FabSwingers.com forum: Unread messages

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We're a genuine couple looking for genuine meets, but when we message single girls our messages aren't read. What's going on there?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We're a genuine couple looking for genuine meets, but when we message single girls our messages aren't read. What's going on there? "

You and a million others. A lot of couples want this any many ladies don't. It's a sellers market here

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"We're a genuine couple looking for genuine meets, but when we message single girls our messages aren't read. What's going on there? "

If it's a short message, it can be read without opening.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You had to understand so so how ladies get bombarded by messages every day so u may have just got lost in there mail hun x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So what should we do? Don't want to keep bombarding the same people with messages. Any advice for a pair a newbies would be gratefully received! X

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"So what should we do? Don't want to keep bombarding the same people with messages. Any advice for a pair a newbies would be gratefully received! X"

Don't send them a message again yet - leave it a few weeks. People are on holiday, busy etc.....okay the patient long game. And join in on the forums more too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get to whatever organised socials are local, go to clubs.

Don't know if as a couple you may intend playing with other couples but if you do and gell with them then they may play singly in the future.

Above all, have patience and low expectations and enjoy a pleasant surprise when it arrives.

Stay upbeat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Make sure you have read the profile and tailed the message to them and maybe add face pics off both off you to the message and maybe even try a club x

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Hmm where to start?

Women always reads a profile before a message, so if it is not up to scratch then you end up in the pile that's not worth the response, simple really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single women are so difficult to find that want to play with a couple

It's also difficult to find women that just want to play with a women

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead

Lots of fakes. You see they come online many times but don't read them and they don't delete them either

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"Lots of fakes. You see they come online many times but don't read them and they don't delete them either "

I don't read my messages from shit profile holders either doesn't make me fake, I just can't be arsed if they can't, quite simple!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Lots of fakes. You see they come online many times but don't read them and they don't delete them either "

Just because people don't read messages doesn't necessarily make them fake!

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

(Gets out bingo dobber and waits for the usual nonsense like "Unicorn" etc)

Tum tee tum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find a lot of single women are on here for attention and not have any intention for a meet. Patience

And don't take anything to heart

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

"We're a genuine couple looking for genuine meets, but when we message single girls our messages aren't read. What's going on there? "

It may not be deliberate.

For instance - at the moment I've got 1,225 unread messages - and that's with lots of filters up! There's no way I'll be able to read them all so I'll have to do a bulk delete - which makes me feel like shit!

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By *ushty56Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I'm not fake - but I struggle to get through all the messages. It's pure chance if a message is read or not - it really depends on how recent it is as they get read when older ones have moved down. It's not deliberate but if I tried to read them all I'd never get to work!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just persevere. Sometimes I start reading messages from the top of the list, sometimes I scroll halfway down and start there... etc. I am never going to get around to reading them all but selecting which message to read is totally random. Dont take it personally & message again

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I answer all my messages, but in my own time.

I don't meet women or couples, but if I did, I would not want to just be there to fulfill some couple's fantasies

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

"Single women are so difficult to find that want to play with a couple

It's also difficult to find women that just want to play with a women "

Erm... not round here, cant turn round for tripping over them.

And... before people start jumping up and down screaming and shouting, let me let you in on a little secret, all this guff about "unicorns" and single bi fems who play with couples being "rare" is complete crap.

Utter shite.

Bollocks.

Codswallop.

We have over 50 single ladies on our friends list, most of whom are bi.

Quite a few we have already played with, and quite a few more we seem to be in with a good chance of playing with, when we can match diaries.

Now, compare that with other statistics seen on similar threads like "we have been here 5 years and only played with 2 bi fems".

Conclusion... either we are irresistible (highly unlikely), or we have cracked the code.

The secret?

We don't chase ladies.

We go to socials, network, socialise, make friends, and see how things go.

As I've been known to say on threads like this, we have never played with a "single bi fem"... but we have played with loads of our friends who, it just so happens, are bi, female, and single!

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By *apillonNoirWoman
over a year ago

There...

I meet couples and have a number in my friends list. They have great profiles which is what attracted me. They treat me as an equal and we are on the same wavelength sexually. I'm not a unicorn or a performing seal or any other derogatory term thrown around the forums. I'm an independent, sexually confident woman who knows what she wants. Chill. Take your time. Get to know people as people. Fill out your profile so potential playmates know what you're into and what you can offer. Good luck.

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

"Single women are so difficult to find that want to play with a couple

It's also difficult to find women that just want to play with a women

Erm... not round here, cant turn round for tripping over them.

Utter shite.

Bollocks.

Codswallop.

We have over 50 single ladies on our friends list, most of whom are bi.

Quite a few we have already played with, and quite a few more we seem to be in with a good chance of playing with, when we can match diaries.

Now, compare that with other statistics seen on similar threads like "we have been here 5 years and only played with 2 bi fems".

Conclusion... either we are irresistible (highly unlikely), or we have cracked the code.

The secret?

We don't chase ladies.

We go to socials, network, socialise, make friends, and see how things go.

As I've been known to say on threads like this, we have never played with a "single bi fem"... but we have played with loads of our friends who, it just so happens, are bi, female, and single!

Absolutely the right idea imo!

I've played with many couples at clubs and parties but not privately!

I find the idea of going to meet 2 people I don't know pretty daunting - how ever nice they might be - and I'm far from shy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get in line

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Single women are so difficult to find that want to play with a couple

It's also difficult to find women that just want to play with a women

Erm... not round here, cant turn round for tripping over them.

Utter shite.

Bollocks.

