FabSwingers.com forum: A disastrous mmf

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ever arranged this and found out the dynamics suddenly nosedive when the third party joins? This happened and it turned.iut to be horrendous experience with the other guy trying to completely take over and dictate who was doing what to whom. Turned.out he was bi and hadn't disclosed this when we had a social. So a few sharp words were exchanged with.him being told to gtf

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

That's awful. Some peoples morals on the scene are highly questionnable.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

Well if he is bi and he hasn't disclosed on profile or told you at a social then that is cheeky

I understand the reasons why some bi men may not want to disclose as it may effect fab lifestyle.

Just shows even with a social things can not go to plan

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've heard this a few times from couples I've met before. A guy comes in and tries to take control and dominate both parties for their pleasure.

It cab really out you off, and it's sad that no warning flags for other people Can be used

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ever arranged this and found out the dynamics suddenly nosedive when the third party joins? This happened and it turned.iut to be horrendous experience with the other guy trying to completely take over and dictate who was doing what to whom. Turned.out he was bi and hadn't disclosed this when we had a social. So a few sharp words were exchanged with.him being told to gtf"
shame that this was your first experience as mmf can be amazing fun

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Oh no, how disappointing. It takes ages to arrange these things to!! Hopefully next time will be a better experience

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ever arranged this and found out the dynamics suddenly nosedive when the third party joins? This happened and it turned.iut to be horrendous experience with the other guy trying to completely take over and dictate who was doing what to whom. Turned.out he was bi and hadn't disclosed this when we had a social. So a few sharp words were exchanged with.him being told to gtf shame that this was your first experience as mmf can be amazing fun"

He was a bloody pest. A very controlling guy which wasn't apparent at the social. Not good. However you learn from your mistakes and chalk it down to experience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to hear that! People on this site can be so rude! Most guys on here in our experience are genuine and let the couple dictate what they do and are comfortable with, we play separately and I've met a few guys who have been so pushy, for example I met a guy for a bj in the car and he knew I Diddnt do cim but as he was about to cum he held my head down! Safe to say he won't be doing that again!

Don't give up on it though, with the right guy the experience is amaZing! Anyone who messages and is very forward and pushy wanting a lot, just move on to the next one!

Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry to hear that! People on this site can be so rude! Most guys on here in our experience are genuine and let the couple dictate what they do and are comfortable with, we play separately and I've met a few guys who have been so pushy, for example I met a guy for a bj in the car and he knew I Diddnt do cim but as he was about to cum he held my head down! Safe to say he won't be doing that again!

Don't give up on it though, with the right guy the experience is amaZing! Anyone who messages and is very forward and pushy wanting a lot, just move on to the next one!

Good luck x"
you should have bit his cock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't give up on it though, with the right guy the experience is amaZing! Anyone who messages and is very forward and pushy wanting a lot, just move on to the next one!

you should have bit his cock"
I would have ( and have done ) this..

You get controlling people in all forms. Women that tell me how I will let her do this and how ill watch her take both guys cum and if Im a good girl she may share. Luckily mostly this has come up in pre meet chat.

Ok don't let it get you down. Not all men/meets are like that

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By *ornyCouple513Couple
over a year ago

bristol

Have had a single guy come round who looked nothing at all like he did on his profile he was here for almost five mins

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have had a single guy come round who looked nothing at all like he did on his profile he was here for almost five mins

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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago

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You have good experiences and bad experiences. Don't let this one put you off.

We've had some incredible MFM fun. But we've had a few not so great ones.

There was one in a club who wouldn't put in any work, and clearly just thought he could lie there and let XX service him - his was our shortest ever meet, 5 minutes later we left the room.

Another meet at a club and the guy thought he could dominate XY and push him out of proceedings a number of times during play. XY duly moved aside - but only to promptly bring in another 2 guys to join in our fun. Unfortunately this left the first guy out a little bit and he spent a fair bit of time loudly asserting his earlier prowess only to be well and truly put in his place by the others.

But anyway, there are so many great times we've had, it's hard to say it's not all been worth it.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

"Well if he is bi and he hasn't disclosed on profile or told you at a social then that is cheeky

I understand the reasons why some bi men may not want to disclose as it may effect fab lifestyle.

Just shows even with a social things can not go to plan

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By *rightonCheekyMan
over a year ago

Brighton

Sorry to hear you've had a rotten experience. There are tons of single guys on here and a good read of their verifications is one clue to helping sort the good from the bad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to hear you've had a bad time...but look on the bright side....next time can only be better :D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Somethings are best left unplanned.

Obviously a meet needs to be arranged but as for the sex. Just going with the flow for me

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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago

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People think as singe because guys are 10 a penny on here they can find one when they want.

Finding a good egg amongst them is just as difficult as finding a unicorn.

Sorry you've had a bad experience, better luck next time

'XX'

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for all your comments. As they say better luck next time!

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

"Thanks for all your comments. As they say better luck next time!"

I've been meeting for years and it's only happened to me once with 'a straight couple' so I'd say it's a rare thing. Just to say too there are bi (curious) couples who state that boundaries will be respected, so if you like a profile, there is usually no more mm contact than there would be in a mfmf meet. The one time it happened with me, he got corrected and started sulking - it ended with a heated discussion between them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry to hear you've had a rotten experience. There are tons of single guys on here and a good read of their verifications is one clue to helping sort the good from the bad "

Or recommendations would be great, couples that have met repeatedly the same guy is a good one to look for on veri's

We are trying to find the right guy to come play with us, he must click with not just myself but very importantly Kinky...and of course us for him!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Weve had 2 mmf's the first was not a disaster but its something we laugh about, it put me off.

The second was amazing, genuinely really enjoyed it, I was superbly fussy about who I picked second time round. L

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't give up on it though, with the right guy the experience is amaZing! Anyone who messages and is very forward and pushy wanting a lot, just move on to the next one!

Good luck x"

Just bad manners and no need for it. Hope you reported him via Fab

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By *reman6976Man
over a year ago

Deeping St James

I've been involved in mfm and often the husband/partner was bi although stating he was straight. It did lead to some awkward moments when I had to ask them to refrain from the inappropriate contact.

One time it felt like the woman was just going through the motions to appease her partner, I had to stop as it didn't feel right.

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