FabSwingers.com forum: How to introduce swinging to a potential partner..

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi folks

I have always been interested in the swinging lifestyle but finding a willing partner to share it with has proven illusive. What, women this is for you mostly, would be a good way to breach the subject, or to bring it up in a way that doesn't end with me getting a slap across the face

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally, I would start with porn. Pay special attention to how she reacts to watching it and more importantly watching you watching it. If you find she likes it, try some role play in the bedroom. Also, get it clear in your head why you like the idea of swinging so you have concise answers as to why it interests you. Her immediate thought may be, oh well he just wants to fuck other people. If it's more than That, you need to be able to explain?

I'm not experienced in this type of stuff as we met on fab, however, I am a woman and I think it should be broached cautiously and slowly but with intent.

Kt x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hmmm, that is very interesting... I know a lady that does enjoy her porn

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Hmmm, that is very interesting... I know a lady that does enjoy her porn

But is she a lady you have thought about being in a relationship with before or just the only one you know who likes porn?

Liking porn isn't really a good indicator that a lady will be up for swinging. Some just like the fantasy and have no desire to make it a reality. I'm a swinger but most porn just leaves me cold, I'd much rather watch real people in a swingers club.

In my mind there are 2 ways to find a partner who swings.

1. Look here on fab. There are lots of people who want a relationship with a fellow swinger and want to keep on playing together and seperately.

2. Find a partner out in the real world and introduce them to the lifestyle. Don't try to rush them into it but tell them early on in a relationship that you enjoy swinging. Open and honest communication is the only way to make a swinging relationship work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just telling me you'd like to see me getting fucked would do the trick! I'd be all over it

Shame it's so difficult to find a man who would be ok with it. They say they are but in reality

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be honest from the start maybe the woman you meet may be in the same boat ive met lots of people who want more than Fwb on here

I often broach the subject with non fabbers by telling my first club experience story and see how they react

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you have a partner who you are already in an established relationship with OP, or are you looking for a partner? If the former you really need to think is swinging worth losing this person for? If they are repulsed by the idea (lets not even think about the fact you are on here as a single man). Many people outside (hell even inside) the scene dont understand what swinging is about. So before you take that leap be sure about what you want. Maybe talk about fantasies and be guided by your lady.

If you are single maybe explore the social side more. Good luck.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

If a woman is likely to slap you because you want to discuss your fantasies with her you are with the wrong woman for you.

Just be honest without being crude. Make it easy for a woman to be open about her fantasies too i.e. don't go "eeewww" or get all embarrassed and walk away. You never know what good things might happen.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Do you have a partner who you are already in an established relationship with OP, or are you looking for a partner? If the former you really need to think is swinging worth losing this person for? If they are repulsed by the idea (lets not even think about the fact you are on here as a single man). Many people outside (hell even inside) the scene dont understand what swinging is about. So before you take that leap be sure about what you want. Maybe talk about fantasies and be guided by your lady.

If you are single maybe explore the social side more. Good luck.

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yes, OP hasn't made this clear,do difficult to give advice not know the circumstances, all I can suggest is to be honest and talk to her, good luck and let us know how it goes xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My wife loves porn will watch it anytime and fully enjoy it she also loves to suck cock anytime too and loves it also loves sex anytime and wherever we also chat about others I mentioned I would like to see her with another guy and me or another guy and I watch we get excited about it she loves sex like I do we're perfect for each other in every way have met a couple and 2 single guys and been to a club but nothing as yet has happened to have the 3 rd person join in but hey we're enjoying it and as she says she can't just jump into bed with anyone at any time it may never happen also it may it's all fun anyway and I DONT want her to do it for me I want her to do it for her and enjoy it so who knows what the future will bring but a quick meet with someone we don't know won't happen nice to get to know them first

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just telling me you'd like to see me getting fucked would do the trick! I'd be all over it

Shame it's so difficult to find a man who would be ok with it. They say they are but in reality

Now here's a woman I want to meet. Very sexy pictures and a great attitude.

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