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"Same reasons as you have your preferences set to under 55, OP. We are all allowed to choose what kind of people we want to play with. " I said it's personal preference in statement I was asking why tho. As it's far more common for women to have 45 as a upper age limit than for example is with 55 . Our reasons for this our rather complicated and tbh not really realted to appearance if you want an explanation. | |||
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" But just want some honesty rather than the standard" it's my preference" stock reply. We can take it ladies we won't get that offended,well maybe a bit. " They gave you honesty,it's their preference,you just don't seem to like the answer. | |||
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" But just want some honesty rather than the standard" it's my preference" stock reply. We can take it ladies we won't get that offended,well maybe a bit. They gave you honesty,it's their preference,you just don't seem to like the answer." | |||
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" But just want some honesty rather than the standard" it's my preference" stock reply. We can take it ladies we won't get that offended,well maybe a bit. They gave you honesty,it's their preference,you just don't seem to like the answer." g That is an honest answer, just a totally uninformative one. | |||
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"I too find it meaningless when people say 'it's just my preference', when in reality it might be quite interesting to discuss why people have certain preferences. For me personally, I find men typically over a certain age start to look like old men and cease to hold sex appeal. I'm not sure what that age is, but for many I think they start to lose it in their late 40s. Others may be lucky enough to hold onto their looks and sex appeal well into their 50S. This is just my opinion of course. To me the perfect age for a man sexually is 35 to 40 because they seem to have the maturity and experience to give me what I want, but still have their youth and virility. By contrast there seems to be some incredibly sexy women in their late 40s and well into their 50s. I've often wondered why women seem to age so much better than men. I suspect it's because there is more women can do to make themselves look youthful and sexy - hair dye, heels, push-up bras, corsets etc etc. Hence why there are usually more pictures of women on couples profiles. This does make it a problem finding couples for swaps though, as a lot of maturer women might think they can get a hotter single man. Mrs" Interesting and intelligent response. I have found that once I passed 40 I seemingly turned invisible to the opposite sex. Jools on the other hand has seemingly become far more noticeable to the other and same sex in lots of cases. She has always been attractive. To see us now some would say I have done well. When younger we were both an attractive couple and she would always complain that women were always checking me out when we went out. I make you tight some people just age better she has always looked young for her age. 30 years working in the building trade has caught up to me ,I look in the mirror and see my dad looking back at me. Yet in myself I still feel young and strong and virile. It's strange that for years we are told by women that personality is more important than look's. Yet fabs is proof positive that this is not the case. It's the animal in us. Women will finds themselves drawn towards the most sexually appealing male. Where are men if they are honest will Shag anything! | |||
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"Well. 45's bloody ancient innit? " In fab years yes. 45 for men in fab is like 60 in real life. And 45 for women is like 35 in real life. I am roughly 25/30 years older than jools on fabs even tho we are the same age. | |||
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"I too find it meaningless when people say 'it's just my preference', when in reality it might be quite interesting to discuss why people have certain preferences. For me personally, I find men typically over a certain age start to look like old men and cease to hold sex appeal. I'm not sure what that age is, but for many I think they start to lose it in their late 40s. Others may be lucky enough to hold onto their looks and sex appeal well into their 50S. This is just my opinion of course. To me the perfect age for a man sexually is 35 to 40 because they seem to have the maturity and experience to give me what I want, but still have their youth and virility. By contrast there seems to be some incredibly sexy women in their late 40s and well into their 50s. I've often wondered why women seem to age so much better than men. I suspect it's because there is more women can do to make themselves look youthful and sexy - hair dye, heels, push-up bras, corsets etc etc. Hence why there are usually more pictures of women on couples profiles. This does make it a problem finding couples for swaps though, as a lot of maturer women might think they can get a hotter single man. Mrs" We are a 50 year old man and 46 year old woman. It's the male typing here and being honest I see a loss of sex appeal in myself in the last few years particularly facially. The face has become more round and saggy and I have very little hair. I counteract that by being a gym addict and have a fairly muscular toned body better than (I Flatter myself) . the vast majority of men my age. However I recognise its not as hot as a 35 year old in decent shape. Katie on the other hand is slim and toned and is incredibly hot. Admittedly she dyes her hair, which helps but she has no trouble attracting men of all ages. Interestingly she won't generally have casual sex with men my age as they are "too old". Apparently I am different! I think some of it is down to men being less picky. Essentially if you are a female who is not very overweight (and they have their own niche market) about 95% of men on here would fuck you given the chance. Women are far more selective. There is though, I agree, something more going on and that older women tend to be more aesthetically pleasing than older men. As an older man, I am zen about this. Katie will always get more attraction than me and that is fine. In fact it's hot. I seriously get off on her fucking others with or without me present. Which is just as well | |||
