wasnt me who experimented BTW I looked bloody gorgeous but his mum didnt !!!!!...oooh hush my mouth !!!!

i envy you ..... i loved seeing my daughter get married ...was such a special day ..hope you enjoy it to the full

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