Codswallop.

We have over 50 single ladies on our friends list, most of whom are bi.

Quite a few we have already played with, and quite a few more we seem to be in with a good chance of playing with, when we can match diaries.

Now, compare that with other statistics seen on similar threads like "we have been here 5 years and only played with 2 bi fems".

Conclusion... either we are irresistible (highly unlikely), or we have cracked the code.

The secret?

We don't chase ladies.

We go to socials, network, socialise, make friends, and see how things go.

As I've been known to say on threads like this, we have never played with a "single bi fem"... but we have played with loads of our friends who, it just so happens, are bi, female, and single!

This one wins the thread

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By *hechapMan
over a year ago

Derry

I was thinking about using pigeons to deliver my mail.

If any ladies want to forward their address that will be great.

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

"I was thinking about using pigeons to deliver my mail.

If any ladies want to forward their address that will be great.

Can pigeons read then?

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By *uts123Man
over a year ago

Nr Ipswich

"Just persevere. Sometimes I start reading messages from the top of the list, sometimes I scroll halfway down and start there... etc. I am never going to get around to reading them all but selecting which message to read is totally random. Dont take it personally & message again "

My message might get read one day then. I will persevere

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By *uts123Man
over a year ago

Nr Ipswich

"I was thinking about using pigeons to deliver my mail.

If any ladies want to forward their address that will be great.

Thought pigeons didn't need addresses, they just homed in!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Single women are so difficult to find that want to play with a couple

It's also difficult to find women that just want to play with a women

Erm... not round here, cant turn round for tripping over them.

Utter shite.

Bollocks.

Codswallop.

We have over 50 single ladies on our friends list, most of whom are bi.

Quite a few we have already played with, and quite a few more we seem to be in with a good chance of playing with, when we can match diaries.

Now, compare that with other statistics seen on similar threads like "we have been here 5 years and only played with 2 bi fems".

Conclusion... either we are irresistible (highly unlikely), or we have cracked the code.

The secret?

We don't chase ladies.

We go to socials, network, socialise, make friends, and see how things go.

As I've been known to say on threads like this, we have never played with a "single bi fem"... but we have played with loads of our friends who, it just so happens, are bi, female, and single!

absolutely our approach too...couldn't agree more

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

"So what should we do? Don't want to keep bombarding the same people with messages. Any advice for a pair a newbies would be gratefully received! X"

Get meet verified. Beef up the profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They're few and far between down this neck of the woods...

Try Secrets maybe? Lots of single girls go there. Would be a great way to socialise with them, get in the scene and spread your name x

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"We're a genuine couple looking for genuine meets, but when we message single girls our messages aren't read. What's going on there? "
you aren't what they are looking for?!

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Lots of fakes. You see they come online many times but don't read them and they don't delete them either "
oh right so if we don't read or delete we are fakes? Thanks I never knew that lol!

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By *reman6976Man
over a year ago

Deeping St James

Has anyone ever had a message appear read and then shortly after it's unread again? Is that a glitch in the app?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lots of fakes. You see they come online many times but don't read them and they don't delete them either "

I wouldn't reply to someone who will only email pictures.

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

"Has anyone ever had a message appear read and then shortly after it's unread again? Is that a glitch in the app?"

You can read it and then mark it unread if you want to deal with it later.

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By *rs mischiefWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

"We're a genuine couple looking for genuine meets, but when we message single girls our messages aren't read. What's going on there?

It may not be deliberate.

Wow my inbox is empty

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By *reman6976Man
over a year ago

Deeping St James

"Has anyone ever had a message appear read and then shortly after it's unread again? Is that a glitch in the app?

You can read it and then mark it unread if you want to deal with it later."

Ah, thank you, appreciate the info

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We're a genuine couple looking for genuine meets, but when we message single girls our messages aren't read. What's going on there? "

You need to make a profile that is appealing to a Bi female, plus good pictures. You wouldn't appeal to me, sorry. XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lots of fakes. You see they come online many times but don't read them and they don't delete them either "

bs i currently have unread msgs due to i have a life away from here doesnt make me fake.

to the op delete your sent msgs as soon as uve sent them then u wont know wat they have done with your message then if you get a reply it will be a nice surprise

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Has anyone ever had a message appear read and then shortly after it's unread again? Is that a glitch in the app?"
no if it's a couple's account they may have marked unread so the OH can see it, it's what we do

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight

"Has anyone ever had a message appear read and then shortly after it's unread again? Is that a glitch in the app?no if it's a couple's account they may have marked unread so the OH can see it, it's what we do"

This, or if its something from a person we speak to on a regular basis, it may contain something that we want to be able to go to straight away without wading through a long thread.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

As you haven't asked for profile advice I can't give it, however I always read a profile before deciding whether to respond.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's like this patience is a virtue, ladies as said earlier ARE bombarded with mail both from either males/couples and maybe the odd female too.

We are also looking for the FFM experience but unless you get your faces out there and show yourselves at clubs/socials/parties it will remain a slow runner for you.

It's also word of mouth, a female has a good friendship with a couple she's played with who may also be friends with another couple who just maybe looking for a single female and through chatting and trust you may find that you find that " unicorn "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We're a genuine couple looking for genuine meets, but when we message single girls our messages aren't read. What's going on there?

It may not be deliberate.

Wow my inbox is empty

Xx"

That's not fair!! Fab auto deletes the oldest messages in mine and my friend's inboxes when they get to around 150 or so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have only got two pictures and they're both of the female. Why do you think that a single female wouldn't want to see pictures of the male in the couple?

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