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"I too find it meaningless when people say 'it's just my preference', when in reality it might be quite interesting to discuss why people have certain preferences. For me personally, I find men typically over a certain age start to look like old men and cease to hold sex appeal. I'm not sure what that age is, but for many I think they start to lose it in their late 40s. Others may be lucky enough to hold onto their looks and sex appeal well into their 50S. This is just my opinion of course. To me the perfect age for a man sexually is 35 to 40 because they seem to have the maturity and experience to give me what I want, but still have their youth and virility. By contrast there seems to be some incredibly sexy women in their late 40s and well into their 50s. I've often wondered why women seem to age so much better than men. I suspect it's because there is more women can do to make themselves look youthful and sexy - hair dye, heels, push-up bras, corsets etc etc. Hence why there are usually more pictures of women on couples profiles. This does make it a problem finding couples for swaps though, as a lot of maturer women might think they can get a hotter single man. Mrs Interesting and intelligent response. I have found that once I passed 40 I seemingly turned invisible to the opposite sex. Jools on the other hand has seemingly become far more noticeable to the other and same sex in lots of cases. She has always been attractive. To see us now some would say I have done well. When younger we were both an attractive couple and she would always complain that women were always checking me out when we went out. I make you tight some people just age better she has always looked young for her age. 30 years working in the building trade has caught up to me ,I look in the mirror and see my dad looking back at me. Yet in myself I still feel young and strong and virile. It's strange that for years we are told by women that personality is more important than look's. Yet fabs is proof positive that this is not the case. It's the animal in us. Women will finds themselves drawn towards the most sexually appealing male. Where are men if they are honest will Shag anything!" We've said something very similar below. At the risk of this thread being like a school disco, we fancy you. However we can't message due to your filters. Have a look at our profile and feel to message us | |||
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"All those that set age limits as a preference are perfectly entitled to do so but in 10 years time they will be outside the age limit set by someone they are attracted to and will lament the stereotyping of older swingers.At least they are clear about their preferences. I suspect that many whose supposed preference is 18 to 99 just didn't set the filter and use the delete button instead. " It's a sad fact of life that us old men continue to be attracted to younger women, but most won't be attracted to us. Swinging opportunities will tend to decline once you are over fifty, at least for men. Nothing you can do about it I am afraid | |||
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"Ladies what is it about us guy's over 45 you don't like? " Because fab 45 is real life 48-52, and fab 50 is often 58+. I'm married, just still, to a 52 yr old and I know what 52 looks like. There does also seem to be a change in attitude once men turn (real life) 50. Lots of harking back rather than looking forward. This, more than anything else, I find unappealing about men over 50. We all still have a lot of life to live! | |||
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"My upper age limit is 35...is not that there aren't guys older that I am attracted to but not many and my inbox was ridiculousy full of guys I wouldn't be interested in, when my preferences were set at 45, so I changed them to younger... I like guys that look the age I feel, not ones that look like they could be my dad " I like women that look the age I feel too But, you know what, swinging has opened my eyes to the beauty of my peers and elders... and there's something nice about being with someone who's a bit more on your wavelength. Sex on Fab can sometimes be about which sweet has the nicest wrapper. But there's something to be said for being a bit deeper thinking than that. Awww who am I trying to convince? | |||
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"Ladies what is it about us guy's over 45 you don't like? Because fab 45 is real life 48-52, and fab 50 is often 58+. I'm married, just still, to a 52 yr old and I know what 52 looks like. There does also seem to be a change in attitude once men turn (real life) 50. Lots of harking back rather than looking forward. This, more than anything else, I find unappealing about men over 50. We all still have a lot of life to live!" That is annoying. We are the ages we say we are. But then we would say that | |||
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"Fabs a sausage feast. So much choice a lot get over looked. " This. Just makes things easier for me. I'm a bit strange though. Have issues with fucking men under 30 because I feel like a perv ( not saying others that do are! Just makes me feel weird) but by also staying under 45, makes me believe I'm still young I've a complex mind. Even I head fuck myself. But mainly it's to keep things simple and less messages received | |||
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"I know men on here that lie about there age so it makes no difference.." I meet women that are a lot older then their picture too, that can be really disappointing.. | |||
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"My upper age limit is 35...is not that there aren't guys older that I am attracted to but not many and my inbox was ridiculousy full of guys I wouldn't be interested in, when my preferences were set at 45, so I changed them to younger... I like guys that look the age I feel, not ones that look like they could be my dad I like women that look the age I feel too But, you know what, swinging has opened my eyes to the beauty of my peers and elders... and there's something nice about being with someone who's a bit more on your wavelength. Sex on Fab can sometimes be about which sweet has the nicest wrapper. But there's something to be said for being a bit deeper thinking than that. Awww who am I trying to convince? " I have to like the face aswell as the attitude...bodytype is irrelevant though. I am not being shallow but I can't find everyone attractive, the majority of men over 35 I am not attracted to...under 35 is the opposite n I can't be arsed with the amount of messages I get now so.... there are always exceptions but I will find them. Plus if the wrapper is pretty but the attitude stinks they don't get anywhere ... but a nice personality with a face I don't find attractive won't make me fancy someone either | |||
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"It's a sad fact of life that us old men continue to be attracted to younger women, but most won't be attracted to us. Swinging opportunities will tend to decline once you are over fifty, at least for men. Nothing you can do about it I am afraid " Doesn't sound too good for the 49 year old guys | |||
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"I thought it was 49. On this fine Tuesday, has anyone seen my glasses? Did I ever tell you about that time before the Internet..... did i miss monday somehow " It was a jokey reference to the OPs statement about not knowing what day of the week it was. | |||
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"Age is just a number its how well you look after yourself. Older men can be very sexy indeed! I prefer 39 to 49. " So why do I feel like I'm on the fab scrap heap? | |||
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"Why 45 ? Well it's a brimful of asha, on the 45 lol" Loved that song | |||
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"Mine is set at 45. I just like the rounded number :-R. If someone older caught my attention though, I would message them " Glad to hear it ! Not enough fab women are making first contact | |||
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"Age is just a number its how well you look after yourself. Older men can be very sexy indeed! I prefer 39 to 49. So why do I feel like I'm on the fab scrap heap?" I have absolutely no idea! If you feel like that then others will see you that way also | |||
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"Age is just a number its how well you look after yourself. Older men can be very sexy indeed! I prefer 39 to 49. So why do I feel like I'm on the fab scrap heap? I have absolutely no idea! If you feel like that then others will see you that way also " I don't feel like that but fab cleary isn't working for me - I suspect the age bias isn't working in my favour tho | |||
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"The replies have certainly given me lot's to consider and where I stand. As the classic example of a couple where the woman is very much in demand and I do thus far seem to be along for the ride. I think it's time to retreat and call it a day. This is not a poor old me post. It's me being realistic. I think there are probably plenty of guy's my age who are also feeling that we are wasting our time." We had this discussion with some swinging friends of ours some time back. There was a sort conclusion that for the older gentlemen on the swing scene, they get more out of it if they enjoy their wife's fun, as opposed to regard their wife as a 'ticket' to the swing scene and expect equal amount of sex. My husband was once one of the young studs at parties (before my time), but now he has fun with the occasional lady, but the focus is more on me. It would be unrealistic to have the same quantity or frequency of partners as me, so we branded ourselves as a Hotwife couple. But from your profile it seems you both have a similar outlook to us, so enjoy | |||
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"The replies have certainly given me lot's to consider and where I stand. As the classic example of a couple where the woman is very much in demand and I do thus far seem to be along for the ride. I think it's time to retreat and call it a day. This is not a poor old me post. It's me being realistic. I think there are probably plenty of guy's my age who are also feeling that we are wasting our time. We had this discussion with some swinging friends of ours some time back. There was a sort conclusion that for the older gentlemen on the swing scene, they get more out of it if they enjoy their wife's fun, as opposed to regard their wife as a 'ticket' to the swing scene and expect equal amount of sex. My husband was once one of the young studs at parties (before my time), but now he has fun with the occasional lady, but the focus is more on me. It would be unrealistic to have the same quantity or frequency of partners as me, so we branded ourselves as a Hotwife couple. But from your profile it seems you both have a similar outlook to us, so enjoy " Hiya thanks for your reply. Yes Mrs already has her own profile. | |||
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"Most womon commenting on there low age restrictions wouldn't get a meet if there were even men and women on here but the better looking women dont seem to have age restrictions strange" Ooooh put your claws back in kitty | |||
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"Ladies what is it about us guy's over 45 you don't like? So many women have 45 as upper age limit,I know it's personal preference but what is it that puts you off ? Is it the saggy balls,lack of own teeth, inability to remember the Day of the week,hairy back , constantly referencing stuff that you have no idea what we are talking about ( boys from the black stuff or Samantha fox or airwolf) for example. Or our lack of stamina and sexual prowess ? Are men over 45 really that unappealing?" It is the 'Day of the week' thang Mind you, we meet folk upto 60 and they have the 'Month of the Year' thang - Mrs. J - | |||
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"Most womon commenting on there low age restrictions wouldn't get a meet if there were even men and women on here but the better looking women dont seem to have age restrictions strange Ooooh put your claws back in kitty " There goes another one | |||
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